Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email [email protected] to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
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The Science of Crying: Why a Tactical Cry (and Sad Music) Is Good for You
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42:54Sometimes you just need a tactical cry, and science says that’s actually good for you. In this episode of Do You F**ing Mind?*, I break down the psychology and neuroscience behind why crying feels so relieving, and why putting on sad music can actually help your brain process emotions. You’ll learn: The neuroscience of emotional tears and how they …
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The Psychology of Standards: Why You Keep Setting the Bar Too Low(E)
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38:40Stop playing small. In this episode of Do You F**ing Mind?*, I break down why so many of us keep setting the bar too low; in relationships, in our careers, and in the standards we hold for ourselves. Using psychology and neuroscience, we explore: Why your brain tricks you into settling for less than you deserve How low standards slowly kill your co…
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Science Fact: Why Milk is better at hydrating than water
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8:51Science Fact of the week: Why Milk is better at hydrating than water. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow …
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How to REALLY stop caring about what people think of you (E)
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48:57How do you stop caring about what people think of you? How can you let go of the things that keep you from living the life you want? This question is so crippling for so many of us, but there IS a simple solution. In this episode we’ll learn how to deal with these feelings in a way that don't consume you and stop you from going on with your life. I…
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442. My partner thinks the world is ending & more (Headnoise)
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29:28Beans it's Headnoise Friday! I answer your email questions about loneliness in high school, feeling burnt out and uninspired during the final months of university & taking control of one's life. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the…
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Science Fact: The Women Who Can Smell Parkinson's
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8:52Science fact of the week: The Women Who Can Smell Parkinson's. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindse…
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441. The Neuroscience behind determination
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45:28Today's episode is all about determination from a neuroscience and psychology perspective. I talk about the difference between motivation and determination and give you practical tools & strategies. Episodes mentioned with links: Episode 368 & Episode 370. Brain Journal Link Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyf…
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440. When Setting a Boundary Makes You the Villain (Headnoise)
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37:13It's Head Noise day! I answer your questions on setting boundaries, handling difficult friendships and dealing with family influence in relationships. How can you set a boundary without becoming the villain? What to do when your friend turns on you because you try and create a healthy boundary? How to deal with your partners family influencing your…
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439. How to put someone in the past and leave them there for good
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31:50Beans! This episode is all about letting go and moving the f*ck on from people who are no longer a positive part of our lives. Whether it's an ex, a friend, or a toxic colleague I give you strategies & tools to leave them in the past. Episode referenced: 21. Dealing with Cooked Duds that Are Stuck in Your Life. Join the DYFM Facebook…
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438. Overthinking in a Healthy Relationship & more (Headnoise)
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38:45In today's head noise episode, I answer your questions on navigating relationships, decisions about having children and dealing with complicated friendships. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Grou…
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437. The neuroscience of loneliness…the silent stress you can fix
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44:36In today's episode, we dive deep into the topic of loneliness. I discuss the difference between loneliness and solitude, the health implications of feeling isolated, and what happens in the brain when you experience loneliness. I give you actionable steps to help you overcome loneliness and build meaningful connections. Join the DYFM Fac…
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436. Codependency in New Relationships, Future Plans & Life Decisions (Headnoise)
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36:06In today's Headnoise episode I answer your questions on distinguishing between strong communication and codependency in a new relationship, to handling future plans with a partner who wants to move to the country & deciding when to return home after traveling long-term. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or…
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435. How to get past the fear of disappointing others
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43:54In today's episode, I talk about the common fear of disappointing others and how it affects our decision-making and overall happiness. I discuss the psychology behind this fear, including factors like high achievement, low self-esteem and sheltered upbringing. Learning how to differentiate between fear and weaponised disappointment and gain tools t…
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434. Breaking Free from Old Patterns & more (Headnoise)
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41:40Welcome back, beautiful beans! I answer your questions you sent in, I go over the the concept of 'core coding' and how to overcome ingrained beliefs from childhood, particularly those rooted in religious guilt. I also talk through the challenge of making life altering decisions without disrupting the good things already present in our lives. Then I…
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433. Why Impermanence is the most grounding thing you will learn
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39:37In today's episode I talk all about impermanence & how embracing change can lead to a freer, more confident and fulfilling life. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow …
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432. How to Stop Being the 'Righteous Friend' (Headnoise)
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29:44It's Headnoise Day! I answer some email questions you sent in from how to stop being the 'righteous friend' who constantly calls out friends to overcoming burnout! If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook…
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431. 6 questions to ask yourself to know if you are on the right path.
