Reconnecting After Estrangement - with Dr. Josh Coleman

Been There Got Out Podcast

Renowned psychologist and author Dr. Josh Coleman joins us for an eye-opening conversation on the challenging realities of parental estrangement and alienation, particularly amidst high-conflict divorces. Drawing from his influential book, "Rules of Estrangement," Dr. Coleman reveals surprising statistics and societal stigmas surrounding estrangement. With 70% of estranged parents having experienced divorce, he explains how blame and new family dynamics can become catalysts for these painful rifts. Together, we unpack the emotional toll on parents and the nuances of estrangement versus alienation, where one parent's influence can turn a child against the other.
Shifting our focus to the evolving dynamics of parent-child relationships, we explore the generational changes that have led parents to desire friendships with their children. Dr. Coleman shares insights on the power adult children hold in these relationships and the significance of understanding their perspectives. We discuss the cultural shifts that have broadened definitions of harmful behavior, urging parents to approach these conversations with empathy and openness. With practical tips on maintaining hope and practicing radical acceptance, we offer guidance for parents seeking reconciliation and understanding amidst estrangement's complexities.