Parenting teens? Take it from two people who have been there, done that and came out on the other side with trusting relationships with their now-adult children. Prior to even considering coaching and podcasting, they got their most valuable certification - the approval of their now adult children. Join parenting coach duo, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison, every week as they share both their personal and professional experiences on building healthy relationships with preteens, teens and young ...
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Summary In this episode of the Plan P podcast, hosts Quinn and Sarah welcome family therapist Susan Caso, who shares her insights on nurturing family relationships, particularly with teens. The conversation explores the importance of emotional connection, effective communication, and the challenges of parenting in the digital age. Susan emphasizes …
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Summary In this episode of Plan P, we explore the intricate dynamics between parents and their adolescents, emphasizing the importance of self-connection as a foundation for healthy relationships. We discuss the impact of trauma, the role of vulnerability, and the necessity of finding quiet moments for self-reflection. The conversation highlights t…
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Summary We are honored and delighted to introduce our listeners to an amazing adult, our daughter-not-in-law, Kiesha AKA our son Harry’s partner! This episode truly is a treat! What do teens wish they could tell their parents? Listen and learn as Kiesha discusses her own adolescent years. This woman is on point, honest and wise as she shares her ex…
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Money Talks (preparing our teens for life)
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23:32In this episode of Plan P the Podcast we dive into the vital and sometimes confounding topic of teaching financial responsibility and independence to adolescents. We explore effective strategies for parents to guide their teens through conversations about money, making sure to emphasize transparency, age-appropriate lessons, and the importance of s…
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💖 Love Languages & Parenting: Cracking the Code on Connection It’s February, and whether you’re feeling the romance or just the societal pressure of it all—love is definitely in the air! In this episode of Plan P, we (your favorite married couple of 18 years!) take a deep dive into love languages—Dr. Gary Chapman’s five ways people give and receive…
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Summary Scary as it might sound (and spoiler alert, fear won’t help) you, the loving parent, are actually the expert on that adolescent you know and feel like you don’t know! Sarah and Quinn are here to help you gain a little teeny bit more knowledge and understanding in this area of their expertise, while emphasizing that there are no definitive e…
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Summary In this episode, Sarah and Quinn explore the challenges of parenting adolescents through the lens of Taoism, an ancient and diverse philosophical and religious tradition emphasizing harmony. They discuss the importance of building trust, letting go as the way to hold on, and understanding the flow of parenting. By embracing non-action and a…
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Ch-ch-cha-changes. It’s a NEW YEAR! Summary This communal transition from 2024 to 2025 invites us all to consider our personal values and make conscious New Year’s decisions based on these values as we move forward into a new calendar year. In this conversation, we discuss this topic in the context of bringing our personal values into the group rea…
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In this episode, we remind parents that the holiday season is often a time of rush and pressure, making it even harder to remember to slow down and savor the moment. We explore the difference between urgency and importance, and how to prioritize being present with your family amidst the hustle and bustle. Happy Holidays! If this episode helped you …
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Parenting, Grief, and Growth: A Conversation with Ann Faison
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34:50In this episode, we’re in for a special treat as we sit down with Ann Faison—a mother of two adolescents, artist, author, teacher, wife, and so much more. Ann shares her powerful insights on parenting, particularly the intersection of grief and growth that comes with raising children through all stages. Ann opens up about her personal journey and t…
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Paying Attention Softly: Building Trust with Your Adolescent
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21:30In this episode, we explore the often-repeated advice for parents of adolescents: “Pay attention.” While this can feel intimidating or overwhelming, we discuss how to approach this idea with a sense of softness that can greatly benefit the parent-child relationship during these transformative years. Discover how a gentle approach to paying attentio…
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Power Full: Understanding Enabling In this episode we talk about empowering our children… and how easy it can be to slip into enabling them. No parent wants to enable their child, we just want to support them. Understanding what enabling is, and what support is can make a huge difference in the lives of parents of adolescents, AKA emerging adults. …
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Parents, particularly parents of preteens, teens and young adults, can find themselves searching for answers to explain their child’s behavior. This often leads to dwelling on perceived parental mistakes made in the past, or mistakes made by others-doctors, teachers, other parents and anyone else who might have had impact on the child. Human beings…
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In this episode, we’re focusing on the dynamics of cooperative parenting and how to effectively partner with the various adults in your child's life. Everyone involved in a child's life—parents, grandparents, teachers—has the child’s best interests at heart. However, differing opinions and approaches can create challenges. We explore how to navigat…
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In this episode, we dive into the complexities of human communication with emerging adults. Navigating your child’s hard feelings can be challenging. We often fall into the trap of trying to solve the problem rather than truly understanding what they need. In this episode we discuss understanding how the instinct to offer solutions might actually s…
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In this episode, Play Scripts Parents Write we delve into the nature of the stories we create about ourselves, our children, and our families. Join us as we explore how these personal narratives shape our understanding and interactions with our adolescent children. By sharing your own experiences-not the scripts you've created about your child's fu…
