By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

We celebrate our 100th Episode!By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Is love toxic? For Nice Guys, understanding love can be a struggle.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

You’ve done the work—you’ve read the books, gone to therapy, embraced your own growth, and finally stepped out of that old Nice Guy pattern. You’re more confident, more assertive, and you’ve started living with purpose and integrity. But here’s the thing: even though you’ve changed, she hasn’t. The relationship still feels like it’s stuck in the sa…

There is one major red flag many of us ignore at the initial stages because it's the norm. Everyone does it, but those who do it all the time and do it with intensity are dangerous and you MUST in all circusmtances not take them. Never! Because if you do, they will eventually make your life a living hell and even ruin your professional world.…

If you've been around the Manosphere, there's no doubt you've heard of the term pickup artist. These are gurus who will tell you how to pick up women like you're picking up samples at Costco. But there's a few problems with this. And today I want to talk about the pickup artist industry and why nice guys tend to follow their advice and maybe a litt…

Never ever, ever start a sentence with this word. It’s all too commonly used by nice guys and it makes you look weak, you lose respect and it’s very uncharismatic.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

We are given so many conflicting ideas about how to do sex or have sex. You’ve got to be dominant and lead. You’ve got to make sure you talk about and get consent for everything you do. You gotta make sure you please your partner. You gotta focus on pleasing yourself. You’ve gotta schedule sex. You’ve gotta be spontaneous. You should tap into your …

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Ari Graff opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for co…

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Faisal Khokhar opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conver…

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Chuck Chapman opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The convers…

Nice Guys aren’t being nice—they're being manipulative, using approval-seeking and people-pleasing as a way to control how women see them, all because they’re too afraid to be rejected for who they really are. When it comes to women and men, I’ve come to the realization that it’s insecurity that drives us to seek approval from women. It’s subtle, o…

Got a guy with a situation involving his mother and wife. He’s newly married, and they all live together—him, his wife, and his mother. It all started well. Everyone got along, and they were one happy family. But after a few months, fractures start to appear. The mother starts interfering, picking faults with his wife, and that’s when the tension s…

What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you hit the snooze bar? Do you hate the world, hate your life, hate your job? Do you feel like the day is another day to get through? Do you scroll through instagram? Do you rush to get ready? Do you struggle with what to prioritize that day? Well good news, today we are going to explain what you …

If you’ve been into relationship development, you would have heard about Masculine & Feminine Energies and how important they are to relationships. Men are grounded, stable, like a lighthouse. The feminine is ever-changing emotions and she is the storm. Men need to weather the storm. Really? Now, I don’t know about you, but this statement or someth…

Have you ever wanted to get your partner to be nicer? To help out more around the house? To get in shape and lose weight? To like sex or even like sex with you? To like your parents? To earn some money? How much can you get your partner to change?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

If you want to create polarity, attraction, and connection in a relationship, it’s up to you to lead. I know, it’s not fair! A lot of the men I work with ask, "What about her? When is it her turn to lead?" And women often say, "I want to lead too." Why is this? Nice Guys tend to avoid leading in their relationships because they fear rejection or up…

Have you ever felt so stuck on getting women to meet your needs that it occupied nearly every free moment? Well that was me a couple years ago. I was a few years out from my divorce. When I wasn’t working or parenting, I was thinking about dating or sex. I felt a chronic hunger for women that had been there since forever. So I decided it was time t…

Before I even knew what a Nice Guy was in terms of the Nice Guy syndrome, I thought of myself as just that—a Nice Guy. And I truly believed I was. When I first read *No More Mr. Nice Guy* about 15 years ago, it was like looking into a mirror. Every page felt like it was written about me. But there was one thing in that book that hit me hard, like a…

Do you think small? Do you poo poo any big idea you have as far fetched? Do you feel like big ideas and big things are for other people? Is it hopeless or is there a cure for thinking small?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

So you’ve heard of the nice-guy syndrome and why nice-guys finish last. So what’s the female equivalent nice-guy syndrome and is she as nasty and manipulating as nice-guys or is she a helpless damsel in distress? Let’s find out…By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Fear. If there is one thing that holds Nice Guys back from getting the life they want it’s fear. Fear is the filter every decision is made or not made because Nice Guys anticipate and imagine failure, rationalize being comfortable and avoid pressure and tension. They are scared fo being exposed as frauds, not meeting expectations and losing control…

Do you find that women don’t respect you? Or maybe if you have kids, they fail to speak in a respectful way? Maybe your colleagues at work, your customers, or even your friends don’t treat you with the respect you deserve. In this podcast, we will explore why women, children, and even men don’t respect nice guys.…

In No More Mr. Nice Guy, Robert Glover talks about how some radical feminists claimed that men were the cause of all of the problems in the world. Or that men were merely an unnecessary nuisance. This contributed to a climate that convinced many men that it was not OK to be just who they were.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Let’s say you’re dating someone or in a relationship, and the infamous topic of body count comes up. What’s the magic number that would make you question if you should stay with her? Does body count really matter when you're in a relationship? How do you get over your partner's past, especially if her count is higher than yours? Should you even bot…

Have you ever fallen for a woman you knew was bad for you? You know something is off but the combination of hotness, excitement, and possibility of a love connection keep you hooked.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

In this podcast, we’re going to look at the crisis behind why so many men are struggling to get into relationships? Are men the problem? Or maybe women are the reason why men are single or is it society or maybe dating apps? Who’s fault is it and can we rescue relationships? Should we rescue relationships and you are probably thinking, what’s wrong…

Back in January, my son and I were testing for our next tae kwon do belt. I had just started tae kwon do 2 months earlier after quitting 30 years ago, so I was excited to do it with my son. Long story short, my ex, who had picked him up from school, texted me and said he didn’t want to go to my testing because he was tired and had a long day. I was…

