Best Jennifer Chaiken Lmft And Emmalee Bierly Lmft Podcasts (2025)

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The Comparison Trap: Why Do We Do It? 46:41

5d ago46:41

46:41

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are exploring the topic of comparing ourselves to others. They discuss why we engage in comparison, two different types of comparison, insecurity and comparison, the role social media plays (hint: it's a big one), how to be intentional with social media consumption, using comparison as helpful…

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Why Is It So Hard to Say No? 42:38

12d ago42:38

42:38

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are back to recording in person at West Chester Studios and unpacking the difficulty behind saying no. They discuss our fears about saying no, why we tend to believe others are going to react negatively to our “no," the resentment that arises when we ignore our boundaries, preferring internal distress over…

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Navigating Differences Within Your Relationship 40:24

19d ago40:24

40:24

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the ways in which we're all different from our partners - from attachment styles, to conflict/resolution styles, to love languages, and political views. They discuss the various ways these differences show up in relationships, how to communicate through the differences for a …

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Sometimes The Goal is Just Survival 42:32

26d ago42:32

42:32

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee shares a recent experience that reminded her that we are allowed to just survive and that we don’t have to constantly work toward "healing" or "growing." Em and Jen talk about radical acceptance, burnout, living in the present moment, shame spirals, control, and so much more. Tune in to hear their humanity and for…

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Who You Think You “Should” Be vs. Who You Are 43:30

1M ago43:30

43:30

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about the "shoulds." They discuss how the "shoulds" or certain, specific expectations of ourselves connect to control, anxiety, and depression, battling the "shoulds" when other people are in a phase of life you envy, why comparison is so innate, what to do when others have exp…

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Why Do We Get Authenticity Hangovers? 41:55

1M ago41:55

41:55

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about vulnerability and why being vulnerable can feel so good...until it doesn’t. They discuss vulnerability, rejection, and self-protection, where the fear of being seen can stem from, authenticity and the fear of judgment, corrective experiences to regain trust, how to work on vulnerabili…

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Avoidance Does Not Equal Healing 45:07

2M ago45:07

45:07

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are dissecting the difference between avoidance and healing. They start the episode off by explaining how to recognize the difference in your own life and how they can tell the difference in theirs. Emmalee and Jen discuss when saying "no" is a boundary and when it is avoidance, the ability to…

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What Do We Do About Burnout? 50:12

2M ago50:12

50:12

This week on ShrinkChicks, Mercury is in retrograde, so naturally, Emmalee's flight got canceled. Nikki, Emmalee and Jen's producer, is filling in and joining Jen to talk about all things burnout. Jen and Nikki discuss the early signs of burnout & how to recognize it, the personality types that are prone to burnout, the various professions at risk …

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The Fear of Being "Too Much" 42:12

2M ago42:12

42:12

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are diving into the fear of being "too much." They start the episode by sharing what "too much" means to both of them and where the feeling/fear can stem from. Emmalee and Jen talk about how we, as a society, feel about authenticity and how that plays a role in the label of "too much." They di…

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Why Is Dating So Terrible? 45:41

2M ago45:41

45:41

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the ever-insightful author, dating coach, screenwriter, and fellow podcaster Allison Raskin to talk all things dating and relationships! The episode begins with Emmalee and Jen learning about Allison's own personal journey and how it led her to help others navigate romantic relationships. The…

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Just Two Therapists with ADHD 46:46

3M ago46:46

46:46

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a long awaited episode topic: ADHD. They share about their ADHD diagnoses, when they were diagnosed, and their different experiences living with ADHD. Emmalee and Jen discuss the difference between men and women with ADHD including the age of diagnosis and presentation, shame that can arise fr…

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Green Flags: The Underrated Signs of a Healthy Partnership 44:22

3M ago44:22

44:22

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing their thoughts on green flags in relationships and the signs of a healthy partnership. They discuss both green flags when first dating and green flags within the relationship once it is established. Em and Jen answer your questions about the feeling of unfamiliarity that can occur …

