Welcome to BariAftercare: The Podcast, where weight loss surgery patients learn healthy coping skills for dealing with the emotional and psychological issues related to living an amazing post-op life. Learn to avoid regain and how to lose post-op regain! Hosted by Dr. Connie Stapleton, a licensed psychologist with many years of experience sharing practical skills for improving your post-op relationships: with food, with other people and most importantly, the relationship you have with yourse ...
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Episode 228: That Thief of Joy…Comparison
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1:11:16Theodore Roosevelt called comparison the theif of joy. And all along I thought it was the SCALE that was the theif of joy! Well… I guess it’s all in how you utilize either comparison or the scale that determines whether or not you allow it to steal your joy. Yes – pay attention to those words… whether or not you ALLOW ANYTHING to steal your joy is …
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Episode 227: Easier Said Than Done…Excuse or Reality?
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59:35We’ve all said it a thousand times when it comes to following through with difficult things and/or things we don’t really want to do… We’ve said what? We’ve said, “That’s easier said than done!” And it’s true in nearly every case… because most things in life are genuinely easier to say than they are to do! Working in the field of weight weight loss…
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Episode 226: Facing the Music Together…Identifying our personal Thinking Traps
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1:06:37Every single one of us is guilty of using some pretty common forms of Stinkin’ Thinkin’ at times. Psychologists use fancier word to describe Stinkin’ Thinkin’… we call them Cognitive Distortions. Thinking Traps are also words to describe negative thoughts because they often leave us feeling TRAPPED on a hamster wheel of negative thoughts that spin …
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Episode 225: Specific Tools to Challenge and Change Stinkin’ Thinkin
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1:02:03Did you know that we recyle something like 90% of our thoughts over and over, day after day AND that about 85% of those recycling thoughts are NEGATIVE thoughts? That’s what some research says! And I happen to believe that… even if we’re not aware of all those automatic negative thoughts on the hamster wheel of our mind. We need to change this to m…
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Episode 224: Develop the Skills to Overcome a Self-Defeating Attitude and Take Charge of Your Life
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1:11:15In this week’s episode will teach you skills for ditching self-defeating attitudes and behaviors and for overcoming a victim mentality, which we talked about last week! Learning to be more resilient when setbacks threaten to derail your progress and learning to increase your “I think I can, I think I can” attitude, or self-efficacy, will not only h…
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Episode 223: We All Do This and It Helps No One
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1:11:42Now, THAT’s a vague episode title! And it’s vague on purpose! None of us want to admit to … well, our less than healthy behaviors. Yet the truth is, we all engage in behaviors we would be mortified if others were to witness. The topic of this episode describes a type of behavior and mindset I would bet every one of us has engaged in at some points …
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Episode 222: Dr. Brugman Explains The Connection Between Your Brain and Your Behavior
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58:34Do you ever wonder why you do some of the things you do? And also… why you might not do other things you want to do or plan to do? If you’re human… I’m gonna guess you have wondered those exact same things… maybe on daily basis! Our behaviors are linked to all sorts of things going on in our brains. Listen in as Dr. Joan Brugman helps us better und…
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Episode 221: Life After Weight Loss…by Whatever Means
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1:10:54There are all sorts of ways people choose to lose weight… surgical weight loss procedures, GLP 1’s, Weight Watchers, Noom, and all sorts of various diets such as the Mediteranian Diet, the KETO diet, or tragically, some version of the cabbage soup diet. Here’s the deal… no matter how a person loses weight, they all experience many of the same thing…
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Episode 220: A Post-Op Creates a Business to Help Others Improve Their Lives
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55:59There’s little in life I find more inspiring than when a person takes a difficult situation and creates something amazing out of it! Rob DiMedio is one of those people! Rob, a post-op who chronicled his journey on social media, has taken his passion for health and created a business called Busy Bariatrics. Due to Rob’s passion for taking charge of …
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Food… a red herring? As in… a fish? Nope! So what does that mean… food… a red herring? You think I’m gonna tell you here, in the intro? Not a chance! But when you listen to the entire episode, you’ll learn why Dr. Anita A. Johnson, author of Eating in The Light of The Moon, wrote an entire chapter on this topic. Also, as you listen to this episode,…
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Episode 218: The Wisdom to Know the Difference... Can Make a Big Difference in Your Post-Op Living!
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1:13:27You’ve heard the Serenity Prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot chance, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Turns out the founders of AA did NOT create this thinking. It originated many years BC… before the birth of Christ! The ideas used in the Serenity Prayer come from an ancient Gr…
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Episode 217: Self-discovery After Surgery — Sandra’s Story
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1:22:39People usually have certain expectations when they begin a weight loss experience, whether that means having a surgical intervention, taking medications or participating in a structured program. For many people, some of their expectations are met; some are not. What I find particularly interesting as people lose weight are the things they learn abo…
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Episode 216: Why Do I Need a Psychological Evaluation to Have Bariatric Surgery?
