Many people do some type of reflection about their dating process - myself included - but I can pretty confidently say it’s not usually to this extent. In this episode my husband Jesse, ever the reflective software engineer, takes us through what a deep dive into your dating history can look like. We discuss the important takeaways it provided him …

If you've been living in the same place as a single for a while, you're likely craving a change. And chances are, you've fantasized about getting out of where you currently live and moving somewhere new. But as exciting as moving can be, it definitely comes with some challenges - even when it’s temporary. That's what this episode is about. Three di…

I know that the Jewish community around the world is struggling tremendously to process what is happening in our homeland. This episode was not an easy one to record, but I found it extremely comforting to make. Connecting and speaking to others has been whats allowed me to process and deal with such a tragic and scary time. A friend of mine yester…

Tune in as I interview Netflix famed matchmaker, Aleeza Ben Shalom! In this episode we get to hear about her experience on the show, being in the matchmaking bizz and what we can learn from secular dating. Feel free to reach out with thoughts and feedback on instragram: singledout613 by email: [email protected] Or rate + leave a comment on sp…

In this episode we have a deep conversation with Rebbetzin Dina Schoonmacher, surrounding some of the harder emotions that come up in singlehood when we feel like we're just waitng around hopelessly. NotesThe Tools - https://www.amazon.com/Tools-Courage-Creativity-Willpower-Inspire/dp/0812983041 Rebbetzin Schoonmacher's Vaadim (amazing lectures on …

This episode aims to openly address a sensitive topic that dating couples think about a lot but can have a hard time discussing with others. In this open conversation, Shayna Goldberg and I directly address the relevant halachot while also not shying away from real life challenges that couples can face.Notes0:00-1:18 Intro1:19-3:35 Shayna's intro o…

Most singles in the Jewish circuit have some experience with matchmakers. The resumes, the meetings - and in somecases - dealing with them as the moderator between the dates as well. Ever wonder what it's like from their perspective? What actually goes into setting up a couple? Or even just being the person receiving all those resumes? Well in this…

The workplace is just one of many areas singles (and anyone new to the workforce!) appreciate guidance on. Knowledge about naviagting our work environment and negotiations with our employers (both pre and post job acceptance) is key to our long term success. Tune in as Michelle Greenberg-Kobrin, Dean of Students at Columbia Law School, gives us ext…

If you are a more anxious person by nature, you'll appreciate this one. In this 'sode guest Shayna Goldberg and I discuss the role our fears and thoughts play in dating. How they can help protect us - but if left unchecked can also sabotage us and the relationship we are in as well. Follow Shayna Goldberg 1. Link to her book: "What Do You Really Wa…

In Episode Six, “Until We’ve Discovered Joy,” we look in on each of the Nameless Crew now that they’ve settled into their lives planetside. Zei deals with the aftermath of her frightening encounter with the native lifeforms and James has a small personal revelation. Lunch is eaten. Some questions are finally answered. Content Notes: As always, a fe…

In this prequel episode, “On Earth: Zahava,” we get a glimpse of Zahava's life long before she assembled the Nameless Crew. Content Notes: none. The transcript is available. If the transcript link is broken please email [email protected] and we’ll get it to you as soon as we can. We’ve changed to google docs for our transcripts for accessibil…

In this episode Rachel Tuchman (LMHC) and I discuss the weighty topic (see what I did there?) on body image. Throughout our discussions, Rachel and I tackle navigating the intense food culture that accompanies Jewish holidays, setting boundaries with friends and matchmakers on what we should/shouldn't change about ourselves, and how to heal our att…

How do you ever know you've met "the one"? Does Judaism even believe in "the one"? In this episode, well known Torah educator Esther Wein explains how we've been misunderstanding the very famous Gemara (Sota, 2a) on soul mates in Judaism. Get ready for a whole new outlook on pre-determined love, marriage and ourselves. Shiur Notes: Here is a google…

This is part 2 of our episode with Noah Marlowe on Dating Stigmas. In this episode Noah shares practical and meaningful Do's and Don'ts to show support for those we know who have had a broken engagement. Notes: 1. Noah's Article on Being Single in Smicha: https://www.refuathanefesh.org/singlehood-in-the-life-of-a-rabbinical-student/ 2. Follow Noah …

In this episode we discuss another dating stigma from 'behind the Bima'. In part 1, guest Noah Marlowe shares his experience being single in his Smicha (Rabbinical ordination) program. This episode provides an inside look glimpse into how we approach educating our future leaders before they are married, and what meaningful lessons Noah took from hi…

As we age, we evolve (hopefully for the better). But evolving in our religious observance and identity is something almost every Jewish single contends with. How we navigate that change, judgement from others (and even ourselves) is something which David Bashevkin and I discuss in this episode. Follow David Bashevkin: @dbashideas and make sure to c…

In a world where we have access to so many voices (both wanted and unwanted), it can become hard to get in touch with ourselves. Tune in as Ariella Azaraf LCSW, helps us become more in tune with what we truly want and teaches us how to quiet those outside voices in order to hear our own. Follow Ariella - @Ariellaazaraflcsw…

We're back with Part 2 of dating stigmas highlighting age differences, interviewing our second couple on this topic. Enjoy!

