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Ask the stupid questions. Also, Freud's boring.
Manage episode 483995581 series 3658142
Why you have to ask the 'stupid' questions. Seriously.
And, Freud's boring. Not opinion. Actual science.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But, L2, I’d rather set my hair on fire than look clueless in front of a room full of people (or, for that matter, one person I secretly—or not-so-secretly—want to impress).”
Hi! I’m Lauren Howard (but you can call me L2—everyone does), and this is Different, Not Broken—the podcast for anyone who’s ever wondered if they’re the only person who can’t quite read between the lines. Spoiler: you’re not alone, and you definitely aren’t broken.
Today, we’re taking on one of the stickiest, sweatiest, most universal social anxieties: the fear of looking 'dumb' by asking questions everyone else must already know the answer to. (You know, the questions you furiously Google at 1am because—let’s be honest—Google is not here for your nuanced, deeply personal, extremely context-specific conversational crisis.)
We’re talking about the actual reason it feels like everyone else in the room knows what’s expected. Except you.
And more importantly, why the people who seem the smartest might actually be as confused as you are.
Come for the reminders that communication isn’t one-size-fits-all; stay for the dead dad jokes, the unfiltered storytelling, and the small but mighty nuggets that might just make life make a little more sense.
Plus—Patreon insiders get access to our text line for real-time social script help. It’s a thing. It’s working. You’re invited.
Here's the link - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/patreon
If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself out of asking for what you need, or just want to feel less alone in a world full of unsaid rules, press play on this episode.
P.S. Oh yeah... if you want to learn how trauma, grief, and novelty work in your brain—and how repetition is the magic ingredient for making even the worst things boring in the end—don’t skip the final ten minutes. For the Freud stuff.
Plus, you might catch a glimpse of the Dungeons & Dragons/DSM-5 crossover you never knew you needed. IYKYK.
Hit play. You have questions. So do we. Turns out, that’s actually the point.
Timestamped summary
03:13 Just Ask
08:47 Encourage Open Communication
09:48 Embrace Reactions, Clarify Boundaries
15:04 Wartime Child Evacuations in WWII
17:28 Brain Processes Trauma Repetitively
21:40 Dungeons and Dragons? WTF?
Want in on our mailing list so you can keep updated on all the cool stuff we're doing? (I can't promise I won't just email you about Marvel stuff) - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/newsletter
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9 episodes
Manage episode 483995581 series 3658142
Why you have to ask the 'stupid' questions. Seriously.
And, Freud's boring. Not opinion. Actual science.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But, L2, I’d rather set my hair on fire than look clueless in front of a room full of people (or, for that matter, one person I secretly—or not-so-secretly—want to impress).”
Hi! I’m Lauren Howard (but you can call me L2—everyone does), and this is Different, Not Broken—the podcast for anyone who’s ever wondered if they’re the only person who can’t quite read between the lines. Spoiler: you’re not alone, and you definitely aren’t broken.
Today, we’re taking on one of the stickiest, sweatiest, most universal social anxieties: the fear of looking 'dumb' by asking questions everyone else must already know the answer to. (You know, the questions you furiously Google at 1am because—let’s be honest—Google is not here for your nuanced, deeply personal, extremely context-specific conversational crisis.)
We’re talking about the actual reason it feels like everyone else in the room knows what’s expected. Except you.
And more importantly, why the people who seem the smartest might actually be as confused as you are.
Come for the reminders that communication isn’t one-size-fits-all; stay for the dead dad jokes, the unfiltered storytelling, and the small but mighty nuggets that might just make life make a little more sense.
Plus—Patreon insiders get access to our text line for real-time social script help. It’s a thing. It’s working. You’re invited.
Here's the link - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/patreon
If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself out of asking for what you need, or just want to feel less alone in a world full of unsaid rules, press play on this episode.
P.S. Oh yeah... if you want to learn how trauma, grief, and novelty work in your brain—and how repetition is the magic ingredient for making even the worst things boring in the end—don’t skip the final ten minutes. For the Freud stuff.
Plus, you might catch a glimpse of the Dungeons & Dragons/DSM-5 crossover you never knew you needed. IYKYK.
Hit play. You have questions. So do we. Turns out, that’s actually the point.
Timestamped summary
03:13 Just Ask
08:47 Encourage Open Communication
09:48 Embrace Reactions, Clarify Boundaries
15:04 Wartime Child Evacuations in WWII
17:28 Brain Processes Trauma Repetitively
21:40 Dungeons and Dragons? WTF?
Want in on our mailing list so you can keep updated on all the cool stuff we're doing? (I can't promise I won't just email you about Marvel stuff) - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/newsletter
Mentioned in this episode:
Join the Patreon
Different, not broken Patreon - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/patreon
Sign Up For Our Newsletter
Stay updated on all the things! Get added to our newsletter mailing list.
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