Beauty in Battle is a high-energy conversation for married couples to help you energize your relationship, give you purpose, and draw you close to your spouse by turning the tension that divides you into energy that fuels you. In this podcast, Jason and Tori Benham share the stories of their relationship and the practical ways they turned conflict and quarrels into passion and purpose by leaning into their struggles rather than trying to avoid them. As a result, they discovered that fighting ...
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142. Jason and Tori Benham | Staying Connected in Every Season
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41:56This week on The Rhythm of Us we’re chatting with our good friends Jason & Tori Benham. Jason and Tori are incredible speakers, marriage coaches and best selling authors of Beauty in Battle. Jason & Tori share some of the lessons they’ve learned over the last 25 years of marriage, rhythms that have helped them fight for and not against each other, …
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Send us a text Not all conflict is bad—in fact, good conflict can deepen your connection and strengthen your marriage. In this episode, we break down the difference between good conflict and bad conflict, and three practical steps you can take that bring you closer, not further apart. Enjoy Ask ChatGPT…
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143. Josh & Morgan Thompson | It Takes a Village
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42:30One of the things we talk a lot about in our book, The Rhythm of Home, is the idea of building your family village. One thing parenting will teach you pretty quickly is that you can’t do it alone, so praying for a handful of amazing families you can do life with and raise your kids together becomes really important. On today’s episode, we are so ex…
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Send us a text In marriage, unity isn’t just about getting along—it’s about building a deep bond on multiple levels. In this episode, we break down the Three Levels of Unity from Philippians 2. When you move from simply living together to truly partnering in life, work, and faith, your marriage becomes stronger and more fulfilling. Enjoy.…
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Send us a text Want to feel more fulfilled in life? Start by loving your spouse. In this episode, we unpack the powerful truth that when you love your spouse well, you're actually loving yourself. Loving your spouse isn’t just a gift to them—it’s the best investment you can make in your own well-being. Enjoy.…
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Send us a text Raising godly kids doesn’t happen by accident—it takes prayer and example. In this episode, we share three powerful things to pray for and three key things to model. Tune in for practical ways to lead your children with both intention and joy.
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141. Christy Nockles | Be Where Your Feet Are
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32:03Welcome Back Friends! On this week’s episode we are thrilled to welcome back for the third time, best selling author, podcaster, worship leader, amazing songwriter, and our good friend, Christy Nockles. Christy is sharing the heart behind her beautiful brand new album, King Who Never Sleeps, which has pretty much been on repeat in our home this sea…
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Send us a text In this episode, we unpack the three types of listening that show up in marriage—and why only one of them leads to real connection. It’s not about winning the conversation—it’s about winning your spouse’s heart. Tune in to discover how shifting your listening style can transform the way you love.…
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Send us a text In marriage, social awareness is a game-changer. In this episode, we explore three simple keys to help you grow: paying attention to cues, bids, and triggers. When you learn to spot these little things, you’ll connect deeper, fight less, and love smarter. Enjoy
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On today’s episode we get to flip the script as I interview Chris on his best practices for decision making. There isn’t a week in our house where Chris does not receive a phone call from a buddy or two, asking him to talk them through a big decision. As someone who struggles regularly with decision fatigue myself, I often lean on Chris’ strengths …
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Send us a text Love isn't just a feeling—it's a debt we owe, especially in marriage. In this episode, we dive into Romans 13:8 and explore what it means to carry the "continuing debt to love one another" and unpack how recognizing that debt can radically transform your marriage. Enjoy. Come hang with us at our upcoming marriage retreat in Cancun! C…
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139. Meshali Mitchell | Living the Restored Life
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30:06On today’s episode our good friend and world renowned photographer, Meshali Mitchell returns to join us for her third time on The Rhythm of Us to share about her journey of healing and restoration. Meshali is known for her incredible gift of capturing the heart and soul through her beautiful portraits, which is why she’s one of the most highly soug…
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Send us a text In today’s fast-paced world, free time with your spouse can feel like a luxury—but it’s essential if you want to stay close and connected. In this episode, we explore four keys to be intentional with your downtime so it draws you closer. Enjoy. Oh, and if you haven't signed up for our marriage retreat on July 14-18, 2025, check it ou…
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138. Bob & Ruth McKeaney | Hungry for Home
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34:44On today’s episode of The Rhythm of Us, we are so honored to have award winning author Ruth McKeaney and her husband Bob joining us. You may have seen the McKeaneys beautiful home in the Philadelphia area called Hillside Farm, which has been featured in countless magazines and media posts, or from Ruth’s show on Homeworthy called At Home with Ruth …
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Send us a text Dealing with a difficult spouse can be one of the biggest challenges in a relationship, especially when tensions run high. In this episode, we explore practical strategies to navigate conflict with wisdom and composure. Enjoy!