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Balancing Family Dynamics AND Your Relationship 45:11

3M ago45:11

45:11

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about balancing family dynamics along with your relationship with your significant other. They're also discussing this from YOUR perspective and the balance that your significant other strikes between you and their family of origin. They cover topics like the natural insecurity in the in-la…

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Is it Me? Recognizing Your Patterns in Your Relationship 44:11

3M ago44:11

44:11

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about how to recognize your own patterns in your relationships. The episode starts off with some big news from Emmalee! Then, Em and Jen talk about the insight, awareness, and action needed in order to understand the patterns within your relationship. They discuss …

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Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Disorder 48:08

3M ago48:08

48:08

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are so excited to sit down with Alegra Kastens, LMFT! Alegra is the founder of the Center for OCD, Anxiety, and Eating Disorders. She specializes both in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) AND has her own lived experience with OCD. Alegra gives us all a greater understanding of what OCD l…

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What is High Functioning Codependency? 56:36

4M ago56:36

56:36

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to be joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, and global expert in relationships and empowerment! Terri is here to share her infinite wisdom and tell us all about her new book Too Much. Too Much focuses on the concept that Terri coined cal…

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How Do I Build Self-Trust? 41:27

4M ago41:27

41:27

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about self-trust and holding yourself accountable in a compassionate way. The episode begins by addressing the "shoulds" that can come with the start of the New Year and shame vs. self-compassion when it comes to setting goals. Em and Jen discuss self-trust, where it stems from…

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When Birth Doesn't Go as Planned 52:02

4M ago52:02

52:02

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with one of their dear friends, Kayleigh Summers, LCSW. Kayleigh, aka The Birth Trauma Mama, shares her vulnerable birth trauma story and details how the experience led her to where she is today. Kayleigh discusses topics like toxic positivity when it comes to trauma, why “getting ove…

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Questions You’re Too Scared To Ask Your Therapist 47:42

4M ago47:42

47:42

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking through your questions and confessions that you're too scared to ask and tell your therapist! They cover topics like asking your therapist what your diagnosis is, processing the fear of judgment in therapy, and what is "too personal" of a question to ask your therapist (such as, do they have a …

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Rewind: Inner Child Work & Wounds 46:45

5M ago46:45

46:45

The holidays are upon us, and Emmalee and Jen are taking a break from a new episode to spend time with their loved ones and recharge for the New Year! This week, they wanted to re-release the episode Inner Child Work & Wounds as this time of year can bring up a LOT. The episode begins with Emmalee and Jen explaining what inner child work actually e…

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Surviving The Holiday Season (Continued) 46:11

5M ago46:11

46:11

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing the second part of their two-part series, where they answer your questions about how to survive the holidays this season! They discuss how to bring back childhood and holiday joy, what to do if your kid doesn’t react positively when given a present, the mental load of the holidays, transitionin…

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Surviving the Holiday Season 43:13

5M ago43:13

43:13

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing part one of a two-part series where they answer your questions about how to survive the holidays this season! They discuss how to protect your peace, regressing when you’re home for the holidays, navigating splitting the holidays with your partner’s family, building up your distres…

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Riding The Waves of Grief 44:36

6M ago44:36

44:36

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the incredible Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider, an internal medicine physician, a leading voice in healthcare, founder and board president of End Well, and host of the Before We Go podcast (@beforewegopodcast)! Shoshana shares her personal story of grief, anticipatory grief, and dealing with her own…

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Rewind: Decision Paralysis 47:41

6M ago47:41

47:41

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are re-sharing one of their favorite episodes while they take a little Thanksgiving break. This time of year is filled with decisions, both big and small, and Em and Jen are validating the various challenges that can come when making decisions. They talk through what makes us freeze when faced with a decis…

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The Relationship Between Spite & Motivation 44:22

