In this deep-dive April Mailbag episode, the hosts tackle a heartfelt email from a listener in recovery who’s doing everything “right”—meetings, therapy, step work—but still feels shut out by his partner. Why isn’t she engaging? Is it unresolved trauma, burnout, or a deeper disconnection? The team explores common pitfalls in couples healing after b…

What should you do when your partner won’t engage, even after you've committed to recovery? In this April Mailbag episode, the hosts discuss the emotional complexities of healing after betrayal—especially when the wounded partner closes off. From the importance of empathy letters and impact processing to resisting defensiveness and building emotion…

In this thought-provoking April Mailbag episode, the hosts unpack a listener's email that dives into the painful space between recovery and reconnection. Why do some partners struggle to re-engage even when the addict is “doing the work”? Is it unresolved trauma, unspoken resentment, or just the truth of incompatibility? With candid insights into a…

Kink. Fetishes. BDSM. Are they expressions of healthy sexuality—or signs of addiction and unresolved trauma? In this powerful and nuanced conversation, Dr. Stefanie Carnes joins the Conversations on Sex Addiction and Relationships team to unpack what kink really means, how it intersects with sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and recovery, and what th…

What happens when non-traditional sexual behavior, recovery, and relationship dynamics intersect? In this 3.5-minute deep dive, Dr. Stefanie Carnes explores the delicate balance of reintroducing sexual expression in relationships impacted by sex addiction and betrayal trauma. From managing arousal templates and consent, to honoring recovery boundar…

Is kinky sexual behaviors a healthy sexual expression or a sign of addiction? In just 2.5 minutes, Dr. Stefanie Carnes unpacks the critical difference between kink and compulsive sexual behavior. Whether you're a therapist, someone exploring your sexuality, or simply curious, this short but powerful conversation tackles the intersection of healthy …

Is there a "right" time to make amends in sex addiction recovery? What if the person in recovery isn’t following the 12-step model—or isn’t “there yet”? In this heartfelt discussion, we explore how true amends are less about perfection and more about presence, intention, and accountability. This episode breaks down what “living amends” really means…

What happens to children when they grow up in a household shaped by addiction, betrayal, and emotional absence? In this emotional and raw conversation, we explore the long-term impact of sex addiction on kids—and what parents can do today to help stop the cycle. Through lived experience and clinical insight, the discussion touches on how a parent’s…

Making amends isn’t just a step—it’s a way of living. In this powerful and honest conversation, the hosts explore what it truly means to make amends in sex addiction recovery, especially when it comes to relationships. From the early days of confusion and disclosure to those pivotal “aha” moments when empathy finally lands, this episode breaks down…

In sex addiction recovery, there’s a moment—often unexpected—when everything shifts and the addict really "gets it". The defenses fall, empathy clicks into place, and for the first time, the betrayed partner feels truly seen and heard. This episode dives deep into that moment—the turning point in recovery when an addict can finally make meaningful …

What does it really mean to make amends after betrayal? In this deeply vulnerable and honest episode, therapists explore the amends process from both the addict’s perspective and the betrayed partner’s experience. It's not just about apologies or flowers—it’s about understanding the full emotional impact, taking responsibility, and learning how to …

What happens when you grow up in a home where sex addiction, secrecy, and emotional disconnection define the family dynamic? In this intimate conversation, the author of Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts share how the book came to life—and why it's opening doors for healing across generations. Featuring Culle L. …

Today we talk about the concept of "carried shame"—a form of inherited emotional pain that can follow us from childhood into our adult lives. Through powerful storytelling and deep clinical insight, we explore the difference between healthy shame and carried shame, and how upbringing, parenting styles, and unspoken family dynamics shape our sense o…

Today we speak on the long-term impact of sex addiction on children who grow up in hypersexualized households - a topic rarely discussed, but deeply important. We discuss the 12 characteristics of being an adult child of a sex addict. Whether you're a therapist, someone in recovery, or just curious about how family dynamics and hidden trauma can sh…

Why do so many people struggling with addiction also struggle with avoidance? In this deep dive, we explore how avoidance manifests in addiction, relationships, and emotional healing—and why overcoming it is critical for long-term recovery. Avoidance may have once been a coping mechanism, but in addiction and relationships, it often leads to more h…

Is avoidance at the root of sex and love addiction? In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles influence addiction and why avoidance—whether emotional, relational, or physical—plays a significant role in both addiction and intimacy disorders. Many struggling with addiction are unconsciously protecting themselves from deeper pain. B…

Is avoidance a core trait of addiction? In this discussion, we explore how avoidance manifests in sex addiction and other compulsive behaviors—whether it's emotional avoidance, distraction, or withdrawing from relationships and responsibilities. Many people struggling with addiction use avoidance as a way to escape pain, fear, and emotional discomf…

