Quick Tips for Managing Anger is a show about how deal with anger effectively and practically. Lynette Hoy, Marriage and Family Counselor and Anger Management Specialist, presents insights and skills for managing anger. You can learn to change unhealthy anger into a positive force which accomplishes something good for yourself and others! No more yelling, swearing, manipulating or giving the 'cold shoulder'. Transform your anger into faith, assertiveness, problem-solving, empathy and forgive ...
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Welcome! My name is Amapola Ramirez (aka:Paula) and I am a Chicana, hija de inmigrantes, mother, wife & social worker. I am a certified parenting instructor, anger management specialist, health coach, and therapist to be. I have a passion to inspire people who at some point may feel the need to hear they are not alone. Thank you for stopping by and lets begin our journey together! A Chicana sharing her story!
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The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law
Shawn Weber, CLS-F, Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® and Peter Roussos, M.A., MFT, CST
Sit down with “The California Divorce Experts”: Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, for a frank and casual conversation about divorce, separation, co-parenting and the difficult decisions real people like you face during these tough times.We know that if you are considering divorce or separation, it can be scary and overwhelmi ...
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Kenneth Braswell has spent over 32 years in the service of family and community. A husband and father of five, he created Fathers Incorporated (FI) in 2004 and serves as its Chief Executive Officer. For 12 years FI has also served as the prime contractor for HHS’s National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse (fatherhoodgov). In 2006 Braswell became the Director of the New York State Fatherhood Initiative, overseeing more than $11 million in programs, conducting a $1 million comprehensive ev ...
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Divorce unfolds in two parallel universes: the cold, mechanical world of legal proceedings and the raw, messy landscape of human emotions. When these worlds collide, many discover that what matters most to them personally holds little to no relevance in court. This disconnect can leave people feeling unheard and unable to move forward. We dive deep…
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Navigating High-Conflict Divorce with Charmaine Panko
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48:47Curious about navigating the complexities of high-conflict divorce with more grace and empathy? Discover the transformative power of mediation and Collaborative Practice with our esteemed guest, Charmaine Panko, a seasoned lawyer, mediator and Collaborative practitioner from Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. Together, we unpack the challenges of navigating …
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Divorce and Politics: Navigating Divorce in a Divided World
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52:37In this Presidential Election season, polarization is tearing us apart, but could it also hold the key to understanding and strengthening personal relationships? As the Three Wisemen of Divorce guide us through the charged political landscape of 2024, we uncover how deeply entrenched views can unravel marriages and complicate co-parenting. Through …
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Bridging the Gaps of Divorce Miscommunications
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34:18Unlock the secrets to effective communication in divorce mediation and transform misunderstandings into mutual understanding. Have you ever wondered why a simple desire, like being a "50-50 dad," can spiral into conflict? We promise to equip you with the tools to navigate these emotional landmines, spotlighting the imperative role of clear intentio…
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Transforming Anger in Divorce: Insights and Strategies with Dr. James Walton
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57:40What if you could transform anger into a tool for growth and understanding? We bring you a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. James Walton, Ph.D., a licensed family therapist and Eureka Award recipient. Together, we explore the intricate dynamics of anger during divorce and offer practical strategies for managing these intense emotions. Learn …
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Why does divorce cost so much and take so long?
