Dive into the experiences of living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Hear powerful stories from individuals with lived experience, their families, researchers, and mental health professionals. Each episode provides a strength-based perspective on mental health, filled with humor, raw emotion, and validation. Every other week you will learn from a group of Super Feelers about how they navigate the world using Dialectic Behavioural Therapy skills. Whether you’re navigating these cha ...
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Welcome to the Mental Elf podcast, which features interviews with leading experts in mental health: researchers, clinicians, practitioners and experts by experience. I will help you keep up to date with the latest reliable mental health research. Our podcasts are recorded at major mental health events and conferences, and explore a wide range of topics relevant to people who work in mental health and related fields. Check out the Mental Elf website for thousands of free blogs summarising the ...
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Over the course of 36 podcasts we will explore the A to Z of mental health topics. This podcast is meant to facilitate discussion and hopefully help to remove stigma around a whole range of topics and issues. This is not a therapy podcast and I urge you to talk to you GP, Mind or someone you trust if you find any of the issues we touch on triggers anything for you. Every podcast is also raising money for Mind, so please support if you can by either clicking the link to donate in the podcast ...
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Why Certification Matters: Discussing DBT-LBC Certification (feat. Meredith Meyer, LMFT)
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51:31Meredith Meyer, LMFT, from the DBT Linehan Board of Certification comes on The Super Feeler Podcast to talk about the significance of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) certification and full DBT programs that are properly aligned with Marsha Linehan’s vision. We also discuss what brought DBT into Meredith’s life, its application in marriage and fa…
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BPD Symptoms: Frantic Efforts to Avoid Real or Imagined Abandonment
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1:25:21Welcome to a brand new Super Feeler mini-series! Every other week, we're diving deep into the nine symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with a panel of people who live it! In our first episode, we’re talking about frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment — a symptom that many of us feel in our bones. We get into what this …
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From Trauma to Trust: a Journey in Psychotherapy.
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24:57Exploring Power Imbalance, Systemic Racism, and Dialogue in Mental Health. A conversation with Maxine Dennis for the 2025 BIGSPD conference. Join André from The Mental Elf for episode three of the BIGSPD 2025 Podcast in conversation with Maxine Dennis, a consultant clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst. They discuss power imbalance, systemic raci…
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Creating a Life Worth Living Through DBT (feat. @the.mindful.wildflower)
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54:27Michelle, the creator of the IG page @the.mindful.wildflower shares about her journey with BPD, diving head first into DBT and what it was like to move across the country, quit her job and go through a breakup all at once. Michelle shares her journey of navigating friendship, healing and recovery in a new place and how it has motivated her to help …
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DBT Skills: Diana Joins Skills Cast To Chat
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1:29:50Diana Partington is back to talk with our DBT Skills cast about what it was like to listen to us work through her book together! Together we discuss about the transformative power of DBT and the importance of community support in the journey of recovery. A lot of tears are shed - thank you for being on this beautiful journey with us. Check out Dian…
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Cultivating Democratic Mental Health: Relational Practice and Cooperation
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18:58Relational Practice: making hope possible rather than despair convincing. Join André from The Mental Elf for episode two of the BIGSPD 2025 Podcast as he discusses relational practice and democratic mental health with Professor Mick McKeown. Mick is a mental health nurse academic who shares his insights on the intersection of sociology, philosophy,…
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Mental Health Advocacy on Campus (feat. Kails)
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37:53Kails (@prettybpdpisces) joins the pod to share about her BPD journey and how it led her to mental health advocacy. She discusses her work with NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) and her efforts to create a more supportive mental health community on her university campus. To learn more about her university club click here! If you want to su…
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Dialectical Behaviour Therapy: Past, Present, and Future
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35:53Exploring DBT: Techniques, Efficacy, and Lived Experience #BIGSPD25 Welcome to episode 1 of the BIGSPD 2025 podcast, hosted by André from the Mental Elf. This episode dives deep into Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) with guest experts Professor Michaela Swales, Programme Director at the North Wales Clinical Psychology Programme, and Jenifer Dyla…
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Let's chat about Alternate Rebellion - could this be the most important time in recent history to be talking about this DBT skill? The conversation explores the complexities of rebellion, bravery, and the importance of sharing personal stories in the context of mental health and healing. Trigger warning: Throughout the episode we speak about sexual…
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Darren Williams - Bridging Disciplines: Highlights from the 2025 IoPPN Research Festival
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13:34In the final episode of the 2025 IoPPN Research Festival podcast, André from The Mental Elf welcomes Dr. Darren Williams from Kings College London to discuss the upcoming festival. Dr. Williams shares insights into the diverse range of topics and speakers that will be featured, including presentations on religious cognition, autism, and the transfo…
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Juliet Foster - The ‘whole university’ approach to mental health and well-being.