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Bonus episode A peek behind the scenes in the real life of Sarah and Quinn In this episode we invite you into a conversation we are having about our communication and laundry. It is just an example of how and why communication between humans is hard. We’ve been married 18 years and have known each other since we were teenagers, and we STILL get cau…
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The Power of Positive Speaking In this episode we chat about The Power of Positive Speaking. We discuss using words that focus on what we want to achieve or encourage, rather than what we want to avoid or eliminate. This subtle shift can make a big difference in how the message is received. By practicing positivity, we can foster an environment of …
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Perspective on Reliability and Regulation
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27:27Episode 47: Reliability and Regulation in Parenting In this episode of Plan P: Parents Helping Parents Pivot Perspectives we deep dive into the concepts of reliability and regulation, focusing on how they impact our relationships, especially with adolescents. We'll break down these terms, explore their significance, and discuss how they shape effec…
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Personalize Your Plan Parenting adolescents can be challenging emotionally as we navigate their development. Humans, and human parents, can take things personally, especially when it comes to our children's behaviors and reactions. When parenting through the preteen, teen and young adult years a crucial question is HOW do we want to personalize, HO…
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Yes You CAN There are many actionable steps which parents CAN take to mitigate the negative effects of social media. Introducing three healthy C’s: Compassion, Communication, Collaboration which when used consistently can have positive effects. We’re back, and so is the Surgeon General who is considering placing warnings on social media due to addi…
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What You Permit You Promote In this episode we discuss the permission slips we give when we allow behaviors. Parents get accustomed to doing something for their child when the child could actually do it themselves as they age. We parents, all parents we would dare to say, sometimes allow our children to wear us down until we give them what they wan…
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Care of Self Self-Care reminders are ev-er-y-where!! We like to take things apart and putting care in front of self is something that we talk about all the time with parents. We have met many parents who reassure us that they have a lot of self-care practices, and they are still struggling. Putting care first can be harder than we think. What it fi…
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Producing and Practicing Can we all agree, parenting anxious adolescents can be anxiety producing! This week we’re talking about Jonathan Haidt’s latest book, The Anxious Generation. Parents are afraid, schools are stressed, and no surprise, trickle down anxiety, there’s an entire generation awash in anxiety...and the cycle goes around again. It ma…
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What is a belief? Beliefs are personal, not right or wrong. To believe that there are things we will never understand can be a challenge. Our beliefs about things outside our control inform our attitudes, they can cause us pain and despair, and also joy and release. What we humans can do is shift our attitude. Understanding that we do not hold all …
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Plugging into the Power (of Pausing) Pausing is a great way to invite an adolescent (or, okay, anyone!) into a conversation. Pausing when you are interacting with a preteen, teen or young adult can be hard, they move fast! How do you plug into the pause depends upon the situation and the individuals. Feeling like a Pushmi-Pullyu, pushing and pullin…
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Professionals often call us to consult and ask if a particular family falls under the scope of what we do here as coaches. Generally, the answer is yes, because what we do is help parents make a plan, and often work with them as that plan is implemented. Each family’s plan is completely unique based on what they want. In this episode we just chat a…
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Parenting is a relationship. A relationship which parents do not want to detach from! Letting a child hit “rock bottom”, “suffer the consequences” or many of the other “tough love” practices (which have been debunked but are very much still out there and are often suggested by friends and family who feel at a loss as to how to help and who often fe…
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How to Care, not coddle. In this episode we discuss what is no secret- there is a generation who are struggling, and parents are concerned. It makes total sense that conscious parents and educators who were aware of the significant spike in poor mental health starting to be observed in 2012 and continuing upward wanted to protect their children fro…
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Social Media We talk with parents A LOT about social media. How do you navigate this social media world? How do you navigate your relationship with your children’s relationship with social media? It’s a lot! Social Media is…..social! We all want to belong and feel significant, at every age, and this is an even more intense yearning during adolescen…
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In this episode we discuss Kim Scott’s book Radical Candor. Her book will not be found in the family section, because it’s a business book, but stay with us here, radical candor is basically being honest. Doesn’t sound radical, but being honest isn’t always easy. Caring is easy, as parents we care. What Scott talks about is challenging ourselves to…
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Resilience support How good are you at moving on after being disappointed or hurt or making a mistake? Resilience is not always easy. It is learned. When our children were younger, they built resilience when they were learning to ride a bike and they fell. Some kids got right back on, some kids cried and wanted to be held while they cried. We met t…
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Everyone knows that practice makes perfect, right? Yeahhhh. And, no! What if you could get away from the pressure of that illusion that perfection is possible? How does this notion of perfection impact our beloved preteen, teen and young adult children, because everywhere you look, they are feeling the pressure. How can we as individuals get away f…
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Personal Care Taking care of yourself when parenting preteens, teens and young adults can be challenging. We talk honestly about how hard it can be to take care of yourself from the very beginning of the parenting journey, and just when you think you might catch a break-and take a bath or read a book, get a mani-pedi or a massage….” just kidding” s…
