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Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers

CPTSD, Intergenerational PTSD, Relational Trauma | TMFR LLC

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Part of the Traumatized Motherfuckers' Research Project: What you need to know about CPTSD, in bitesized summaries of our in-depth research efforts. Peer-reviewed research and irreverent dark humor meet trauma recovery, without the "bright sides." Let's talk about the complicated experience of rectifying a life built on trauma, relearning how to have relationships, and re-imagining your future... in micro chunks. (When you're ready, jump into the deep end, detailed below.) You aren't alone, ...
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The show’s goal is to help you learn about different ways you heal from past emotional wounds and trauma. Hosted by mental health therapist Rosa Shetty, who specializes in helping adults heal from childhood trauma. Topics center on inner child work, ancestral healing, psychology, yoga, meditation, magic, energy healing, arts, and indigenous healing modalities. The episodes are free-flowing conversational-style with a diverse group of guests. If you find yourself asking the following question ...
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VIDEO (FREEEEEE) Compassion requires protection in the form of relationship-allowing boundaries. read: not relationship-ending rules. What are boundaries, how do we set them, and how do we make sure they're enacted? Talking inner and outer boundaries to separate their shit from yours, so love can exist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mo…
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So my CNS has been plugged to a 50amp this week, hburs? Gratefully heard some sounds under the near-full moon that swept a bitta anxiety away Have an immersive walk and some guided visual breaths with Marcus and me It's a predawn stroll through waterfalls and frogs, break glass in case of nerves on fire Goin nature zen, Fuckers 😮‍💨🌱💦🌊🐸🌕✨ Video Host…
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A VIDEO Memories detached from the whole -> views too big or too small which lock the brain into patterned behaviors and outcomes. Talking perspective resizing and generational ego acquisitions in our Feb drop. And for all the unfolding expansions? Come check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more info…
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This new episode is with Dolores Villanueva, LCSW. Dolores is a mental health therapist, professor, entrepreneur, mental health advocate, and speaker. In our conversation, Dolores shares her life story, her wisdom from navigating adversaries, and healing. To learn more about Dolores check out her IG @letsweavewisdom. Disclaimer: This podcast episod…
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What waits inside your self? STRESS, BIG EMOTIONS, MISALIGNMENTS, AND HUMILIATING MEMORIES, anyone? Let's summarize these stops on our spooktacular self-adventure. VIDEYUM! For the full ride, including DISASSOCIATION, the WHAT'S NEXTS, and FEAR check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers Happy holiday season ❄️☃️❤️‍🔥 leave a holiday tip Hosted on Ac…
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Video! It's that time. Whether you're NC, LC, or BC (bitter contact), it helps to integrate evidence and recognize your personal "ENOUGH." For more help with the holidays, check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers and find the free Holiday Survival Collection. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…
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We're doing something extra 💀 It's a halloween, election, and holiday season special! 💀 Today we begin exploring our abandoned selves and exorcising awaiting demons. What's in store when we reconnect with our lives? Stress, the big negative feels, constant disassociation attempts, horrifying memories of self, tense misalignments between beliefs and…
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The filthiest words: love yourself. 🤮 Why does trauma create barriers between us and... not hating us? Talkin' lost relationships, criteria for love, loss of self, and the endless self scrutiny created by post-traumatic judgments. It's a BIG EPISODE with some BIG ANNOUNCEMENTS - grab your pepto and let's talk about "self-love-y." WATCH IT HERE Host…
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For this episode, I invited Prisca Dorcas Mojica Rodriguez. Prisca is a storyteller, public theologian, and feminist. Prisca just released her second book "Tias and Primas: On Knowing and Loving the Women Who Raised Us." She is also the best-selling author of the book titled "For Brown Girls with Sharp Edges and Tender Hearts." In our conversation,…
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This episode is with Judy Stella, LCSW, author of Reverence: Echoes of Healing and Gratitude. In our conversation, Judy discusses what inspired her to write her deeply personal memoir. Trigger warning: Childhood trauma is discussed in this episode. Judy shares her story about growing up in Lennox, California and overcoming childhood abuse and adver…
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This episode is with Irisneri Alicea Flores. Irisneri is a professional genealogist from Puerto Rico. She completed genealogical research on my maternal side, and I will be sharing this with you all. The purpose of this is to give you all a glimpse of what to expect when working with a genealogist. Irisneri will demonstrate how she starts the resea…
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When life serves conflictual and confusing information, our brains simplify it to survive... and fuck us over in the long-run. Let's talk about the "ALL GOOD" and "ALL BAD" self-defense mechanisms of Splitting and Projective Identification, what function they serve as children & adults, and how they create shitass trauma-bound lives down the line. …