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46:30Ever wondered why untangling the knot of marriage can feel like braving a labyrinth? In a truth-telling session with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, therapist Pete Roussos, and attorney Shawn Weber, we uncover the multifaceted journey through divorce. Starting with a chuckle, we quickly delve into the sobering realities couples face as they…
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Steering Through Divorce with Mental Health Support
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44:25Discover the transformative power of mental health support in the realm of divorce with the Three Wisemen of Divorce. This episode delves into the emotional complexities of separation and the pivotal role therapists play in steering individuals towards a collaborative divorce. We unpack the stark contrasts between marital therapy, coaching and medi…
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Using a Financial Specialist to Unpack Your Divorce Mediation
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38:42Discover how to navigate the complexities of divorce with financial savvy and emotional intelligence as we chat with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, therapist Pete Roussos, MFT, and attorney Shawn Weber. This revealing conversation is packed with expert advice on the crucial role of financial specialists during divorce mediation.…
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The Critical Role of Attorneys in Divorce Mediation
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42:46Discover the surprising truth behind the role of attorneys in divorce mediation and why you should never underestimate their value in steering you toward fair outcomes. As we navigate the complexities of legal separation, we shatter the myth that mediators can, or should, replace the need for expert legal advice. Their seasoned insights reveal the …
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The Weather Outside is Frightful: Holiday Co-parenting
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49:09Sometimes things are hard with the holidays- especially after a divorce. In fact, the weather outside can be frightful. In this episode, Mark, Shawn and Pete discuss the challenges families face when navigating co-parenting during the holidays. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant;…
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There are more than one type of mediation. Every mediator has his own mediation style. In this episode, The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss four different mediation styles: transformative, facilitative, informational and evaluative. Each mediation style has its own pros and cons and it is important to consider what style will work best for your di…
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On this episode of The Three Wisemen of Divorce, our experts tackle a difficult but important topic: divorce during a financial crisis. Drawing on their extensive experience working with clients during periods of economic upheaval, the Wisemen share valuable insights and practical tips for navigating divorce decisions when finances are at their mos…
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Navigating the Forensic Custody Evaluation
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50:18This week The Three Wisemen of Divorce sit down with forensic psychologist and family consultant in complex family law cases, Robert A. Simon, Ph.D. If you are involved in a divorce with kids, especially litigation, you may have to endure a forensic custody evaluation. Dr. Simon provides his thoughts and insights about how to prepare for and naviga…
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"Should Old Acquaintance be forgot": Divorce and the New Year
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40:10With the New Year come new resolutions and plans for the upcoming year. But what if your New Year's resolution is to get a divorce? Believe it or not, January is known as "divorce season" in the family law business because so many people decide to call it quits after the holidays. Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consult…
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Surviving the First Holidays After Divorce
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34:34The first holidays after a divorce can be tough. We call it the "Year of Firsts." It's the first Christmas, Passover, Birthday, Fourth of July, and even Super Bowl Sunday while separated. Questions abound such as: How are the holidays split in a divorce? What will Christmas after divorce be like? Should divorced parents spend holidays together? Sur…
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Sometimes a divorce case gets stuck because the professionals or the clients have not taken the time to prepare the case to be ready to settle. Impasse is sometimes nothing more than not having the facts or the emotions ready to find a solution. Learn what it takes to achieve "settlement readiness". The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts …
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In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, M.A., MFT, CST, Psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why the first two weeks of any divorce is the most dangerous time. Learn what kinds of situations can make this the most dangerous time and…
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How to Tell the Kids About the Divorce (and How NOT to Tell the Kids!)
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33:57What should we tell the kids? How much information should we share? How do we have this conversation? In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what should and should not be shar…
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"Why can't you be happy for me?": When straying spouses can't understand the pain they cause
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42:53We've seen it time and again in divorce cases. When adultery happens, sometimes the adulterer has no clue what kind of pain they are causing. It's almost like folks have blinders. While most states have "no-fault" divorce, the pain of an affair can adversely affect agreement readiness during divorce negations whether courts recognizes fault or not.…
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I can't believe you asked for that! Reacting to insulting proposals in divorce negotiations
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42:18Sometimes during a divorce mediation someone makes a proposal that is so off-base it is insulting. The temptation is to get angry, yell or even storm out of the room. But maybe there is a better approach. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and S…
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The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the strange COVID influenced real estate market and how it impacts the decisions people in their divorce. Wisemen, financial divorce advisor Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, psychologist Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D. and attorney Shawn Weber, CLS-F chat with realtor and Weber Dispute Resolution mediator Robert Flynn, J.D., SRE…
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Good Remarriage: How not to make the same mistakes you made in your last marriage.
