In the belated spirit of St. Paddy’s Day, this week we’re talking about our drinking capacity, pattern, and preferences and how it diminishes and changes as we age (or as Shiv puts it, the trials and tribulations of an aging liver!). Shiv - a prairie girl who has been drinking since the ripe old age of 18 - has definitely seen her taste in alcohol …

Cheugy! Simp! Snack! TFW! Sheesh! IYKYK! Bet! GOAT! This week it’s Gen Z slang all the way. We channel our inner ten to 25 year old and quiz ourselves game show/spelling bee style (“Can you use that in a sentence?”) to see how Gen Z proficient we are. We’ll touch on bro, brah, fam, glow up, cancel culture, CEO (Like “Sim and Shiv are the CEOs of po…

Dude! Like, that’s sooooooo awesome! Whatever! Talk to the hand! Lit! As if! Let’s bounce! Word! It’s all about the slang this week (the 90's and otherwise) and how it changes from cohort to cohort and generation to generation, much like in niche cultures but in a more relatable way. We also examine how not knowing what a certain slang word is can …

This week we’re taking inspiration from a medical magazine that Shiv received touching on disability bias in medicine and how it affects patient interaction. That got us thinking about the disability bias in society and whether there is a link between that bias and ageism. And whether or not we should accept that we're all “temporarily abled”? Bein…

This week we're stepping away from And Just Like That and talking about adult milestones, a topic near and dear to Sim's heart. We'll examine what adult milestones government documents from the UK say we should meet. On the list - legally becoming an adult, starting full-time work, moving out of your parents' home, moving in with a partner, having …

Since it’s Valentine’s Day week, we have a special episode for you all about sex and love in….you’ve got it - And Just Like That! We’ll discuss our opinions on the portrayal of sex in many episodes, even going way back to the first episode of the season (did the teenage sex repulse anyone else?). We’ll question why it took the show 10 episodes (yes…

This week we again revisit And Just Like That, specifically how it’s addressing past comments about the lack of diversity in its cast. We’ll look at whether or not the reboot addresses diversity in a good way and ponder whether, in this day and age, if Carrie, Miranda, and Charlotte would have issues with diversity as portrayed in the show. We’ll a…

Tonight we’re going to talk about health issues in our 50s as depicted in….you guessed it - the Sex and the City reboot, And Just Like That! We’ll touch on (SPOILER ALERT) Big’s death from a heart attack after over-exerting himself on a Peloton and how we’re not a big fan of Carrie’s reaction. Instead of just cradling him and crying, why couldn’t C…

And we’re back with a raspy-voiced take on a theme borrowed from the popular Sex and the City reboot, And Just Like That, something we’ll be doing over the next few weeks. So first off, let’s get this out of the way: ranting was definitely involved (a common occurrence in many of our episodes!). We reflect on what bearing pop culture has on society…

It’s a new year, so that can only mean one thing - it’s resolution time, baby! In this episode, we get into the nitty-gritty of New Year’s resolutions - our attitudes around them, do we set them, do we not set them, and why. Spoiler alert: Shiv doesn’t! We chat about the magic and promise of the New Year - how it seems to fade/change as you age and…

Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd we’re back! We’re excited to kick off Season 2 of “Does This Make Me Look Old?”! If you’re just joining us or can vaguely recall listening to a past podcast but aren’t sure what it was about (we forgive you!), here’s what we’re all about in a nutshell: We’re Sim and Shiv, two middle-aged friends…. scratch that, one middle-aged…

Since we’re approaching the end of the year when everyone is creating “Best Of” and “Top 10” lists, we decided we’d bring back one of our own lists from earlier this year, which also turned out to be one of our more popular episodes. We talk about our Top 5 best and worst things about aging, which we think perfectly sums up what we like discussing …

We’re still on hiatus but are bringing back one of our most popular episodes. In this episode we discuss the HBO documentary “Americans in Bed” and by talking about other people’s relationships we find out that getting older has helped change our attitudes towards our past relationships and what makes a good partner. We talk about dating in our you…

Welcome to the first of our holiday hiatus episodes where we are going to return to one of our more popular podcasts looking at our fears around aging. We also give a warm welcome to part of our DTMMLO family, our producer Ross, who agreed to introduce our first holiday episode (hi Ross!). Join us as we talk about aging fears among ourselves and ou…

Hey everyone, join us for one of our shortest episodes yet! We wrap up with our thoughts on the past year just before our holiday hiatus. But don't worry, we will have you covered if you want to continue to spend time with us as you're brushing your teeth, on your commute, at the gym, or wherever you listen to us spill our anxieties about aging. Al…

Sex and the City will be back!!! Remember that show where there were four friends who represented four different aspects of women? There was Carrie who was the personification of romance in all its insecure girly non-glory. Samantha was passion incarnate - confident and focused. Miranda was practical, sensible and the career driven one. And Charlot…