The unfortunate reality is that there are stigmas with everything, dating included. The first one I'd like to explore is age differences. Why is there a stigma when it comes to dating someone older/younger? How much of it actually bothers us, vs. the pressure we feel from outside influences that it should bother us? In Part 1 of this episode, we he…

We don't all struggle to with the same things, but we all struggle. In this weeks episode Ruchi Koval, co founder of the kiruv organization The Jewish Family Experience, mother of seven and motivational speaker, opens up about the challenging paths she's encountered much later on in life. We also discuss how her emunah was affected during those tim…

Holidays can be a time of family bonding and celebration, but it can also be a time of wanting to pull your hair out. It’s hard enough struggling with not getting on nerves when we’re all packed into one house, now add in a two/three day Yom Tov as the cherry on top. In this episode, I go through 5 helpful tips to survive and enjoy the holidays wit…

In singlehood we can sometimes feel a race against a biological clock. But we're not always sure what our options are, or even what options we should be considering. In this episode, Dr. Bat-Sheva Maslow and I discuss fertility preservation. The why's, how's, how much and everything in between. *Please make sure to take a look at the amazing resour…

This episode addresses: how to deal when younger siblings get married first. A topic which even if you haven't experienced personally, is known to be a sensitive and difficult one. To cover the main issues and hardships surrounding this topic, we highlighted Miriam Borenstein White. Miriam shares what her own personal experiences of having two youn…

There are certain birthday's that even if you literally feel no difference on, you know are milestones (18, 21, 25). For a lot of us, the 30 mark feels different. Somehow the idea of turning another year where we are more settled, more experienced, more in touch with who we are becomes quickly overshadowed by the notion that we've "turned old". For…

In Episode Five, “Recklessly and Perfectly Alive,” we get to explore a forest at long, long last. The crew attempt to learn James’s favorite sport, with minimal success. Conflicts are resolved, new surprises are encountered, and quite a lot of hairs are cut. This one’s sweet! Content Notes: very few this time! As usual a few people swear. Alcohol c…

A benefit to being single is that there are more areas of our life we can afford to spend/splurge on ourselves in the moment. The downside, however, is we might not be thinking about ways which our financial habits will impact us in the future. Figuring out the best way to spend, save and invest our money can be overwhelming. In this week's episode…

"You just never know"...."Maybe this will be the one"..."I'm one step closer"...any of these lines ringing an annoying bell? Dating can be really exhausting and tiring. And more than that, it's hard to stay positive after many having multiple experiences that didn't work out. But - what if we could focus not on the outcome (or lack of outcome :-p) …

Warning: this episode contains awesome and deep content! In this episode, Ariella Aharon LCSW, gives a firsthand look at the challenges and important life lessons working in oncology has taught her. How its attributed to her unique perspectives on self care, single hood, the importance of letting out sadness, and learning to appreciate our biggest …

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We're deep in production of our next full episode - in the meantime, just so you know we're still here, James has given you his recipe for brewing a decent beer. Well, I say recipe. Really it's sketchy at best, as beer's all in the technique anyway. Written and performed by Alexander Doddy. Music and engineering by Trace Callahan. The transcript (a…

James puts his personal spin on explaining the delightful little things that are Yorkshire puddings. Written and performed by Alexander Doddy. Composition and audio engineering by Trace Callahan. The transcript and ingredient list are available here. Enjoy! Support the showBy Evan Tess Murray & Trace Callahan

You asked for it! The first in what may well be a series of recipes from the Nameless Crew. Written and performed by Caroline Mincks. Music and audio engineering by Trace Callahan. The transcript and ingredient list are available here. Enjoy! Support the showBy Caroline Mincks

In Episode Four, “Nature’s Social Union,” we finally have the meeting Zahava’s been talking about, to determine the fate of the unnamed planet. James and his slitherfluff friend watch Clinical Trials, many people go for walks in the rain, and we learn a whole lot about the mission. You know. The mission. Saving humanity. Content Notes: this is a he…

One of our favorite things about the Nameless Crew is that all of us contribute to this project in many ways - beyond what you hear when you listen to an episode. This ranges from people having input into character decisions to the wholesale creation of spinoff content. Izley Kolian sings songs and tells stories to make sense of the world. We alrea…