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36:34So, you survived the process of divorcing your ex. Now you want to remarry. How do you avoid repeating same mistakes you made the first time around? In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attor…
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Financial Disclosures are necessary in every divorce. While the process can be tedious, divorcing parties need to do the financial disclosures truthfully and thoroughly. We know that money can mean a lot of different things to different people. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Ps…
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Divorce Negotiation and Thinking Outside the Box
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33:45It's very easy to get stuck in a certain way of approaching things, especially during the challenges of a divorce negotiation. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how creat…
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The Multi-dimensional Aspects of the Marital Home
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32:00Originally recorded on March 8, 2023, the Three Wisemen sit down with Massachusetts Attorney and Mediator Beth Aarons, JD, MSW to discuss the multi-dimensional aspects of the marital home and how it hits the emotional, legal and financial aspects of a divorce. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; …
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Need to get a prenup? What about a postnuptial agreement after your already married? Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why formal marital agreements can be good and why pillow talk agreem…
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Most jurisdictions in the United States embrace the concept of so-called "no-fault divorce". It makes sense for the Court. No Judge wants to involve themselves in deciding who is a fault when a marriage fails. It's a recipe for a soap opera reality TV proceeding. So the divorce for "irreconcilable differences" often makes the most sense. But some f…
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The Flowers are Dead: When Valentine's Day Leads to Divorce
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30:57Sometimes Valentine's Day, a day supposedly to express love, can be the very catalyst that leads to the final decision to divorce. Sometimes these annual celebrations become triggering to people. The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the post-Valentine's Day divorce surge and the relationship psychology that seem to attend such important days. Is it…
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What to do if one spouse wants a divorce and the other doesn't
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49:08It is rare that both spouses mutually agreed that a divorce should happen. Usually, there is a "leavor" and a "leavee". What do you do if you want a divorce and the other person doesn't want to "grant" the divorce? This week, Divorce Wisemen Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; a…
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It's that time of the year for New Year's Resolutions. When folks are facing marital problems, they often include a divorce in their plans for the New Year. In this time of rebooting, how can people approach these changes? From a menu ranging from better co-parenting, setting boundaries and new financial choices, what other resolutions might the ne…
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When There's No Place Like Home for the Holidays (After the Divorce)
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45:10Divorce can wreak havoc on family holiday traditions. But divorcing parents have the ability to make holidays less painful and a nice memory for their children. While the experience may not be a Norman Rockwell postcard, it can be positive if co-parents take the right steps. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psyc…
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Divorce is heartbreaking and emotionally tough. During this Thanksgiving holiday, it may be difficult to think about being thankful during such a challenging time. But we have learned that an attitude of gratitude in spite of the challenges can make a big difference. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Fam…
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Juggling Holidays and Telling the Kids about the Divorce
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46:10Two topics this week. First, what is the best approach to talking to your kids about the breakup? We talk about how to get through that difficult conversation. Next, and surprisingly related, we talk about how to juggle the holidays during and after the divorce. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Att…
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Politics, Pandemics and Paranoia During Divorce
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42:28It's elections season. We are in the middle of some of the most stressful times of a generation. Between politics, pandemics, and general paranoia, there is a lot on people's minds. What do folks do when divorce happens in these troubled times. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator…
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Personality and Divorce with Personality Expert Dr. Richard Levak
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44:12Like dog breeds, people have different personality types. Some are more easy going than others. Some struggle to get along with others. The personality types in the marriage has a huge impact on how the divorce will go. The Three Wisemen of Divorce, Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Med…
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A divorce case with an honest-to-goodness narcissist, borderline, or antisocial personality disorder can be a recipe for a super nasty experience. You can't interact with a High Conflict Personality (HCP) like you would with other folks. In their minds, everything is somebody else's fault and they live for a fight. They are blamers, hotheads, narci…
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Who's angry? It seems that in divorce, anger is very prevalent. But anger is a secondary emotion following hurt. While anger is natural, it can get in the way of thinking clearly and making good decisions. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Me…
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The Power of the Collaborative Divorce Coach with Special Guest Nancy J. Ross, LCSW
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41:08This week we have an enriching discussion with Collaborative Divorce icon Nancy J. Ross, LCSW. Nancy pioneered the concept of the Collaborative Divorce Coach in California at the beginning of the Collaborative Divorce movement. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber…
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50 Ways to Leave Your Lover (or something like that)
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38:05There's more than one way to end a marriage. The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the different legal ways to end a relationship to include divorce, legal separation, nullity, post-marital agreements and Marvin actions. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*…
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Divorce rates are higher since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic. Politics are causing polarization in communities and within families. Times are crazy these days. How do difficult times affect divorce? Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law …
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Collaborative Divorce or Mediation? Which is the Right Choice for You?