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Ready to learn about the maladaptive tendencies of your most difficult relational partners? When we don't believe we're "entitled" to a need or emotion, we vent it into (unwise) action. Let's discuss the immature cognitive patterns we/others may still be utilizing to keep our brains "safe." We'll cover the lowest level self-defense mechanisms: Acti…
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We've learned that narcs don't generally recover because of their "creative narration" abilities. Now, let's talk about some of the ways they spin those stories. Today, we start our examination of self-defense mechanisms by looking at the purposes of Intellectualization and Rationalization. Then, we ask the question: SO HOW SMART ARE THEY? And disc…
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They'll shake your hand while pissing on your leg, plead and then pulverize promises, and generally give the sense that they're one hundred people who share a face. But why? Let's talk about narcissist personality structuring that ranges from neurotic to psychopathic, but never hits the mark of "maturity." Meanwhile, creating the condition I've tit…
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"Just feel good about your authentic self and don't let anyone wreck your recognition of specialness." Right. Let's talk about what may be holding us back from achieving this safe, centered, self-supportive, resilience-boosting psychological station, and the easiest way to achieve the "healthy self" that's never been otherwise defined. Adaptive Nar…
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This new episode of the podcast is with Maydelli Alitzel Mendoza de Escobar. Maydelli is an undocumented warrior-turned-conscious entrepreneur, transformational life coach, mental health advocate, and speaker. She began her spiritual journey 18 years ago, searching for inner healing. In our conversation, Maydelli shares her life story, her wisdom f…
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Trigger Warning: Sexual violence is discussed in this episode. This episode is with Brenda Martinez; she shares her story of surviving sexual violence, how she came to own and feel empowered by her story to help other women. Brenda founded Seek & Shine, an organization created to provide resources for women for individual and collective transformat…
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Trigger Warning: Sexual Abuse is discussed in this episode. This new podcast episode is with Robert Falconer, an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, teacher, and writer. He has worked with trauma survivors for a significant part of his career. His primary focus now is working with unattached burdens (UB), which is a term used in IFS therapy to…
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Why is the decision to sacrifice or save our brains so difficult to make? Let's talk about subconscious narratives we probably all carry, the ambivalence-guilt connection, and the power of perception on caregiving burden. Find the transcript at t-mfrs.com Looking for the 9 full episodes on this topic? Hit up the Filial Obligation Collection on patr…
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A big 'nouncement; so long TMFRS! Then let's talk about what constitutes a VulNarc versus "a person with CPTSD." Where does the chronic manipulation come from? How are recovery resources used for trauma-unhealing? What's up with the hostility and antagonism? . Lots to cover in this mashup of "time, space, and energy" meets "VulNarcs" and "trauma-se…
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This new episode is with mental health therapist Carolina Quiroz, LCSW. Carolina shares her journey of healing from an eating disorder that she developed during her adolescence. Carolina also shares tips and strategies that help rest and restore. We also discussed spirituality and the role of spirit entities in the therapy room. We talked about boo…
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This year we spoke about Intimacy. Now it's time to confront *Intimacy.* Let's look at the discrepant programs that live inside of us, gathered across a lifetime of adaptation to extreme events and unhealthy narratives. We're talking Sexual Healing vs. Internal Family Systems and deprived needs. Need this conversation more than you knew? Check out …
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We're tying up loose ends in our discussion of relationships! Today, discussing the cognitive copy-pastes we accidentally carry out between past and present relationships - and they ways they set us back in our recovery goals while creating abusive dynamics. Need more thoughts about transference in all its forms? I've got another hour of material a…
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***Trigger warning: In this episode I share about pregnancy loss. This is my most vulnerable episode. The goal is to open up about my experience and my journey in navigating a very challenging 2023. I share what has helped me cope and process difficult times. I also read a brief excerpt by Buddhist philosopher Thích Nhất Hạnh from his book "No Deat…
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Let's cut the brainy shit, the real answer to surviving the holidays is not abandoning yourself. Need more holiday support? Don't we all. For all the other holiday freebies, just hit up patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers. Search "holiday" to find releases from the past for no cost, or subscribe to access the pre-wrangled Holiday Survival Collecti…
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Back to NonViolent Communication! Here are 10 things the experts say destroy our attempts at vulnerable disclosures and requests. Just in time for the holidays, let's talk about why these conversational reactions burn our t-brains and why people are programmed to use them, anyways. For the full transcript and all the doods, check t-mfrs.com and get…
