Best Sam Tielemans Lmft Podcasts (2025)

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196: Summertime: Visual Temptation Is Everywhere — Here’s How He Can Stay Grounded and Help Her Feel Safe 20:24

7d ago20:24

20:24

Summertime can be one of the hardest seasons for men working to overcome porn addiction, stay sexually grounded, and rebuild trust in their marriage. With more revealing clothing and constant visual stimulation, many husbands feel guilt and frustration — while their wives feel fear, insecurity, and anxiety. In this powerful episode, Sam Tielemans, …

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195: Why Stress Triggers Porn Addiction — And How to Break the Pattern 19:21

14d ago19:21

19:21

Why Stress Triggers Porn Addiction — And How to Break the Pattern If you struggle with porn addiction and find yourself relapsing whenever life gets stressful or overwhelming, this episode is for you. Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and expert in porn addiction recovery, reveals the hidden link between stress and pornography use — and how to brea…

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194: A Simple Way to Make Big Progress—In Solving Problems & Building Skills (pt. 3) 23:12

21d ago23:12

23:12

Welcome back! This is part three of a three-part series to help you make real progress on your healing journey. In the first episode, we talked about five key skills every man needs to stop using porn. In the second episode, we looked at five relationship skills that help couples rebuild trust and feel close again. Today, I want to share a simple f…

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193: 5 Relationship Skills You Need to Repair the Damage and Find Closure (pt. 2) 31:33

28d ago31:33

31:33

In today’s episode, we’re diving into five essential skills that will help you and your partner heal and grow after being impacted by pornography use. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure where to begin in the recovery process—or if you’re willing to do the work but just need direction—this episode is for you. You’ll learn about practi…

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192: 5 Core Skills You Need to Overcome Pornography For Good (pt. 1) 29:37

1M ago29:37

29:37

Struggling with porn use isn't about who you are—it's about the approach you've been using. Fighting urges after they appear is too late. The key is learning skills to prevent the first domino from falling. When you handle what causes porn use before urges start, freedom becomes possible. In this 3-part series, I'll cover skills to overcome porn us…

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191: When His Sexual Desire Goes Down as He Becomes Free From Pornography (and tools to rebuild your sexual relationship) 22:46

1M ago22:46

22:46

Today we're talking about something couples rarely discuss: when a husband's interest in sex drops after he stops using porn. For wives, this can feel very confusing and hurtful. After working hard to heal the relationship, it's painful when intimacy doesn't return as expected. She might wonder, "Doesn't he find me attractive? Is he really getting …

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190: My Simple 3 Step Framework to Resolving Triggers and Ending Relapse Cycles For Good 24:54

2M ago24:54

24:54

In this episode, I'll show you my easy three-step plan to help you stop watching porn for good. Many people think they just need to try harder to resist urges or avoid things that trigger them. But fighting these urges all the time is exhausting, and you're always worried about slipping up again. I want to teach you a better way. Instead of just fi…

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189: We Rewired John's Subconscious Mind to No Longer Desire Porn (in 44 minutes) 43:49

2M ago43:49

43:49

I'm excited to share something special with you today - a real-life deep dive session with John where we uncover the root cause of his pornography struggle and work through it together in a single call. Most men focus on surface-level solutions - having someone to call when triggered, avoiding certain situations, or just trying to resist temptation…

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188: Jacob Success Story – From Daily Struggles to Not Thinking About or Battle Urges at All Anymore 33:00

2M ago33:00

33:00

Jacob used to struggled daily with pornography and fantasy, but now he's completely free and feels good about himself again. In the episode, we talk about the two-part approach most men miss - they focus on only one part, which is why they struggle for so long. He shares the simple tools that helped him handle emotions in healthy ways, rebuild his …

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187: How to Overcome Pornography Use When You're Overwhelmed and Don't Have a Lot of Time 15:59

2M ago15:59

15:59

Feel like you're fighting an impossible battle - trying to overcome pornography while juggling an already overwhelming life? After thousands of therapy sessions, I've discovered something surprising: success doesn't always mean adding more to your plate. Think of someone running up a downward-moving escalator. They're putting in enormous effort, le…

