38: Get Your Eyeballs Off Your Partner and Put Them On Yourself: Inner Child Work

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America’s Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders is back for its second season! Kay Adams welcomes the women who assemble the squad, Kelli Finglass and Judy Trammell, to the Netflix Sports Club Podcast. They discuss the emotional rollercoaster of putting together the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders. Judy and Kelli open up about what it means to embrace flaws in the pursuit of perfection, how they identify that winning combo of stamina and wow factor, and what it’s like to see Thunderstruck go viral. Plus, the duo shares their hopes for the future of DCC beyond the field. Netflix Sports Club Podcast Correspondent Dani Klupenger also stops by to discuss the NBA Finals, basketball’s biggest moments with Michael Jordan and LeBron, and Kevin Durant’s international dominance. Dani and Kay detail the rise of Coco Gauff’s greatness and the most exciting storylines heading into Wimbledon. We want to hear from you! Leave us a voice message at www.speakpipe.com/NetflixSportsClub Find more from the Netflix Sports Club Podcast @NetflixSports on YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and X. You can catch Kay Adams @heykayadams and Dani Klupenger @daniklup on IG and X. Be sure to follow Kelli Finglass and Judy Trammel @kellifinglass and @dcc_judy on IG. Hosted by Kay Adams, the Netflix Sports Club Podcast is an all-access deep dive into the Netflix Sports universe! Each episode, Adams will speak with athletes, coaches, and a rotating cycle of familiar sports correspondents to talk about a recently released Netflix Sports series. The podcast will feature hot takes, deep analysis, games, and intimate conversations. Be sure to watch, listen, and subscribe to the Netflix Sports Club Podcast on YouTube, Spotify, Tudum, or wherever you get your podcasts. New episodes on Fridays every other week.…

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What can we do when were triggered by our partner?
There’s a quote by Pia Mellody, “Being a functional adult is taking care of our wounding, instead of letting it loose on others…”
How do we do this?
If we can, we will be better partners and parents.
Jason A Polk is a couples therapist and relationship coach. He's worked with couples for over nine years.
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Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents)

38: Get Your Eyeballs Off Your Partner and Put Them On Yourself: Inner Child Work

Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents)

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67: Therapeutic Journeys: Brandon on RLT and Relationship Dynamics 34:13

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Send us a text Jason Polk, a seasoned therapist specializing in couples therapy, hosts Brandon Schwartz, LCSW, from Colorado Relationship Recovery on the podcast. Brandon shares his journey of becoming a therapist, influenced by overcoming bullying, depression, and a transformative experience with his own therapist in middle school. He discusses his educational path, shifting from a desire to join the Marines to pursuing psychology, eventually finding his passion in couples therapy. The conversation touches on the modalities of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and its differences from other therapies, the concept of grandiosity and narcissism in relationships, and the profound impact therapy can have on personal and relational growth. Brandon emphasizes the importance of empathy, accountability, and differentiation in therapy, explaining why he finds his work both revolutionary and rewarding. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 01:09 Brandon's Journey to Becoming a Therapist 02:47 High School and College Experiences 04:04 Choosing Marriage and Family Therapy 05:36 Impactful Therapy Experience 09:02 Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and Couples Work 13:57 First and Second Order Change in Therapy 15:34 Family Influence and Accountability 18:28 Understanding Human Behavior in Therapy 19:20 The Importance of Self-Realization 20:22 Personal Wake-Up Calls 22:21 The Role of Direct Feedback 25:31 Defining Narcissism in Therapy 31:51 The Revolutionary Impact of Couples Therapy To learn more about Brandon and work with him, visit his About page .…

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66: Repair, what it means and why it's so hard 9:00

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Send us a text In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk delves into the importance of repair in relationships, why it's challenging, and how to effectively navigate it. Polk explains the concept of repair as restoring relationships after conflicts and discusses two main barriers: ego and lack of skills. He shares personal insights and strategies, including the importance of repairing in the moment and post-conflict methods like offering a sincere apology and sharing vulnerability. He emphasizes that repair is vital for healthy relationships and provides practical advice for couples to enhance their connection. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize repair over ego for the sake of their relationships and families. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:28 Understanding Conflict and Repair 01:11 The Role of Ego in Repair 03:39 Repairing in the Moment 05:15 Repairing After a Fight 08:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Feedback Wheel PDF This episode was inspired by this blog: The Art of Repair: What It Means and Why It's So Hard…

