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Love Yourself First: The Codependency Reality Check You Didn't Know You Needed
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Codependency sneaks up on you. One day you're falling in love, and before you know it, you've lost your sense of self, walking on eggshells and apologizing for things that aren't your fault.
We've both been there. As sisters who've weathered different kinds of relationship heartbreak, we're pulling back the curtain on codependent relationships – what they look like, how they form, and most importantly, how to break free.
Maressa opens up about her realization: "I lost who I was. I lost myself as an individual. I feel like I lost a spark in me, where I was just like a zombie going through the motions." Meanwhile, Natalie reflects on how her self-care vanished during her marriage: "Self-care is selfish – that just shows the toxicity, that lack of control."
The warning signs are everywhere once you know what to look for. Enabling your partner's problematic behavior. Making excuses for them. Avoiding difficult conversations. Apologizing excessively. Losing your boundaries. Sound familiar?
Breaking codependent patterns isn't easy, but it starts with rediscovering yourself. We share practical strategies that helped us: prioritizing self-care without guilt, learning to value yourself without seeking approval, practicing self-compassion, and developing a backbone instead of people-pleasing.
Our paths out of codependency were different – Natalie chose to leave her relationship, while Maressa's ex called off their wedding. Yet both journeys led to the same destination: rediscovering ourselves and building healthier boundaries.
Join us for this vulnerable conversation about healing, growth, and the journey back to yourself. Whether you're in a relationship that doesn't feel quite right or healing from one that's ended, this episode offers both validation and a roadmap forward.
Have you experienced codependency? We'd love to hear your story. Reach out to us on Instagram or through our podcast links.
Chapters
1. Welcome to Dumped and Divorced (00:00:00)
2. Understanding Codependent Relationships (00:02:14)
3. Signs of Codependency in Relationships (00:06:53)
4. Setting Boundaries and Reclaiming Yourself (00:12:30)
5. Breaking Codependent Patterns (00:17:21)
6. Coming Up: Letters to Our Past Selves (00:22:01)
7. Closing Thoughts and Homework (00:27:15)
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