#36: The Hidden Reason Smart People Make Terrible Life Decisions

Beyond Success

Perhaps the most important skill an intelligent person can learn is the Dao of Decision Making.

Making tough, high-stakes decisions doesn’t come naturally to high achievers because they’ve been fooled into valuing their intelligence more than their emotions. But every decision has its roots in emotions… and relying solely on logic and data for these decisions is a quick way to make a decision that wrecks your marriage, your internal harmony, and even your future fulfillment.

In other words, there is a better way to access the deep kind of wisdom that makes the answer to high-stake decisions obvious.

Problem is, high achievers, by their very nature, have learned to cut off this deep sense of emotional wisdom for their entire lives.

That’s why I recorded this episode. You’ll discover the “Dao of Decision Making" method, figure out how to achieve internal harmony before making any high-stakes decisions, and you’ll also learn techniques to give you clarity for every future decision you make.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to get better at making high-stake decisions (so you don’t accidentally wreck your marriage, your health, or your enjoyment of life) (0:30)
• Why making decisions based on the best arguments and logic can subtly lead you to misery (1:51)
• The deadly “Illusion of Rational Clarity” that pits your emotions against your logic and results in making decisions that sets your internal world ablaze, leaving you miserable and unfulfilled (3:10)
• Here’s the brutal truth behind why smart people make dumb decisions (4:15)
• The psychological reason behind why you get stuck making decisions (and the airy-fairy-sounding solution smart people rarely consider) (10:17)
• Confucius’s secret for achieving “Inner Harmony” so making high-stakes decisions becomes as easy and naturally as walking (12:39)
• Why any decision made from panic or pressure will never be the wisest decision you can make (and how to learn to be still and calm when faced with high-stakes decisions) (16:57)
• Use this quick protocol whenever you feel yourself spinning from a weight and high-stakes decision - it recenters you so that the wise decision become obvious (18:27)

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