A sexless marriage is one of the deepest wounds a man can carry. It leaves you feeling unwanted, unseen, and rejected. But you are not broken for wanting sex. You are not wrong for craving connection. You are human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we walk step by step through The Secure Husband Process to help you heal, reclaim your …

False core beliefs are the silent drivers that shape how you think, feel, and respond in marriage. They were formed in childhood, often from painful experiences, and they still influence your relationships today. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we uncover what false core beliefs are, where they come from, and how to break free from t…

Many men are starving for connection in their marriage but feel they can’t ask for it without being called needy or weak. The truth is simple: men need connection too. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, I’ll show you how to honor your need for love and closeness without losing your strength or self-respect. You’ll learn how to stop hidi…

It’s one of the most frustrating moments in marriage — you walk into the room, and your wife doesn’t look up from her phone. You try to talk, but she’s still scrolling. You want connection, but instead you feel invisible. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, I’ll show you how to handle this without anger, guilt, or shutting down. You’ll l…

You can do all the work — heal childhood wounds, stay calm, lead with love — and your marriage still might not survive. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is about facing that truth without losing yourself. We talk about what to do when you’ve grown as a man, but your wife remains distant or checked out. It’s about detaching from the “fairy…

Many men start healing with one goal — to win back their wife’s affection. They work on themselves, stay calm, and show up differently… but inside, they’re still performing for approval. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why that approach keeps you stuck — and how to shift into real growth that lasts. What you’ll learn in …

Many men start healing with one goal — to win back their wife’s affection. They work on themselves, stay calm, and show up differently… but inside, they’re still performing for approval. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why that approach keeps you stuck — and how to shift into real growth that lasts. What you’ll learn in …

You’ve done the work. You’ve stayed calm during fights. You’ve stopped yelling. You’ve started listening. But now you wonder… “How do I know if I’m really healed?” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break it down in plain, simple steps. You’ll learn what real healing looks like — not perfection, but presence. Not control, but calm. H…

Do you feel proud of your loyalty… but broken inside? In this video, we talk about how wounded men stay loyal — even when it’s hurting them. You’ll learn how to stop bleeding for approval and start living from truth and strength. Some men stay loyal to pain. To women who don’t care. To marriages that feel one-sided and cold. To roles where they car…

If your wife avoids touch, hugs, or affection, this episode is for you. It’s painful to feel unwanted. You might feel like something is wrong with you. But that thought is a lie. You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not unlovable. This video will help you stop blaming yourself. You’ll learn how to care for your heart, meet your own emo…

If your wife withholds sex, it can feel like pain, punishment, or rejection. It hurts. It’s confusing. And it can make you feel small, angry, or lost. This episode helps you stop reacting and start healing. It shows you how to lead yourself with strength — even when your wife pulls away. What You Will Learn: ✅ Why some wives withhold sex ✅ What thi…

Are you trying to heal while still feeling unwanted, unseen, or unloved by your wife? This episode is for the man who feels rejected in real time — not from the past, but right now. You may be listening to podcasts, doing the work, and trying to grow… but nothing at home is changing. You’re not weak. You’re not crazy. And you’re not alone. What You…

If your marriage feels one-sided, cold, or full of blame — you’re not alone. Many men ask, “Why am I the only one doing the work?” “She never opens up. She never wants sex. She avoids everything — but I’m the one who has to change?” This video explains why that feeling is valid… but also why healing still starts with you. What You’ll Learn in This …

If your marriage feels stuck, cold, or disconnected — this video is for you. Many men believe their wife is the main problem in the relationship. But most of the time, the marriage is broken because both partners are reacting from pain. This creates a pattern that keeps repeating until one person chooses to lead the change. This episode explains ho…

If your wife has stopped wanting sex, this episode will explain why. It’s not about attraction. It’s not about being nice. It’s not about what you do around the house. It’s about trust. Emotional trust. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why emotional safety is the key to physical closeness — and how your wife’s lack of des…

You can’t fix your marriage by changing your wife. You fix your marriage by healing yourself first. Most men try to lead their marriage without leading themselves. They feel disconnected, unloved, and invisible — and they blame their wife. But deep down, they’ve lost connection with the one person they can change: themselves. In this episode of The…

