Best Louie Paoletti Podcasts (2025)

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Hello... It's me... Father. 1:29

1d ago1:29

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Welcome to this disaster. Contact us: [email protected] Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon for Exclusives MERCH - Shop Merch Follow us here: http://instagram.com/andweknowthat http://tiktok.com/@andweknowthat http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/ponybearstudios Contact us: [email protected] Support the pod: PATREON …

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Vulnerability Not Allowed | #093 59:34

1d ago59:34

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Inner Critic Sounds Like... Mom | #092 58:19

9d ago58:19

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Hobby Hunting and Identity Crises | #091 1:02:16

16d ago1:02:16

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Louie can’t stop wondering if his therapist is a Trump supporter. Louie talks about the early sessions of starting therapy, including opening up about his depression, anxiety, and trauma through intake surveys. He also shares why he’s on a mission to find a hobby — and how it could transform every relationship in his life. Michael has a theory abou…

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New Therapists, Old Patterns | #090 57:30

23d ago57:30

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Louie and Michael just had intake sessions with their new therapists—and the experiences couldn’t have been more different. Louie returns to working with a woman therapist and unpacks what it’s like doing virtual therapy from the intimacy of your own space. He opens up about childhood trauma, the emotional impact of therapy on Zoom, and why his new…

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Replay - PTSD and Self-Love with Hanorah 59:53

30d ago59:53

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions involving sexual assault. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/ponybearstudios http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.…

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I Don’t Want Help! What Even is Growth? | #089 1:00:59

1M ago1:00:59

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This episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tensio…

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Replay - Little Boy on the Beach Gave Me a Panic Attack 58:46

1M ago58:46

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Michael unpacks a vivid dream that stirred up old wounds, leading to a raw conversation about how he’s really processed his grief. He and Louie dive into what “showing emotion” actually means—especially for men—and why crying in front of people feels impossible. Louie opens up about a therapy exercise that triggered a full-blown panic attack, and t…

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Read Receipts & The Panic Spiral of “I Miss You” | #088 57:54

2M ago57:54

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Louie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:…

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Fake Growth. Real Talk. | #087 1:02:15

2M ago1:02:15

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This is probably our most uncomfortable conversation so far... This week, we dive into the messy beauty of personal growth, family trauma, and the illusion of progress. Michael spirals into thoughts about mortality and uncovers patterns passed down through his family—aka the “family curse.” He opens up about feeling stuck, avoiding discomfort, and …

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I Don’t Feel Connected to my Mother | #086 45:57

2M ago45:57

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Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448Support the pod: http://patreon.com/second…

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Grief (Part II) / Music Triggers & Healing Over Time When the World Won’t Stop | #085 44:24

2M ago44:24

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Louie opens up about how music can unexpectedly trigger waves of grief — and reflects on the strangely beautiful reality that the world keeps moving after someone dies. Michael shares how his own experience of loss has shifted over time, revealing how grief evolves and reshapes our sense of self. Together, they explore the many forms grief can take…

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Therapy Intake Questions, ADHD Struggles, and Starting with a New Therapist | #084 57:30

3M ago57:30

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Social media boundaries in therapy, ADHD shutdowns, and how productivity shame messes with your self-worth. Starting therapy with someone new can feel… awkward. Louie shares about his first session with a new therapist, and the surprising comment he received on Instagram that sparked a deeper conversation. Should therapists follow you on social med…

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Sitting in Discomfort: How Therapy Is Changing Our Relationships | #083 50:38

3M ago50:38

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Louie opens up about a vulnerable conversation with his girlfriend that challenged their relationship — all through the lens of parts work therapy. He shares how sitting with discomfort, rather than avoiding it, is transforming the way he shows up in partnership. Michael reflects on his own experience with parts work, revealing emotional memories c…

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Can’t Commit to Monogamy | #082 46:18