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65: Marriage Counseling Vs Divorce 7:36

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Send us a text In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' Jason Polk, a therapist and coach with over 10 years of experience, discusses the financial and emotional costs of marriage counseling versus divorce. Jason highlights the expense and emotional toll of contested divorces, which can range from $10,000 to $15,000, compared to the relatively lower cost of marriage counseling. He explains how counseling can help either salvage a relationship or make the separation process more compassionate and dignified. Jason states that counseling can be valuable in creating healthier futures, whether couples stay together or separate. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:27 Marriage Counseling vs. Divorce: An Overview 00:39 Financial and Emotional Costs of Divorce 02:17 The Role of Marriage Counseling 05:23 When Divorce is Inevitable 06:15 Cost Comparison: Counseling vs. Divorce 06:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Couples Intensive episode . This episode was inspired by Jason's blog post . Jason's marriage counseling practice .…

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64: What is cheating? 7:34

15 weeks ago7:34

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Send us a text Understanding Cheating: Definitions, Impacts, and Pathways to Healing In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk explores the complex topic of cheating. He delves into the different forms of infidelity, including financial and emotional cheating, and emphasizes the importance of explicit agreements between partners. Polk also discusses the synonyms and antonyms of cheating and provides insights into how a lack of openness can create a breeding ground for infidelity. Key takeaways include the critical role of trust, honesty, and transparency in preventing and recovering from betrayal. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:22 Defining Cheating and Infidelity 01:12 Types of Cheating 02:03 Importance of Agreements in Relationships 03:29 Emotional Affairs and Implicit Agreements 05:00 Antonyms of Cheating 05:21 Conditions Leading to Cheating 06:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts This blog inspired this episode: What is considered cheating?…

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63: What Is the Purpose of Marriage? 7:10

19 weeks ago7:10

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Send us a text Jason explores the purpose of marriage beyond initial infatuation and love chemicals. He explains that marriage is an essential emotional refuge and economic partnership, providing a place for vulnerability, acceptance, and the sharing of resources. Jason discusses typical relationship dynamics like the pursue-withdraw cycle and how past experiences shape our partner interactions. He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the relationship to foster connection and joy. Through understanding and intentional effort, marriage can bring resilience and confidence. By succeeding as a team, it can make life more enjoyable and less expensive. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:25 The Science of Love and Monogamy 01:07 Impact of Upbringing on Relationships 02:40 Purpose of Marriage 03:17 Emotional and Economic Benefits of Marriage 04:57 Challenges in Marriage 06:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts To read the blog that inspired this episode, you can check out: What's the Purpose of Marriage? A Marriage Counselor's Perspective . Click here to learn more about Jason's couples therapy agency .…

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62: 10 Tips to Fix Your Relationship and Get Back on the Right Track 9:31

22 weeks ago9:31

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Send us a text In this episode, Jason shares ten actionable tips to help couples maintain harmony, reduce disharmony, and effectively repair their relationships. The tips are structured within a framework that includes understanding the phases of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Key points include connecting with your partner through daily gestures, understanding and navigating attachment dynamics, using timeouts to prevent conflicts, making effective apologies, showing vulnerability, using communication tools like the feedback wheel, and taking things less personally. The goal is to foster more connection and less conflict in relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Tips 00:06 Understanding Relationship Phases 00:47 Tips for Maintaining Harmony 02:37 Addressing Disharmony 06:04 Effective Repair Strategies 08:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Links: State of the Union Meeting Feedback Wheel Relationship (Attachment) Quiz This episode in 10 tips to fix your relationship in blog form.…

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61: Relationship lessons from Dr. Laura Louis 37:53