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We learn to neglect ourselves at an early age and then everything goes to hell forever after. Stuck in unfixable suffering, toiling away with ineffectual attempts to comfort ourselves, and possibly... destroying our own lives, in an attempt to end the self-deprivation through backdoor methods. Let's talk about needs and what happens when we learn t…
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"Depression is the reward we get for being good children." NVC helps yer relationships, sure. But it'll also rewire your t-brain trashhabits, emotional misunderstandings, and shit perspectives if you use it solo. Let's talk about the roots of the worst of us; our unmet needs and beliefs that deprivation = goodness. Which create vicious cycles of pr…
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Ever feel "unheard"? Well, here's the key to getting your point across and sparking collaboration rather than opposition. Today, we're talking about NonViolent Communication (NVC) - the 4 step framework for communicating effectively about emotions and unmet needs without stimulating defensive reactions or leaning on your own deeply ingrained contro…
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So, how do we apologize "the right way"... Rather than creating MORE damage through half-assed "I'm sorrys"? Today, let's talk about the 5 points for offering a real apology for sake of true relational healing... And four examples of how NOT to apologize, unless you actually want to make the emotional abandonment experience worse for your partner. …
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How DO we heal what's been broken? I've got a short phrase for you - it's what we've all needed to hear all along. And let's talk about the timeless wounds patched up by real apologies, as we prepare to talk about shitty apologies next time. Hail yerSelf and Cheers Fuckers. Git the transcript version of this post at t-mfrs.com and check out some do…
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This new episode is with mental health therapist Sofia Mendoza, LCSW. Sofia shares her creative journey as a writer and author of over 30 publications. Sofia also shares about connecting with her ancestral roots by honoring the memory of her maternal grandmother through beautiful family stories. Sofia shares how she connected with her spirituality …
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This episode is with Dr. Alejandra Acuña, PhD, LCSW. Dr. Acuña shared the importance of reconnecting with our ancestral roots as an integral part of our healing. We also talked about having an intentional connection with our ancestors and bringing them forth daily as a source of personal empowerment. Dr. Acuña so candidly shared her story and heali…
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We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning? Let's talk about learned reactions that keep us feeling safe in relationship... while rotting out the connection, engaging manipulation tactics, and using fear as a self-defense. Looking for more "real relationship talk"? Well that's …
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We've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actually underly our relational upsets. But here's my question: Is that realistic? Today, we talk about getting clearer on the contents of our potential and current relationship partners' preprogramming, t…
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What is the meaning genealogy? How can I trace my genealogy and discover my family heritage? Why is genealogy helpful on your healing path? What are the essential steps to conduct effective genealogical research? What can genealogy tell you? How does genealogical research get started? Where can I find reliable and relevant genealogical records, esp…
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What are the spiritual and emotional benefits of walking in nature? Why is hiking good for the soul? How is hiking healing for the mind and body? What are the healing benefits of journaling? How can you reclaim yourself through hiking? Why is journaling so powerful? For this episode, I had the opportunity to sit with Cindy Y. Rodriguez, founder and…
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Ever feel like "the issue" isn't really "the issue" in relational conflict? That's because the real issue is buried under layers of protective instincts that keep us unable to fully connect or communicate... but very capable of fighting, endlessly. Let's talk about "conscious relationships" and their trauma recovery utility, as we discuss methods f…
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I have the opportunity to sit with my friend and colleague Maria Maria Lemus Maldonado, MSW. This is not a formal interview; we call it a "comadres session." It is a fun and lighthearted platica (talk) about topics we are passionate about, such as emotional & energy healing, curanderismo, spirituality, mental health, and more. If you like what you …
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Why do we start close relationships and love connections feeling one way... only to watch them disintegrate, become survival-based, and turn into "resentment"? Let's walk through the easiest explanation ever told; pulling in our Internal Family Systems education to discuss the greatest relational obstacle of them all. Looking for a lot more relatio…
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What is the definition of curanderismo? Where is curanderismo from? How can curaderismo help us heal emotional wounds? What are the different types of curanderismo? What is a limpia or barrida? Why is self-healing important? What is herbalism and how does it relate to curanderismo? For this episode, I sit with Atava Garcia Swiecicki, author of the …
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A moving meditation is a form of meditation that involves a specific motion as a way to clear the mind and connect with the present moment. Instead of focusing solely on the breath or a mantra, the meditator brings their awareness to the sensations and movements of their body, which can help bring a greater sense of focus and relaxation. Some peopl…
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