When Listening Breaks Down: A Real-Life Look at the Speaker-Listener Technique in Action

AwakenYou in Your Marriage

You open up about something emotional… and your spouse completely misses it.

They try to fix it, change the subject, or talk about someone else instead.

And just like that—you shut down.

This is how emotional intimacy quietly unravels in marriage. Not with a big fight, but with a missed moment. A break in connection. A silence that grows.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing a very real moment from my own marriage—something that happened just days ago—that brought this all into sharp focus.

We talk about:
🗣️ What really breaks down in these vulnerable moments
❤️ How trust erodes when we don’t feel heard
🔄 Why knowing the tools isn’t the same as using them
🔧 And how we repaired afterward—because the repair is what really matters

This episode isn’t about perfection.
It’s about what happens when you’re trying… and still get it wrong.

And why that doesn’t have to be the end of the conversation.

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