Best Why We Cant Have Nice Things Podcasts (2025)

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Murphy's law or This Is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things - ISP's or datacenters that work properly (Episode 127) 57:20

6d ago57:20

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This week was a perfect storm of technical chaos. In what should have been a routine upgrade, an ISP crew inadvertently knocked out a perfectly functional primary internet line, leaving one of us offline for two full days. Just as we were recovering from that, a pair of server coolers in a critical server failed — naturally, right at the start of t…

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Episode 118 - This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things 1:13:36

26d ago1:13:36

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In today's episode, we celebrate Taylor Swift and her purchasing of her masters!!! Buckle in, because we spend the entire first half of the episode discussing this historical moment in musical history. Naturally, we were shocked and almost let down when we first discovered she may not be recoriding Reputation (Taylor's Version), but the more we und…

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Did NYC Vote for Socialism or Against the Establishment? 1:06:42

1d ago1:06:42

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This week, Reason editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, and Matt Welch are joined by Republican pollster Kristen Soltis Anderson to analyze Zohran Mamdani's primary win over Andrew Cuomo in New York City's mayoral race and what it signals about the future of Democratic politics. They also discuss the Senate GOP's version of President Donald…

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"SSRIs Killed Her Sex Drive – What Do I Do?" 13:55

2d ago13:55

13:55

In this Dear DSO submission, Richie asks a brutally honest question: What do you do when your wife is on SSRIs, has no sex drive, and has basically shut down in the bedroom? He’s not alone. A lot of men are quietly struggling with this. Kids, careers, medication, depression—it all adds up. And many men are left wondering if they’re crazy for wantin…

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The Final Talk: Should You End a Sexless Marriage? 12:58

5d ago12:58

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In this episode of Dear DSO, a man named Mark writes in about the pain of being stuck in a long-term, sexless marriage. He’s done the work—therapy, self-improvement, romantic gestures—but his wife still shows zero interest. Now he’s wondering: Should he blow up the family just to feel loved again? This one hits hard, and it’s a story I hear all the…

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Episode 121 - Shake It Off 1:21:36

5d ago1:21:36

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Yes, we did see that Taylor Swift literally performed Shake It Off at a bar in Nashiville this week!!! Why is she so obsessed with us?! In all seriousness though......wait a minute, this episode is meant to be fun! Who's talking about being serious? Just do as Taylor does and SHAKE IT OFF! We were so thrilled to FINALLY break down one of Taylor Swi…

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Iran, Beyond the Headlines with Maziar Bahari 1:33:13

6d ago1:33:13

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With the US now directly engaged in the Israel-Iran conflict, Jon is joined by Maziar Bahari, publisher of iranwire.com and author of “Then They Came for Me,” a memoir that served as the basis for Jon’s 2014 film “Rosewater.” Together, they explore the reality of life under Iran's current government, discuss the complex challenges of regime change …

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Anti-War President Starts New War. Again. 1:10:09

9d ago1:10:09

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This week, editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, Nick Gillespie, and Matt Welch examine the latest U.S. military strike on Iran, unpacking the bipartisan pattern of anti-war campaign rhetoric followed by hawkish foreign policy once in office. They debate whether intervention is ever justified, what escalation might look like, and why Congre…

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Is She Avoidant... or Just Not That Into You? 11:56

9d ago11:56

11:56

I hear from a lot of men who fall hard for a woman… and then she starts pulling away. Hot one minute, cold the next. Is it an avoidant attachment style—or is she just not that into you? In today’s Dear DSO episode, we break down Paul’s situation. He’s stuck in the push-pull dynamic with a woman who’s triggering every anxious bone in his body. I exp…

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Cheap Tricks & Pricey Picks: IT Hardware Edition - (Episode 126) 56:20

12d ago56:20

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Welcome to “Cheap Tricks & Pricey Picks: IT Hardware Edition”, where we dive into the eternal battle between saving pennies and splurging on gear. In this episode, we break down real-world examples of when a bargain cable or budget metal stand makes perfect sense—and when cutting corners could cost you time, stability, or speed. From expensive wifi…