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186: Will Sad and Painful Days in Our Marriage Get Better? Yes, If You Follow This Blueprint 19:50

3M ago19:50

19:50

When pornography appears in a relationship, it hurts both people deeply. For wives, the pain and betrayal can feel like being trapped in an endless storm - each bad day stretches out forever, making even good moments feel temporary. Husbands often feel stuck too, wondering if their efforts to change matter when they see their partner still hurting …

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185: She Thinks If She Was Enough, He Wouldn’t Have Watched Pornography (you need to hear this) 20:34

3M ago20:34

20:34

Not Being "Enough": Healing After Sexual Betrayal When a wife discovers her husband's porn use or infidelity, one thought cuts deeper than all others: "I wasn't enough." The pain of betrayal is devastating on its own, but believing it happened because of personal inadequacy makes healing feel impossible. This mistaken belief - that his actions prov…

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184: Rob's Success Story: How He Went From Almost Divorced to No More Triggers and Urges 33:34

3M ago33:34

33:34

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle that seemed impossible to break? For Rob, porn became more than just a habit – it was an escape hatch from feelings of failure and not being good enough. Like many of us, he saw himself as a ticking time bomb, always counting down to the next slip. But this isn't a story about being stuck. It's about finding a …

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183: Fundamental Steps to Repairing Your Marriage After Discovering Pornography Use 20:20

3M ago20:20

20:20

When Pornography Breaks Your Marriage: First Steps to Healing Finding out about a porn addiction feels like your world has shattered. One moment everything seems fine, the next your marriage hits a brick wall. Trust breaks, security vanishes, and many wives feel completely lost, wondering if healing is even possible. If you're in this dark place ri…

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182: Is Porn Addiction Just Part of Who I Am? Do This and It Won’t Be 23:22

3M ago23:22

23:22

Breaking the "Try Harder" Trap: A New Approach to Quitting Porn Maybe you've said to yourself, "This time will be different." You delete the apps, block the websites, stay busy - maybe even make it a few weeks. Then the urges hit harder than ever, and you're back at square one. This cycle crushes both you and your partner. As a therapist who's help…

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181: When Repair Conversations Fail: He Gets Defensive, Sounds Robotic, and is Unemotional 21:05

4M ago21:05

21:05

When Healing Conversations Go Wrong – When pornography damages a relationship, couples need to talk about the pain to heal. But these conversations often hit a wall: he gets defensive, sounds like a robot, or just shuts down. This leaves her feeling even more alone and wondering if she should have stayed quiet. The cycle is painful: she shares her …

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180 Success Story: Tyler's New Approach to Ending His Porn Use In Just A Few Months Without Anxiety and Self-Punishment 47:38

4M ago47:38

47:38

A Story of Freedom: From 20-Year Struggle to Success Meet Tyler, a man who fought pornography addiction for over two decades. Like many, he worried this struggle would be permanent, especially after so many failed attempts to quit. But today, his story is different. What changed? Instead of just trying to avoid temptation, Tyler learned specific sk…

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179: Critical Advice For Men Who Aren't Free From Porn For 90 Days Yet 18:49

4M ago18:49

18:49

The 90-Day Freedom Trap: A Critical Warning If you've been trying to quit pornography but can't stay free for more than 90 days, there's a crucial mistake you need to know about. As a therapist, I see this same issue holding back almost every man who comes to me for help. And wives, this matters for you too - it will help you understand whether you…

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178: 3 Safety Indicators When It’s Hard For Her to Believe He’s Telling the Truth 24:32

4M ago24:32

24:32

Trust Once Broken: How She Can Know He's Really Changed? When pornography breaks trust in a relationship, it creates a painful pattern. He promises he's done, but then more truth comes out months later. After this happens multiple times, many wives ask the same haunting question: "How do I know he's not just getting better at hiding it?" This situa…

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177: 5 Mistakes to Avoid if You Want to Quit Pornography in 2025 27:39