The UN's 26th Climate Change Conference just wrapped up, creating a debate about whether enough has been done to reverse the effects of climate change. Shiv and Sim discuss the media's spin on the topic and their need to create a generational divide. Is there really a difference in the thinking around climate change between the generations? Is Gen …

Are curmudgeons born or made? Shiv and Sim have a debate about this as well as whether or not they're becoming curmudgeons. In the process they find out they're on different sides of the computer/artificial intelligence divide. Who knew that Sim wants to bring on the sentient robots?!?!!? Regardless, their curmudgeon-ness (is that a word?) is proba…

Guess what?! We're #15 on Feedspot's "Best 30 Aging Podcasts" list", the Internet’s Largest Human Curated Database of Bloggers and Podcasts :) So definitely check out the site and follow us there ! This week, Sim wanted to talk about - without any actual evidence - how people pivot at some point from their careers, and start a completely new career…

Did you know October 18th is World Menopause Day? And October 11th was World Perimenopause Day? In fact, the entire month of October is actually menopause month! The purpose of both events is to raise awareness about the effects of menopause on health and well-being. Given that this was the first time they had heard about the day, and given that 50…

Shiv and Sim continue their discussion on mental health, with a focus on burnout. They talk about the symptoms of burnout as outlined by the Mayo Clinic and to make it fun/competitive, Sim turns them into a scored questionnaire. They talk about possible ways to take action in preventing and dealing with burnout as well as their opinions on these re…

October 10th was the World Health Organization World Mental Health Day, and coincidentally, Sim and Shiv decided to have a discussion around their own mental health this week. They touch on how the pandemic has affected their mental health, and how it has had an effect on society at large, including middle-aged and older adults. Shiv talks about he…

Shiv and Sim somehow manage to relate the weather and a reminiscence around "Northern Exposure" (remember that show?) to the 30th anniversary of the United Nations' International Day of Older Persons and Australia's inaugural Ageism Awareness Day held on October 1st. Did you know there is an International Day devoted to older people? Shiv didn't an…

Do celebrities really have a responsiblity to disclose if they've gotten plastic surgery to enhance their physical assets? Are we doing the right thing by constantly admiring and praising older women and actresses who look younger than they are? Is it a requirement that you should want to look sexy, or value sexiness, at all ages? These are some of…

What does it mean to leave a legacy? This week, Sim and Shiv tackle the topic of legacies. Not just the gifts of money, property and other financial assets - lovely though they can be - but also the a person's desire to make an impact, a sustainable impact, that will continue long after the person is gone. Shiv is still grappling with what she want…

This week, Sim has a bit of a mini crisis as she starts to acknowledge the physical signs of aging in herself. While mulling over the graying hair, fall and drier skin, imagine her horror as she learns about feet getting wider, arches falling, potential shrinking (she's too petite to lose any inches in height!). Shiv, a lot calmer, graceful and sci…

This week, Shiv and Sim tackle the topic of phishing and phone scams. Shiv is paranoid that she's going to fall for one of them some day as she gets older, and the scams get more sophisticated. Sim worries about them but is also too lazy to do something about them. But jokes aside, the elderly are often successfully targetted for fraud scams, altho…

This week Sim and Shiv decide to have a discussion around nursing homes. Sim comes across a number of articles reporting on nursing homes that cater to different cultures, something that will become more important as our population continues to diversify, and as that diverse population gets older. They talk about their attitudes towards their own c…

The last episode on biological clocks with guest Tas, mom and health care professional. Biological clocks - while they exist of course - are morphing in definition and perception. In this episode, conversation delves into egg freezing as an option to delay having children and the consequences of having children at a later age. Sim brings up her exp…

Sim and Shiv continue the conversation on biological clocks with Tas, their 43 year old friend who balances the craziness of motherhood with the craziness of a full time job! Tas reminisces about about the magical, weird and scary period of pregnancy - when random strangers would want to touch her belly, it felt like an alien had taken over her bod…

Sim wanted to talk about biological clocks this week - is it female centric thing? Do only women have this? Do all women feel it ticking and what do they do about it? Sim once wanted a huge family, and is now unsure. Shiv likes children but they were never really part of her roadmap. And to make sure they try and understand different perspectives -…

If you are one of the lucky ones who has known how to manage your finances since a young age, Sim and Shiv would love to hear from you. The two of them were not the most financially savvy growing up. Both Sim and Shiv fell victim to emotional spending habits in their 20s - jewellery for the fashionable Shiv, and notebooks for the geeky Sim. They re…

When you haven't seen your parents in over 18 months because of a global pandemic, you become brave enough to deal with airport crowds, wearing a mask in a tight space and trying your best to stay as socially distant as possible in a fully packed plane to Winnipeg (seriously Air Canada! Why was it so full!?). At least, that's what Shiv discovered r…

