Managing love intelligently involves understanding your emotional, spiritual, and sexual needs, your boundaries, your deal-breakers, your fantasies, and everything else that allows you to optimize your success in letting the right one into your heart, life, and home. For advertising opportunities, email [email protected].
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As a sex offender counselor for over two decades, Steven Ing invites you to consider a whole new dimension of true sex crimes.
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Why do we have such a difficult time managing our sexuality? We talk about managing our money, our careers, our diets, yet we don't talk about managing our sexuality. And we certainly don't talk about doing it intelligently. Join Steven Ing, MFT, and Jackie as they discuss all things sexual, and how learning to manage your sexuality can lead to a more fulfilling life.
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Relationships are like a kaleidoscope — lots of little shapes in lots of colours that blend together in sometimes beautiful, sometimes uncomfortable ways. They’re complicated, with different personalities and different expectations, and for most of us, negotiating all of that is tough.
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Steven Ing, MFT: Why Love Languages Might Limit Your Relationship | Reloscope? #82
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55:33The concept of love languages is tossed around on social media frequently, and has permeated western culture - but to what cost? In this episode, host Sarah Stancombe is joined by expert Steven Ing, MFT to discuss better ways of understanding intimacy and communication. Steven Ing, MFT has 30 years of experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist, …
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Episode 70: Navigating the Path to Commitment
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58:59Most people rush into a committed relationship without fully understanding what they're committing to. The path to commitment should be taken slowly and based on intention. This allows couples to greatly increase their odds of building a fulfilling relationship that lasts. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with…
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Zoey is an author, relationship theorist, coach, and entrepreneur. Her area of expertise is helping people achieve their goals – whether that’s in love or in their work. She’s spent nearly two decades decoding the patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, client service, and a relentless drive to chal…
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Sheila Kohler: Can love languages change over time? | Reloscope #81
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52:45In this episode of Reloscope, host Sarah Stancombe is joined by expert Sheila Kohler to discuss love languages and how cultures and time change how people view their relationship and experience love. Sheila Kohler is the author of eleven novels, three collections of short stories and a memoir. Her work has been translated widely abroad and has been…
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Episode 69: If It's Not a Communication Problem, What Is It?
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50:42Many couples seek therapy believing they have communication problems, but the real issues run deeper. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the …
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Mary Lamia, Ph.D.: Understanding Jealousy — From Trigger to Healing | Reloscope #80
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49:31In this episode of Reloscope we tackle the topic of jealousy from a psychological standpoint. It is something that everyone probably experiences at some stage in life, but that some people may need to manage more intentionally than others. Expert Mary Lamia, Ph.D. joins host Sarah Stancombe to discuss everything from triggers to real world examples…
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Episode 68: Having Some Flexibility with Your Deal Breakers
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1:02:44Some deal breakers are universal, like abuse, while others are personal, like wanting to date someone who hikes. By having some flexibility with your "personal" deal breakers, you open yourself up to dating people who may surprise you. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a…
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Episode 67: Examining a Failed Relationship
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1:02:30Examining the wreckage of a romance that went awry takes a lot of courage, but if you do the work, the rewards are infinite. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get …
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Phoebe Rogers: Understanding Attachment Styles in Romantic Relationships | Reloscope #79
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50:14Some are anxious, some are avoidant but in the end, everyone wants to have a secure attachment and a healthy relationship. This week on Reloscope: The Relationships Science Insights Podcast, host Sabrina Oktavelia consults clinical psychologist Phoebe Rogers in understanding attachment styles in romantic relationships. Phoebe Rogers is an experienc…
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Episode 66: Holding a Relationship Loosely
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58:08When you hold a relationship loosely, you get to enjoy the relationship without desperately clinging to it, and if it doesn't work out, which most relationships don't, you will be okay. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the a…
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Ashley Macleod: How Sexual Intimacy Can Evolve with Age & Adapt to Physical Changes | Reloscope #78
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1:00:12Intimacy doesn’t retire—it evolves. This week on Reloscope: The Relationships Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella consults psychology researcher Ashley Macleod on the various ways in which sexual intimacy evolves with age, contrary to popular belief. With a robust background in health research and service improvement, Ashley Macleod has a p…
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Episode 65: Relationship Variables That Don't Matter
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57:29Many people irrationally believe variables such as age, religion, and politics are indicators of whether or not a relationship will work. None of these variables matter; what matters is character and compatibility. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer …
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Zach Brittle, LMCH: Rituals and Relationship Meaning | Reloscope #77
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50:21Whether it’s an inside joke or an evening tradition, rituals reinforce shared meaning between couples. This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella consults couples therapist Zach Brittle, LMCH how rituals and shared meaning make or break a relationship. Based in Seattle, Washington, Zach Brittle, LMCH is a C…
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Episode 64: Letting Your Partner Know What You Want
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59:13You don't always have to ask for what you want; it's sometimes more effective to tell someone—not necessarily what you want from them, but what you want out of life and what you want out of a relationship. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psycho…
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Anna Elton, LMFT, CST, PhD: Digital Flirting — Technology's Impact on Romance | Reloscope #76
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43:51Ever wondered how a simple swipe turns into a potentially life-changing connection? This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella interviews licensed marriage and family therapist Anna Elton, LMFT, CST, PhD on what flirting looks like in the digital age. Aside from her therapy practice, Anna Elton, LMFT, CST, …
