Best Choose Recovery Services Alana Gordon And Amie Woolsey Podcasts (2025)

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Why Do We Get So Emotionally Dysregulated After Betrayal? 31:12

37m ago31:12

31:12

Do you feel like you’ve gone from calm and collected to emotionally unstable since experiencing betrayal? You’re not broken; your brain is just trying to protect you. This week Alana breaks down the science behind why betrayal throws your nervous system into overdrive and shrinks your window of tolerance. Listen to learn: How betrayal activates you…

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What Does "Doing the Work" Mean? - with Athina Chiron 42:35

7d ago42:35

42:35

What does real healing look like? This week Alana welcomes Athina Chiron to the podcast. Athina shares her deeply personal journey from trauma survivor to healing professional. Athina offers a raw and honest look at what healing actually feels like day-to-day. She breaks down the myth that healing has a finish line and instead reframes it as an ong…

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The Strength You Can't See: Healing Your Nervous System After Betrayal 36:39

14d ago36:39

36:39

Are you caught in a cycle of stress and trauma? In this episode, Amie dives into the symbolism of isometric workouts as it relates to the deep, quiet strength needed for healing trauma and regulating the nervous system. Drawing from her own experiences and client stories, Amie offers insights into recognizing dysregulation and nurturing a resilient…

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Soft, Strong, and Boundaried: Reclaiming Your Empathy As a Gift 38:35

21d ago38:35

38:35

Do you wish you could stop caring so much because your empathy has been used against you? If you’re exhausted from carrying everyone else’s emotions while your own needs go unmet, this episode is for you. Learn why your empathy isn’t a flaw that needs fixing–it’s a gift that needs protecting. Discover the difference between healthy empathy and surv…

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Recovering and Reclaiming You 12:45

28d ago12:45

12:45

Recovery isn’t just about stopping harmful behaviors - it’s about rediscovering your authentic self. This week Alana explores how trauma disconnects us from who we really are and offers hope for reclaiming your true identity. What you’ll learn: Why recovery is about becoming, not just stopping How trauma disconnects us from our true identity Practi…

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Help! My Partner Feels They Are Good Enough, But It's Not Enough For Me 19:16

1M ago19:16

19:16

Do you feel like you and your partner are on different pages in your healing journey? In this episode, Alana tackles the challenges faced when one partner believes they've done “enough” healing while the other still feels the relationship isn't whole. Listen to understand: The complexity and layers of the healing process The importance of clear com…

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Recovery That Actually Builds Connection - with Stephen Thomas 34:56

1M ago34:56

34:56

What happens when recovery focuses solely on stopping harmful behaviors but ignores the deeper work of connection? Stephen Thomas (coach at Choose Recovery Services) joins Alana this week and reveals why true sexual health must include your partner's experience and input. This conversation challenges conventional recovery approaches and offers a ro…

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Why Are We Afraid to See Abuse? 20:43

2M ago20:43

20:43

Is your relationship leaving you feeling confused and hurt? This week, Alana explores subtle and overt forms of abuse, emotional turmoil, and the challenges of recognizing harmful patterns. Listen to learn: How to recognize different forms of abuse Why it's hard to accept abuse Practical steps for beginning the process of healing from abuse Registe…

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Finding Strength After Betrayal - with Isy Williams 44:52

2M ago44:52

44:52

This week Amie welcomes Isy Williams to the podcast! Isy is a coach with Choose Recovery Services. She has a background in sociology and counseling and has personal experience with betrayal trauma and recovery. Isy shares her journey from the devastating early stages of discovery to finding new strength and resilience on the other side of trauma. S…

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Can My Partner Help Me Heal Or Am I On My Own? 32:23

2M ago32:23

32:23

Are you confused about whether your partner can help you in your healing journey or if you need to do it alone? This powerful episode breaks down the myth that it's an either/or situation. Alana and her guest Luke Gordon (Executive Director of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) dive deep into the three essential way…

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Is Your Patience Being Honored or Exploited? 32:20

2M ago32:20

32:20

Are you struggling with patience in your recovery journey? This week Amie and Alana delve into the nuanced concept of patience, its role in healing from betrayal, and how to cultivate it healthily. Learn to balance patience with reality, recognize unhealthy patterns, and empower yourself to know when your patience is being honored and when it’s not…

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Grieving Together: The Missing Step in Relationship Healing After Betrayal 28:57

3M ago28:57

28:57

How do couples navigate shared grief and rebuild their relationship after betrayal? This week Amie and Alana explore the phases of healing, particularly focusing on shared grief in Phase Two. Listen in as Alana shares a personal example of shared grief in her life, and learn how grieving together can create greater empathy, emotional stability, and…

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Grief, Betrayal, and the Hard Work of Acceptance 24:32

