Gender, Faith, and Privilege after Transitioning: Paula Stone Williams

A Pastor and a Philosopher Walk into a Bar

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What happens when a successful religious leader transitions genders and loses everything? Reverend Dr. Paula Stone Williams takes us on her extraordinary journey from privilege to authenticity.
Paula once stood at the pinnacle of evangelical success – CEO of a large nonprofit, television host, magazine editor. But beneath this accomplished exterior lived a truth she'd known since childhood: she was transgender. When she finally answered what she describes as a "calling" toward authenticity (instigated by the TV show Lost, belive it or not!), the cost was staggering. Paula lost her jobs, her pension, and virtually all professional connections overnight, earning less than $6,000 annually for four years after transition.
This conversation reveals Paula's unique perspective as someone who has experienced life on both sides of the gender divide. Her observations about male privilege are particularly illuminating – "I'll not live long enough to lose my white male entitlement. I brought it with me," she notes, while describing the jarring experience of suddenly being dismissed, patronized, and underestimated in professional settings after transition.
Rather than abandoning faith after being rejected by her religious community, Paula describes developing a deeper, more nuanced spirituality. She frames this transformation as moving from a "left-brain heavy faith" focused on doctrine toward one embracing intuition and mystery, leading to a more authentic connection with Jesus's teachings.
Paula brings refreshing nuance to often polarized conversations about transgender issues, distinguishing between different manifestations of gender dysphoria while expressing concerns about some current treatment approaches. For church leaders navigating these complex waters, she offers practical advice from her extensive experience leading religious communities.
Through her book As a Woman, viral TED Talks, and speaking engagements worldwide, Paula now shares the wisdom gained from her journey, through both profound loss and unexpected discovery. We hope this conversation informs and challenges you as much as it did us.

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Chapters

1. Introduction to Paula Stone Williams (00:00:00)

2. Paula's Story and Gender Dysphoria (00:06:08)

3. The Call to Authenticity (00:13:34)

4. Marriage, Family, and Painful Transitions (00:27:10)

5. Faith Journey and Spiritual Transformation (00:32:15)

6. Gender Equity and Male Privilege (00:46:23)

7. The Reality of Being Trans in America (00:52:30)

8. Advice for Church Leaders (00:58:39)

9. Church Affirmation and Closing Thoughts (01:08:14)