Join me every week for REAL conversations about the ups, downs and sideways of navigating life with aging parents. We focus on mindset, education and collaboration through a willingness to discuss raw stories and all the sticky topics. Cultural pressure? Financial problems? Family dynamics? Fascinating!! No judgement here. No shoulds. Just a bunch of people figuring this out together. About the host: I am a recovering perfect daughter, elective roommate of my 90 year old grandmother, and a r ...
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90 || Solo Podcast: Who is on your "Affection and Duty List"?
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32:54Welcome! Establishing My Affection and Duty List In this episode I introduce a six-part series designed to help you navigate the complexities of supporting aging parents. I start by focusing on the 'who,' proposing the creation of an Affection and Duty List (ADL) to categorize individuals you might support. Using scales to measure affection (from -…
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89 || Experts Opine: Senior Living 101 with Benjamin Surmi
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57:30Welcome! In this episode I interview social gerontologist Benjamin Surmi and we discuss various aspects of aging, from professional roles in senior living to the importance of community and the different types of senior living arrangements available today. Introduction What Is Social Gerontology? Academic Path to Gerontology Work in Senior Living C…
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88 || Solo Podcast: Wheelchairs, rollators, and walking sticks oh my
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43:52Welcome! In this episode I discuss various broad types of mobility aids (wheelchairs, walkers, canes) just to give you an insight into how and when they are used to help people getting from point A to point B. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! Th…
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87 || Solo Podcast: Let's Talk Hospital Discharge Pitfalls
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44:43Welcome! In this episode I review several pitfalls related to discharging from a hospital or rehab setting. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medica…
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86 || Solo Podcast: Keeping up Appearances
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27:07Welcome! In this episode I talk about the visual experience of aging loved ones, what the nuerological basis is for these interactions, and some tips on how to adjust over time. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational …
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Welcome! In this episode of Real Conversations About Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia talks with Doug about his personal journey with his aging mother, who is currently in a nursing home. Doug shares insights into the emotional and logistical challenges involved, including the impact of his father's early death, his brother's passing, and his moth…
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84 || Mike: Dementia and the housekeeper who doesn't do a good job
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39:01Welcome! In this episode I get to interview another volleyball parent, Mike, who shares a valuable journey in caring for his Mom who has worsening dementia. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is …
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Welcome! In this episode we discuss navigating Elder Care Challenges with Frances Reeves In this insightful episode of 'Real Conversations About Aging Parents,' host Rebecca welcomes Frances Reeves, an accomplished attorney and author. Frances shares her deeply personal journey dealing with her parents' aging process, including her mother's dementi…
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Welcome! In this episode I talk about a perspective on time, who is rich with time? Who is poor? How do we slow it down, is that even possible? How does this relate to aging parents? Emotional Billionaires - Episode 67 Here is the other podcast episode I mentioned: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-the-hacks-with-chris-hutchins/id1560751222…
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Welcome! In this episode I talk about returning to the office after teleworking for awhile and some of the barriers or stress this may present for you or your family. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes on…
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Welcome! In this episode I talk about urinary tract infections and my very recent very close to home interaction with how serious they can be. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended a…
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79 || Solo Podcast: Let's talk siblings...