28 weeks ago37:53

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Send us a text In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis, a seasoned couples therapist, shares her insights and experiences from her 20-year career. She discusses the challenges and joys of working with couples, the importance of effective communication, and how vulnerability and emotional intimacy play crucial roles in relationships. Dr. Laura also discusses common issues such as the negative sentiment override, the impact of family of origin, and practical strategies for improving relational dynamics. Introduction Dr. Laura's Background Challenges of Couples Therapy Creating Connection in Relationships Men and Feelings Effective Communication Tools Signs You Should Seek Couples Therapy Stonewalling and Taking Breaks Final Thoughts and Resources Link to Dr. Laura Louis' Atlanta Couple Therapy practice. Her book Martial Peace ___ You can learn more about Jason's couple therapy practice here.…

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60: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples) 7:28

34 weeks ago7:28

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Send us a text Sex can be a powerful way to connect, but for many men, it's often the only way they're taught to access vulnerability and emotional closeness. This can create a rub, especially when partners need emotional intimacy to feel open to physical intimacy. In this blog, we break down the dynamics of intimacy using the metaphor of a wedding cake. Couples thrive when they intentionally build each layer tier of the cake. Listen to discover how to strengthen your relationship, deepen intimacy, and foster connection beyond sex. This episode is in blog form: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples) . For the blog on how to start with awareness of feelings, go here: Get in Touch With Your Feelings .…

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59: How to Fall Back in Love With Your Partner 9:22

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Send us a text Do you two feel like roommates? Or cost-sharing-associates? Have you and your partner drifted into feeling more like roommates than lovers? Just co-parents? Or “cost-sharing-associates?” It’s easy for the initial spark to dim as time passes, but rekindling it is possible. This quick episode talks about how to reconnect and feel love again. I also share why you two have drifted apart, how to break the cycle of disconnection, and how couples therapists help couples do just that. One of our favorite quotes from Terry Real is: “Intimacy is not something you have, but something you do.” I share how you two can intentionally foster intimacy and how you can be that passionate couple again! This blog inspired this episode.…

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58: What are psychological boundaries and what do they mean for you? 7:35

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Send us a text This episode discusses functional, psychological boundaries and what is not. What are not functional boundaries? They are if we are behind walls or boundaryless. We will define that and what physiological boundary violations are. This will also encourage you to reflect on your boundaries as well. Here's the link to the chart I mentioned. You can learn more about our couples therapy practice .…

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57: Let's talk about mess, do you think your partner is sloppy? 6:53

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Send us a text Mess is one of the content issues that come up in couples therapy. If this is an issue for you, you can check out what you can do on your side of the relationship and what you two can do as a team. Link to the Fair Play Card Deck . Click here to read the blog this episode was inspired by: Couples Counseling and Your Messy Partner .…

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56: 4 Things That Can Save Your Marriage 7:27

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Send us a text Is your marriage or relationship on the brink? Here are four things you can do to save your marriage. Essentially, there needs to be something different and not more of the same. These four things are usually the most common complaints partners have. Check it out! Click to learn more about our couples therapy agency in Denver, Colorado.…

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55: What is a Couples Intensive aka Marriage Retreat? 11:53

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Send us a text This episode might be of interest to those of you who may be on the brink of divorce or breakup, for those who don't have a lot of time, and for those who harbor a lot of resentment. In this episode, I share how I define couples' intensives and why they are popular in my practice. Click here for more information about couples intensives . Click here to set up a free couples intensive consult .…

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54: What Does It Mean To Date Forever? Interview with Sammi & Nate Jaeger 47:58

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Send us a text It means being intentional about connection and collaboration. Sammi and Nate share their framework for staying connected and the eight domains they work on together. They share what they’ve learned from over 190 episodes of their Date Forever podcast and over 15 years of being together. Also, they are a lovely couple! Listen to the Date Forever podcast . Work with Sammi to create a fueled-up life: https://www.sammijaeger.com/ Have their goal-setting guide: https://www.sammijaeger.com/agp…

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53: Let's Talk About Sex, Substance Abuse, and Safety. Interview With Matt Salis 29:20

1 year ago29:20