Why ‘Letting Go’ Doesn't Work and What Actually Does

The Sacred Womb

have you ever tried to ‘let go’ of behaviors that no longer serve you, only to find yourself repeating the same patterns?

You're not alone.

The popular advice to ‘release what no longer serves us’ or burning our troubles away on the full moon simply doesn't work—and there's a profound psychological reason why.
What we're actually doing when we try to ‘let go’ is pushing away parts of ourselves that have been working diligently to protect us. These patterns began as vital coping strategies during times when our emotions felt overwhelming. By trying to reject these aspects of ourselves, we create further internal fragmentation and erode trust within our own psyche.
The healing begins with a simple but powerful shift: instead of pushing away, try welcoming these parts with curiosity and gratitude.

By locating where we feel these patterns in your body and extending compassion to these aspects of yourself, you create an internal atmosphere of acceptance. When we ask these parts how they've been trying to help us and what fears they hold, something remarkable happens—they begin to feel recognized, valued, and integrated rather than isolated and rejected.
This internal shift doesn't just heal fragmentation; it creates a ripple effect that extends to your external relationships. As you generate more self-acceptance, you naturally begin to vibrate at a frequency that attracts more authentic connections. When we stop seeking validation externally and instead create that environment within, others feel drawn to our genuine presence. It's the ultimate paradox—by fully welcoming ourselves, we create the connection we've been seeking all along.
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Melanie Swan is regarded as a leader in healing the physical womb, restoring the metaphysical womb, and connecting with the cosmic womb.

She’s a Womb Medicine Woman and Soul Worker with 20 year’s experience – who guides and empowers women to come home to their true nature.

She hosts The Sacred Womb Podcast and runs The Womb Healing Training, and is currently writing her first book The Sacred Womb, which is, at its core, a handbook for the empowerment of womankind; due for release in late 2025.

Chapters

1. Why ‘Letting Go’ Doesn't Work and What Actually Does (00:00:00)

2. Welcome and Introduction (00:00:52)

3. The Problem with "Letting Go" (00:01:09)

4. What Happens When We Push Away (00:01:54)

5. Bringing In vs Pushing Out (00:02:29)

6. Creating an Internal Atmosphere of Welcome (00:04:39)

7. How This Changes Your Relationships (00:07:58)

8. Closing Thoughts and Practice Offer (00:08:58)