Healing the “I’m Not Good Enough” Belief in Ex-Boarders

An Evolving Man Podcast

In this solo episode, I explore one of the deepest wounds many ex-boarders carry: “I’m not good enough.”

We look at:

• Why this belief develops in boarding school environments
• The double bind that places blame inward on the child
• How it manifests later in life as burnout, addiction, or perfectionism
• The role of attachment in buffering or amplifying trauma
• Practical ways to reframe self-talk, celebrate achievements, and parent ourselves

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough — or noticed this pattern in leaders, colleagues, or loved ones — this episode offers insights and practices to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion.

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1

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Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/