17. When People Resist Your Good Changes: Five Ways to Respond

I Meant to Do That - Motivation, Strategies, Communication Insights, Live and Lead Authentically

In this episode, I'm talking about something nobody mentioned to me in over 40 years of living. People often resist good growth and beneficial changes in you! We often aren't prepared for this, leading to confusion, frustration, setbacks, and conflict. When we make positive changes to our workflow at our job, when we work hard and learn how to do something successfully, or when we grow personally in our ability to stop over-scheduling ourselves, we expect others around us to support and appreciate the good changes. But sometimes people just aren't having it. They resist the good changes.

In this episode, you'll learn more about why some people push back and even push against us. Sometimes the responses reveal the nature of the relationship. Sometimes our loving friends and family are having momentary lapses into self-centered thinking as they adjust to the new you. Either way, we will need to respond to the resistance in ways we feel good about. We don't want to overreact and regret what we say, but we also don't want to bury our feelings and avoid dealing with their behavior, either.

We can respond in logical and healthy ways when facing resistance, no matter who it's coming from. Intentionally responding to resistance helps us keep on our own path, protect our peace, and fairly assess the relationship.

You'll learn more about

• Giving short reply
• Letting people disagree
• Taking a break
• Recognizing Lies
• Trusting yourself (without their affirmation)

This is the episode that I wish that I had in my fourties during an incredibly difficult time. My own growth, boundaries, and healthy changes created so much resistance and pushback. Eventually, I had to let go of close family members because the process revealed their unkind and narcisstic nature. I am grateful to have these responses available to me today when I face resistance. I also continue to be self-aware so that I catch myself when resisting the good change in others.

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Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!

Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!

MA, CPLC, ACC

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