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Beyond Feelings: What We've Learned After Two Decades Together
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The feeling that draws us to someone isn't the same force that keeps us there. Frank and Darcie Montgomery celebrate their 19th anniversary by dismantling one of marriage's most dangerous myths: that butterfly-inducing infatuation is the same as love.
Drawing from nearly two decades of experience—including multiple separations, child support court, and profound heartbreak—the couple shares how they transformed their first 13 years of self-centered decision-making into a thriving partnership built on deliberate choices rather than fleeting emotions. "Even when I'm not feeling it, I choose to love you," Frank explains, challenging our culture's dopamine-chasing approach to relationships.
Perhaps most powerful is Darcie's revelation about commitment despite coming from generations of divorce. "I refused to believe the unhealed version of you was the real version," she tells Frank through tears, describing how she "went to battle on her knees" for their marriage when walking away seemed easier. Their journey reveals how selfless love creates a beautiful paradox—when both partners wake up asking "How can I serve my spouse today?" both ultimately get their needs met without demanding their own way.
The conversation expands to explore marriage as ministry, the transformative power of praying together, and why learning to appreciate small everyday moments matters more than elaborate date nights. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, their hard-earned wisdom offers a roadmap for moving beyond feelings to forge an unbreakable bond.
What relationship lesson resonated most with you? Share your thoughts and connect with Frank and Darcie on Facebook or email your story to [email protected].
Chapters
1. Beyond Feelings: What We've Learned After Two Decades Together (00:00:00)
2. Welcome to the Restored Podcast (00:00:19)
3. Infatuation is Not Love (00:01:26)
4. Choosing Love When Not Feeling It (00:03:44)
5. Learning Selfless Love (00:06:04)
6. True Commitment Through Tough Times (00:10:30)
7. Prayer, Forgiveness, and Marriage as Ministry (00:16:26)
8. Finding Joy in Small Moments (00:23:08)
9. Closing Thoughts and Contacts (00:26:10)
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