3M ago24:32

24:32

Are you struggling with acceptance in your grief journey? This week Amie and Alana delve into the often-overlooked, cyclical nature of acceptance when it comes to betrayal trauma. Listen in as they share personal stories and practical advice on learning to face reality, validate your experiences, and ultimately, return to a place of self-trust. Men…

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Fear of Grief Overwhelm 35:46

3M ago35:46

35:46

Are you struggling with the overwhelming emotions of grief? In this episode, Amie and Alana dive deep into the complexities of grief and explore practical strategies to manage its intensity. They discuss the importance of grounding techniques, pacing oneself, and the dual awareness concept to navigate through grief in a healthy and balanced way. Li…

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The Hidden Faces of Grief After Betrayal 31:18

3M ago31:18

31:18

Have you ever felt like grief is more complicated than it seems? This week Amie and Alana delve into the hidden aspects of grief, especially when it comes from betrayal. From mourning the future you envisioned to grieving the loss of self and delayed grief, we explore the intricacies of each. Learn how to recognize these overlooked pieces and find …

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Going Beyond Traditional Therapy - with Akary Busto 39:55

4M ago39:55

39:55

Have you ever wondered if true healing is possible after trauma? This week, join us as Akary (Emotional Biohacker and founder of Uhkare Mind Body Soul) shares her transformative journey from corporate stress to understanding the interconnectedness of mind, body, and soul. Learn about the significance of nervous system regulation, the power of breat…

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How to Handle Ruminating Thoughts 12:07

4M ago12:07

12:07

Are you stuck replaying painful memories and wondering how to find peace? In this episode, Amie uncovers why rumination happens and how it serves as a protective mechanism for the mind. Discover practical tools to break free from its grip, validate your emotions, and reclaim your present. Book a session with Amie to learn how Brainspotting can supp…

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Being With Your Anger - with Bronwyn Schweigerdt 45:05

4M ago45:05

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This week we are pleased to welcome Bronwyn Schweigerdt, a psychotherapist and anger expert, who explores the intricate relationship between anger and shame. Through personal stories and practical exercises, discover the health impacts of suppressed anger and how to develop a healthier relationship with your emotions. Connect with Bronwyn through h…

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Not All Therapy is Created Equal: Betrayal Needs a Different Approach 33:05

4M ago33:05

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Are you unsure about the type of therapy you need after betrayal? Join Amie and Alana this week as they discuss the critical differences between traditional marriage therapy and affair recovery support. Discover why it’s essential to have a therapist who is trained in betrayal trauma and learn how to find the right therapeutic path for healing. Com…

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The Pitfalls of Making Your Partner's Reality Your Truth 40:19

4M ago40:19

40:19

(Keep listening at 18:04 to hear about our NEW scholarship program. Email us at [email protected] to learn more!) Are you struggling to trust your own reality in a relationship? In this powerful episode, Alana explores how we sometimes abandon our truth to align with our partner’s version of reality, when dealing with betrayal trauma.…

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When the Healer is Hurting: Balancing Your Healing While Holding Space for Others 30:20

5M ago30:20

30:20

Are you a therapist or coach balancing your own pain while also tending to your clients' needs? In this special bonus episode Alana explores the complexities of healing while helping others. Tune in and learn how to maintain boundaries, avoid burnout, and embrace your humanity in this challenging dual role. Also, learn more about our upcoming inten…

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Partner, Not Parent: Healthy Ways to Support a Betraying Spouse 30:13

5M ago30:13

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Do you struggle with balancing support versus enabling your partner in your relationship? This week, Amie and Alana clarify how betrayed partners can differentiate between supporting their partner's recovery and over-functioning to their own detriment. They offer insights on how to establish healthy boundaries, seek individual support, and foster g…

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Stuck is Not Your Story: How to Keep Moving Forward in Healing From Betrayal and Infidelity 24:31

5M ago24:31

24:31

Feeling stuck in your healing journey? This week, Alana dives into how to recognize stagnation and regain momentum. Learn the five signs that indicate you might be stuck and discover actionable steps to reassess and realign your support systems. Embark on a path of empowered action and somatic healing to continue moving forward in your recovery. Re…

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Using Healing Tools Against Yourself; Believe Your Body 33:03

5M ago33:03

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Ever feel like your body is working against you after experiencing betrayal? This week Amie discusses the importance of listening to your body's signals and believing its wisdom. Discover how to stop using therapeutic tools to bypass your feelings and start truly honoring your body's messages for genuine healing and empowerment. Learn how to turn y…

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Untangling Your Worth: Reclaiming Your Value After Betrayal 35:40