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Episode 63: Updating Your Relationship Menu
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55:18When it comes to relationships, many people don't know what's on the menu. This is often due to our irrational beliefs surrounding love. These beliefs hold us back from building the type of relationship we can all admire. Listen to learn more. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work.…
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Sallyanne Hartnell: Finding Closure and Acceptance After a Relationship Ends | Reloscope #75
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53:17Some take mere weeks to move on from a breakup, while others take years, but one thing is certain: getting over a past love is never easy. This week on Reloscope: The Relationships Science Insights Podcast, host Lu Ngo interviews divorce coach Sallyanne Hartnell on what it takes to find closure and acceptance after a relationship ends. As a multi-a…
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Episode 62: Embracing the Sacred and Profane in Your Partner
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57:07Embracing the sacred and profane in your partner allows you to see them for who they really are—and we are all so much more than just one thing. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're Al…
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Karina Chapman: Conscious Dating for Authentic Connection | Reloscope #74
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58:30Are you tired of swiping left and right with no real connection? So are we. This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Lu Ngo consults dating coach Karina Chapman on the principles of conscious dating and why it matters for authentic connection. Based in Adelaide, South Australia, Karina Chapman is a natural storyteller…
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Makeup sex isn't about making up; it's about a temporary truce while we take care of our physical needs. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is t…
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Dylan Selterman: The Science of Attraction — What Draws People Together? | Reloscope #73
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54:47It is rather enigmatic, how we tend to feel intensely drawn to some people, while others leave us with nothing but a strong desire to walk away. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella consults social and personality psychologist Dylan Selterman. An associate professor in the Department of Psychologi…
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Episode 60: Taking Accountability in Your Love Life
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54:09Taking accountability in your love life allows you to grow, gain wisdom, break out of stuck patterns, become more assertive, and live a happier life. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We'…
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Marissa D. Nivison, Ph.D.: From Flirting to Fidelity — Attachment in Relationships | Reloscope #72
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48:16Ever wondered why your early relationship experiences tend to unfold similarly? This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella picks the brain of postdoctoral research fellow Marissa D. Nivison, Ph.D. to find out how attachment shapes our relationship beginnings. Having received her Ph.D. in developmental psych…
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The intimacy ladder is a concept that allows people to slowly, steadily, and safely get to know one another. Remember, intimacy is not sex; it's the ability to safely share our lives together. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today an…
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Marco Dehnert, Ph.D.: Trust and Jealousy in the Digital Era — How Technology Shapes Our Emotions | Reloscope #71
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49:52Technology has revolutionized the way we communicate and form relationship, offering a slew of opportunities. However, it has also introduced new challenges to trust and jealousy. This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella interviews communication and technology professor Marco Dehnert, Ph.D. on how technol…
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Episode 58: Do You Have an Impaired Picker?
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58:35If you have a history of dating partners who aren't quite right for you, you might have an "impaired picker." Listen to learn more! For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This a…
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Georgi Gardiner: Constructing Love — How Society Shapes Our Romantic Preferences | Reloscope #70
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1:05:22Ever wondered why you find yourself drawn to certain ‘types’ of partners? This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella sits down with Georgi Gardiner, a gender & sexuality studies professor, to investigate the uncanny occurrence. Specializing in epistemology and meta-philosophy, Georgi Gardiner currently sits…
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Episode 57: Why You Must Have a Safe Relationship to Have a Good Relationship
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56:20A safe relationship is free of abuse. Abuse, at any level, destroys a couple's ability to engage in successful and productive problem-solving. It is perhaps the single most self-defeating behavior in relationships. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer …
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Maryann Karinch: After Trauma — Nurturing Physical Intimacy | Reloscope #69
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1:01:01Trauma leaves deep emotional scars, sometimes affecting even the most intimate parts of a relationship. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella consults human behavior expert Maryann Karinch on the complexities of restoring physical intimacy in a relationship. Having published books on human behavior…
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Episode 56: Breakups Don't Have to Hurt So Much
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59:44Your pain upon breaking up will be directly proportional to the degree to which you've compromised your terms. Listen to learn more. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This …
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Dr. Liz Jenkins: Tackling Relationship Stress — Navigating Couple Challenges | Reloscope #68
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1:06:01Even the strongest of relationships waver in hard times. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella consults relationship coach Dr. Liz Jenkins on how to identify sources of relationship stress and work through them as a couple. Dedicated to helping couples reconnect, repair, and reignite their love, Dr…
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Episode 55: Seeking Understanding vs Seeking Forgiveness
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1:03:21Steve explains why seeking understanding is more beneficial than seeking forgiveness. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host…
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Dr. Treena Orchard: Sexual Health and Well-Being in Dating Apps | Reloscope #67
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50:11In a world where simple swiping and matching have become the norm, the dynamics of sexual health and wellbeing have taken on new dimensions, rendering it all the more vital to discuss. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella sits down with medical anthropologist Treena Orchard to deconstruct the nuan…
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Episode 54: When Should Couples Book an Appointment with a Therapist?
