55 | When You Do The Most But Expect The Least: Letting Go Of Shrinking Yourself
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This week's episode dives into self-love and transformation! Join Monique as she discusses the importance of recognizing your worth and embracing your true self.
Inspired by a profound coaching conversation with a client, she explores the concept of being "low maintenance" and its detrimental effects on women, particularly women of color. Monique unpacks the societal pressures that lead us to minimize our needs and accomplishments, urging us to embrace our bigness and the unique contributions we bring to the world.
This episode is a call to action for all women to acknowledge our worth, celebrate our achievements, and demand the support we deserve. Press play to start your journey to break free from the limitations of self-doubt and step into your full power.
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GEMS DROPPED
“An interesting gift of having a strong reflection practice is that the reflection teaches you a lot around what did and didn't work right. What did I learn? What do I need to let go of? What were some of the strengths and the weaknesses of that season? What were the lessons? And now I get to take stock of what in me has changed and what that means for my future. It's not like the analytical sort of assessing and processing, it's something that has the fundamental elements of who I am.”
“The concept of being low maintenance, it's really a special designation that's reserved only for women. It was designed to keep women mentally busy with this impossible sort of dance and not having needs. And so what we're supposed to do is to be small.”
“I think, hopefully, prayerfully, at some point, we have the opportunity to one day catch wind that something is off. Like, how am I supposed to be small and need nothing, yet bear all this fruit, create all of these things and be the vessel for such huge transformation in the world? There's a discrepancy.”
“There are some baseline needs that we all have…ways that we can be more specific, to be more precise about how our bigness functions. When it comes to this level of acceptance and understanding about ourselves, about fundamentally who we are and what we have to offer baseline level, can't nobody take that. Nobody is going to shame you. And it just becomes an opportunity to exist more restfully, more peacefully. And is one of the greatest manifestations, I think, of self love.”
"We are making outsized contributions in the places and spaces that we care about, and we are not treating ourselves in accordance with that contribution. We think others deserve more than we do because there's this distortion that exists in who we actually are."
“We all deserve to have our distorted mirrors absolutely demolished and to see ourselves, in our true radiance and all of our unique nooks and crannies and ways of being as beautiful and worthy of support and love, especially from ourselves.”
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