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49:33So many people considering bariatric surgery are confused as to the reason anyone would have to have a pre-surgical psychological evaluation? Why would they need to be cleared by a psychologist just to have weight loss surgery? As today’s guest host, Dr. Joan Brugman, a psychologist who, like myself, conducts many bariatric pre-surgical evaluations…
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Episode 215: Consider the Viewpoint: Overcome the Fear of Failure/Regain
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59:48What does the story of a young child participating in swim meets have to do with fear of failure… or fear of regain? Listen in and gain a different perspective on fear of failure. I’ll talk about how fear of regain can lead you right to that place you most want to avoid! And, of course, I’ll give you some tips on how to lead yourself away from fear…
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Episode 214: Fear of Success Following Significant Weight Loss
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1:15:19Today I have three guests, all members of the BariAftercare program, joining me to talk about their fears of success following significant weight loss. Each of my guests is at a different place in their post-op journey and each is experiencing unique concerns related to their weight loss success. It’s likely that each person who experiences signifi…
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Episode 213: Improved Health and a Better Life — Your Drishtis! Preparation and Patience Required
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53:56I’m introducing a funky new word to your bariatric journey tonight when I ask you to keep your DRISHTI in mind as you move through your years of creating your healthy lifestyle. You need consistent effort, ongoing preparation and a lot of patience to prevent falling back into the dreaded DIET mentality, which can suck you far, far away from your li…
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Episode 212: Boundaries in General and with Food Pushers Specifically
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1:22:38Boundaries can be physical… like fences, or gates at the top or bottom of stairs to keep toddlers and pets from going up or down. Boundaries can also be emotional and are established by using communication skills. Physical and emotional boundaries are often used to keep us safe. Emotional boundaries are essential in healthy relationships. Yet many …
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Episode 211: You Either Got It or You Don’t… Positive Emotional and Mental Wellness – From Then To Now
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1:15:50If you have lost a significant amount of weight and remain preoccupied with the scale, if you allow the scale to determine your mood, if you are overly obsessed with a goal weight, or are struggling to overcome emotional eating… OR if you said you wanted to lose weight to improve your health or to prevent health problems, or because you wanted to b…
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Episode 210: The Connection Between your Relationship with Yourself and Food
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1:10:27I get all passionate in this episode and do quite a bit of self-disclosing. Why? Because I believe with everything that I am that improving your relationship with yourself is the ONLY way you will be able to follow through the behavioral changes that are necessary for keeping weight off long-term or for remaining free from any long-term unhealthy b…
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Episode 209: Discovering or RE-Discovering Your Relationship with Food
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1:13:57Relationships of all kinds can be complicated. And they change over time! Friendships change over time, your relationship with your spouse or partner may be good for years, and then flail, and then get better again! Your relationship with money or social media can change at different stages of life. Your relationship with food may also change over …
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Episode 208: How Did I Get Here? Understanding Your Obesity
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1:12:14How did I get here? I’m guessing you didn’t grow up wanting to have the disease of obesity as part of your adult life! And if you have comorbid health issues associated with your obesity, I’m pretty certain you ask yourself the question, how DID I get here? Well, the chronic disease of obesity is a complicated one. Some of the things that lead to o…
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Episode 207: A BariAftercare Year in Review with Laura Preston!
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1:24:03It’s always an honor and a privilege to have Laura Preston on the podcast with me because Laura IS, in many ways, BariAftercare! She is an organizer extraordinaire, has an understanding of the bariatric community that is unmatched, and has a passion for aftercare as deep as my own. In this episode, we talk about the many ways we, along with our oth…
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Episode 206: Scott’s Bariatric Journey Plays Out on National TV
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1:06:30Scott Bagwill, an active member of the full online BariAftercare program, is today’s guest on BariAftercare, the Podcast! Scott had bariatric surgery almost one year ago and has lost an extraordinary amount of weight. He has also been one of this season’s new “Best Friends” on the TLC network show, 1000 Pound Best Friends. Today you’ll get to know …
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Episode 205: Alcohol: The Facts with Special Guest, Dr. Susan Mitchell
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1:24:54Alcohol… a substance consumed by most people, to include those who are having or have had a surgical bariatric procedure or may be on GLP-1 medications. In this episode, Dr. Susan Mitchell, a PhD educated bariatric-specific registered dietician joins me in talking about how the consumption of alcohol affects those who have had bariatric surgery. I …
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Episode 204: Sanjay Gupta’s Summary about GLP-1s
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1:09:03Last week I took you for a stroll down the Memory Lane of fad diets over the past century and ended up at what is clearly NOT a fad in the world of weight loss: the GLP-1 medications. In this episode I share most of what Dr. Sanjay Gupta and the people he interviewed about the GLP-1’s said about these medications that are now, and I quote, “the big…
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Episode 203: GLP’s for Weight Loss. The Be All and End All?