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137. Melanie Shankle | Trust the Story God is Writing
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29:34Welcome Back Friends! So thrilled to be back for another season of The Rhythm of Us! On today’s episode, we’re chatting with New York Time’s best selling author, Melanie Shankle about navigating the turbulent teen years. Melanie has written some of my very favorite books, Sparkly Green Earrings,(on parenting), Antelope in the Living Room(on marriag…
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Send us a text Difficult conversations are inevitable in any relationship, but how you approach them makes all the difference. In this episode, we break down three keys to handling tough discussions with your spouse without damaging your connection. Enjoy!
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Send us a text What does love look like in practical terms? In this episode, we dive into three essential qualities every spouse needs to cultivate for a thriving marriage. Whether you’re newly engaged or married for years, these principles will help you strengthen your relationship and grow closer than ever. And come join us in July for a marriage…
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Send us a text By the age of four, our souls begin asking two fundamental questions. This episode explores how these deep-rooted needs shape our relationships and how God speaks directly to them in Scripture. Understanding these core questions can transform your marriage and deepen your connection. Enjoy!…
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Send us a text Want your spouse to feel truly loved and deeply connected to you? There’s a simple yet powerful way to make it happen. In today’s episode, we’re uncovering the key to unlocking the most essential element of love and how you can use it to strengthen your bond and bring you closer than ever. Come hang with us in Cancun - click HERE for…
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Send us a text Conversations can go off track when people operate in different modes. In this episode, we unpack how to recognize and respond to three types of conversations to better connect with your spouse (or anyone!). Enjoy. Join us at your Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat in sunny Cancun July 14-18, 2025. Click HERE for details.…
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Send us a text Have you ever thought about how the family you grew up in shaped your approach to relationships? The way your mom, dad, siblings, or others in your family treated one another often sets the tone for how you interact with your spouse or loved ones. Today, we’ll dive into how to embrace the good lessons and let go of the unhealthy patt…
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Send us a text While it might seem like just an occasional bad habit, unchecked defensiveness can erode trust, prevent healthy conflict resolution, and keep you from having the deep, vulnerable conversations your relationship needs. In this episode, we’ll walk through five keys to help you break it. Enjoy If you haven't signed up for our exclusive …
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Send us a text Each year, we ask God to give us a word that serves as a theme for the following year. It's been a powerful tool that's strengthened us individually and drawn us together as a couple. Today, we'll show you how to come up with your own! Plus, come join us in Cancun to strengthen your marriage like none other! Click HERE for more detai…
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Send us a text Join us as we explore the power of intentionality and the art of making moments truly meaningful. Whether you’re newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this podcast reminds you that every day can be extraordinary when you choose to make it special. Join us in sunny Cancun for a marriage retreat like none other! Click HERE for mor…
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Send us a text The strongest couples are those who stay fully present and attentive to each other. Today, we’ll dive into what science reveals about cultivating mindfulness in your marriage to build a deeper, more meaningful connection. Let’s do this!
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Send us a text We’re diving into neuroscience again, exploring three research-backed keys to building a secure attachment with your spouse (and kids). Join us as we unpack the science of relationships and discover the transformative power of living deeply connected to your spouse. Also, join us for our Beauty In Battle Marriage retreat at the luxur…
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Send us a text We have more brain science coming your way! Join us as we dive into the power of right-brain thinking and three keys to shift from left to right for deeper connection. Also, tune in for our announcement for the Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat!! For more information, click HERE.
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Send us a text Research shows the healthiest people and the healthiest relationships are characterized by flexibility - the capacity to bend without breaking. Join us as we share our discoveries on the power of flexibility in marriage. Enjoy.
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Send us a text Today is part 2 of our deep dive into the bestselling marriage book Marriage On The Rock by Jimmy Evans. Today, we're talking about the four core needs of a wife and a husband and the four types of destructive spouses. Enjoy.
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Send us a text Join us as we dive into the four pillars of a strong marriage taken from the best-selling book "Marriage On The Rock" by Jimmy Evans. These keys are taken directly from Scripture and are pivotal if you want a thriving relationship. Enjoy.
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Send us a text Join us for a discussion on Dr. Gary Chapman's latest book, *The Five Apology Languages*. We'll explore each of the apology languages and how they can help us navigate failures in our marriages. We’ll also touch on the topic of forgiveness. Enjoy!