"Welcome to our February Mailbag episode, where we tackle your most pressing questions on addiction, therapy, and relationships! 💬 In this discussion, we cover: 🔹 Does skipping 12-step programs increase relapse risk? 🔹 Should addicts share what they discuss in therapy with their partners? 🔹 Can privacy and transparency coexist in recovery? 🔹 When i…

When it comes to addiction recovery, how much transparency should there be between partners? Should an addict share what they’re working on in therapy, at their 12 step meetings, or is it a private space for personal growth? While therapy is a personal journey, shutting out a partner completely can create barriers to healing. How can couples naviga…

Is attending a 12-step program essential for addiction recovery, or can therapy alone be enough? In this episode, we break down the key factors that contribute to long-term sobriety and discuss the role of community, therapy, and personal commitment in preventing relapse. This episode is answering our a mailbag question. Send your questions to conv…

Technology is evolving rapidly, making our lives easier, saving us time and energy. But as we gain more convenience, are we losing meaningful human connection? While technology offers incredible opportunities—like remote work and online therapy—it also challenges our ability to connect authentically. How do we embrace its benefits without falling i…

Is secrecy a core component of porn addiction? In this short but insightful discussion, we explore the complexities of porn addiction, including the role of secrecy, social norms, and personal values. Join us as we break down the psychological and behavioral factors behind excessive pornography use. #PornAddiction #MentalHealth #Psychology #Behavio…

Terry Crews shares his journey of overcoming sex addiction, healing his marriage, and reclaiming his life. From his early struggles with pornography to the moment his wife confronted him with the question that changed everything—Terry reveals the truth about addiction, shame, and the power of recovery. This is a conversation about courage, honesty,…

Terry Crews shares his personal journey of overcoming childhood trauma, addiction, and the struggles that shaped his life. From growing up in a strict religious household to discovering unhealthy coping mechanisms at a young age, Terry opens up about the challenges he faced and how they impacted his relationships and self-worth. Terry’s story is on…

Terry Crews opens up about the devastating impact of his sex addiction on his wife, his family, and himself. He shares the moment he realized the depth of her pain, the weight of his secrets, and how self-pity fueled his addiction. This is a raw and unfiltered look at accountability, healing, and the difficult road to redemption. #TerryCrews #SexAd…

Terry Crews reflects on the moment he had to face his deepest fears, the consequences of his actions, and the truth about himself. Forced to confront his reality, he opens up about the struggle of maintaining an image, the loneliness of fame, and the hard path to redemption. #TerryCrews #SexAddictionRecovery #Healing #OvercomingAddiction #MentalHea…

Terry Crews opens up about his struggles with pornography addiction, infidelity, and the impact it had on his marriage. He shares the moment he was confronted regarding his addiction, the weight of the secrecy, and how this revelation became the turning point in his life. A story of redemption, self-discovery, and the battle to break free—this is T…

What does it take to have a healthy relationship?? Honesty, safety, trust, and vulnerability—these are the building blocks of true intimacy. It’s a process, a skill, and sometimes, a complete re-education. #TrustBuilding #HealingTogether #Codependency #HealthyRelationships #SelfAwareness #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #TheRabbsmiths #DanDrake…

Are we doing enough to educate professionals on betrayal trauma and sex addiction? Many therapists graduate without proper training in these areas, leaving people struggling to find the right support. If you're seeking help, it’s crucial to find a specialist who truly understands your experience—not just someone who checked a box. #MentalHealthMatt…

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith talk about their journey as a couple with sex addiction and betrayal trauma in recovery. Together with Dan Drake they have written the Building True Intimacy workbook which gives couples a clear path towards healing.By Timzi9

Mental health awareness has come a long way, but we still need more understanding about trauma, addiction, and healing. Betrayal trauma, in particular, is widely not understood by addicts, therapists and the general public. #MentalHealthMatters #HealingJourney #BetrayalTrauma #BarbaraSteffens #Podcast #Sexaddiction #Addiction…

In this episode, we talk about the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships with Dr. Janie Lacy, particularly focusing on how being with a narcissist can create lasting emotional harm. Through relatable insights, we highlight how love bombing, devaluing, and discarding cycles play out in long-term relationships, leaving partners feeling inade…

In this episode, we break down the dynamics of toxic relationships with Dr. Janie Lacy, helping you identify patterns and behaviors that may dangerous. We explore the emotional roller coaster of push-pull dynamics and unfulfilled needs that keeps people stuck. We also address the underlying feelings of abandonment, anxiety, and loneliness that can …