3M ago46:18

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Louie has bronchitis and found his therapists Instagram — and why that might be a red flag. Michael dives deep into his fear of commitment, the emotional tension around flirting in monogamous relationships, and why he struggles with being perceived as “in trouble” for noticing other women. Together, they explore the blurry line between attraction a…

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Replay - Family Dysfunction and EMDR with Lara Beitz 59:38

3M ago59:38

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Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448Support the pod: http://patreon.com/second…

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Live Show 001 1:19:29

4M ago1:19:29

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This is the recording of our first live show. It was recorded December 19, 2024 in Los Angeles, Ca. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecome…

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You Probably Think This Story’s About You: It Started as a Love Story 35:18

4M ago35:18

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*Some names and details have been changed to conceal the identities of those who wish to remain anonymous. When Brittani Ard matches with Kanon on Hingesparks fly. Their first date revealed an instantconnection and chemistry.Kanon is devastatingly handsome with a charm that disarmed even the mostguarded heart—plus he is surprisingly emotionally ava…

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Why Am I Scared to be Happy? | #081 47:47

4M ago47:47

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Louie grapples with the question: When is the right time to return to therapy? After making progress, Louie wonders whether he should open up about his podcast with his new therapist. Alongside Michael, they explore the balance between what to share and what to keep private in therapy. When does context matter in conversations about mental health? …

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Cheating on Your Pregnant Wife?! | #080 52:35

4M ago52:35

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Louie and Michael unpack a shocking voice note from a listener who discovered her husband's infidelity while she was 9 months pregnant. The guys dive into the complexities of relationship trust, cheating, and how they might handle betrayal in their own lives. Tune in for a candid conversation on how to cope with infidelity, rebuild trust, and navig…

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Overcoming Anxiety and Understanding Triggers | #079 47:05

4M ago47:05

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Michael returns from his tour and opens up about his struggles with staying grounded in one place. Together with Louie, they unpack the complexities of anxiety, how to recognize it in the moment, and share personal experiences of navigating anxiety triggers. Michael’s hilarious moment of contemplating asking a bus driver for help (LOL) leads to an …

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Which Dating App is Best for Relationships? Attachment Styles & Political Climate with Jenny Zigrino | #078 58:16

5M ago58:16

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Jenny explores the best dating apps for relationships, including Hinge, Bumble, and Feeld, and gives advice on which platform may be most effective for finding a serious connection. We dive into the psychology of attachment styles as Jenny opens up about her own disorganized attachment style and how it leads to anxious-avoidant behavior in relation…

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Emotional Responsibility, Codependency & Communication Breakdowns | #077 50:51

5M ago50:51

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Louie opens up about a recent fight he had with his girlfriend – no therapy, just real talk. It's a classic relationship argument, and we're diving deep into it. We discuss emotional responsibility, codependency, communication breakdowns, and much more that came up during the fight. Michael pushes Louie to reflect on his actions and how he approach…

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Trauma, Personal Growth & Normalizing Pain | #076 54:27

5M ago54:27

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Michael shares his personal experience with starting Adderall for ADHD, offering a deep dive into how medication has shaped his mental health journey. He reflects on his hometown and the complexities of reconnecting with old memories, before diving into an uncomfortable conversation he recently had with an old friend. Lou offers a fresh perspective…

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Why Are Relationships So Hard? | #075 55:02

5M ago55:02

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Lou and Michael reflect on a powerful voicemail they received about the aftermath of breakups and the grief that follows. Lou opens up about a past relationship where an ultimatum changed everything for him. The conversation shifts to a meaningful DM asking how women can better support the men in their lives—something Lou and Michael feel strongly …

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There’s a 12-Step Program for That | #074 1:07:33

6M ago1:07:33

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Comedian and all-around good human, Ken Garr, joins the pod today. Ken discusses his history of being a black-out drunk alcoholic, with some stories that will make you think; before sharing his journey to being 8 years sober. He reflects on his addiction to toxic relationships and what he's learned through his 12-step program dealing with codepende…