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15:36Welcome to episode 2 of the 2025 IoPPN Research Festival Podcast! In this episode, André from The Mental Elf speaks with Professor Juliet Foster, Professor of Social Psychology from the Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology and Neuroscience at King's College London, where she is also the Dean of Education and academic lead for student mental health a…
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The Power of Accessible DBT Skills (feat. Dr. Kiki Fehling)
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55:45Dr. Kiki Fehling, a super feeler psychologist, author, influencer, and super feeler joins the pod to talk all about Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), its accessibility, and the importance of skills for all parts of life. Kiki shares about their journey learning DBT while training as a psychologist and their desire to develop more accessible DBT-b…
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Walking With Love: Sashbear, Family Support & the Power of Community (feat. Lynn and Sandy)
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47:52This week we're joined by Sashbear Foundation founder Lynn Courey and Sandy, a family partner involved in Sashbear's Family Connections Program. The Sashbear Foundation, is an internationally recognized Canadian charity focused on supporting families affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) and emotion dysregulation. Sashbear was created f…
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In this episode we focus on distraction techniques, emotional regulation, and navigating relationships. Kat talks about 'future faking' in relationships and we all talk about how helpful the idea of "worry appointments" is! The conversation emphasizes the balance between distraction and avoidance, and how understanding these skills can lead to bett…
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Losing Your Child to the System While Navigating Your Own Abuse (feat. Kati)
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55:37This week I’m joined by Kati, who shares her journey with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). Kati discusses her experiences as a young mother and the impact of childhood trauma on her own life. She shares about her abusive relationship, the loss of custody of her son, and her path to healing th…
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Edmund Sonuga-Barke: RE-STAR - multidisciplinary adventure in participatory translational science
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16:34Welcome to the 2025 IoPPN Research Festival Podcast! In this first episode, we hear from Professor Edmund Sonuga-Barke, a leading expert in developmental psychology at King’s College London. He introduces RE-STAR—a four-year, interdisciplinary research programme. RE-STAR stands for Regulating Emotions – Strengthening Adolescent Resilience. It focus…
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DBT Skills: Self Soothing with the Five Senses
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23:58Self-soothing isn’t just about bubble baths and candles—it’s about survival. In this episode we discuss the DBT skill of self-soothing through the five senses, exploring how sensory awareness can be a lifeline in our hardest moments. Self-soothing looks different for everyone, so you'll hear from Dave, Laurie, Heather, Kat and Shannon about our own…
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Navigating Estrangements and Legal Battles (feat. Katelyn)
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1:10:30Katelyn shares about her journey through estrangement from her parents, the legal battles that ensued, and the impact on her mental health. While she doesn’t have a BPD diagnosis she is certainly a Super Feeler and her journey is super relatable to many of us. Together we explore the complexities of family dynamics and parenting, the role of secret…
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It's time for the most controversial of all DBT skills! Radical acceptance.... or shall we say "radical reality"? This week we talk about distress tolerance skills in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), with a focus on (one of) Laurie's favorite skills radical acceptance. We dive into the struggles of radical acceptance, the difference between will…
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International Advocacy for Personality Disorders (feat. Åse-Line)
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59:28Åse-Line Baltzersen shares about her experiences living with and recovering from personality disorders, particularly in the context of living in Norway. Åse-Line shares her journey from diagnosis to recovery, her involvement in international advocacy, and the evolving understanding of personality disorders throughout the world. To learn more about …
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While it's not a DBT "skill" per se, figuring our what your values are and learning how to live them weaves into a lot of DBT skills. The DBT Skills panel (Dave, Kat, Heather and newest member Shannon) explore how understanding our personal values can lead to a more fulfilling life through self-reflection. We also talk a bit about the Kaizen philos…
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Navigating the Wounded Parts of Myself (feat. Daniel)
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58:43Daniel Mojica (@__mojii._), is a 21-year-old university student navigating life with borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this episode Daniel shares his journey of self-discovery, the challenges he faced growing up in an invalidating environment, and how he came to terms with his diagnosis. Together we explore themes of self-discovery, communi…
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Meet our new DBT Skills series guests Kat and Heather! In this episode we break down the PLEASE skill from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. It's an IMPORTANT one. If you're new to the PLEASE skill here's a little breakdown for you! P – Physical Health: Address any physical illness, injuries, or medical concerns. Follow doctor’s recommendations and ta…
