#121: That's Not What I Meant! Unpacking Intent vs. Impact

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In this episode of “Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc,” Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel and Teighlor Polendo discuss the intricacies of communication and relationships, emphasizing the difference between intent and impact. Using Maya Angelou's quote as a backdrop, the hosts explore how words and actions leave lasting impressions.

Join the conversation as they share personal stories and research findings to highlight the importance of empathy, curiosity, and mindful communication in maintaining and repairing close relationships. Practical tips, including perception checks, are provided to help listeners improve their interactions, particularly in long-term relationships and family dynamics.

Music by epidemic sound.

SHOW NOTES:

Experts : Angelou, Stamp and Knapp, Albright, Brown, Gottman

Resources :

Stamp and Knapp Article:

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1991-04377-001

Albright, et al. Study:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103103001288

Maya Angelou Quotation:

https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3503.Maya_Angelou

Brene Brown:

https://brenebrown.com/art/

Gottman Institute:

https://www.gottman.com/

Tools : Formula for Perception Checking

1. Identify the Behavior
2. Offer Two Interpretations
3. Request for Clarification

Links :

Episode 001: The Message Received is the One That Counts

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/6dce9b4a421e11cc80560cc626684dde

Episode 065: REAL TALK! Checking Our Perception Checking

https://youtu.be/qFih99VMeOU