EP.132 - It's Good To Gup Shup - "Why Am I So Tired? (The Hidden Cost of Carrying Everyone's Emotions)"

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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said that—“I’m so tired… but I didn’t even do that much today.”
And for so many of us, especially in immigrant communities, that kind of tiredness isn’t physical—it’s emotional.

It’s what happens when we’re constantly absorbing other people’s moods, guilt, frustration, disappointment… and calling it caring.
We talk about physical boundaries—saying no, doing less, taking space. But we rarely talk about emotional boundaries.
The kind that help us shield our hearts.
That allow emotional separation from the people we love, so we don’t lose ourselves trying to carry everything they feel.

In this episode, I share what I’ve learned—through conversations, therapy, and my own lived experience—about emotional overfunctioning, how it drains us, and how we can slowly start doing things differently.

This isn’t about cutting people off. It’s about knowing what’s yours to hold—and what isn’t.

So if you’ve been feeling low, confused, or tired without a clear reason… I invite you to listen. This one’s especially for the ones who were raised to “just adjust.”

You deserve to feel light again.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.