Best Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband Podcasts (2025)

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240: Faking Orgasms, Toys, Role of Porn, and Exploring More Intimacy In Marriage 1:02:13

5d ago1:02:13

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In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following: how to grow closer together emotionally overcoming body image concerns as it relates to sex. why women fake orgasms enhancing sexual intimacy with sex toys what the research says about pornography use and its impact on couples exploring rol…

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239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 35:32

13d ago35:32

35:32

This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex. Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who is my guest on this episode today, made her first appearance on my podcast, (and if you want to listen to it, it's episode number 50). What she taught me then about the mental load made a deep impression on me. The mental load as it's ofte…

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238: 7 Candid Answers To Prepare You For A Thriving Sex Life 53:06

20d ago53:06

53:06

I read an excellent book a few years ago. It's for parents talking to their kids about sex. There was a chapter towards the end of the book titled Honeymoon Horror Stories, which really caught my eye and changed the way I think about the importance of getting and teaching our next generation a solid sex education as part of their research for the …

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237: Menopause Shouldn't Suck, with Alisa DiLorenzo 37:37

27d ago37:37

37:37

Women's bodies and brains undergo large changes during puberty, childbirth and menopause. Just like how sexuality hasn't been talked about much in previous generations, at least not in a positive light, menopause also hasn't been a free topic of conversation. It might be a bit funny that a dude is doing an episode about menopause, but I'm really cu…

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236: Your Adult Playground: Transforming Your Sex Life From Obligation to Desire 38:19

1M ago38:19

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Today I want to talk to those who are in a marriage where sex pretty good but maybe a little monotonous at times. Maybe it feels like it's the same old, same old. You wanna kind of spice it up, but then there's other factors involved, including feeling tired. Perhaps it feels like maybe sex is good enough, but you'd really like get to the next grea…

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235: Two Truths and a Lie: Marriage Edition, with Sheila and Keith Gregoire 33:10

1M ago33:10

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Ever play the game "Two Truths and a Lie"? (A person makes three statements, and you guess which two are factual and which one is false.) Well, we get to play that game today on our episode with my guests Sheila Wray Gregoire and her husband Keith (return guests to the Get Your Marriage On Podcast). The Gregoires completed extensive research, surv…

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234: Three Cringe-worthy Marriage & Intimacy Advice, According To A Therapist 23:38

2M ago23:38

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Have you ever received really bad marriage advice? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Kendra Nielson, a fellow marriage coach and therapist. Together we address common pieces of marriage advice that often miss the mark, such as "Never go to bed angry," or "Always put your spouse first," and "Your spouse should be your best friend." And of …

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233: It's Never Too Late to Reinvent Your Marriage: A Sextimony 34:11

2M ago34:11

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I love helping couples through Get Your Marriage On to help them through challenges, to overcome issues in intimacy, and to walk away with feeling like they have a brand new lease on their marriage and realizing how much joy and fun that a good sexual relationship can bring. And one such couple is who I have on my podcast today: Jennifer and Jeff (…

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232: Why So Many Marriages Struggle with Sex (And What to Do About It) 42:36

2M ago42:36

42:36

Just about every couple deals with libido differences from time to time. It seems though, as couples approach middle age and begin to face the second half of their life, the differences in sexual desire, which may have been a back burner issue in the marriage up until that time, seem to become front and center. It's the elephant in the room that t…

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231: Learning to Love Your Body: A Story of Hope from a Boudoir Photographer 48:19

2M ago48:19

48:19

Everyone struggles with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance from time to time. Our bodies are sacred; as the Bible says, we're created in God's image. Yet the enemy of our souls does what he can to discredit and devalue our worth, often by casting shade about our own body image. Today you get to meet Hope Orr, a skilled boudoir photographer …

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230: Upping Your Oral Sex Skills & Adding Adventure to Your Intimacy 41:03

3M ago41:03

41:03

A recurring theme I've noticed in over 200 episodes of the Get Your Marriage On podcast is that those who are willing to push themselves a little outside their comfort zone experience the most joy and growth in their relationships. And this is also consistent with my own experience. My guest today is Kaitlin Hawes. She's a mom and a wife with a gre…

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229: Optimal Sexual Experiences: 8 Factors Backed By Research with Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz 25:44

3M ago25:44

25:44

If you were to pause and think about your very best sexual experiences that you've ever had, can you identify what made them so great? For many years, academics studying human sexuality at universities were primarily interested in figuring out what goes wrong in the bedroom so they can fix it and get back up to baseline functioning. But, the guest…

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228: Why Perfect Sex is Ruining Your Love Life (And What to Do Instead) 26:12