Today, we tackle the compelling question: Is codependency a part of sex addiction? Through a dynamic conversation, we explore if and how codependency manifests in addiction and recovery. We examine the intersection of addiction, control, and the veneer addicts use to manage how others perceive them, shedding light on the deeper dynamics at play. Wh…

In this episode, we explore the fine line between genuine care for others and the patterns of codependency. Through an insightful discussion, we examine the difference between healthy caregiving and behaviors that lead to self-depletion, resentment, or feelings of martyrdom. Using real-world examples, we highlight how codependency often stems from …

In this episode, we talk about the complex world of codependency, exploring its roots, dynamics, and if it is a part of sex addiction. Drawing from expert insights, we unpack the definition of codependency. Through thoughtful discussion, we examine the fear of expressing needs, the denial of self, and the deep-seated desire to manage others’ percep…

In this special mailbag episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we tackle a powerful question from a viewer about the addict wanting to be heard and seen in the relationship. Through engaging analogies and thoughtful insights, our experts explore the critical importance of timing in addressing trauma, the challenges addicts f…

We want to speak to you about the delicate balance of addressing needs and rebuilding trust in relationships affected by sex addiction and betrayal trauma. We examine the early stages of recovery, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing the betrayed partner’s healing and grief before delving into deeper relationship dynamics. Through expert insi…

In this episode, we dive deep into the complex dynamics of healing relationships impacted by sex addiction and betrayal trauma. We discuss why addressing betrayal trauma must take priority before tackling broader relationship issues and how timing is a critical factor in the recovery process for both the addict and the partner. We explore the chall…

Today we speak with Michelle Mays, a leading voice in the field, we unwrap topics like betrayal blindness, relational fear, and the empowering journey of recovery. With compassion and evidence-based approaches, Michelle provides tools and perspectives to help individuals navigate complex emotions, reclaim their reality, and find healing. Whether yo…

Today we explore the profound connections between attachment, trauma, and healing. Featuring expert insights from thought leaders like Michelle Mays, we dive into topics such as betrayal trauma, attachment systems, and the phases of relational recovery. Michelle Mays brings a wealth of knowledge and compassionate strategies, offering a holistic and…

In today’s episode, we dive deep into the complex topic of cheating and infidelity. We explore what it really means to cheat in a relationship—whether it's crossing physical boundaries or keeping significant secrets. We discuss the emotional impact, the signs to watch for, and how partners can handle the discovery of infidelity. This isn't a “how-t…

In today's video, we dive into the subtle signs that may indicate someone is being cheated on, even when there’s no hard evidence. If you’ve noticed changes in behavior, communication, or secrecy and suspect something might be wrong in your relationship, this video offers insights into what to look for. From evasive maneuvers, unaccounted-for time,…

From intuition and secret behaviors to difficult conversations in today's episode we dive into how someone can identify the signs of infidelity and express their feelings. We also discuss the importance of having clear, ongoing conversations with your partner about boundaries, behaviors, and expectations. Relationships are unique, and the line betw…

Today we sit down with Heather Cronemiller, CSAT, to discuss her book Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction. Written alongside Lacey Bentley and Eddie Caprucci, this groundbreaking book explores the connection between sex and love addiction and unresolved childhood trauma. In this episode, we dive deep into…

In this episode with guest Heather Cronemiller, we dive deep into the powerful concept of inner child work, especially in the context of addiction, trauma, and healing. We discuss how our inner child can take over when we face unmet needs, and how coping mechanisms like seeking validation through unhealthy relationships or behaviors often stem from…

From visualizing our younger selves to nurturing those parts of us that still need love, care, and attention, we talk with guest Heather Cronemiller to explore how these practices help us heal, especially from love addiction. While the work is deeply personal, both men and women can benefit from this approach—though there are differences unique to …

Join us with our special guest Sherod Miller and Dan Lord, we dive into the critical topic of communication and effective tools for connection. In this episode, we welcome special guests Sherrod Miller and Dan Lord, creators of the innovative Awareness Wheel. This practical tool, supported by neuroscience and years of research, offers insight into …

Unlock the power of the Awareness Wheel in this insightful video with Sherod Miller and Dan Lord. This framework breaks down human perception, emotions, thoughts, and actions to enhance communication, build stronger relationships, and resolve conflicts. Learn how each zone—Action, Sensory Data, Thoughts, Emotions, and Wants—can transform your under…

In this episode, we with special guests Sherod Miller and Dan Lord explore another transformative element of the Awareness Wheel: recognizing and managing our reactions. Reactions are deeply rooted in our body and mind, and understanding them is a key step toward emotional balance and intentional action. 🌟 Learn how to identify reactions and naviga…