5M ago35:40

35:40

Have you ever felt lost or questioned your value after experiencing a betrayal? Join Amie and Alana as they unpack the profound impact of betrayal on self-worth and identity, sharing personal stories and providing insights to reclaim your sense of self. Learn how to navigate the complex layers of trauma, heal from within, and build a stronger found…

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Red Flags in Betrayal 27:09

6M ago27:09

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Are you navigating the painful journey of betrayal and struggling to identify red flags in your relationship? Join us as we discuss common warning signs that a betrayed partner should watch for and how to understand them. Learn the importance of earned trust, emotional accountability, and why your healing journey matters. Plus, discover our upcomin…

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Unlock Deep Healing with Parts Work 24:39

6M ago24:39

24:39

Have you ever felt like a part of you is holding you back? This week Luke Gordon (coach and co-founder of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) joins Alana, and together they explore the transformative journey of parts work and the power of self-acceptance in healing. Luke courageously shares his own story of how under…

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Full Disclosure - A Step to Healing, Not a Shortcut to Trust 16:22

6M ago16:22

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Why is a full disclosure one of the most feared yet vital steps in recovery? This episode dives into the misconceptions about full disclosure, its importance in rebuilding trust, and why it’s just the beginning of deeper healing and connection. Learn how full transparency lays the foundation for trust and allows both partners to move forward authen…

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Breaking Through Denial 39:20

6M ago39:20

39:20

This week Alana joins Luke Gordon on his podcast, Beyond the Facade, as they explore the crucial first step in overcoming compulsive behavior: breaking through denial. Learn about the importance of accepting feedback, taking responsibility, and facing discomfort to become your true self and transform your relationships. Intensive for Couples: Rebui…

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Breaking Free from Hypervigilance - How to Let Go After Betrayal (Without Losing Yourself) 30:09

6M ago30:09

30:09

Are you trapped in a cycle of anxiety and hypervigilance due to betrayal trauma? Join Amie as she dives into understanding hypervigilance and its deep-rooted impacts on your mental and physical health. Learn practical strategies to let go, build self-trust, and find peace within yourself. Explore how to shift from control to curiosity and soothe yo…

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Healing the Whole Body Through Brainspotting 1:00:35

7M ago1:00:35

1:00:35

Did you know Choose Recovery offers free monthly webinars? This week we are replaying the January webinar which explores the powerful world of somatic healing and Brainspotting. Discover how these therapeutic techniques can transform your recovery journey, manage intrusive thoughts, and enhance your emotional well-being. This episode will enlighten…

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BONUS: Rebuilding Us - Navigating Couples Work After Betrayal 42:54

7M ago42:54

42:54

When it comes to healing from betrayal, doing the right thing at the wrong time can backfire. Join us for a special podcast bonus episode as Alana and Hali Roderick (Choose Recovery Services coach and co-host of the podcast Choosing to Stay) discuss the intricacies of couples work post-betrayal. They emphasize the importance of early recovery steps…

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Abuse in the Church - Changing the Culture Starts With All of Us 51:18

7M ago51:18

51:18

Abuse can happen anywhere - including places that are meant to provide safety. This week Alana welcomes Lisa Compton (Instagram) and Taylor Patterson to the podcast. Lisa and Taylor are the authors of the book Skills for Safeguarding. Together they discuss the urgent need for safeguarding in church communities. Learn how faith-based organizations c…

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Navigating ADHD and Demand Avoidance in Relationships 27:57

7M ago27:57

27:57

This week Luke Gordon joins Alana as he opens up about living with ADHD and demand avoidance. Luke and Alana explore how these dynamics impact their interactions and the steps they take to maintain a balanced and empathetic relationship. This episode offers a real-time glimpse into their ongoing journey individually and relationally of self-awarene…

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From Triggered to Grounded: Tools for Managing Betrayal Trauma Triggers 44:33

7M ago44:33

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Sometimes it can feel like triggers are overwhelming and impossible to handle. Listen in as Amie and Alana explore triggers - what causes them, why they persist, and most importantly, how to manage them in a healthy way. Together they share their personal experiences with triggers and outline several exercises and tools for emotional regulation tha…

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Finding Freedom in Boundaries - With Laura Fisher 42:19

7M ago42:19

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Do you feel like you’re not doing boundaries “right,” or you worry that your boundaries aren’t working? Join Alana and special guest Laura Fisher (fellow coach at Choose Recovery Services) as they discuss the critical importance of boundaries in recovering from betrayal trauma. Learn about differentiating requests from boundaries, the importance of…

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The Healing Your Body Holds 25:18

8M ago25:18

25:18

What happens in your body when you hear difficult conversations about narcissism, betrayal trauma, and abuse? Join Amie and Alana this week as they address emotionally charged topics and how those topics can trigger strong reactions in both your body and mind. Listen in as they share insights about the importance of paying attention to your body’s …