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Experience of Suicidality During the Pandemic (feat. Dr. Juveria Zaheer)
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51:29Dr. Juveria Zaheer is an expert in suicide risk assessment and prevention, a psychiatrist and a literal Jeopardy superstar. She is currently exploring the impacts of the COVID pandemic on suicidality and how the pandemic impacted Canadians. Together we discuss the complexities of suicidality, the need for accessible targeted treatments and why it’s…
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Cope Ahead is a particularly helpful life skill from dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) that helps us preparing for difficult interactions by coming prepared with healthy coping strategies. Laurie, Dave and Megan discuss how they use this skill to help manage social interactions and family dynamics. Get your own copy of 'DBT for Life' by Diana Par…
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Poetry, Sobriety, and Healing (feat. Mercedes Killeen)
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41:43Mercedes Killeen is a writer and mental health advocate who has struggled throughout her life with anxiety, depression, BPD, and alcohol addiction. In this episode, Mercedes shares her story of working towards sobriety, seeking mental health treatment, and healing through writing/creativity. You can learn more about Mercedes' work here. To purchase…
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Time to discuss Opposite Action! Long story short - Opposite Action means doing the opposite of what you want to do when what you want to do isn't effective. Easier said than done of course - but an incredibly helpful tool once you're practiced at it. Part of that practice is recognizing unskillful urges, and the learning the balance between feelin…
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Breaking Down BPD Stigma Through Research (feat. Dr. Amanda Uliaszek)
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52:22Dr. Amanda Uliaszek, associate professor at the University of Toronto, joins Super Feeler to discuss her passion for research for people living with borderline personality disorder, reducing stigma, and including people with lived experience in the research process. We discuss the importance of a strengths-based approach to BPD, the challenges of c…
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DBT Skills: Check the Facts and Emotion Regulation Overview
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50:55We're diving into the complexities of emotion regulation as we start unit 3 of our DBT Skills Series. Together Dave, Laurie and Megan explore the role of emotion regulation skills in our life, what our core values are, and how we use the dialectical behaviour therapy skill Check the Facts in our lives. Get your own copy of 'DBT for Life' by Diana P…
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My Suicide Crisis and First Inpatient Treatment (part 2. feat. Aaron)
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57:29In this episode, my husband Aaron and I discuss my first inpatient/residential treatment experience at a crisis response facility called CRESST. Together we explore the decision to go, what it was like to arrive with very limited information, and the importance of rest, monitored med management, and community. And naturally - some ridiculously hila…
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My husband Aaron joins to share about my recent suicide crisis, how we worked together to try and overcome it, and how we tried to navigate a complicated medication change together. Naturally - this episode comes with a trigger warning about discussing suicide and self-harm. It discusses some potential methods but not in detail. If you are struggli…
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Validation is so important for people living with borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this episode we discuss the DBT Skill of validation including the complexities of giving and receiving validation, the challenges of navigating emotional conversations, and the techniques that can enhance effective communication. Understanding our own emotio…
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A Transformative Treatment Experience (part 2 - feat. Anita)
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57:31Anita is back for part 2 to discuss their transformative experience at Heartwood Centre for Women. They explore the impact of community support, the complexities of gender identity, and the importance of self-discovery. Anita shares their insights on resilience, personal growth, and the unique perspective that comes from navigating the highs and lo…
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Small Town Queer Living with BPD (part 1 - feat. Anita)
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47:50Anita (they/them) discusses the complexities of being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD), struggling with substance use and being queer in a small communtity. They share about the impact of a community of family (chosen and blood) and how a caring and compassionate treatment team can make all of the difference. Be sure to subscrib…
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DEAR MAN is Laurie's favorite DBT skill. If you've listened to any episodes of this series or her previous podcasts you'll have heard ALL about it. But it's such a helpful skill that there's always an excuse to hear other examples where it's used. The DEAR MAN skill, from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), helps effectively ask for what you want o…
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The Healing Power of Nature (feat. Shannon)
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1:05:10Shannon (@natureanditsnoise) shares about her BPD diagnosis, how supportive family role models impacted how she reacted to her diagnosis and the impact of nature as a healing space for her. Shannon emphasizes the power of the Super Feeler community has on her journey and the unique strengths that come with being a Super Feeler. You can listen to Sh…