If you’re anything like I was early in my Nice Guy recovery, you have a hard time setting boundaries. Especially with women. We tend to let a pretty woman walk all over us, afraid if we set boundaries she will walk away. Over the years, working with hundreds of Nice Guys, I’ve noticed they struggle with boundaries too. I used to think boundaries we…

In this podcast, we’re going to explore Is Being Vulnerable Unattractive To Women? Now, there are a lot of messages fed to men that being vulnerable is key in relationships, but this is also confusing as some men as they report that when they are vulnerable, she pull away, look disgusted or become upset. So, should you be vulnerable in a relationsh…

Why do so many men struggle with social skills? Why do so many men struggle to understand women? Why are so many men isolated and lonely? Why are so many men hypersensitive? These questions come up regularly with nice guys I work with. Some then ask me, does this mean I’m on the autism spectrum? Am I just wired this way?…

In this podcast, you will learn how you can still date successfully even if you have kids. I will share my experience, mid 40s I date women in their early 30s and how they treated me and my kids.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

In today's episode, we'll explore the self-limiting beliefs that Nice Guys carry, beliefs that keep them stuck in life. We'll uncover the origins of these beliefs, how they take hold, and most importantly, how we can break free from them. We'll delve into the steps to transform these beliefs, empowering you to live with integrity, confidence, and p…

Ever found yourself saying, 'Of course I'll take care of the dishes,' to your spouse, only to conveniently 'forget' later? Or maybe you’ve caught yourself saying, 'Sure babe, I’d be happy to weed the entire yard while you go take a bath! Whatever you want,' then ruminating and secretly planning their demise in a revenge fantasy straight out of the …

Have you ever seen two people in a relationship that you know is dead but somehow they didn’t get the memo? You probably know on a gut level what I’m talking about - you see two people who do nothing but argue, complain about each other, or completely ignore each other. I believe that a relationship is a living thing with its own life force that ca…

In this podcast, you will discover How To Be More Social & Create a Social Circle even if you are shy, an introvert or an nerd… and If you find yourself spending too much time isolated working from home and don’t have many guy friends to hang out with nothing to do over the weekend and feel LONELY a lot this podcast is for you. And for the guys who…

Today we’re going to delve into a polarizing topic. No, not which direction should the toilet paper hang. Not does pineapple belong on pizza. I’m talking about friends of the opposite sex if you’re in a committed relationship. Gasp! What do you do if you’re in a relationship and she has a lot of male friends? Are you okay with that? Or are you just…

A lot of men want to know, will I be a nice guy forever? The conventional wisdom in nice guy coaching is that you will always be recovering from vestiges of the syndrome, that you are always susceptible to falling back into nice guy patterns. But can some or all nice guy patterns be fully resolved or eliminated? Just how much can someone change?…

Have you ever had a woman say to you: You are not listening to me. You are not empathic. You don’t get it or understand me. Wait a minute, what about you guys? Let’s hear it for the men. Do you find women listen to you? Do you feel understood and respected? Well, let’s find out if only men are bad listeners. In my book, that may not always be the c…

Why are men’s groups so critical for a man? When I started my journey of becoming a conscious man, I did it through books and 1 on 1 coaching. And I made a lot of progress. I learned more about how to lead in my relationships, set boundaries, and get out of my comfort zone. But I didn’t realize that I had actually hit a wall in my growth. If you wa…

Have you ever had a woman who’s constantly nagged, complained about you all the time and criticized everything you did, and no matter what you did, it never resolved the complains. Then this podcast is for you and I we will share why women complain and what you can do to stop the complaining.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Welcome to the Nice Guy Show. With Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff and Chuck Chapman. The three of us are coaches dedicated to helping nice guys because we are recovering nice guys ourselves. Together, we have decades of experience helping men level up. Our mission is to help men develop the confidence and the skills to get the love, sex, and success the…

An anxiety I’ve often had in the past when it came to my relationships was that my partner might leave me. This only contributed to my Nice Guy Behavior in, well just about every area of the relationship. This fear that “she may leave you” is fuel to the Nice Guy Syndrome. I’ve seen this pattern over and over again with the men that I work with in …

What is it about bad boys women can’t get enough of? Why do women keep going back to bad boys they know they are trouble? What type of men are they? What type of women bad boys? Why do nice-guys finish last? Do nice-guys need to become bad boys?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

There is one stereotype about the nice guy that he is needy and clingy and stays in a bad relationship no matter what. And yes, I’ve been guilty of that. But what about the nice guy that can’t commit? Can’t commit to a woman or a job or a hobby or even meeting your friend for dinner?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Recently I was complaining to my personal men’s group about being tired, about being disappointed in the ambivalence in some of the men I work with and men in general aren’t interested in self-development, and just uninterested in anything other than sex, sports and video games. I’ve been doing men’s work for almost 20 years both as a participant a…

Are you hard on yourself and others? Do you tend to criticize and judge harshly? Do you always see life as half empty instead of half full?By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Are you a nice guy who has been diagnosed with ADHD? Or do you suspect you have ADHD? Why does it seem like every man with nice guy syndrome has ADHD too? In this episode we are going to break down just what is happening here and what are the differences between ADHD and nice guy syndrome.By Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman

Want to know the best and easiest places to meet attractive great women without dating apps or loitering around nights club? And especially if you are shy. Stick around for this episode Where To Meet Attractive Women If You Are Shy And Without Coming Across Creepy EP and I will reveal where you’ll find abundance of single women and hardly any compe…

Can you relate to this; you’re going along in your relationship, everything is fine and then you say something, something pretty innocent and maybe even a little funny. To you at least. And then suddenly like a dormant volcano erupting she explodes. Expletives are flying, accusations are being hurled and you find yourself like a deer caught in head…