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1:03:04GLP’s have taken the world by storm and are being used for weight loss by people who medically qualify for them and by people who well… found a way to get them, whether they formally “qualify” for them or not. Weight loss methods date back … probably as far as time… In this episode, I highlight some of the more popular ways people have used to lose…
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Episode 202: Romantic Relationships and Dating after Significant Weight Loss
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1:12:26It’s definitely not only your body that changes following significant weight loss! In fact, most areas of your life are affected when you lose weight. Think about it… in addition to improvements in physical health, people who lose weight get out and participate in more of what life has to offer. They become more engaged in community activities, tra…
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Episode 201: Developmental Stages of Life and Your Relationship with Food
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1:05:29In today’s episode, I’m talking about we start developing our relationship with food during our first days of life! By the time we’re three years old, our belief in our ability to trust ourselves has already begun. Trusting ourselves with food is an issue many people struggle with in their adult lives … do I really trust myself to make healthy choi…
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Episode 200: The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating: A Detailed Description, Part 2
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1:14:34In today’s 200th episode, I pick up where we left off last week and clearly define and describe the remaining 8 principles of Intuitive Eating as outlined in the book Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach, 4th edition, by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch. Last week I spent a lot of time on the first two principles in great detail as th…
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Episode 199: The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating: A Detailed Description, Part 1
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1:09:10Last week I had a fun discussion with Shea Quinn, the newest peer mentor for the full BariAftercare online program. Shea and I discussed intuitive eating and how this eating theory fits, or may not fit, persons who have had a surgical procedure to treat the disease of obesity. I got questions from listeners after the podcast dropped, asking what, e…
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Episode 198: Intuitive Eating — Yay or Nay? A Conversation with Shea Quinn
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1:09:32Intuitive Eating… sounds, well… intuitive, instinctive, automatic. And it is! When we’re infants, anyway…. We are built to eat when we’re hungry and to stop eating when we are physically satisfied. By the time we’re adults, intuitive eating has been interfered with in a whole lot of unnatural ways. We don’t just eat when we’re physically hungry… we…
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Episode 197: Fertility, PCOS and YOUR Bariatric Journey
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1:14:07Did you know that approximately 20% of women suffer with PCOS, or polycystic ovarian syndrome? It affects women of all sizes and shapes and races. For those who also suffer from obesity, having PCOS makes it very difficult to lose weight without intervention. Fertility can also be affected by PCOS and obesity. In this episode, Kate Fuss, an extraor…
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Episode 196: A Big Word That’ll Bring You Big Results — INDIVIDUATION
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1:11:10Individu – WHAT? Yeah… it’s a big, fancy psychological word… individuation. But it’s a word worth knowing and a process well worth going through! Why, you ask? Because individuated people know a lot of things: they know who they are, what their purpose is, what they want, how they feel, what they think, and what they are willing to do and what they…
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Episode 195: Calling all FOODIES — Meet Jared Gleaton, Author of A Feast for the Senses: The Psychological Art of Eating Well
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1:00:54I saw something on Instagram that caught my eye and am I ever glad it did! The reason is that whatever it was (and I honestly don’t remember what it was that I saw) led to this great interview with Jared Gleaton! Jared is a man who knows what it is like to absolutely love food and how food interacts with every one of our senses! He also knows what …
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Episode 194: Katie Chapmon, RD is back with — Your Gut Biome, Part 2!
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1:04:49She’s back with us! Katie Chapmon, who helped me – and hopefully you – better understand some very important information about our gut biome is here with more great information! People had questions after listening to the first episode on the gut biome and wanted more information! Katie enthusiastically shares, in this episode, more fascinating edu…
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Episode 193: The Doom Loop of Irresponsibility
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1:01:08Anyone with a chronic disease knows that a host of factors have collided to result in their having that disease. Obesity being a classic example. Addiction, hypertension and heart disease being others. In many cases, there is a genetic predisposition for a disease and factors in the environment along with personal choices lead to the disease taking…
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In life, when we make changes there are often things we gain and things we lose. A new job may mean the loss of some free time or the loss of a previous job you really liked. The new job also brings gains: perhaps an increase in salary, additional education about your profession, and hey – maybe even a new wardrobe! Bariatric surgery most certainly…
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Episode 191: Your Gut Biome: What YOU Need To Know!