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1:05:04If you're not feeling happy and/or loved in your relationship, it's time to book an appointment with a therapist. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living…
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Christa Hardin: The Enneagram in Marriage or Relationships | Reloscope #66
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57:04Ever wondered why you and your partner connect on a deep level or perhaps, far too often, find yourselves at odds? The enneagram just might hold the key. This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Dina Sargeant is joined by relationship expert Christa Hardin to explore the fascinating world of personality types and thei…
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If you want to increase your odds of finding the "right" partner, understanding mate selection is mission critical. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Livi…
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Julia Malakiman: Constructing Love — How Society Shapes Our Romantic Preferences | Reloscope #65
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59:19Ever wondered why you find yourself more drawn to certain ‘types’ of partners? This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella is joined by dating coach and expert Julia Malakiman to investigate the culprits behind this phenomenon. Based in San Jose, California, Julia Malakiman works with individuals who struggl…
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Episode 52: How Simple Can Relationships Really Be?
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1:01:50The prevailing narrative is that relationships are hard work. However, they don't have to be so difficult. Listen to learn more. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and …
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Minh Trần: Navigating Dating Apps | Reloscope #64
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51:29In the age of swipes and likes, the mobile phone is very much a viable option for finding love and connection, yet there is a shame attached to it that persists. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella is joined by psychotherapist Minh Trần to deconstruct the stigma and unravel the mystery behind dig…
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Episode 51: What's So Bad About Repression?
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54:20Repression is a great tool for temporary management, like a tourniquet on a wound that’s bleeding, but repression as a lifestyle is a curse. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Li…
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Anisa Varasteh: The Psychology of Seduction | Reloscope #63
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45:47Dancing in the murky waters of seduction—where desire meets deception—often goes far beyond a couple of amusing lines. So, this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella is joined by sexologist Anisa Varasteh for psychological insights and expert advice on how to speak the language of seduction. As a sexologist…
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The three rules for "fair fighting" include no abuse, by mutual consent, and any one subject. Conflict is, after all, an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Listen to learn more! For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychol…
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Nicole Koelewijn: Commitment and Long-term Planning in Relationships| Reloscope #62
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47:51You've found someone special, and the spark is undeniable. But as the novelty fades, what truly sustains a romantic relationship? It's not just love; it's commitment. Dive into this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella is joined by relationship coach Nicole Koelewijn where we unpack the critical role of co…
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Episode 49: Letting Go of Neediness
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1:00:28There is nothing wrong with being needy; we all have needs and will continue to have them for the rest of our lives. The problem occurs when our neediness becomes pathological and starts to control our lives. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psy…
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Episode 48: How Body Image Impacts Relationships
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56:52A negative body image directed towards yourself and/or your partner can be detrimental to building and sustaining a safe, intimate, and loving relationship. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuali…
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Shira Etzion, LMFT: Shared Responsibilities for Personal Growth| Reloscope #61
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43:51Join the conversation this week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast! Hosted by Marie Stella, this episode features the incredible Shira Etzion, LMFT. Prone to laughter, silliness, and (when it's called for) seriousness, Shira Etzion, LMFT has a natural ability to connect deeply with her clients: her style vacillates between an a…
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Episode 47: Love Is a Necessary But Insufficient Condition
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58:20Loving someone is not all we need to build and maintain a successful relationship. We also need to slow down and take our time to really get to know the other person. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two b…
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Episode 46: The Way of the Superior Man - Book Analysis
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1:13:23Today’s episode was inspired by the book The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. The book was written by David Deida and published in 1997. We read through various passages of the book and discuss how they relate to managing love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT,…
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Dr. Claudia Six: Sex Positivity — Fostering Healthy Attitude Towards Desire | Reloscope #60
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50:54This week on Reloscope: The Relationship Science Insights Podcast, host Marie Stella is joined by Dr. Claudia Six to discuss what it takes to foster healthy attitudes towards desire. Born and bred in France, Dr. Six grew up in a culture that is comfortable with sexuality. She moved to the United States at the ripe age of 19 for college, and subsequ…
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Episode 45: Does Your Partner Have a Personality Disorder?
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1:03:11Understanding personality disorders (paranoid, narcissistic, antisocial, etc.) can give you valuable insights into yourself and your partner and help you manage love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the a…
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