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"Worried About My Adult Kids Stuck With a Toxic Mom" 17:01

12d ago17:01

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In this Dear DSO episode, we tackle Holden’s powerful story: ✅ A 22-year marriage, wrecked by infidelity ✅ A toxic ex dragging their adult kids down ✅ A father who rebuilt his life, career, and confidence — but still worries about his boys I break down what happens long-term when kids get stuck in a toxic home and what (if anything) you, as the hea…

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Episode 120 - You Need To Calm Down 1:14:43

12d ago1:14:43

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Happy Pride Month, Swiggies! We are celebrating by breaking down Taylor Swift's single from June 2019 preceding the Lover album. There is lots of lore behind this song, and our cocktails were a blast to sip on while we broke it all down. Just a reminder that anyone of all beliefs, orientations, ethnicities, and cultural backgrounds are welcome on o…

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Israel, Iran and Trump’s Incompetence 57:48

13d ago57:48

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Amid growing fears about where the Israel-Iran conflict leads, Jon is joined by Ben Rhodes, co-host of "Pod Save the World" and former Deputy National Security Advisor, and Christiane Amanpour, CNN's Chief International Anchor and host of "Christiane and The Ex Files with Jamie Rubin." Together, they trace the complex history that brought us to thi…

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Israel Strikes Iran. Is Escalation Inevitable? 1:05:24

16d ago1:05:24

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This week, editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, and Matt Welch are joined by Reason reporter Matthew Petti to break down the fallout from Israel's strike on Iran, the likelihood of escalation, and what role the U.S. is already playing in the conflict. They also cover the Minnesota assassinations and the growing fears of political violence,…

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Why She Hasn’t Touched You in 8 Years (And Why Chores Won’t Fix It) 15:20

16d ago15:20

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In this episode of Dear DSO, I tackle Dave’s story — he’s been married 13 years, but for the last eight, the bedroom has been dead. Less than 10 times a year. He’s doing the chores, paying the bills, helping with everything, hoping it will reignite intimacy… but it hasn’t worked. We talk about perimenopause, the harsh biological and emotional shift…

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“Am I a Sex Maniac… or Just a Normal Guy?” 15:27

19d ago15:27

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Is it wrong to want more sex in your marriage? What if your wife thinks you're a pervert for having a normal male sex drive? In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a submission from a man who feels like a prisoner to his own sexuality. He’s doing the work, improving his life, but still feels rejected, shamed, and shut out by his wife. Sound fami…

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Episode 119 - Cassandra 1:13:47

19d ago1:13:47

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We had some techincal issues with our audio this week! Sorry for the lesser quality, but hopefully you forgive us. After all, we're only 119 episodes in to this podcast, so we're still working out the kinks....right? Do you believe us know? Or are you oh so quiet? We found this song to be absolutely worthy of an episode, especially following Taylor…

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The Big Red Light Episode - (Episode 125) 47:55

20d ago47:55

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Welcome to The Big Red Light Episode — a wild ride through the chaotic corridors of our curious minds. This time, we threw out the script, ignored the non-existent outline, and followed every spontaneous thought wherever it led. From tech tangents and philosophical rabbit holes to completely unrelated life observations, nothing was off-limits. It’s…

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Protests, Emergency Powers, and Petty Feuds 1:15:05

20d ago1:15:05

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This week, with the military deployed to LA and readying to parade in DC, Jon is joined by Jill Lepore, Professor of History and Law at Harvard University, and Kevin M. Kruse, Professor of History at Princeton University. Together, they consider what history reveals about moments when presidential power tests democratic limits, and discuss ways tha…

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Fake Immigration Crisis Triggers Actual Violence 1:06:29

23d ago1:06:29

1:06:29

This week, editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, and Nick Gillespie are joined by Reason reporter Eric Boehm to discuss the political fallout from President Donald Trump's immigration raids and deployment of the National Guard to riots in Los Angeles. They also cover last week's feud between Trump and Elon Musk over the GOP's mega spending …