5M ago27:39

27:39

Think about what pornography takes from your life - it's like a heavy fog that clouds everything. It steals your focus, drains your confidence, fills you with shame, and keeps you from being truly present with the people you love. It affects your work, your relationships, and your spirit. Now imagine the opposite: complete peace of mind. No more gu…

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176: Why Quitting Pornography Has Felt Hard (and 3 practical strategies that make it much easier) 21:31

5M ago21:31

21:31

Imagine being stuck in a cycle that seems impossible to break: trying to quit pornography, doing well for a while, slipping up, hurting your partner, and starting all over again. This pattern can go on for years, leaving both people feeling hopeless and exhausted. Many think this cycle is just part of recovery - like climbing a mountain over and ov…

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175: When He Doesn’t Talk About His Urges, She Thinks He’s Just Hiding Them 21:07

5M ago21:07

21:07

Picture a relationship caught in a painful cycle: He struggles with pornography, she puts up walls to protect herself. Things get better for a while when he tries to change, but then life gets busy, old habits return, and trust breaks again. This pattern can repeat for years, leaving both people feeling hopeless. One of the biggest challenges? When…

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Mini Episode 3: A Proven Strategy to Rebuilding Trust After Pornography Use 3:48

5M ago3:48

3:48

Rebuilding trust after pornography use damages it can feel impossible. Many couples struggle to know where to start when their relationship feels broken. Today, I want to share a simple approach to help you heal your marriage. Many husbands try to prove they've changed by talking about their feelings. But here's the truth: your wife can't just take…

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174: Don’t Suppress Urges, Here’s How You Can Use Them to Overcome Pornography Use 26:49

5M ago26:49

26:49

Have you ever felt trapped by urges that seem impossible to control? Many people struggling with pornography feel like these moments are scary and overwhelming. Most advice tells you to fight these urges by staying busy or calling a friend. But that doesn't really solve the problem. What if, instead of fighting urges, you could understand them? Wha…

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Mini Episode 2: Understanding Emotions Can Shortcut the Healing Process 4:59

5M ago4:59

4:59

One of the most important steps in this process for husbands and wives is to better understand their emotions. Many people ignore or suppress them, but this actually slows down your progress. Emotions contain important messages. They send information that reveals an underlying need or something that needs attention. The sooner you can decode what y…

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173: Improving Sexual Intimacy When There's Been Damage By Pornography Use 37:18

6M ago37:18

37:18

Sexual intimacy is one of the biggest things that is damaged when their wife discovers her husband pornography use. It can be scary for her to be intimate because of the insecurities and fears that this situation creates – "Is he comparing me to other people he's seen?" "Is he just using me as a part of his addiction?" "I want to be intimate but I …

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Mini Episode 1: If You Struggle With Repeated Setbacks, Do This 3:45

6M ago3:45

3:45

Welcome to today's first mini episode! I'm testing something new and am going to do a podcast that's less than 5 minutes long that gives you a specific tool to implement or a thought to consider. These will be designed to give you something actionable that you can implement quickly to see changes fast. In today's episode, I share with you a specifi…

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172: When He Starts Making Progress, She Gets Scared He’ll Fall Back 21:15

6M ago21:15

21:15

Sometimes when a husband is making good progress personally and in the relationship, his wife has fears and doubts: “How can I know that he’s telling the truth?” “What if he’s just gotten better at hiding it?” “it's scary to bring down my wall because I don't wanna get hurt again…” This can be discouraging for both people, especially if a husband r…

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171: One Step 100 Times vs 100 Steps – The Few Skills That Matter For Progress on Self and Marriage 22:22

6M ago22:22

22:22

In this episode, I reflect on a powerful moment from a couples counseling session where a wife expressed feeling overwhelmed by the journey ahead. I shared a mindset shift with them: it’s not about 100 steps—it’s one step done 100 times. Inspired by Bruce Lee’s quote about doing 10,000 kicks, rather it's practicing 1 kick 10,000 times, we’ll explor…

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170: 3 Step Framework to Solve Problems in Your Marriage and Overcome Pornography 19:24

