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My story. Reflecting my opinions and perspective - in my words. In the early spring of 2019, after several years of trying to sort through our erratic relationship - and under the influence of a gatekeeper partner - my (young) adult daughter made the difficult choice to cut all communication with our family. I know now that she tried for a very long time to get her messages across to me - years - without success. I remember times when she explained that she needed me to listen and know her b ...
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Rebuilding Trust: How Estranged Moms Can Reconnect- Episode 2
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. This episode is a follow-up to our Mother's Day conversation—and it's all about what to do next. If you’ve been blamed, shut out, or accused of things that hurt to hear… this one’s for you. We’ll walk through h…
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When Mother’s Day Hurts: 10 Reasons Our Kids Pull Away
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of emotional turmoil, can trigger our grief, and can shine a light on the empty chair at the dinner table - especially when your relationship with your adult child feels broken o…
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Close But Different: Rejection vs Dejection
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. If you’re experiencing some degree of estrangement, you have almost certainly experienced the sting of rejection and the emotional gut punch of dejection. When some part of our involvement in our relationship i…
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5 Differences: Therapist or Coach? Which is best in my circumstances?
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Ever wondered whether you need a therapist or a coach to help with your family estrangement (or any big life challenge)? Or maybe both? What if a person is professionally licensed and trained as both a therapis…
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It's True, Mom's and Dad's Experience and Navigate Estrangement Differently (Short)
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. In this episode, we dig into some of the differences and similarities of how moms and dads tell us they experience and navigate estrangement. Yes, dads and moms often experience estrangement differently. And, i…
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The "Let Them Go" Movement and It's Distant Cousin "Let Them Go - Good Riddance" (Short)
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. The "Let Them Go" movement grew out of the emerging phenomenon of parental and family estrangement. Originally the movement was based on positive acceptance, open minded awareness, and love. This movement empha…
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Stop The Noise! The 20 Gifts of Walking on Eggshells (Short)
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the extreme hypersensitivity parents feel when their relationship with their adult child is faltering. It means being hyper-aware or fearful of saying or doi…
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. So often, people who love and support us are also in contact with or know our distancing or estranged adult child. I'm often asked whether it is "a good idea" or "will it work" to have one of these people talk …
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What the H@!! are they talking about? Reproductive Memory vs Reconstructive Memory (Definitions and Differences) Short
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Memory distortion is common in our human experience. It can be particularly relevant in crumbling relationships between parents and their adult children. Too often, what were once happy or benign memories morph…
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What's the Difference? Apology and Explanation (Short)
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. In healthy and effective communication, the strategic use of apologies and explanations can significantly influence the outcome and effectiveness of our efforts to manage potential rifts in our relationships. B…
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Houston We Have a Problem! Are Parents Scrubbing the Launch?
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Remember the 2006 comedy Failure to Launch, starring Sarah Jessica Parker and Mathew McConaughey? I found it pretty easy to identify with Kathy Bates, who plays the mom (Terry Bradshaw plays the dad) – of a son…
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6 Stages of Estrangement Grief - An Overview - Episode 1 of 7
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Are you cycling through your emotions at warp speed? Are you angry in one moment and crippled by sadness in the next? Are you feeling helpless and hopeless? Wondering if life will ever be good again? Are you em…
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5 Signs Your Relationship with Your Adult Child Is Unraveling – The Yin and Yang of Estrangement
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Is your relationship with your adult child falling apart? Are things between you changing, but you can't quite understand why? Are you looking for ways you can stop the unraveling without making things worse? H…
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Wait! What? You're leaving?! Does this mean we're estranged?
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Is your adult child walking away? Did you miss the warning signs? How can you make sure it doesn't get worse? In this episode, I will define estrangement and we will get familiar with the continuum of estrangem…
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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Hello Sweet Parents, Welcome to the When Our Adult Children Walk Away Podcast. I invite you to join me for a series of episodes in which we dig deep into the challenges today's parents face as we navigate the e…
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