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I Don’t Trust Myself and I Have Anxiety (No I Don’t) | #073 49:30

6M ago49:30

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Michael dives deep into his denial about anxiety and the fear of missing something, only to realize he’s been missing more than he thought. He opens up about the emotional impact of losing his mother and how it’s left him without a safety net. Michael also reflects on his tendency to quit things out of frustration and his hesitation to ask for help…

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Asking Permission to go to a Strip Club and Cheating on Vacation | #072 44:50

6M ago44:50

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In an impromptu recording and conversation, Lou and Michael get into relationships. Asking for permission or checking in? Is cheating forgivable? What is cheating? Let's talk hypotheticals. Anxious attachments and building trust... or re-building trust? Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow …

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I’m Being Honest With Myself and Honestly I’m NOT Selfish | #071 1:00:22

6M ago1:00:22

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Lou walked out of therapy because he just wasn't feeling it; Michael did EMDR. Lou and Michael recount an uncomfortable conversation they had off-air. Michael has been challenged to take a serious look at himself and his patterns and be honest with himself. Michael reflects on his need to explain his behaviors before getting into shame. Lou and Mic…

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I Had an Emotionally Immature Parent and Now I Can’t Be Vulnerable | #070 51:12

7M ago51:12

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Lou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything an…

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One Of Those Long, Intimate Kitchen Conversations | #069 44:59

7M ago44:59

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In a different type of episode, Lou and Michael break down an emotional conversation they had just before sitting down to record the podcast. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/…

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It’s a New Year (Again) and We’ve All Missed the Point (Still) | #068 47:58

7M ago47:58

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It's a new year, and Lou made a shirt. Lou had some difficulty reflecting on 2024, and connects it to his big-picture thinking. Lou had a bit of an existential therapy session and got into how the luxuries of today's society have dulled existence. Lou and Michael discuss what life is supposed to be. Lou is trying to get connected with his body more…

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Let’s Talk About Our Dynamic and You Don’t Know Us Like That | #067 51:26

8M ago51:26

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Lou and Michael discuss their dynamic, relationship, communication style and everything else. They discuss comments, engagement, and the idea that listeners know them intrinsically. All of this is sparked by a message received on Patreon... Shoutout to Nikki. We love you. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandthe…

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Lonely Fat Kid With a Neck Tattoo | #066 1:06:16

8M ago1:06:16

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Lou and Michael hammer out a little misunderstanding. Lou is checking in with his parts in a new way with new intention. Michael is still addicted to validation. Lou is struggling to come to terms with the parts of his father that live within him. Michael opens up about his childhood and his disbelief that he deserves love. Michael looks back on hi…

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A Floating Task List and Struggling To Be | #065 1:03:38

8M ago1:03:38

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Lou doesn't hate to be needed after all which ties into his main focus of being. Lou feels like he has to catch everything before it happens. Michael's ADHD has his to-do list floating around in the ether. Michael still prioritizes his external appearance over his internal growth. Lou and Michael compare their views on their phones affecting their …

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My Absent Father and Closing the Door (Or Not) | #064 53:56

8M ago53:56

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Lou can't believe what Michael is doing in therapy. Lou saw his dad for the first time in four years... unplanned. Lou recaps his relationship with his father. Michael is coming to terms with loving his family but not necessarily liking them. Lou and Michael debate grief before discussing cutting people out of your life and closing the door on rela…

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Grandiosity and The Inability to Cry | #063 53:38

8M ago53:38

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Lou had a very existential therapy session this week. Why are humans the ones, ya know? Lou reflects on his phone and online shopping and the dopamine hit of a new match before getting into his swan song in therapy. Michael is starting a new exercise tracking points and he is already up ten thousand. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandth…

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The Election and Logging Your Feelings to Find Your Needs | #062 46:48

9M ago46:48

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We’re talking about the emotional side of the election and Donald Trump’s victory before we get into understanding your needs as a human. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsl…