Many men feel shame for wanting love. You’re told to be strong, stay independent, and never show emotion. But here’s the truth: You are made for connection. Your body and brain need closeness. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn the clear difference between healthy connection a…

You are a man. You feel things. But you were taught to push it all down. To stay calm. Stay quiet. Stay tough. You were told: “Don’t cry.” “Don’t be weak.” “Control your emotions.” But hiding your feelings isn’t helping you. It’s hurting your marriage. It’s blocking your growth. It’s making you feel numb, angry, or alone. In this episode of The Sec…

You had a good childhood. No abuse. No trauma. Your parents loved you. So why do you still feel stuck in your marriage? Why do you react in ways you don’t like? Why do you shut down, avoid, or panic when things get hard? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how childhood coping strategies — even from loving families — can b…

Do you feel like you're the only one trying? Are you always the one who reaches out, starts the hard talks, and keeps the marriage going? Does it feel like your wife just shuts down, pulls away, or avoids connection? This is called the pursuer-distancer dynamic, and it’s common in struggling marriages. One person chases. The other runs. And both fe…

You want to feel close. You want to speak your needs. But every time you try, it backfires. Maybe she pulls away. Maybe you shut down. Maybe you explode or say nothing at all. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains why you keep losing your voice — and how the wounded boy inside you might be in charge of your marriage. What Yo…

You’ve been doing the work. You’re reading. You’re journaling. You’re trying to stay calm. But deep down… you still feel stuck. You still feel alone. You still feel like nothing is changing. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast explains why. It’s something called hidden resistance — and it may be blocking your healing. In This Episode, You’ll…

You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books. You’ve stopped reacting. You’ve started healing. So why does your marriage still feel cold and stuck? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how hidden resistance might be the real reason you feel frustrated — even after making real progress. You’re not lazy. You’re not doing it wr…

You’ve done the work. You’ve healed. You’ve changed. Or have you? But your marriage still feels cold, distant, or disconnected. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is for the man who feels stuck. You’ve become more emotionally strong. You’ve stopped chasing or begging. You’ve worked on yourself. But your wife still shows no interest in close…

Waiting for someone to save you will only leave you stuck. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce shows you how to stop waiting and start leading your own life. If you feel lonely, unappreciated, or powerless in your marriage, this episode will help you take your power back — without blaming, begging, or giving up. You’ll learn why yo…

Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D >>>> https://amzn.to/45F8qFy Many men wait for fear to go away before they take action. But waiting never works. Fear doesn’t leave. You just learn to lead with it. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce shows you how to face fear and still move forward. You’ll learn how fear hides…

You don’t have to accept less than love. You just need to believe you’re worth more. If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. Go to SecureHusband.com and book a free 30-minute call. We’ll talk about where you’ve …

You’ve done the work. You’ve taken loving action. But now you’re left wondering… did anything actually change? In this final step of the Secure Husband Process, we walk through how to evaluate your action with clarity, honesty, and strength. This step helps you stop guessing and start seeing what’s real — in your heart, in your wife’s response, and…

Most men want to change their marriage. But change only happens when you take action — not just think, journal, or pray — but act with love, courage, and truth. This episode will show you how to do that. This is Step Five in the Secure Husband Process. You’ve done the inner work. You’ve seen your patterns. You’ve connected with your inner child. Yo…

Many men feel stuck in shame, fear, and rejection. This episode helps you replace those painful beliefs with the truth that comes from your Higher Power — a voice of love, peace, and strength that never changes. In Step 4 of the Secure Husband process, you’ll learn how to stop letting your mind run the show and start letting truth lead your healing…

Many men feel lost in their marriage because they carry pain from the past they’ve never faced. This episode explains how to start healing that pain by connecting with the wounded inner child — the younger version of you who still feels hurt, unloved, or not good enough. Bruce, certified coach and founder of SecureHusband.com, breaks it down in a c…

Knowing the problem is not enough. If you want to grow, lead, and feel strong again — you must choose to act. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how awareness without action keeps you stuck. He shows you how to take small, clear, honest steps that help you show up stronger — not as the boy seeking comfort, but as the man …

Most husbands feel lost when their wife pulls away, shuts down, or shows no affection. The first reaction is usually to fix it, explain it, or control it. But real change starts somewhere else. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn the first step to becoming a steady, calm, emotionally secure husband: choosing curiosity over c…