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Will a Vasectomy Kill Her Desire for You? 12:51

23d ago12:51

12:51

In this Dear DSO episode, we’re diving into a common and surprisingly emotional question: "If I get a vasectomy, will my wife still want me?" This one came from Matt — a father of three, married for five years, and totally done having kids… but now he’s worried that the snip might lead to a dead bedroom. We break down: The primal fears behind vasec…

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Post-Divorce Midlife Crisis: Should You Hit the Road or Stay Safe? 10:16

26d ago10:16

10:16

In this “Dear DSO” episode, I respond to a story from John—a newly separated man wondering if it’s time to ditch the 9-to-5 life, buy a van, and find himself on the open road. Is this a classic midlife crisis, or the adventure of a lifetime? Let’s talk about what it means to "lose yourself" in the family machine… and whether it’s ever too late to s…

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From Carry-On to Command Center: Packing Like an IT Pro - (Episode 124) 53:52

27d ago53:52

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When an IT professional hits the road, their backpack becomes more than just a carry-on—it transforms into a mobile command center. In this episode, From Carry-On to Command Center: Packing Like an IT Pro, we dive into the gear, gadgets, and go-to tools every tech-savvy traveler should have on hand. Whether you're heading to a client site, a tech c…

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Breaking (Down the) News with Kaitlan Collins 1:19:28

27d ago1:19:28

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With the Trump administration generating headlines at breakneck speed, Jon is joined by CNN's Kaitlan Collins, anchor of "The Source with Kaitlan Collins" and Chief White House Correspondent. Together, they examine how to cut through the noise and ask the right questions, discuss the ins and outs of covering the White House, and explore what goes i…

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Artificial Intelligence Is Making Everything Weird 1:07:46

30d ago1:07:46

1:07:46

This week, editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, Nick Gillespie, and Matt Welch explore how artificial intelligence (AI) is already reshaping jobs, education, politics, and personal identity—sharing examples from scam calls and students cheating to Darth Vader swearing in Fortnite. The panel also discusses how Democrats are failing to attra…

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"I Caught Her Messaging Another Man… So I Ended It. Was I Wrong?" 12:57

1M ago12:57

12:57

In this Dear DSO submission, a follower named John reached out to share his story. He was in a long-distance relationship, had clear boundaries about contact with the opposite sex, and discovered that his girlfriend followed and messaged a local pharmacy tech—without telling him. That was enough for John to walk away… but now he’s second-guessing e…

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“30 Years in a Dead Bedroom… Then She Finally Told Me Why” - Live Chat With Michael 59:52

1M ago59:52

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Michael reached out to me with a story I hear way too often. Thirty years of a sexless marriage, confusion, shame, guilt — and then, one day, his wife finally opens up with a truth that changed everything. In this raw, honest conversation, we explore what it means to sacrifice your needs, the silent damage it does, and how deeply hidden trauma can …

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Episode 117 - We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together 1:09:05

1M ago1:09:05

1:09:05

We came, we clowned, we acheived nothing. But baby Sam and Rachel had no idea what would come of the 2025 AMA's by the time of recording this episode, so they're filled with excitement and theories. Oh what fun they had. Check out our "new shit" playlist on Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5LOn9LRJ8lnvnCbpl6fKVG?si=68ca3032d3aa470b⁠⁠⁠…

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AI as a new outlier: The new knowledge frontier - (Episode 123) 43:21

1M ago43:21

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In a world that's getting reshaped by artificial intelligence, a stark new divide is emerging: those fluent in the language of algorithms and those left on the margins of progress. Join us on “AI as a New Outlier: The New Knowledge Frontier” as we chart the fault lines between the AI-literate and the digitally disenfranchised. From boardrooms to cl…

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Trump's War on Harvard 1:04:23

1M ago1:04:23

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In this week's The Reason Roundtable, editors Katherine Mangu-Ward, Nick Gillespie, and Matt Welch are joined by The Gist's Mike Pesca to discuss the Trump administration's escalating campaign against Harvard. The conversation explores how government overreach in education threatens civil liberties and stable institutional governance. They also dis…