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36:16Welcome! In this episode I talk about the sibling dynamic that emerges in caring for aging parents. What say you, AI? In this episode of 'Real Conversations about Aging Parents,' host Rebecca Tapia delves into the complexities of elderly caregiving among adult siblings. She shares personal experiences and observations from dozens of families naviga…
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Welcome! Navigating Gratitude and Aging - Real Conversations In this episode we discusses the challenges faced by caregivers, especially during the holiday season. The discussion explores the dynamics of gratitude, or the lack thereof, from aging parents and the emotional and psychological aspects surrounding it. Rebecca delves into personal anecdo…
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77 || Pass the Mic: Attorney Lisa Powers interviews ME about TBI
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56:26Welcome! In this episode we.. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and leave a re…
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76 || Solo Podcast: Ok, let's talk Trump as an aging parent
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32:38Welcome! In this episode I am providing an analysis similar to the podcast about Joe Biden back in July - this time I ramble about my thoughts on Donald Trump. Listener beware. Hard pass if you are tired of politics! Thanks for listening Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well…
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75 || Tracee: It was always going to be me
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55:59Welcome! In this episode I talk to Tracee Loran about her unique experience in splitting caregiver duties out of state for her grandmother. How does she balance everything? What thoughts are driving these decisions and efforts? She is an open book for us today and so much to learn. Enjoy! Find out more about Tracee Loran: https://traceeloran.com/ h…
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74 || Hot Topic: "Medicare at Home" proposed by Harris campaign
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22:55Welcome! In this episode we talk about the HOT OFF THE PRESS topic of Medicare at Home, a new proposal to extend medicare benefits into home care, vision and audiology care. Find more here: https://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/4922425-harris-adult-caregivers-medicare-benefit-at-home-care-sandwich-generation/ https://oneill.law.georgetown.edu/deliv…
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73 || Experts Opine: Nightmare scenario case study with Elder Law Attorney Lisa Powers
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28:12Welcome! In this episode I have friend of the podcast Lisa Powers, an Elder Law Attorney out of New York state. She has a wealth of knowledge to share, this time we focus on some specific "case studies" with good learning points. Find more about Lisa here: https://www.harrisbeach.com/people/powers-lisa-m/ In this episode of Real Conversations About…
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72 || Solo Podcast: A world expanding or contracting
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34:41Welcome! In this episode I talk about the juxtaposition of worlds that are growing and shrinking at the same time, what are some of the root causes and practical solutions to find connection and support from two very perspectives Navigating the Expanding and Shrinking Worlds of Our Lives In this episode, host Rebecca Tapia delves into the contrasti…
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71 || Experts Opine: Heads up... Medicare Changes for next year with Niki Feret
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46:39Welcome! In this episode we talk again with Niki Feret, our resident expert on all things Medicare! AI summary: In this episode of 'Real Conversations About Aging Parents,' host Rebecca Tapia welcomes back Nikki Ferret, a Medicare expert and owner of Brickhouse Agency. The discussion delves into a comprehensive overview of Medicare, including the d…
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70 || Marie: Navigating the public cringe factor
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1:03:34Welcome! In this episode, we dive into the complexities of maintaining relationships with aging parents. Our guest, Marie, discusses her challenges with her aging mother, who has exhibited concerning cognitive and behavioral changes after retirement. We explore the difficulties of setting boundaries, managing inappropriate public behavior, and stri…
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Welcome! In this episode I unpack my way of explaining "slow" grief, as opposed to fast grief, and how this can manifest in life, what to do about it and how it may be beneficial! AI Show Notes: In this episode, Rebecca Tapia dives into the concept of 'slow grief' experienced with aging parents, contrasting it with the more familiar 'fast grief.' S…
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68 || David: Roommates with your wife's grandma?