Sometimes our conversations about our art turn into different kinds of art. To skip ahead to the song, go to [21:42]. Otherwise, tune in to hear Trace and Evan talk about the process that led to this piece of music. Ever wonder what this creative partnership looks like? We're here to show you. (The chirping is Caesar. He's a 21-year-old cockatiel w…

In Episode Three, “A Many-Splendored Thing,” we meet the Design Team, who are finally awake and learning what they’ve gotten themselves into; Cyrus requires James’s assistance with a science project; and Quill heads upstairs to check on the algae vats and for, obviously, absolutely no other reason involving Mandry at all. We learn more about Mandry…

You asked, and she delivered! Trace Callahan, as Kolian, singing the full version of their song from the prologue. This was entirely Trace's work - lyrics, music, sound design, performance, engineering, all of it. Lyrics below! We haven't given it a name We haven't even seen its face But this place is the center of our lives It's still a million mi…

Our third episode is deep in production, the fourth is being written... in the meantime, here's the final crew interview, and we think it's been well worth waiting for. Quill, everyone's favorite soft flower boi, answers questions as part of his interview for this job. Ever wonder what would send our agricultural specialist on a one-way mission to …

Hey everyone. This isn't a bonus episode, not really. It's a note from the Nameless Crew to everyone out there listening, because we're thinking of you, and there are a few things we want to say. People are frightened right now. We're facing uncertainty at best. People in some parts of the world are dealing with grief and loss. Many of us are afrai…

In Episode Two, “Access to the Biological Specimens,” Zahava and Zei head out for a day at the beach, and James investigates the local wildlife. Mandry comes downstairs for a visit; we find out who can bake, who can braid, and what those black seas look like up close. Calendars are invented; wildlife encountered; Saccharomyces Cerevisiae rehydrated…

Now that our first episode is live, we're working on the second one - and the third! And in the meantime, we have a few more of these bonuses for you. Here, James answers a questionnaire as part of his job interview to head toward the nameless planet. Warning: James is fond of some words sometimes considered taboo. If you don't want to hear a bit o…

Now that our first episode is live, we're working on the second one - and the third! And in the meantime, we have a few more of these bonuses for you. Here, Mandry answers a questionnaire as part of his job interview to head toward the nameless planet. This is written by Evan Tess Murray and Trevor Bean, performed by Trevor Bean, and engineered by …

Hi everyone! This is Evan, here to make a quick announcement. We know a lot of you love the music Trace creates for our episodes. Well, as of today, you can own that music! She’s made several parts of the score for everything we’ve released so far into full pieces, and they’re available as the first installment of The Nameless Songs collection. The…

In Episode One, "When the Gravity is Real," Quill and Zei touch down on the ground, joining Zahava, Cyrus, and James on the planet. Kolian and Mandry watch from above while we discover whether or not anyone is allergic to the air (were we worried about that?). Plants may be planted; power generated; and as always, there will be cheese. But the plan…

Our first full-length episode is so close to done we can just about taste it, and in the meantime we've pulled together a few things you might enjoy! Here, Zahava answers a questionnaire as part of her job interview to head toward the nameless planet. This is written by Evan Tess Murray and Caroline Mincks, perfomed by Caroline Mincks, and engineer…

While we work on our full-length episodes, we've pulled together a few things you might enjoy! Here, Cyrus answers a questionnaire as part of his job interview to head toward the nameless planet. This is written by Evan Tess Murray and Alexander Endymion Hernández Díaz, performed by Alexander Endymion Hernández Díaz, and engineered by Trace Callaha…

While we work on our full-length episodes, we've pulled together a few things you might enjoy! Here, Kolian answers a questionnaire as part of their job interview to head toward the nameless planet. This is written by Evan Tess Murray and Trace Callahan, performed and engineered by Trace Callahan, and the transcript is available. We did these inter…

While we work on our full-length episodes, we've pulled together a few things you might enjoy! Here, Zei answers a questionnaire as part of her job interview to head toward the nameless planet. This is written and performed by Evan Tess Murray, with audio engineering by Trace Callahan. The transcript is available as well. Sorry for the delay - unli…

New listeners, start here! We've cut together all four prologue mini-episodes; this is a chance for you to get to know the landing crew before they touch down in Episode One. This Planet Needs a Name, a science fiction audio drama suitable for our times, was created by Evan Tess Murray, who also wrote and directed this episode. Original composition…

For Parshat Mishpatim, I speak with Lawyer and Law professor at Emory U, Rabbi Shlomo Pill about the purpose of Mishpatim. How do these laws create the society we want? What is the purpose of these laws, and why are they after the Ten Commandments? Shlomo Pill is a Professor of Law at Emory University. He Specializes in American Law and the interse…