3M ago26:12

26:12

Do you ever feel like a failure at sex? In this episode, I'll be breaking down why perfectionism is the enemy of good sex and how you can build a virtuous cycle of intimacy with small, consistent wins. I'll share real stories, practical strategies, and a fresh way to think about sex that takes the pressure off and brings the pleasure back. If you'…

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227: How to Cool Down Your Nervous System to Heat Up Your Sex Life 46:56

3M ago46:56

46:56

The number one libido killer is stress. And experiencing stress from time to time is just a part of life; however, there are skills out there that'll help you manage it better. One of the black belt sex tips I often teach is a concept called "calm the heck down," which, if you've listened to my podcast for a while, you'll see this theme popping up…

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226: How To Infuse Creativity into Your Sex Life with Role-Play 40:09

3M ago40:09

40:09

Today's episode is about flirting and having fun by trying on a different persona on a date night. It's about using the power of role play to infuse fresh life into your marriage! It's like putting on a different outfit than the one you usually wear and being playful. And because this is get your marriage on, we'll add a sexy twist to it, of course…

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225: The Secret to a Scintillating Sex Life 36:50

4M ago36:50

36:50

Our childhood and families of origin have a profound impact on our worldviews, including our attitudes towards sex and intimacy. Not knowing anything different, for the most part, we tend to intuitively model what we've seen and absorbed from the culture we grew up in. My wife and I are blessed to come from wonderful families. We had good childhoo…

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224: The 5 Phases of a Sexual Relationship 40:10

4M ago40:10

40:10

Take a moment to think about the evolution of your own sexual journey as a couple. How far have you come in the last year? Or the last two years, or the last five years? Is what's important to you today the same as what was important to you in the last two or five years? I bet it's different. It's then reasonable to assume that what's important to …

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223: An Honest Conversation About BDSM (Hint: It's Not What I Expected) - Part 2 28:16

4M ago28:16

28:16

This is part two of the BDSM episodes. Last week we talked about how a BDSM is a exchange of erotic energy and how it's built upon the principles of trust and communication. And in a scene or experience, you have one partner acting in the dominant role and the other in the submissive role. And it's the submissive person who's really in charge of t…

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222: An Honest Conversation About BDSM (Hint: It's Not What I Expected) - Part 1 46:22

4M ago46:22

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Like many of you, I've had questions about BDSM for a long time. I've had preconceived ideas of what it was and wondered how it fits into my faith and the style of intimate play my wife and I enjoy. I have also received emails and DMS from many of you listeners asking me about BDSM in the context of a faithful Christian marriage. I've been hesitant…

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221: Q&A - "Help! My Wife is Vanilla When it Comes to Sex" 28:14

5M ago28:14

28:14

Ever feel like you wish your wife was a little less vanilla? Every wish your spouse would be more enthusiastic about trying new things in the bedroom (or out of the bedroom for that matter)? Ever ask your spouse what their fantasies are, and they look at you with a blank stare or an "I don't know"? Ever get frustrated when, after a discussion about…

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220: Black Belt Sex Tips 4.0 56:45

5M ago56:45

56:45

I studied martial arts for 13 years when I was younger and I became proficient in three different styles of Karate and Kenpo. As you progress towards being a black belt, the fundamentals don't change, but your ability to be more precise and skilled in using those fundamentals improves dramatically. Like in my martial arts training to being a bette…

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219: How Playing With Your 5 Senses Opens the Door to More Erotic Connection 41:56

5M ago41:56

41:56

I am a big believer in play in the bedroom, and I'm excited that you'll get to join me in this conversation with Adam and Karissa King today. Adam and Karissa have a fun Instagram account called Dear Young, Married Couple. And that's how I first met them a few years ago. And get this. They are both marriage counselors. It's a husband and wife team…

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218: The Well-Sexed Wife 44:40

5M ago44:40

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It's hard to believe that my wife and I started this work eight years ago! At that time we were 13 years into a happy marriage, but something was missing. We just didn't quite know what it was. And that's when a friend opened up to me about his sex life and taught me about how a healthy, vibrant sexual relationship permeates not only the marriage r…

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217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman 39:57

6M ago39:57

39:57

I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've come to love eroticism. The root word for erotic is the Greek word eros, which literally means …

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216: Is Wanting Sex Selfish, Dissatisfied by Erectile Dysfunction, Wife's Secret Erotica, and Dildos - Q&A Part 2 30:31

6M ago30:31

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Today is a continuation of last week's question and answer episode, and I am so thankful for all the courageous couples who reached out with their questions. Here's what we discuss in this episode: A husband wondering about using dildos and double penetration and getting some guidance there. A wife whose husband has been experiencing erectile dysfu…

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215: Sex After Porn, Premature Ejaculation, Discomfort Beyond Missionary Position, Wanting To Be Desired - Q&A Part 1 42:02