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35:02Welcome! In this episode I FINALLY talk to my own husband, David, about his point of view during our years living with the aging parent, Nana. AI Show Notes: In this episode, host Rebecca Tapia talks with her husband David about their 20-year marriage, raising children, and the rewarding yet challenging experience of having Rebecca's grandmother (N…
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67 || Solo Podcast: Caring for an emotional billionaire
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25:12Welcome! In this episode I get super emo and talk about my concept of "emotional billionaires". Yes I just made that up but it works! AI Summary LOL: Real Conversations about Aging Parents: The Emotional Wealth of an Aging Parent In this heartfelt episode of Real Conversations about Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia discusses the concept of 'emotio…
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66 || Solo Podcast: Dealing with Debbie (or Don) Downer
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40:18Welcome! Do you have friction or resistance to spending time with a person who is negative? In this EXTRA SPICY episode I give you my take on dealing with debbie (or don) downers, some practical advice, and a fiery point of view (take it or leave it). Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take w…
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65 || Solo Podcast: Ok, let's talk Biden as an "aging parent"
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31:46Welcome! In this episode we don't shy away from contemporary topics. Let's talk about Biden and all the rumors swirling about his cognitive function... sounds like fun to me!! AI says this is the summary: In this episode, host Rebecca Tapia takes a brief break from her saga series to provide an update on her grandmother's health and talk about a mo…
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64 || Live Updates: My "aging parent" saga part 4 of 4
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29:27Welcome! In this episode I talk about the transition to skilled nursing facility... AI summary: **Grandmother's Health Journey**: - Initial fall and subsequent hospitalization in ICU. - Progression through medical floor, acute rehab, and a skilled nursing and rehab facility. - Challenges faced in each setting, with a shift from high-intensity hospi…
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63 || Live Updates: My "aging parent" saga Part 3 of 4
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32:58Welcome! And so it continues - the Acute Rehab Phase. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, ple…
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62 || Live Updates: My "aging parent" saga part 2 of 4
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18:39Welcome! And the story continues, live! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice If you are finding value in this podcast, please share and …
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61 || Live Updates: My "aging parent" goes to the hospital Part 1 of 4
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31:29Welcome! In this episode I talk about a new development - Nana falling and going to the hospital. I am sharing raw and live information about my own experience with an aging parent! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informatio…
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60 || Solo Podcast: 5 points of "no return" in aging
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31:17Welcome! WOW, SIXTY EPISODES AND STILL GOING! In this episode, we discusses crucial topics around elder care, particularly those moments that signify irreversible changes or 'points of no return.' These include incontinence, moving into assisted living, cognitive decline, giving up driving, and the loss of physical abilities. We discuss importance …
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59 || Solo Podcast: How "Frasier" normalized life with aging parents
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24:50Welcome! In this episode I take a deeper look at my favorite tv show, "Frasier". Let's see what AI thinks this episode is about... The Impact of 'Frasier' on Multi-generational Living & Cultural Norms In this episode of 'Real Conversations About Aging Parents,' host Rebecca Tapia delves into the influence of popular culture on societal norms, with …
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58 || Solo Podcast: Why grandma is not coming to graduation
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27:44Welcome! In this episode we review social paticipation barriers for aging parents. We discuss barriers and trouble shooting for participating in social or celebration events such as graduations, weddings, etc. TIPS: 1) Notice participation issues 2) Get curious - ask questions 3) Get creative in working around barriers 4) Practice and repeat! Cavea…
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57 || Duo Podcast: Resentment!! (special guest Rene)
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42:47Welcome! In this episode we explore another emotion - RESENTMENT! Where does it come from? How does it feel? What does it represent? I have my ORIGINAL podcast guest, Rene, to dive deep and unpack the emotion in all its (terrible) glory. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well…
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Welcome! In this episode we deep dive a POSITIVE emotion, the fabulous concept of gratitude. We talk about various versions of gratitude, how it shows up with aging parents, and a few caveats in using the super power of gratitude. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for yo…
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55 || Aaron: Juggling career + 4 teens + 4 aging parents
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40:52Welcome! In this episode we visit again (see Episode 51) with Aaron Murphy of ForeverHome about the personal side of his aging-in-place passion. He and his wife have a blended family with four teenagers and four aging parents, one with advancing dementia. Let's talk about. I love this no-nonsense conversation - please enjoy! If you want to reach ou…
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54 || Experts Opine: Spaces that carry you with Eryn Oruncak
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40:16Welcome! In this episode I have a special guest, Eryn Oruncak, who walks us through her approach to interior design including how she integrates form, function and lighting. Eryn founded Elan Design in 2016 offering services for interior design and fine art. She has completed the Science in Design certification and has a lot to share with you today…