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We’re Not Really Strangers | #061 52:25

9M ago52:25

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Lou and Michael pull cards from the game “We’re Not Really Strangers” which lead to conversations about when they’ve surprised themselves, curiosity vs judgement, cause and effect, what parts of themselves they see in each other and much much more. And then Lou shares something that rocks Michael’s world. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondh…

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Love, Vulnerability and Boundaries | #060 49:16

9M ago49:16

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It's a deep dive into the complexities of modern relationships. Louie opens up about his struggles with balancing healthy boundaries and offering genuine love, while reflecting on his partner's perceived lack of effort in their shared home life. He explores the challenges of conflict resolution, emotional growth, and the fear of embracing vulnerabl…

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Replay - Grief (Part 1) 53:25

9M ago53:25

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We couldn’t avoid it any longer. We’re talking about grief this week. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandthera…

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Perfectionism and My Dead Dad | #059 43:49

10M ago43:49

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This is a deeper, heavier episode. Lou opens with a quick pickleball story. Feeling a bit down lately, Michael explores the reasons behind his funk, with Lou suggesting it might be for obvious reasons. The conversation delves into Michael's childhood experiences and his relationship with his parents, offering insights into how our past shapes our p…

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Cussing Out Grandma and a Bi-Weekly Shower | #058 48:50

10M ago48:50

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Lou shares his dream with a surprising message for Michael, sparking a discussion about self-reflection and personal growth before cussing out his Grandma. Lou reveals his new habit of mouth-taping during sleep. Lou may have a hygiene problem. Meanwhile, Michael candidly reflects on his professional journey, expressing feelings of backstepping and …

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Neurodivergent Life and Daytime Therapy | #057 49:00

10M ago49:00

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Stay tuned after the episode for a little surprise! A sample of our weekly "After the Pod" only on Patreon! Lou shares his candid thoughts on why he struggles with therapy, particularly due to the scheduling during the day (not really). He reveals exciting news about finally getting scheduled for his autism and ADHD testing, highlighting the import…

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Getting Rejected by a Celebrity and Dissociating During Therapy | #056 44:04

10M ago44:04

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In this insightful episode, Michael opens up about the side effects he's experienced from his ADHD medication. Join him and Lou as they explore their differing views on strangers discussing medication and the impact of mental health on daily life. Lou shares a humorous story about sliding into a celebrity's DMs—only to face rejection. The conversat…

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Am I Hot or Just Cute? | #055 41:59

11M ago41:59

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Michael has noticed that he used to be hot but now he's just cute. Lou doesnt care. Michael talks about the Ask Matrix and how his time with his new therapist is starting out. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondha…

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Missing My Girlfriend and Painting My Toenails | #054 51:24

11M ago51:24

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Michael clears up a few things (a lot of things) from Episode 051 with regards to public perception, Snapchat and other things. Lou made a joke in therapy that didn’t land. Lou painted his toenails. Lou feels weak and embarrassed for missing his partner and had an uncomfortable conversation with her about it. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/sec…

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The Break Up... She Left Out of Nowhere | #053 43:29

11M ago43:29

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We talk about a break-up… Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 Support the pod…

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Executive Dysfunction and Anxiety About My Ex | #052 41:30

11M ago41:30

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Michael explores the impact of ADHD on his life, highlighting how it enforces a strict schedule due to executive dysfunction. He shares his struggles with all-or-nothing thinking and his pursuit of the ideal. Meanwhile, Lou, who is not usually fond of activities, reflects on his recent EMDR therapy sessions related to his past relationship and form…

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A F*ck Boy and a Vasectomy | #051 58:17

11M ago58:17

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Lou got a vasectomy and afterward played a joke on his girlfriend. Michael’s words are not matching his actions in areas of his life… specifically with women. Michael’s continued struggle with boundaries might have made him a f*ck boy. How old is too old to have Snapchat? Okay but is Michael a f*ck boy or no? Michael is still addicted to validation…

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