6M ago42:02

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It's time to answer some more questions from our listeners! Today I'm joined by my colleague, Caroline, to discuss some of the questions that you have. We cover the following topics: A husband who's struggling to connect emotionally with his wife, and he wants to learn how to do that without shutting down. A wife is struggling to find ways to conne…

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214: When Wives Have The Higher Sexual Desire 24:36

6M ago24:36

24:36

Broadly speaking, men are generally more interested in sex than women. However, there are exceptions. Some estimate that 20 to 30% of married couples are in marriages where the wife is the one with actually the higher libido or the higher sex drive. However you want to call it, higher desire wives have a unique challenge that higher desire husbands…

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213: Does Sex Therapy Actually Work for Libido Differences? The Shocking Research Results! 37:04

7M ago37:04

37:04

Sexual desire differences are, unfortunately, very common. In fact, it's one of the top reasons why couples seek sex therapy or any kind of help in their marriage. It's really painful to be in a relationship where your spouse doesn't desire you the same way you desire them. And while it's painful for the spouse with the higher libido or higher desi…

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212: Create A Party Your Libido Wants To Come To with Sofia Ashley 44:05

7M ago44:05

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There's a lot of stress in parenthood (and regular life) that presses on the couple's relationship, which Emily and I know firsthand as parents to 6 children. And I know that maintaining intimacy and being lovers while also being parents and good at our jobs and other responsibilities is a challenge many of us face, which is why I'm so interested i…

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211: Sexual Dry Spells: When Safety Kills Passion 25:42

7M ago25:42

25:42

The holidays are coming up, and this is often a stressful time for a lot of couples. The stress and busyness can often lead couples to fall into dry spells in their sex life. And Emily and I are not immune to those dry spells either. So whether you're in a dry spell or looking to avoid one, this episode is for you! We're going to cover practical wa…

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210: The G-Spot Guide: How to Stimulate, Explore, and Enjoy Together! 33:04

7M ago33:04

33:04

In this episode, you'll learn how to stimulate the "g-spot" and how to have more fun in your bedroom by learning how to work with this beautiful aspect of female pleasure and orgasm. Join us as my guest, Tilly Storm, a sex coach for women, teaches about unlocking this new dimension in your marriage. Even if including the g-spot is already something…

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209: Stop Trying to Change Your Marriage. Let Your Marriage Change You Instead. 48:46

7M ago48:46

48:46

There's definitely a spiritual element to developing an intimate marriage. For example, in order to have really good sex or really deep emotional connection with someone, it requires you to be more honest, true chaste, benevolent, and in short, to do good to your spouse. It requires you to be able to endure all things and to have a lot of hope and …

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208: How This Couple Is Rewriting Their Scripts About Sex & Intimacy For Good 38:09

8M ago38:09

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There are many reasons why a lot of us get off on the wrong foot when it comes to building an intimate marriage for the lifetime; there's shame, purity culture, unmet expectations, and difficulty in communicating about intimate matters, just to name a few. I'm excited for you to meet a couple that has faced all these challenges, like many of you, b…

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207: Top 10 Sex Positions from the Intimately Us App (Sextember Series #4) 13:46

8M ago13:46

13:46

We've come to our fourth and final Sextember podcast episode! It's been a great month culminating in this week's spicy topic. And the whole reason behind Sextember and these types of episodes is to illustrate how important it is that you add variety and novelty to your intimate marriage. This is how you keep it vital for the longterm. Recently some…

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206: What Are Your Yeses, Nos, and Maybes in the Bedroom? (Sextember Series #3) 41:53

8M ago41:53

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This is our third Sextember Episode! So this is also going to be a really fun and spicy podcast to give you inspiration and ideas to make the most out of your Sextember! Today, we get to talk about how to share your fantasies with your spouse (which is really hard to do sometimes) and about the value of adding novelty and spice to your marriage rel…

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205: ForePLAY that Wins The Day (Sextember Series #2) 30:42

8M ago30:42

30:42

Welcome to our second Sextember episode! For this month, every episode will be filled with ideas to add more spice and excitement to your bedroom as part of our Sextember series. Last week, my guest, Tammy Camp, and I talked about flirting and initiating. So today we're going to build on that and talk about another spicy and exciting topic: putting…

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204: Flirting and Initiating in Marriage (Sextember Series #1) 38:24

9M ago38:24

38:24

I am so excited for what's coming up in September! For the next four episodes in the month of September, we will focus on the theme of spicing things up in the bedroom. We're just adding a little more creativity to your lovemaking routines! It's going to be fun and we're doing all this because September for us is Sextember. If you don't know what t…

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203: Why Honesty, Risk, and some Fair Play Lead To Great Connection with Alyson Bullock 44:39