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53 || Solo Podcast: Live to 125?!? Understanding life expectancy
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24:17Welcome! In this episode I take a closer look at factors influencing life expectancy. There's actually some science to it! Whether you are a mega-planner and want more information or just curious about the potential changes in life expectancy, tune in! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take …
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52 || Solo Podcast: Be nice to the nurses
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44:51Welcome! In this episode I run down various ways to collaborate with the healthcare team, specifically five tips: How to ask questions Executive management How to be present Being realistic Self care At the end of the day - you want everyone pulling in the same direction right? Tune in! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" …
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51 || Experts Opine: ForeverHome with Architect Aaron Murphy
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40:22Welcome! In this episode we have distinguished guest Aaron Murphy of ForeverHome© and ADM Architecture near Seattle, WA. We discuss and dissect the current state of affairs for residential design - then dream about a future with a more comprehensive, person centered approach that actually creates spaces that perform well over a lifetime. Looking to…
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50 || Solo Podcast: *FIFTY* episodes - why we should normalize this topic
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25:07Welcome! In this episode I review my top reasons for creating and continuing the podcast itself: Normalizing, educating, and allowing for more connection during chaos. If you have thoughts to share or want to be on the podcast, please email me at [email protected] Thank you! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allow…
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Welcome! In this episode we take another deep dive into a highly relevant concept... uncertainty! What are some forms of uncertainty? How does our brain deal with it? What is the relevance to managing life with aging parents? Where do you fit on the "spectrum" of handling uncertainty? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" al…
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48 || Experts Opine: All things Medicare with Niki Feret
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1:08:29Welcome! In this episode we dissect Medicare A, B, C and D, the various timelines to be aware of including the overall pros/cons of each option. Where do you start? What do you consider? What if you move? We have all the things here! Would you like to be in touch with Niki Feret of Chicagoland Medicare? https://chicagolandmedicare.com/ Caveats: Thi…
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47 || Solo Podcast: The decision to leave home
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27:56Welcome! In this episode I dissect the different factors at play in a decision to leave home and enter a senior living community. We review different scenarios, considerations and real life examples. This is not an easy topic - but one where thinking ahead does a lot of heavy lifting! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" al…
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46 || Jaylenn Revisited: I'm not angry anymore
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51:18Welcome! In this episode we visit again with Jaylenn (episode 6) about her healing process since our initial conversation last year. We talk about the questions she has asked herself, the new conclusions she has drawn, and practical tips to get through one of the most difficult periods of life. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "s…
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45 || Solo Podcast: Falls (not Niagara....)
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40:33Welcome! In this episode we a deep dive to understand different types of falls, causes of the anxiety around falls, and how to prevent them. Extra Resources: CDC Checklist: https://www.cdc.gov/steadi/pdf/check_for_safety_brochure-a.pdf Medications and falls: https://ncfallsprevention.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Medication-Fact-Sheet_FINAL_508-1.…
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44 || Stephen T: Part 2 of 2; Dad goes from healthy to hospice in 6 months, 1300 miles away
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40:36Welcome! In this episode we have the second half of the conversation from last week with Stephen T, only child and currently helping his father out of state. We talk about quality of life, making hard decisions, and how to honor someone in a difficult situation. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curio…
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43 || Stephen T: Part 1 of 2; Dad goes from healthy to hospice in 6 months, 1300 miles away
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44:42Welcome! This is episode 1 of 2 of my real time conversation with a coworker, Stephen, who is actively managing an aging parent in a different state who is experiencing a rapid cognitive decline. Make sure to stay tuned for Part 2 of 2 next week! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what w…
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42 || Pass the Mic: Throwback interview about Multigenerational Design with Kricia Palmer, MD
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41:13Welcome! In this episode I am replaying a portion of an interview I completed about a year ago with Physician turned Interior Designer, Dr. Kricia Palmer. At this point I had no idea I would start my own podcast, but felt eager to start sharing my own points of view on the topic. Enjoy! Check out Kricia's work here: https://www.housecallsforphysici…
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41 || Solo Podcast: Quick overview of rehab options
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23:43Welcome! In this episode I take a 30,000ft view of the various inpatient and outpatient rehab options following a hospital stay. This is not a deep dive but just enough to get by in a pinch! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for i…
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