Shiv and Sim discuss plastic surgery this week as Shiv goes down a rabbit hole of YouTube videos examining whether or not celebrities have had it in their pursuit of endless beauty and youth. They talk about different procedures (did you know that you can inject Botox to your jaw muscles to redefine your jawline?), differences between plastic surgi…

It's been half a year, folks! Shiv and Sim take a look back at the last 26 weeks and chat about why they started this podcast, and where they hope to take it. As they review their previous topics, they discuss how this experience - something that started as a way to share their random thoughts with each other - has started to shape and crystallize …

We're back with part 2 of our special episode where our guests Jason, Craig and Liam share the male perspective on aging. They don't seem to worry about their gray hairs (though we did hear them mention gray beards!) as they share the physical issues that do keep them up at night! It appears that these modern men are quite comfortable with the agin…

Sim and Shiv decided they needed to hear if men think about aging too! So they reached out to Jason, Craig and Liam - three male experts (hahah!) - to chat about their perspectives on getting older. It was fascinating to see the differences and similarities with our own concerns.There was so much to unpack and process that we decided we need to hav…

Sim has a bit of a crisis this week as an old friend of hers tells her that Sim has changed significantly since her 20s, something with which Sim vehemently disagrees! Sim still feels like her hippy, new-age self, even though she has nicely transitioned into the corporate world. But, as Shiv points out, the number of scented candles one buys, does …

Shiv and Sim talk about regrets that older adults have had as determined through Cornell's Legacy Project, a project in which over 1000 older adults were interviewed for their "practical advice for living", and to "share the most important lessons they have learned over the course of their lives". They discuss one of the main insights from the proj…

Shiv and Sim discuss a couple of articles on human longevity and how diet can reduce mortality. They also briefly discuss the pandemic's effect on their work-life balance and Shiv learns about casual ageism through another podcast she listens to.By Shiv & Sim

So the 'Friends' reunion happened and it brought up a LOT of feelings from Sim which were…not shared by Shiv. Is it possible that someone could have an issue with Friends? Yes, (to Sim's horror), it is. Join Sim and Shiv as they take a nostalgic trip down TV memory lane, one in which Shiv possibly ruins many of the shows that Sim has a soft spot fo…

Welcome to a very special episode this week where we have a blast talking to Sean and Alecia, a married couple with 14 years age difference between them! They tell us what it’s like being in a relationship with a wider than average age gap. Is it hard? Is it fun? What did their friends and family think? How do they make it work? They give us a glim…

Is nostalgia a part of aging? Does it serve a purpose beyond reminiscing? Shiv and Sim discuss the phenomenon of looking back at the good old days, whether or not it's limited to people of a certain age, and whether it provides some sort of social function. They touch on Dr. Krystine Batcho's research on nostalgia, including the existence of differ…

Shiv and Sim take a look at 'Another Round (Druk)', Thomas Vinterberg's latest production, which recently won an Oscar for Best International Feature Film. They discuss whether the existential crises depicted in the movie are specific to midlife, or whether they can happen at any time. They also talk through the curious plot of the movie and whethe…

Shiv and Sim discuss fellow Canadian Carrie-Anne Moss and her recent revelation that she went from being a leading lady in action movies like the Matrix trilogy to being offered roles as a grandmother as soon as she turned 40. All we have to say is: what? (Well, actually we have more to say than that, so listen to the episode). We also discuss mark…

Are we all secretly ageist? Shiv and Sim dissect some relatively recent articles examining the language that we use around aging and older adults and how it may promote ageism in society. In doing so, they realize that they may have used some of this language themselves... For instance, did you know that the terms "seniors" and the "elderly" can be…

As promised, here is the follow-up to our episode on 'I Care A Lot' and guardianship issues in the U.S. We focus our episode on Joan Lawrence and how her case highlights the ways in which the elderly in Canada can also be exploited. Joan was a 77 year-old woman, living in Muskoka, who mysteriously disappeared in 1998. As part of an investigation in…

Sim celebrated her birthday this week but is having issues with exactly how old she is. Do birthdays during the pandemic count? She also discusses her issues with the aesthetics of numbers: her 43rd birthday is going to be a problem, y'all. We touch on the relatability of 'This is 40', the agelessness of Paul Rudd and the current culture wars betwe…

Shiv and Sim sat down to watch Rosamund Pike, Eiza Gonzalez, Chris Messina, Peter Dinklage and Dianne Wiest and their hijinks in 'I Care A Lot'. Although wildly entertaining, they slowly realized that despite its heist movie vibe, there is a mild horror movie component running throughout the film. Find out exactly why in this week's episode of 'Doe…

Shiv and Sim discuss their friendships and how they have changed from their teenage years through adulthood until now. They also bring up an interesting social science study (https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/pdf/10.1098/rsos.160097) examining the use of cellphones among different age groups and what it may tell us about the numbers and qualit…