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Planning Party Planning The luck of the Irish? Yeahhh, St. Patrick’s Day, as the parent of a teen? Doesn’t always make parents feel so lucky. The kids are growing up and the wearing of the green is oft accompanied by the drinking of the green beer, the green jello shots and well, goodness knows what else they’ve figured out to dye green besides the…
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Paradoxes Tap into the wisdom of Socrates, the Tao, Rumi and Erykah among others, as we help parents understand how to accept and apply the paradoxes presented by these wise people to parenting teens! If we know that we know nothing about anything, then what could we possibly teach our children? Ah, the wisdom of the ages is here to help and we are…
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The Power of Pollyanna Perspective There is much power to be found in positivity WHEN used properly! Pollyana can get a bad rap. We understand why. The ability to genuinely understand how to use, and not abuse or misuse, positivity is complicated. The reason we talk about it in this episode is because it can change interpersonal relationships for t…
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Understanding how to find balance while transitioning from boss of a child, to staying on as the trusted consultant to a young adult deserves a transition team! Sarah and Quin have got you! Parenting adolescents is for many the hardest part of the parenting journey. Staying positive can feel like a challenge but knowing that you have something posi…
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Pondering our part is parenting pertinent and also entirely possible. Accountability is the tune this week on the podcast and is a central tenant of secure parenting. Listen to Sarah and Quinn as they discuss listening and understanding where your part begins and ends. How do you find a place to hear different points of view, which your adolescent …
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Episode 26 Prioritize Understanding Others
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29:29Parents understand the importance of paying attention to and listening to their children. This is a vital part of any healthy relationship. Listening is hard! In this episode Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison discuss and dial into how to take listening to the next level. Listening to understand is next-level listening. One step forward is repeating bac…
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The Prison of Perception: Coming Face to Face with Reality
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35:48In this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve deep into the intricate world of parental perception and its impact on our roles as caregivers. They shine a light on the common tendency to jump to conclusions about our teens' intentions, whether positive or negative, and how this perception can sometimes lead us astray. It becomes evident that…
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Planning & Pivoting: Redefining Our Goals
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33:26What if success was failure and failure was success? In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the concept of setting and achieving goals, inspired by a compelling Ted Talk by former NFL player Emmanuel Acho. The discussion challenges conventional wisdom surrounding goals, emphasizing the importance of flexibility …
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Pillars of Trust: Presence, Engagement and Reliability
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35:27Happy New Year! In the first episode of 2024, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive deep into the topic of trust, the cornerstone of strong parent-teen relationships. After a refreshing break over the holidays, they return to explore the dynamics of trust between parents and their teens. Trust is a two-way street, and the hosts discuss how it involves…
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Putting Care First: 2023 Recap & Reflections (Bonus)
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14:47In this special bonus episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison bid farewell to 2023 with a heartfelt reflection on the growth and stretching they've experienced throughout the year, marked by new ventures, challenges, and the launch of this very podcast, Plan P! Sarah and Quinn also unveil exciting plans for 2024, offering listeners a sneak peek into…
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In this final episode of the year, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison guide parents through the unique challenges of the holiday season's grand finale: New Year's Eve. While Christmas often leans towards family-focused tranquility, New Year's Eve, particularly with teenage and young adult children, requires a different approach. Sarah and Quinn em…
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In this heartfelt episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive into the importance of being truly present, both emotionally and mentally, during the holiday season. Beyond the physical presence, they advocate for intentional mindfulness amidst the hustle and bustle that often engulfs this time of year. As the rush of holiday preparat…
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In this insightful follow-up to their discussion on holiday pressures, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the essential concept of having a family plan in place for a festive, stress-free season. As families evolve and traditions shift with the passing years, it's crucial to engage in open discussions about how you'll spend the holidays. Sarah a…
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Pushing Through the Holidays: Check Your Pressure
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31:02In this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison kick off the holiday season with a candid conversation about pushing through the pressures that often accompany this time of year. While the holidays bring joy for many, they can also weigh heavily on those experiencing loss, such as Quinn, who has navigated the absence of a parent. Sar…
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Pressing Pause: The Truth About Wilderness Programs & Boarding Schools
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36:53In this timely episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into a significant and often debated topic: therapeutic wilderness programs and boarding schools for troubled teens. Drawing from their own personal journey, where they made the challenging decision to send their son to a wilderness program over a decade ago, Sarah and Quin…
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Passing the Baton: The Transfer of Responsibility
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39:02In this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the profound shift in parenting dynamics as teens transition into adults. The discussion centers on the crucial difference between being a caregiver and a caretaker. Caretaking, as they emphasize, involves providing care with an expectation of something in return, often tied to …
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