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“We Divorced, Remarried… Now She Wants to Date Again?” 16:17

1M ago16:17

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In today’s Dear DSO, I respond to a heartbreaking story from a 39-year-old Army Special Ops veteran who's been through the wringer—divorce, remarriage, infidelity, therapy, and now… his wife wants to separate again, “date,” and possibly reevaluate in six months. If you've ever felt like you're living in a constant loop of chaos in your relationship…

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“Depressed About Marriage… Is It Even Worth It Anymore?” 20:59

1M ago20:59

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In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a letter from Jerome—a man who’s feeling disillusioned and depressed about relationships and marriage. After a breakup and years of being told that “marriage is the dream,” he’s beginning to question everything. Does long-term monogamy even work anymore? Are women really wired for it? Is the “wife and kids”…

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Episode 116 - Timeless 1:11:40

1M ago1:11:40

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We're back to our clowning as we approach the American Music Awards that Taylor's team has been leaving lots of clues for us to pay attention to. We've also got an (almost) new Reputation Taylor's Version song to react to! But first, Rachel wants to know how Sam's music festival went, so Sam shares the highlights of his time becoming an indie rocke…

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No CTRL-Z: What they don't teach you in schools or training - (Episode 122) 59:43

1M ago59:43

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Welcome to the podcast episode diving into the unspoken realities of launching your career in IT. In this episode, we’ll peel back the curtain on practical lessons that formal education and training programs often overlook—from navigating legacy systems and mastering interpersonal communication with non-technical stakeholders to troubleshooting und…

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Jons Save America? 1:19:16

1M ago1:19:16

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As Democrats seek to reestablish their credibility, Jon is joined by Crooked Media founders and "Pod Save America" hosts Jon Favreau and Jon Lovett. Together, they dissect the political and media environment that shields established leaders from accountability, debate how Democrats should position themselves during Trump's second term, and explore …

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The GOP Budget Is Big, Bloated, B.S. 1:17:29

1M ago1:17:29

1:17:29

This week, editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, Nick Gillespie, and Matt Welch critique President Donald Trump's proposed tax legislation and its fiscal irresponsibility, discuss the national deficit and credit rating downgrade, examine the media and political cover-up of former President Joe Biden's cognitive decline, and highlight the br…

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How Nice Guys Sabotage Their Relationships | Dr. Robert Glover (No More Mr. Nice Guy) 55:34

1M ago55:34

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In this live conversation, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to talk about the psychology of the modern man—especially the ones struggling in dead bedrooms, difficult marriages, and post-divorce confusion. We dig into why so many men unknowingly sabotage their relationships, how covert contracts fuel resentment, and…

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Comfort Kills Desire? The Erotic Cost of Feeling Safe in Marriage 14:42

2M ago14:42

14:42

We all crave emotional safety and stability in our long-term relationships… But what if that very safety is what slowly smothers erotic desire? In this livestream, I dive into one of the most frustrating and misunderstood dynamics in long-term monogamy: the trade-off between comfort and sexuality. Why does it feel like the more secure your relation…

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The For-Profit Presidency 1:16:43

2M ago1:16:43

1:16:43

As concerns mount over presidential profiteering, Jon is joined by Susan Glasser, New Yorker staff writer and co-author of "The Divider: Trump in the White House, 2017-2021," and Eric Lipton, investigative reporter for The New York Times. Together, they explore the scope of Trump’s business entanglements, discuss the challenges of covering these et…

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Electric avenue: Cruising into the future or just showing off? - Episode 121 57:19

2M ago57:19

57:19

Welcome to That IT Show, and this time we’re taking a detour off the data highway onto Electric Avenue. In this episode, we're cruising into the future—or maybe just flexing in silence—as we explore the hype, hope, and horsepower behind electric cars. Are EVs the clean solution we’ve been waiting for, or just the latest status symbol for tech-savvy…

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What Did We Learn From DOGE? 1:01:33

