The Truth About The Spark in Relationships

Sex With Emily

Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and

sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss:

● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading.

● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships.

● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy.

● The difference between intensity and intimacy.

● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection.

I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper

self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic

healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality.

Show Notes:

00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know

00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve

00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns

00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals

00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark?

00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy

00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement

00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive

00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety

00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals

00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection

00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark

00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe

00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation

00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection

00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait

00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance

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