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40:38The decision of HOW you divorce is almost as important as the decision TO divorce. Sometimes it can be very confusing to decide between the many out-of-court processes available. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney…
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We've talked a lot about how to make your divorce more smooth and peaceful. But this week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce share with you the guaranteed ways to have a completely miserable divorce. Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D., and Shawn Weber, JD, CLS-F. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Fi…
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A Conversation with Stu Webb: The Grandfather of Collaborative Divorce (Part 2)
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32:31Stu had so much to say, we had to break his interview into two parts! We were thrilled that Stu Webb came to join us on the Three Wisemen of Divorce. The Grandfather of Collaborative Divorce, Stu is probably the original and wisest Wiseman of all! A Zen Buddhist and Jazz Musician, Stu brings characteristics you wouldn't expect in a lawyer. Stu has …
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A Conversation with Stu Webb: The Grandfather of Collaborative Divorce (Part 1)
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31:05We were thrilled that Stu Webb came to join us on the Three Wisemen of Divorce. The Grandfather of Collaborative Divorce, Stu is probably the original and wisest Wiseman of all! A Zen Buddhist and Jazz Musician, Stu brings characteristics you wouldn't expect in a lawyer. Stu has mastered the understanding of using love, kindness, and collaboration …
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Back to School Co-parenting in the Age of Cornavirus
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39:36Divorce, Custody and Visitation during the COVID-19 pandemic present new challenges for parents when the kids go back to school. What if parents can't agree on what is safe social distancing? What if the parents can't agree on the school or extracurricular activities? This week The Three Wisemen of Divorce tackle these and other difficult conversat…
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"Good fences make good neighbors" - Setting Boundaries during your Divorce
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34:10This week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the Robert Frost poem, "Mending Wall," and apply an interpretation to a divorce. Frost writes, "Good fences make good neighbors." What kinds of boundaries are important in your divorce? What sort of "fences" and "walls" are important to maintain when dealing with separation, child custody, visitation,…
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A New Way of Listening During Your Divorce with Special Guest Jaye-Jo Portonova, M.D.
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40:25Jaye-Jo Portanova, M.D. joins the Three Wisemen of Divorce as a special guest this week to discuss how finding a new way to listen and to communicate during your divorce is essential for life during and after your divorce. Jaye-Jo shares her personal story finding new ways to hear and listen as she raised a deaf child who has now grown to be a succ…
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What does a "victory" in divorce look like? Is it the person who gets the kids? the money? Can you even define victory in divorce? The Three Wisemen of Divorce, Shawn Weber, CLS-F, Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA and Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D take a crack at it. Give it a listen and tell us what you think. Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, C…
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Custody, Coparenting, COVID-19 and the Cruel Hot Summer
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37:18Custody and coparenting during the summer can be challenging enough. Add COVID-19 to the mix and it gets really hard. What happens if the co-parents disagree about coronavirus safety precautions? Do parents agree on whether camps or sports are safe? Is a co-parent, a child or a new significant other in a high-risk group and how will that impact vis…
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