2M ago1:01:33

1:01:33

This week, editors Peter Suderman, Katherine Mangu-Ward, Nick Gillespie, and Matt Welch critique the apparent wind down of Elon Musk's Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE) initiative, highlighting its lack of transparency and failure to achieve meaningful spending cuts. They also analyze the GOP's new tax plan, which contradicts promises of f…

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“We’re Just Dating… And Already in a Dead Bedroom?” 8:41

2M ago8:41

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Brendan’s been dating his girlfriend for three years — and the sex is already slowing to a crawl. He’s worried this is setting the tone for a future marriage, and he’s not wrong. In this clip from a LIVE DSO, we dig into one of the biggest red flags guys ignore: early sexual disinterest. If you’re seeing signs of a dead bedroom while you’re still d…

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"How Do I Convince My Older Wife to Want Sex Again?" 14:07

2M ago14:07

14:07

Ramius has been married for 47 years. In his 70s, he’s gotten healthy, got his testosterone up, and wants to stay sexually and emotionally connected to his wife. The problem? She’s done. No interest, no desire, early bedtime, and emotionally checked out from intimacy. What do you do when one partner still wants connection… and the other is ready to…

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Episode 115 - The Best Day 1:11:55

2M ago1:11:55

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Did this episode cause Rachel to cry tears of sadness or tears of joy? Yes. Sam excitedly got to describe his experience attending a Swiftie Brunch in Denver. It felt like the Eras tour all over again! Then he shares some riveting information he heard regarding the legal aspect of the trademark for "Reputation (Taylor's Version). This completely ch…

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Code & Chill: The Free Vibe Edition - (Episode 120) 31:50

2M ago31:50

31:50

Welcome to a new That IT Show podcast episode! In this laid-back episode titled Code & Chill: The Free Vibe Edition, we’re diving into the art of vibe coding — the rhythm-infused, pressure-free zone where creativity meets clean syntax. Whether you’re tinkering with open-source tools, looping lo-fi beats, or just exploring what it means to code with…

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Are You There, Congress? with Reps. Brian Fitzpatrick and Tom Suozzi 1:08:57

2M ago1:08:57

1:08:57

In this era of executive overreach, Jon is joined by Representatives Tom Suozzi (D-NY) and Brian Fitzpatrick (R-PA), co-chairs of the Problem Solvers Caucus, to examine how bipartisanship might still be possible. Together, they explore the caucus's approach to building consensus across party lines, discuss what leverage remains with the legislative…

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Trump's War on Childhood 1:03:37

2M ago1:03:37

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In this week's The Reason Roundtable, editors Katherine Mangu-Ward, Nick Gillespie, and Matt Welch are joined by Reason reporter Christian Britschgi to discuss President Donald Trump's proposal for a 100 percent tariff on foreign-made films and his broader attacks on cheap consumer goods, arguing that it represents a bipartisan slide into anti-cons…

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“Sexless Since Baby #1… And She Threatens Suicide If I Leave” 11:15

2M ago11:15

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Keith has been married six years. No sex since baby #1. Volatile arguments. Threats of suicide. Police visits. And yet — he's afraid to leave. This is the classic trauma-bonded, broken-from-the-start marriage. In this episode, I talk about what it means to finally say “enough,” and how men can break free from toxic relationships. Join The HFM Broth…

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“She Had an Affair, Still Won’t Touch Me… But Gets Jealous?” 9:12

2M ago9:12

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Ross is in a marriage where intimacy is dead, but the jealousy is alive and well. Despite his massive physical transformation and emotional growth, his wife remains cold and uninterested — while also resenting any female attention he gets. Oh… and she had an affair last year. Let's unpack this contradiction and talk about what it really means when …

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Snapshots of you: Microsoft Recall, tech that remembers - (Episode 119) 59:13

2M ago59:13

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Microsoft Recall is back and stirring up conversation all over again. In this episode, we explore the return of this once-pulled, now-revived feature that captures screen snapshots to power next-level search. What’s changed since its controversial debut? Is it safer, smarter, or still risky? Join us as we break down the comeback story of a tool tha…

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