6M ago19:24

19:24

A lot of couples feel stagnant on this journey and don’t make the progress that they hope and it’s slow and discouraging. And what I’ve come to recognize as one of the most important aspects of this work is clarity. If you don’t have perfect clarity about what the unresolved issues are, what’s causing them, and how to address them, then progress is…

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169: Rebuilding Trust After Pornography Use (Assumed vs Acquired Trust) 24:08

7M ago24:08

24:08

When a relationship is damaged by pornography use and dishonesty, many couples wonder if it's possible to actually fully rebuild trust again. There are often lots of staggered or trickle disclosures, which caused a lot of damage to the trust. So can it actually be rebuilt again? The answer is yes. But it requires a very specific approach and that's…

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168: The Best Tool to End Fights Faster And Find Closure in Conversations 23:31

7M ago23:31

23:31

Are you and your spouse tired of arguing about the same thing over and over again? Are you feeling stuck not knowing how to find closure and repair the damage of pornography use in your marriage? Most couples get stuck when discussing the pain and hurt they feel and conversations end in fights or distance. In today's episode, I want to share with y…

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167: Managing Urges and Triggers vs Being Free From Them 16:59

7M ago16:59

16:59

When a man struggles with porn pornography use, it can cause a lot discouragement and fear for both him and his wife. So many women live in constant anxiety that the other shoes going to drop and they're gonna get hurt again. Husbands often feel an underlying sense of inadequacy because they haven't been able to quit despite their best efforts to s…

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166: Success Story: Mike Finds Freedom after 30 Years of Struggling to Quit Porn 44:06

7M ago44:06

44:06

Mike struggle with pornography for 30 long years. The feelings of hopelessness and anxiety debilitated him at times because no matter what he did to quit, it just didn’t bring him the freedom he was so desperately seeking. He found this podcast and discovered that there was a new way to approach things after listening to some episodes. He decided t…

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165: Why He Turned To Porn or Someone Else and Not His Wife - Explained 19:35

7M ago19:35

19:35

When pornography use is discovered in a relationship, it obviously has such a huge impact on a wife. Understandably, she takes it very personal. It makes her question everything about the relationship, him and herself. She'll often and wonder if she good enough for him? Does he actually love her? If so, how could he have done this? What does all of…

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164: Live Call: Overcoming Inadequacy, Shame, and Procrastination 46:45

8M ago46:45

46:45

Have you ever struggled with feelings of an adequacy or not being accepted? And has that been a trigger for you in the past that has led you down the path towards pornography use? If so, you’re not alone. In fact this is a really common trigger for a lot of guys because feelings of rejection or failure or not being enough create heavy negative emot…

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163: How to Soften The Pain of Betrayal Due to Pornography Use 20:03

8M ago20:03

20:03

I once worked with a woman who was completely overwhelmed because her husband continued to struggle with pornography use. She was at her wits end. She felt like a ball of anxiety always waiting for the other shoe to drop and could never really feel comfortable in her skin and safe in the relationship. The moment she started to let her guard down it…

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162: The Blueprint For When A Husband Can’t Break The Cycle of Pornography Use Every Few Weeks Or Months 19:57

8M ago19:57

19:57

It's very discouraging for both a husband and wife when a man gets stuck in the cycle of falling back into pornography. Use every few weeks or months. In this situation, a wife feels continual anxiety, just waiting for the other shoe to drop. A husband feels discouragement and hopelessness feeling like he's not making progress despite his best effo…

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161: 3 Relationship Pillars to Help Create Connection and Security 22:11

8M ago22:11

22:11

When pornography use is discovered in a relationship it undermines the very foundation and security. It often creates suspicion, fear, uncertainty, and a total lack of security and connection. After having worked with hundreds and hundreds of couples, I want to share with you the three of pillars that I've seen help create connection and security, …

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160: What If He Secretly Returns to Pornography? How She Can Know, And 5 Ways He Can Rebuild Security 20:16