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Send us a text Join us as we dive into Willard Harley's best-selling marriage book, His Needs Her Needs. We'll cover the five core needs of each spouse and how his findings relate to our own marriages. Enjoy!By Jason Benham, Tori Benham
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Send us a text Conflict is meant for connection. It's the opportunity to turn "me" into "we." But the key is in how we handle it. Join us as we talk about a research-backed four-part process on how to manage conflict in a way that joins us together rather than tears us apart. Enjoy.
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Send us a text Did you know the best marriages have a certain level of fear in the relationship? In today's episode, we dive into two types of fear and four practical ways to cultivate healthy fear so your marriage will thrive. Enjoy!
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Five Ways To Find More Time To Spend With Your Spouse
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34:47Send us a text In today's busy world, we must be proactive about spending time with each other. Time is our greatest treasure, and "where your treasure is, your heart will be also." Join us as we discuss five places to find more time! Enjoy
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Send us a text Every couple experiences conflict, and how you handle it can make or break your relationship. In today's episode, we dive into the five approaches to conflict and how to choose the right one at the right time. Enjoy!
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Send us a text Join us as we dive into a familiar story in the Bible to discover three powerful keys to a deeper connection with your spouse. Taken from Matthew 3, we're going to look at three things God did to draw His Son close to Him and how it relates to marriage. Enjoy!By Jason Benham, Tori Benham
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Send us a text Join us as we share five keys from the story of Mary and Joseph to help us build strong marriages. We know them as the earthly parents of Jesus, but their lives show us powerful secrets to success in relationships. Enjoy!By Jason Benham, Tori Benham
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Send us a text What do you want to accomplish in your marriage? In today's episode, we'll dive into three powerful questions that will help you achieve that goal. At the end we'll throw in a fun exercise to help lock it in. Enjoy.By Jason Benham, Tori Benham
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Send us a text In life, games are about winners and losers. The problem is, when it comes to relationships, if you choose to play games both people lose. Why? Because in marriage the win is the relationship! Join us as we dive into nine games we can play in our relationships and how to stay out of those silly little games! Enjoy.…
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Send us a text Better communication leads to a better marriage. And becoming a better listener is the key to being a good communicator. In today's episode, we dive into four key questions to create an environment of emotional safety so you can become a better listener. Enjoy!
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How the TERA Quotient Helps Your Marriage
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26:30Send us a text The TERA quotient is a concept used to gauge and improve the quality of relationships, particularly in professional settings, but it can be applied to personal relationships as well. Backed by neuroscience, the TERA quotient can improve the dynamics of marriage, leading to more effective communication, stronger connections, and great…
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Communication Mistakes During Times of Stress
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27:24Send us a text Join us as we explore four common mistakes couples make when trying to communicate under stress. We'll dive into each one, backed by research, and then share practical strategies on what to do instead. Enjoy!
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Today is the day!! Our brand new book, The Rhythm of Home is launching out into the world!! Join us as we unpack the heart behind it! Listen in. . . . Grab your copy of The Rhythm of Home Featured Music: As For Me, by Christy Nockles on This is the Hour Connect with Chris & Jenni: Order your copy of The Rhythm of Us https://therhythmofus.com https:…
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Send us a text Did you know that God is not all that you need? He didn't design you that way. He created you to need others. In this episode we'll tackle two core needs we all have and how our spouse is the primary one who God uses to meet those needs. God made you for relationship. As such, you have inborn needs to draw you close to your spouse. J…
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Send us a text Did you know your brain subconsciously asks two questions each time you interact with another person? In today's episode, we're going to dive into these two questions and how they can positively impact your marriage. Thanks to the research of Dr. Chip Dodd, we have plenty to talk about in this episode! Enjoy.…
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Send us a text Over 40 years of research by the good folks at Prepare Enrich have revealed five keys that make the happiest marriages. Tune in as we dive into each of them. Enjoy.
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135. Charlie Peacock and Andi Ashworth | Everything Matters
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48:39Welcome back friends! This week we’re continuing in our Mentor Couples series leading up to the launch of our new book, The Rhythm of Home, releasing June 4! If you haven’t yet, make sure you pre-order your copy so you will be able to snag your bonuses when they become available at therhythmofus.com Today we’re excited to share this conversation wi…
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Send us a text Ever felt a stalemate when it came to thinking of stuff to talk about with your spouse? Today's episode will cure you of that! Join us as we dive into specific questions you can ask your spouse that will help you connect on a deep level. And, as promised on the pod, here are a list of the questions: Before you talk, here are some que…
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