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Dive into interpersonal effectiveness skills from dialectical behaviour therapy with Laurie, Shanthi and Dave! In this episode they discuss the importance of clarifying priorities and figuring out what matters most in relationships. They also share personal experiences and insights on how to navigate interpersonal interactions effectively. They dis…
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Setting Boundaries, Breaking Cycles and Doing Better for Our Kids (feat. Chelsea)
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1:20:36Chelsea shares her journey as a superfeeler and how it has impacted her life. She discusses her struggles with postpartum depression, psychosis, OCD, and mastitis after giving birth to her son. Chelsea talks about her decision to quit her job and enroll in school, only to face the challenges of online learning and being diagnosed with ADHD in adult…
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Rob Waller: Using routine clinical data to support mental health research
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36:56The Mental Elf previews the NHS Research Scotland Mental Health Network Annual Scientific Meeting with Dr. Rob Waller, Consultant Psychiatrist from NHS Lothian. They discuss the rapid digital transformation in NHS mental health services triggered by the COVID-19 pandemic, particularly the implementation of video consultations and electronic records…
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Deborah Cairns: Addressing the health inequalities faced by people with learning disabilities
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16:34Join Douglas Badenoch and Prof. Deborah Cairns from the Scottish Learning Disabilities Observatory as they delve into the health disparities faced by those with learning disabilities. In this podcast preview, Deborah shares groundbreaking research findings from comprehensive health checks, cancer studies, and big data analysis. Learn how collaborat…
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In this episode, Laurie, Shanthi, and Dave the DBT Skill Effectively, using Chapter 5 of the book 'DBT for Life' by Diana Partington. The group shares personal experiences and insights on using this skill in various situations, such as dealing with difficult family dynamics and customer service interactions. They also discuss the importance of assu…
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Veenu Gupta: The Evolution of Lived Experience Roles #NRSMH24
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30:10This Mental Elf podcast is part of the NHS Research Scotland Mental Health Network's Annual Scientific Meeting, 7th November 2024. Host Douglas speaks with Dr. Veenu Gupta, Assistant Professor at Durham University, about the burgeoning role of the Lived Experience Workforce in mental health research. Dr. Gupta, who has personal experience with psyc…
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Megan (@borderlinebarrister) was first diagnosed with BPD while in law school. She discusses her experiences with mental health throughout her life, including struggles with anxiety and panic attacks. Megan discusses her journey of living with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and the impact it has had on her relationships, including with her p…
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This episode delves into the intricacies of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), focusing on the mindfulness unit and the 'Describe' skill. They explore how to differentiate between facts and opinions, the challenges of gaslighting, and the importance of trusting one's own reality. The conversation emphasizes the interconnectedness of DBT skills, pa…
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Ryan Harland (IG: @ridingthestorm11977) is the author of Riding the Storm: A Memoir of Mental Illness and a father of 2. He shares about the impacts of his own childhood trauma, including parental sexual abuse and physical violence, in the development of his emotionally unstable personality disorder (aka borderline personality disorder or emotional…
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We dive into the Stop and Observe skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and how it can be applied in various situations. Dave, Shanthi, Megan and Laurie discuss the challenges of remembering to use the skills in the heat of the moment and share tips on how to remind oneself. They also talk about using the stop skill in family gatherings, c…
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Taking Action Against Stigma (feat. Sonia)
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47:52Sonia (@_soniastewart_) is a great example of what it means to be an ally to people with specific highly stigmatized mental health challenges and what you can do to help break down stigma when you see it. Sonia is a Masters of Counselling student who reached out to Laurie after her program was providing stigmatizing, unbiased and harmful stereotype…
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In this episode, Laurie and her guests Dave, Shanthi and Megan discuss the concept of wise mind in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). They share personal experiences and insights on how wise mind combines emotional and rational thinking, and how it can help individuals make better decisions. The guests also talk about the importance of acknowledgi…
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Cultural Norms that Impact our Symptomology (feat. Bora)
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1:08:10Bora is a 31 year old engineer and a mother of two who immigrated from Albania to the USA as a child. She shares about the impacts of a variety of cultural norms (like that of her home country, xenophobia in the US, her profession, academia, and childcare services) that have had a profound impact on her mental wellness. Stay tuned for a second epis…
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In this episode, Laurie and her guests Shanthi, Dave and Megan discuss the book DBT for Life and the concept of mindfulness in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). They highlight the accessibility of DBT skills for everyone, not just those with borderline personality disorder (BPD). The guests share their personal experiences with DBT and how it has…
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