6M ago44:22

44:22

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about spite and motivation. They start the episode off by discussing both of their ADHD diagnoses and how motivation, for them, can be hard to come by. Then, they define spite by explaining the two different types and discussing the motivation behind proving people wrong. Emmalee and Jen share …

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Normalizing Intrusive Thoughts 46:54

6M ago46:54

46:54

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen normalize and validate the occurrence of intrusive thoughts. They start the episode off by sharing the definition of intrusive thoughts and some statistics about them. Then they discuss postpartum intrusive thoughts, the difference between intrusive thoughts and rumination, assigning meaning t…

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What Does Masculinity Really Mean? 36:43

6M ago36:43

36:43

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sitting down with a dear friend, John Scardina. He is a former school psychologist whose current mission is to highlight male vulnerability and connect men with other men. John talks with Em and Jen about breaking negative familial and societal cycles, our relationship with our fathers, masculinity and…

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The Difference Between Being Kind vs. Being Walked All Over 46:24

7M ago46:24

46:24

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are helping us differentiate between being kind and being walked all over or taken advantage of. They start the episode by explaining how the feeling of resentment can provide information to help differentiate between the two. Then they discuss the socialization of women to always be kind, why…

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Boundaries with Emotionally Immature People 52:02

7M ago52:02

52:02

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to welcome Nedra Glover Tawwab back to the podcast! Nedra is a licensed therapist, a New York Times Bestselling author, and an expert on relationships and boundaries. If you haven’t followed her on Instagram yet, go do it now! They start the episode off by talking about Nedra's new book, Consi…

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Life Lessons That Changed Our Perspective 43:33

7M ago43:33

43:33

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing the life lessons they've learned throughout the years that have shifted their perspectives. They discuss how helping can really be a way to control, why being clear = being kind, feelings of stuckness and remembering everything is temporary, de-personalizing other people’s reaction…

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Is It Possible to Release Control? 49:50

7M ago49:50

49:50

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians from their therapy practice, Dr. Lindsay Haston! Lindsay talks to us about where to begin when releasing control, letting go of control both externally and internally, and why fear can hold us back. She discusses the main modality she uses with her clients, Acc…

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How to Take Responsibility for Your Emotions 44:19

8M ago44:19

44:19

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are helping us learn how to take responsibility for our emotional reactions. They discuss the guilt/shame cycle that can occur after an emotional reaction and how to stop it, what a genuine apology looks like, how to communicate when you're hurting, setting boundaries with others who emotional…

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How to Respond and Not React 48:04

8M ago48:04

48:04

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about what it actually looks like to respond, not react. They discuss the practice of responding and not reacting, identifying and understanding your personal triggers, responding vs. reacting with others AND with yourself, why romantic relationships typically trigger us the most, and working towar…

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Building Self-Confidence: Don't Believe Everything You Think 42:24

8M ago42:24

42:24

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen share tips and tricks to help you build self-confidence and self-esteem. They discuss why doing something new can trigger feelings of insecurity, self-confidence and mastery, how to know if your inner critic is right or wrong, building self-confidence with a core wound of unworthiness, how to validate your…

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Should I Speak Up or Bite My Tongue? 46:00

8M ago46:00

46:00

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a topic that they differ greatly on: when to speak up (what Jen works on) and when to bite your tongue (what Em works on). So whether you are an Em or a Jen - they got you! They discuss questions to ask yourself when debating whether to say something, harming yourself by staying q…

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Rewind: People In Our Lives Who Aren't "Doing The Work" 47:10

9M ago47:10

47:10

This week's episode is a re-release of one of Emmalee and Jen's favorite episodes. They want to model what they often share, which is the importance of resting and taking breaks in order to continue to show up as the best versions of themselves. The topic is one that constantly receives questions: what to do when the people in your life aren't "doi…

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The Line Between Empathy and Enabling 45:23

9M ago45:23

45:23

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are explaining the difference between having empathy for someone vs. enabling someone, as they can feel very similar. They start off the episode by sharing ways to recognize the line between the two and speak on why it can be challenging to shift the dynamic in a relationship where we're enabling. Emmalee …