If your wife talks down to you, mocks you, or shuts you out — you may feel angry, helpless, or ready to explode. But reacting to disrespect with more disrespect does not fix anything. It only creates more distance. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn how to handle disrespect without losing control. You’ll stop overreacting. …

If you stay quiet, give her what she wants, and ignore your needs… will that make your marriage stronger? No. It makes you disappear. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why self-sacrifice is not the same as love. People-pleasing feels like you’re doing the right thing — but it’s actually hurting your marriage. You’ll learn wh…

You can’t control your wife. You can’t control her mood, her actions, or how she feels. But you can control yourself. And that changes everything. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about why men try to control what they can’t — and how it slowly destroys connection, peace, and love. This is for the man who feels stuck. For the …

You didn’t choose her because you were sure. You chose her because she saw you. And in that moment, it felt like everything you ever wanted. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast speaks to the man who just realized: “I married the first woman who gave me attention.” You are not alone. You are not broken. You were starved for love — and you set…

You wanted closeness. She needed space. You chased love. She pulled away. Now you feel stuck — and you don’t know why. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why anxious (preoccupied) men and avoidant women are often drawn to each other. And why that spark you felt in the beginning now feels like pain. What you'll learn: ✅ Why yo…

Your wife shuts down when you open up. She pulls away when things get close. You feel like you’re always chasing her attention. And now you’re asking: “Is this what love is supposed to feel like?” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why emotionally secure men stop chasing women who are avoidant and unavailable — and what to do…

You’ve stayed calm. You’ve stopped chasing. You’ve led your emotions instead of reacting. But your wife still feels cold. She still doesn’t respond. And now you’re wondering… “What if I’m doing all this work, and nothing ever changes?” This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast answers that question. It’s for the man who is growing, healing, and le…

You think your wife doesn’t want you anymore. She never starts sex. She’s not like she used to be. So you feel rejected, confused, and hurt. But what if there’s nothing wrong with her — or you? What if she simply experiences desire differently? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain the difference between spontaneous desire and r…

Have you ever said, “Maybe we should open the marriage,” hoping to make your wife feel guilty? Or maybe you’ve said, “I guess I’ll just find someone else who wants me.” If so, this video is for you. These comments don’t build connection. They break trust. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why these threats always backfire — …

You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out. You wonder: “Does she even want me?” “Is this pity sex?” “Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what to do in that exact moment — when sex feels disconnected, and your mind starts to spiral. You’…

Do you keep escaping into porn, fantasy, or daydreams about someone else when your marriage feels distant or disconnected? You’re not alone. But those escapes — while they feel good for a moment — are quietly making things worse. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we’ll show you how to stop numbing your pain and start healing your marri…

Do you feel jealous when your wife smiles at another man? Or when she laughs at her phone and it’s not a text from you? Does your mind go to: “Is she pulling away?” “Is there someone else?” “Am I being replaced?” You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. But you may be reacting from insecurity — not truth. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we…

You want sex. She doesn’t. You feel confused, rejected, and maybe even ashamed. You wonder: “Why doesn’t she want me like I want her?” “Is something wrong with me… or her?” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain what’s really going on when your wife isn’t as interested in sex — and why it doesn’t mean she’s broken or you’re not e…

You do something nice. You help around the house. You give a compliment or say “I love you.” But deep down, you’re hoping she gives something back — maybe sex, affection, or appreciation. That’s called giving to get, and it’s ruining your connection. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break down: What “giving to get” really means Why…

If you’ve ever said: “Why don’t you want me?” “You never initiate anymore.” “You’d have sex with me if you really loved me…” This episode is for you. Guilt does not create intimacy. It creates pressure. And pressure pushes her away — every single time. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why guilt never works, what’s really go…

You’ve been told real men always sacrifice. That setting boundaries is cold. That taking care of yourself is selfish. But here’s the truth: Self love is not selfish. Self love is not narcissistic. Self love is strength. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we unpack a lie many men were raised to believe — that putting yourself first means…

Thinking about starting over with someone new? Feeling tired, disconnected, or done with your marriage? This episode is your wake-up call. In today’s video, we talk about a truth most men miss: 👉 You can leave your marriage... 👉 You can find someone new who laughs at your jokes and wants you again... 👉 But if you don’t heal your inner wounds — the …