9M ago44:39

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**SEXTEMBER STARTS ON SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 1. DOWNLOAD THE INTIMATELY US APP TO PARTICIPATE** My hope for you after listening to today's episode is you'll laugh a little, be inspired and gain some practical tools that you can use to improve communication about intimate things in your marriage. My guest today is Alyson Bullock, a marriage and family th…

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202: Fatherhood and Fidelity: Men on Keeping Marriage Alive 34:49

9M ago34:49

34:49

In the thick of raising children or building a career or juggling the many demands that life imposes on us, it's easy for couples to feel like relationship matters have been put to the side. You don't intend for this to happen, of course. It's easy for things to feel so vanilla, routine, or monotonous between you and your spouse. So how do some cou…

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201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2 45:03

9M ago45:03

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This is part two of the podcast we released last Friday (#200). And if you haven't listened to that one, I highly recommend you pause this episode and go back and listen to #200 first. These two episodes are continuation of a project that I started a few months ago to better understand what it means for me to cherish my spouse. I shared a tragic st…

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200: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 1 45:41

9M ago45:41

45:41

We recently experienced the loss of a family member very suddenly, a young mom with three children, and it has made me want to love and appreciate and cherish my wife more. And so this set me out on a personal project to understand the concept of cherishing a little better. This project has really changed me. It has changed me in my intimate intera…

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199: How to Banish Fear, Anxiety, and Boredom for a Thriving Sex Life 52:52

10M ago52:52

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It's interesting that we live in a day and age where it's not the popular thing to want a family and a strong, committed marriage with complete fidelity. At least in America, the trend is to make wealth the ultimate measure of our progress in life. But I got to tell you: if you're looking for an investment that would give you a return on happiness,…

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198: Q&A - Erotic literature, overweight husband, discussing trying new things, and wooing your spouse 40:50

10M ago40:50

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I get so many questions through the anonymous question form on my website, so it's time to answer some more. We address these topics today: A husband doesn't feel like his wife values sex and intimacy in their marriage Spouses wondering if erotic literature has a place in a Christian marriage A husband wanting more novelty in a sexual relationship,…

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197: How We Revitalized Sex and Intimacy as Busy Parents: A Sextimony 36:25

10M ago36:25

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Building a long-term, intimate marriage is the most exciting demanding and soul expanding work that many of us will ever do in this life. All of the specific challenges to confront and overcome will be different from couple to couple, but many of the same tools work for many couples. I met Keith and Lindsey through my Get Your Marriage On Program, …

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196: Handjobs, Pegging, Mismatched Libidos, Husband Won't Let Me Initiate: Q&A 37:38

10M ago37:38

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I'm very excited about today's episode today! We get to address a lot of juicy topics, such as the following: a reluctant wife feeling pressure to give her husband a hand job a couple that wants to try pegging, but is unsure about it a frustrated wife that feels like all the effort she's making to improve her marriage is one sided and feels a lot o…

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195: Are You a "Sexual Over-functioner?" with Dr. Kathleen Smith 37:43

10M ago37:43

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In many marriages, there are people that feel like they do far more than their share of the relationship work, but why do they tend to take on the responsibility of their spouse's share of the relationship, especially in stressful situations? Intimate marriages are like a system like an air conditioning and heating system in your home. It works har…

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194: “Is this ok for us to do?” Seeking God’s Direction In Your Sex Life 30:22

11M ago30:22

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"I just have a hard time with some of the things you said on your podcast. How can you be okay with things like toys, lingerie, and even talk about sex so publicly like that. I grew up with the understanding that those things aren't appropriate to discuss." I can absolutely relate. This conversation with this sincere woman took me back several year…

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193: The Fast and Furious: Over-Coming Premature Ejaculation, featuring Mark Goldberg 45:38

11M ago45:38

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I get asked frequently about what to do when you (or your husband) comes too quickly during sex, or has premature ejaculation. I wanted to do an in-depth episode on this topic to address the many questions that we have because frankly, sex isn't that enjoyable when it's over too quick or you just don't last as long as you'd like to. Even if this is…

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192: Why is it Hard to Keep Sex Passionate When You've Been Married for a Long Time? with Jenn Pinkerton & Dan Purcell 39:45

11M ago39:45

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For most couples, there's a lot of hot passion and excitement during the early dating and engagement time and for a while after the wedding. But over time, we develop routines, scripts, and become habituated to each other. This is normal and serves a good purpose. However, herein lies the challenge: how do you create an intimate marriage with lots …

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191: What the Heck is 'Relational Self-awareness,' and How Does it Help You Be a Better Lover? with Dr. Alexandra Solomon 37:24

11M ago37:24

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It's so easy to notice how our spouse is making choices that get in the way of them getting what they really want. Our brains expend tremendous amount of energy trying to get our spouses to see things our way, because from our vantage point, they're self-sabotaging, right? It's so obvious (to us anyway). Of course, our spouses think think the same …

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