9M ago20:16

20:16

One of the biggest fears that women have in this process is that her husband will return to pornography since she won't know about it. She’ll bring down her wall, start to trust him again, and then the other shoe will drop and she'll be devastated again. How can she know if he is still stuck in his pattern? If there’s been dishonesty in the past, h…

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159: Struggling to Quit Porn For Good? You're Likely Using the Wrong Tools (do this instead) 21:58

9M ago21:58

21:58

Have you ever wondered why you haven't been able to quit pornography permanently? Do you feel like you know the tools but just aren't using them in the moment you need them most? If the tools you've been trying to implement haven't brought you freedom yet, you're using the wrong ones. This creates a problem in a relationship as well – A woman can't…

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158: Success Story: How Kevin Eliminated Pornography Use As A Coping Mechanism 34:51

9M ago34:51

34:51

Many couples fear that it's not possible to eliminate pornography use from their lives. Men struggle for decades with urges and temptation without the right tools. This leads them to fall back into old patterns and makes them believe they can't ever quit. Kevin was a man who went through my program and not only got the tools to quit pornography for…

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157: Build Security Back Into Your Marriage With This Easy, Effective Approach 21:30

9M ago21:30

21:30

Many couples struggle with feelings of uncertainty and insecurity in their marriage. Years of deception and lying erodes the foundation of trust, and a lack of communication or transparency keep things stuck. In this episode episode, I share a very easy-to-implement tool that can help you to build security in your marriage again. But missing this c…

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156: Is It Possible to Quit Porn and NEVER Return Again? (…yes, here’s how) 25:07

10M ago25:07

25:07

Many men and women wonder if quitting porn is actually possible to do or if it's something that just needs to be managed for the rest of their life. The good news: YES! It's 100% possible to quit and never return. In this episode I'll share with you specifically what I've seen work best to help men quit Porn and never return. The more you have abou…

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155: If She Stays, She Thinks He’s Just Getting Away With Everything 21:34

10M ago21:34

21:34

One very difficult hurdle that many women struggle, with is the idea of forgiveness or staying in the relationship with someone who hurt them so much. If she forgives him, does that mean he's getting away with everything? Does it make her feel like she has no dignity left if she stays in the relationship? That she just accepts behavior she complete…

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154: LIVE CALL – How to Resolve Triggers During / After Sexual Intimacy 50:42

10M ago50:42

50:42

Rebuilding sexual intimacy after damage by pornography can be a challenge for many couples. A wife often has fears and concerns like: How do I know he's not fantasizing when we're intimate? What if he's just using me and I'm being manipulated? I feel inadequate and not attractive enough A husband often wants to know how to help his wife through her…

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153: When She's Hurt By Him Looking at Women in Public 24:02

10M ago24:02

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Going out into public can create a lot of anxiety for both a husband and wife. She's worried about who he's looking at and what he's thinking about, and he's worried about her getting triggered and feels anxious not knowing what to do or how to help her. In this episode, I share with a few specific things that you can do to address this issue to he…

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152: 3 Things to Jumpstart Marriage Repair 26:59

10M ago26:59

26:59

If you had to get to the other side of a mountain, would you rather take a tunnel through it or climb all the way up and around it? It still takes effort and intention to get to the other side, but one path is far more streamlined. In this episode I share with you 3 things that can help take you through the tunnel when it comes to repairing your re…

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151: From Grief, Sadness, and Hurt to Healing and Closure 28:00

11M ago28:00

28:00

When pornography use is discovered in a relationship, there is often a lot of grief and hurt that surfaces. Shock about how this could have happened. Feeling stuck in pain not knowing how to make sense of it. And grief about what the relationship once was and uncertain about how to move forward. In this episode I share a few specific ways to approa…

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150: He’s a Source of Pain AND a Source of Comfort 23:55

11M ago23:55

23:55

After pornography use, a husband becomes a source of pain as well as a source of comfort for his wife. this can be such a confusing place for both people to be. Sometimes she doesn't want to be around him at all, but other times she needs him close and for him to provide reassurance. As a man, oftentimes he doesn't know what to say or how to help s…

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