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1:03:46Boy, did I learn a lot of great information in this interview with Katie Chapmon, Registered Dietician, who specializes not only in working with bariatric patients, but also in helping people understand their gut biome and how imbalances in our guts can wreak havoc on how we feel on a daily basis and with our overall health! Listen in and learn thi…
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Episode 190: What Exactly IS Trauma and How Does Trauma Impact Your Bariatric Journey?
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1:05:10The last three episodes of the podcast have focused on Diane Petrella’s fantastic book, Healing Emotional Eating for Trauma Survivors. The core of the information in these episodes has been trauma resulting from childhood neglect or abuse. There is a great deal of misunderstanding when it comes to what trauma is exactly … what kinds of actions or b…
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Episode 189: Book Review of Healing Emotional Eating for Trauma Survivors, Part 2
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1:01:43Let’s pick up where we left off in the last episode, completing the book review of Healing Emotional Eating for Trauma Survivors by Diane Patrella. I’ll continue sharing insights and wisdom that Diane offers readers to help them heal from emotional eating and from trauma that is likely related to their use of food as a source of comfort. I’ve gotte…
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Episode 188: Book Review of Healing Emotional Eating for Trauma Survivors, Part 1
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58:11In the last episode, I interviewed Diane Petrella who wrote this incredible book! Today, I start a thorough book review, sharing with you the insight and wisdom Diane shares with readers to help them heal from emotional eating and from trauma that is likely related to their use of food as a source of comfort. Listen thoughtfully and with an open mi…
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Episode 187: Meet Diane Petrella, Author of Healing Emotional Eating for Trauma Survivors
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1:08:49This podcast episode is absolutely one of my favorite ever! It was a complete honor talking with Diane Petrella, author of Healing Emotional Eating for Trauma Survivors. Diane has been a therapist for the past 40 years and is a therapist anyone would be fortunate to work with! Her years of experience led to her writing the incredible book, Healing …
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Episode 186: Readiness for Change…At Every Step Along the Way
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1:05:55Whether you are getting ready to have bariatric surgery or are one, two or twenty years out from surgery, you can always increase your readiness for ongoing change! Thinking about change and creating change are two different things, as most of us have figured out! Sometimes we talk about making changes but maybe we’re not ready to actually follow t…
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Episode 185: Weight Loss Surgery is Like a Wedding! Who Knew?
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46:05One day I’m going to turn this episode into an ebook… I’ve had that in the back of my mind for years now, actually! So here you go – a sneak peek at the ebook that will one day be available to one and all! For now, listen to this lighthearted but really relevant comparison between what goes into having bariatric surgery and what goes into having a …
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Episode 184: Always Go Back to the Basics — The Bariatric Basics
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1:02:24Getting used to the bariatric lifestyle following surgery can be like a full time job! There are bariatric specific vitamins to take at certain times of the day, there’s a lot of water to be consumed, more than a lot of protein to take in, movement goals to squeeze into the day, and so much more! It can be overwhelming for sure! As soon as it seems…
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Episode 183: Post-Op Amy is Crushing the NSV’s and Kelsey is Helping Her!
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1:10:54BariAftercare’s movement contributor, Kelsey, who is a personal trainer and Burn Boot Camp instructor, met a post-op who is shaking things up in the best way, not only at the gym but in her life as a mom, a teacher, and through her posts on social media! In this episode, Amy highlights the fact that each of us is born to shine in this world! Listen…
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Episode 182: Modification or Transformation. What’s It Gonna Be?
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58:32The Butterfly Effect. You may or may not have heard of this, but the butterfly is commonly recognized in the world of bariatrics to represent the transformation people go through as they modify their bodies through significant weight loss. The transformation of a butterfly is sometimes thought of as being symbolic of rebirth and personal growth. Tr…
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Episode 181: Personal Power, Happiness and Long-Term Success, Part 2
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1:07:17This week I conclude this two-part series on establishing and utilizing a sense of personal power that will facilitate you in defining and reaching your goals, not only related to your bariatric adventure, but your life beyond bariatrics, as well! Having a healthy sense of personal power is an attitude, a way of approaching all areas of your life, …
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Episode 180: Personal Power, Happiness and Long-Term Success
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1:10:10As part of the full online BariAftercare program, we have a word of the week that corresponds to our word of the year, which is accountability. One of the words we recently discussed is the word POWER. This word has a lot of definitions, which I hadn’t thought about until I actually looked on dictionary.com. For our purposes, we are talking about P…
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Episode 179: What Do Mental Toughness For Young Athletes And Life As A Post-Op Patient Have In Common? PART 2
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59:39In this episode I pick up where we left off last week, only in this episode I provide a number of five to ten-minute practical exercises you can use to help ensure your long-term success as a post-op. These exercises are ones the author of Mental Toughness for Young Adults suggests for kids so if they are easy enough for kids…. You and I can certai…
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