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31:38Beans! In this episode I give you 6 questions to ask yourself to know if you are on the right path. These questions are designed to help you gain clarity and realign your life path. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow …
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430. Setting Boundaries & Reclaiming Peace with Narcissistic Relationships (Headnoise)
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35:48Welcome back, beautiful beans! In today's head noise episode, we hear an amazing story from a listener, a leap-of-faith move (even after rekindling an old flame), navigating a narcissistic parent and handling unsolicited comments. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Me…
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429. Signs you are in a Functional Freeze & how to break out of it
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42:10I discuss the concept of 'functional freeze.' What it is, why it happens & how you can break out of it & lead a more fulfilling life. Brain Fact Munchies effect of THC and how it interacts with the brain's cannabinoid receptors. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @…
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428. Should I have told my friend her partner was cheating on her? & other friendship dilemmas. (Headnoise)
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43:06Beans! In this Headnoise episode, I cover everything from dealing with a friend’s cheating partner to navigating friendships drifting apart. I give some tips & advice on what I would do in these situations for anyone facing similar struggles. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send i…
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427. Breaking out of your phone addiction and learning what rat park can teach you about it.
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34:35Welcome to today's episode! I am so pumped about this episode, I talk all about breaking social media addiction and that constant phone scroll. I’ll also share the learnings of the Rat Park study by Dr. Bruce Alexander and what it teaches us about how our environment and connections impact addiction. I’ll give you some practical tips to cut down on…
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426. Navigating attachment styles, long distance relationships & breakups. (Headnoise)
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33:58Beans! Today's episode is a head noise episode. We've got questions about breaking up a long distance, moving versus not moving, avoidant attachment style & breakups! If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook…
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425. How to write the most effective to do list EVER so you can feel great after (and other focus tips)
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35:32I’m sharing how I tackle that overwhelming feeling of “I have so much to do but nothing’s getting done.” I walk you through how I create my to-do lists in a way that actually works. With a breakdown of soft vs. hard actions, how to tell what needs deep focus vs quick wins and how I use time-blocking to stay on track without burning out. Join the …
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424. Friendship Red Flags, Jealousy & Feeling Like a Fraud. (Headnoise)
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42:27It's Headnoise Friday, where I answer questions you sent in. From confronting the idea that your bestie might be a gold digger, to navigating jealousy in relationships and the sting of a lost friendship. I give you tips & practical advice on how to handle the situations. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] o…
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423. How to f*ck up a good thing by looking for something else only to lose it all
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45:56In this episode, I am talking about that all too familiar feeling of second guessing the good things in our lives like wondering if there's something better out there. Whether it's your relationship, job, or even a personal goal. I discuss the difference between knowing when to walk away and when you’re just not seeing the value in what you already…
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422. Thriving Solo & Choosing Yourself First. (Headnoise)
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34:43Guys welcome to a Headnoise episode where I answer your questions! Thank you for sending in your Listener Questions, to send in your question, send an email to [email protected]. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @…
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421. Live Show Questions - Imposter syndrome, big decisions, Tips for improving memory and more
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40:29Guys, I after the live show I had SO MANY questions come through that I never had the chance to answer so I thought it would be good to go through some of them here on the pod. (still thousands more to go LOL) Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast …
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420. Outgrowing Friendship Patterns: Reality Checks and Emotional Shifts . (Headnoise)
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36:26In this episode, I answer listener questions on friendships, moving homes, reality TV's impact on our brains & navigating dating as a single parent. We’re talking red flags, boundaries, growth & how to protect your peace while still showing up for the people you care about. Thank you for sending in your Listener Questions, to send in your question,…
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419. Don't get rejected by the same person twice
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48:14In today's episode, I talk about the topic of rejection and how to avoid being rejected by the same person or situation twice. I chat about building your self-worth, picking up on red flags early & protecting your energy from relationships that aren’t good for you. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind…
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418. Tools for dealing with painful in-laws. (Headnoise)
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32:24In todays Headnoise episode, I cover the topic of In-Laws (one of my most requested topics). From the self-appointed family CEO to navigating living with controlling parents I answer your questions! Thank you for sending in your Listener Questions, to send in your question, send an email to [email protected]. Join the DYFM Facebook…
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417. You are more than enough. How to feel it (6 tips) E
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52:41In this encore episode, I talk about those times when you’re feeling a bit off and feel like something is lacking or that you are 'not enough'. When this happens you start to feel more self critical in all areas in your life not just the one area that caused you to feel this way & this can then affect your own relationship with yourself. I go over …
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416. Narcissistic parents and in-laws. How to spot them and deal with them (E)
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53:13In this encore episode, I talk about Narcissism. What actually makes someone a narcissist? And what’s the real difference between covert and overt narcissism? I break down the traits to look out for to how to actually deal with a narcissist in your life. Especially when it’s someone close, like a parent or in-law. I also answer a listener question …
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415. What is the alter ego effect and how to use it to become the person you want
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34:02In this episode, we’re diving into The Alter Ego Effect by Todd Herman. I’m sharing how creating an alter ego can help you show up more confidently, get through tough stuff, & feel more in control. Whether it’s at work, the gym or just day to day life. I chat about building your own persona, little rituals to help you step into it, & how this whole…