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Reality Collapse and Reality Fragmentation 34:55

8M ago34:55

34:55

What happens to your brain and body when the reality you thought you knew completely shatters? This week Amie explores how betrayal trauma often leads to reality collapse and reality fragmentation. Learn what these terms are, how to navigate the emotional whirlwind they bring, and how to begin rebuilding trust in yourself and in your reality once a…

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Listener Question: How Can I Feel Good When I'm in Survival Mode? 34:38

9M ago34:38

34:38

Do you feel like you’re barely able to keep your head above water and wonder if you’ll ever feel good again? Join Amie and Alana this week as they explore the challenges that come from living in survival mode. Explore the impact of staying in unsafe environments and learn the importance of radical acceptance and self-awareness. Understand how your …

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Are All Cheaters Narcissists? 49:02

9M ago49:02

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The word “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot, but is that label even helpful? Join Amie and Alana this week as they invite Gary Katz to weigh in on this important topic. Gary is a certified sex addiction therapist as well as the founder of the Center for Intimacy Recovery in New York. Together they unpack the nuances of labeling behavior, the ris…

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When You Don't Feel Grateful; Graceful Acknowledgment 12:17

9M ago12:17

12:17

Join Amie this week for a heartfelt discussion on the concept of graceful acknowledgment, especially during the challenging holiday season. Learn practical steps to gently validate your feelings without the pressure to feel gratitude before you’re ready. Discover realistic expectations and self-compassion strategies to navigate triggers and emotion…

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REPLAY - Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction 1:08:02

9M ago1:08:02

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Join us this week as we revisit one of our most popular episodes from 2022. The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana, Amie, and their guest, Luke Gordon, as they unpack the stages of individual and relational healing. They emphasi…

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Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 7; What Comes Next? 33:02

10M ago33:02

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Join Amie and Alana as they conclude their series on full therapeutic disclosures by discussing why disclosure is not the end of the journey and what steps to take next. They explore the importance of shared grief, the significance of building a plan for rebuilding trust, and the pitfalls to avoid post-disclosure. Learn about crafting personalized …

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Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 6; The Role of Polygraphs 49:53

10M ago49:53

49:53

Amie and Alana have an informative and powerful conversation with Jared Rockwell, a polygraph examiner and a LCSW. He is a nationally recognized leader in his field and offers his expert thoughts today around how polygraphs works, why they are so important for rebuilding trust in a relationship, and what they are NOT used for. Learn how this tool c…

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Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 5; Starting the Process For Both Partners 54:25

10M ago54:25

54:25

Curious about where to even begin when thinking about full therapeutic disclosures? Join Amie, Alana, and guest, Luke Gordon, as they discuss the emotional preparation needed for both partners, especially focusing on the betrayer’s steps toward full transparency. Learn how to navigate the complexities of disclosure including the importance of empat…

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Take Back the Holidays - With Sarah Morales 27:11

10M ago27:11

27:11

The holidays are quickly approaching. Are you emotionally ready for them? Today we are thrilled to welcome Sarah Morales, the "deconstructing gaslighting guru," as she shares strategies for taking back control of the holiday season. Sarah offers practical insights on recognizing toxic patterns and protecting your emotional wellbeing. She previews h…

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Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 4; Addressing Fears From the Betrayer 24:33

10M ago24:33

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This week Luke again joins Amie and Alana as they explore the fears and barriers of full therapeutic disclosure in relationships. Listen in as they emphasize the importance of a structured disclosure process, the power of letting go of outcomes, and the transformative potential of embracing vulnerability. This episode highlights creating a safe spa…

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Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 3; Am I Ready? Are We Ready? 49:11

11M ago49:11

49:11

Are you curious about whether you're ready for a full therapeutic disclosure? Join Amie, Alana, and Luke as they discuss this critical question. They explore the importance of timing, mutual respect, and emotional readiness for both partners. Whether you're the betrayed or the betrayer, this episode offers valuable insights to help you navigate thi…

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Full Therapeutic Disclosure Part 2; To Have or Not Have 45:51

11M ago45:51

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Today we dive deeper into therapeutic disclosures and address main concerns that often arise when considering them for you and your partner. We delve into various reasons why therapeutic disclosures are crucial, and we explore reasons why a full disclosure might not be appropriate. 00:25 The Importance of Full Therapeutic Disclosure 03:11 Informed …

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Understanding the Addict Mind 30:37

11M ago30:37

30:37

Dive into a candid conversation as Luke Gordon, an expert in betrayal trauma and men's mental health, joins Alana. Together they tackle pressing questions many women have about their partner's troubling behaviors. Luke provides raw, honest insights into the mind of someone struggling with betraying and addiction. He tackles tough questions about tr…

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