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Inside Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy 46:17

9M ago46:17

46:17

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by two incredible guests, Dr. Sophia Brandstetter and Karen Smith, LCSW! Both Sophia and Karen are therapists who have advanced training in and specialize in Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP). Together, they discuss who is a candidate for KAP, a detailed explanation of what KAP looks like, KAP i…

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Help! I'm Anxious About My Anxiety 44:51

9M ago44:51

44:51

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about anticipatory anxiety. They begin by explaining the different reasons and scenarios where we might experience anticipatory anxiety, along with what could trigger it for us. Emmalee and Jen share their own personal experiences with anticipatory anxiety and how it manifests for …

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A New Perspective on Death & Dying 46:45

10M ago46:45

46:45

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to sit down with Alua Arthur! Alua is a speaker, an author, and the founder of Going with Grace, a death doula training and end-of-life planning organization. The three of them discuss the often uncomfortable topic of death and how to get more comfortable with it so that it doesn't fe…

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The Impact of Your Core Wounds on Your Friendships 42:01

10M ago42:01

42:01

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are digging deeper into our childhood wounds and exploring how they may affect our friendships today. They start the episode by explaining the four different common core wounds to help you identify yours. Then, they share which core wound they each most identify with and how Jen's wound can trigger Emmalee…

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Making New Friends (& Nurturing Old Ones) in Adulthood 41:14

10M ago41:14

41:14

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the very under-discussed topic of friendships and the difficulties that exist as we try to make new friends and nurture old friendships in adulthood. They start the episode off by sharing some interesting statistics on friendships. Then, they give us a glimpse into what their friendship was l…

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The Things We're Working On 44:45

10M ago44:45

44:45

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about what they are working on personally and professionally. They want to continue to be vulnerable with you all and share their personal goals and struggles. In the first part of the episode, Emmalee and Jen share two different personal stories about having to pivot when it comes to …

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What Does "Trauma" Really Mean? 43:02

10M ago43:02

43:02

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the incredible Dr. Danica Harris! Danica is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, facilitator, presenter, and educator. She helps folks heal from attachment wounds, sexual trauma, emotional neglect, vicarious trauma, intergenerational and identity-based trauma, and work or academic trauma. Emm…

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The Role Stress Plays in Our Relationships 44:59

11M ago44:59

44:59

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen sit down with one of their dear friends, fellow therapist, and talented author, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT! Liz is the author of I Want This to Work and has a new book available for pre-order now: Til' Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal The #1 Issue in Our Relationships. Emmalee and Jen start the episode off…

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Our 10 Year Anniversary Episode! 49:52

11M ago49:52

49:52

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are celebrating 10 years in business together by dedicating the episode to all that they've learned so far! They discuss their journey, the ways their lives have been enriched by one another, things they would change, hard decisions they had to make, and the transition away from pleasing people. Emmalee an…

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Coping with Information Overload 42:10

11M ago42:10

42:10

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are discussing the information overload we all experience on a daily basis and how to move toward more conscious consumption of media, the news, etc. They answer your questions about social media's role in the overwhelm, the "shoulds" and comparison culture, how to create boundaries with consumpti…

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Unlearning Societal Expectations 39:42

11M ago39:42

39:42

By Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

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Emmalee's Fertility Journey 41:51

12M ago41:51

41:51

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee is taking you on her fertility journey. The episode begins with Em's story and all the highs and lows that have come with it thus far. She talks about her recurrent miscarriage diagnosis, her misdiagnosis of PCOS, and her two recent egg retrieval experiences. Then, Jen asks Em all of your questions, such …

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Rewind: Change is F*cking Scary 41:01

12M ago41:01

41:01

In light of the holiday weekend, today's episode is a re-release of one of Emmalee and Jen's favorites. They want to model what they often share, which is the importance of resting and taking breaks in order to continue to show up as the best versions of themselves. In the episode, Emmalee and Jen talk all about change and why it can be so challeng…

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