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414. Let go of the idea it could have been different (E)
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41:35In todays encore episode, I talk about how to stop keeping our focus in the past, and the importance of shifting your awareness and thoughts to the present and future so you can expand your opportunities and experiences. Brain Fact: Hemispatial Neglect My first ever National Live Show Tour, "Lost, But Make It Intentional" You can purchase your tick…
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413. The Life Reinvention Expert: 5 Small Shifts for Big Change with Robin Sharma
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1:01:00In this powerful episode, I chat with the incredible Robin Sharma, one of the world’s most widely read authors & a true expert on happiness, purpose, & self-mastery. At 25, he walked away from a successful law career, not because he had to, but because something deeper was calling. Fast forward to now: he’s one of the most widely read authors on th…
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412. Navigating Personal Growth, Friendship Dynamics and Heartbreak. Head Noise
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35:56My first ever National Live Show Tour, "Lost, But Make It Intentional" You can purchase your tickets here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexisprede…
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411. Mindset around purpose, life satisfaction & goal setting with Stefanie aka my sister
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1:03:15In this episode, I’m joined by none other than my sister Stefanie to unpack the mindset hacks that fuel purpose, motivation & real life satisfaction. We discuss goal setting, staying driven & doing the actual work to get where you want to be. Whether you’re in a slump or just need a mindset refresh, this one’s for you. Follow @steffernandez on IG M…
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410. Navigating Life’s Big Questions: Breaking Through Creative Blocks and Imposter Syndrome
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36:40In this episode, I am answering some of your biggest life questions with honest advice and a bit of tough love. We talk about getting over a breakup, staying motivated when you have too many hobbies, going back to school after a long time, and dealing with imposter syndrome. If you're feeling stuck, unsure, or just trying to figure things out, this…
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409. Dealing with people you don’t like in the most productive way possible
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35:21In this episode, we’re chatting about how to deal with difficult people in the most productive and sane manner possible. We’ll walk through ten super helpful tips - from getting clear on what you want to spotting what’s driving the other person - so you can handle tricky situations like a pro. Brain fact: How Ritalin actually works for ADHD. My fir…
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408. Choosing yourself, breaking cycles & beginning again. Headnoise.
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39:37Thank you for sending in your Listener Questions, to send in your question, send an email to [email protected]. My first ever National Live Show Tour, "Lost, But Make It Intentional" You can purchase your tickets here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast…
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407. Turn jealousy into excitement: The motivation you didn’t know you needed
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41:29In today's episode, I talk about how to turn jealousy into excitement. I dive into the concept of jealousy & explore ways to transform it into an empowering feeling instead of something that takes away our power. I discuss the different types of jealousy, including relationship and generalised jealousy & give you steps on how to reframe jealousy as…
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5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind Day 5: Overcoming any setback
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19:04In the final episode of this 5 Day Series, I discuss how to handle daily setbacks & maintain control over your life. Setbacks are inevitable, & it's important to plan for them, accept them, & move on without spiralling. I share practical tips on reframing consistency, celebrating small wins, & using tools like the Brain Journal to track your progre…
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5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind Day 4: Three Crucial Morning Steps
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16:31Welcome to my 5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind series! In this series, I am going be talking about research backed ideas that are going to make you feel like you can get on top of your game again. Day 4 is all about three simple steps you can start weaving into your routine - little things that are free, easy & don’t take much time, but can seri…
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5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind Day 3: Brain Fuel for Happiness
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21:04Welcome to my 5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind series! In this series, I am going be talking about research backed ideas that are going to make you feel like you can get on top of your game again. Day 3 is about how we’re fuelling the brain - emotionally, physically & chemically - to support this mental reset and boost happiness. I give you simp…
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5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind Day 2: Creating a New Focus
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20:51Welcome to my 5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind series! In this series, I am going be talking about research backed ideas that are going to make you feel like you can get on top of your game again. Day 2 is about retraining our thoughts - how to rewire the brain, reconnect with what actually feels good & re-approach the way we’re working towards …
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5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind Day 1: Redirect & reprogram
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23:28Welcome to my 5 Days to Reset & Reclaim Your Mind series! In this series, I am going be talking about research backed ideas that are going to make you feel like you can get on top of your game again. Day 1 is about acknowledging how to zoom out, how to regain perspective, how to kind of reassess, redirect, reprogram everything that we're working on…
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406. Saying no without the guilt, choosing between the dream job OR dream life. Headnoise.
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36:05Thank you for sending in your Listener Questions, to send in your question, send an email to [email protected]. My first ever National Live Show Tour, "Lost, But Make It Intentional" You can purchase your tickets here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast…
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405. The Neuroscience of sleep and its effects on mood, weight, memory and attention
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47:58The ultimate SLEEP episode. In this episode I dive into how sleep affects your moods, alerterness, weight gain or maintenance, memory, addictive behaviours and MORE. I hope you enjoy and put these tips into practise. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast…
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404. Pregnancy and TWIN announcement: TWO new beans
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50:21BEANS! The most ultimate life update episode! TWIN beans are entering the chat!!! Listen for the full story of how we found out, the SHOCK and everything in between! A x Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisf…
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