105. How Narcissists Use Psychology to Destroy Lives | Dr. Kerry McAvoy

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Dr. Kerry McAvoy discusses the psychological tactics that a Narcissist uses to destroy lives, manage their fake image, and control other people.00:00 - Narcissists are predators without conscience00:24 - What makes a narcissist hard to leave?00:57 - You are living in the narcissist's movie01:47 - Agony of mixed reality02:16 - Excuses: state-driven behavior03:09 - Targeting people who believe in goodness03:39 - Testing victim's vulnerability04:31 - Most victims are agreeable and conscientious, not traumatized05:30 - Abusers prey on your conscience06:02 - Abusers spot victims and test boundaries07:30 - Pickup artist narcissist boundary testing08:20 - how Dr. Kerry's ex tested her09:17 - Narcissism and Big 5 Personalities, Dr. Keith Campbell09:40 - Dr. George Simon: They have no conscience10:07 - The brain deficiency of a narcissist11:22 - Narcissists are predatory from birth12:01 - How abusers build their skills13:59 - Dr. Peter Salerno: The SMEAR CAMPAIGN is premeditated14:24 - Mind mapping: How to tell a believable SMEAR CAMPAIGN16:20 - Mind mapping to control people17:34 - Triangulation: playing sides to get the middle18:12 - Trusting your gut won't work!18:45 - Gossip itself is the problem. TRIANGULATION21:19 - What can you do after gossip? DISEMPOWERED22:30 - Recognize the aggression in gossip23:22 - Narcissist's incredible charm24:36 - Fake rapid trust and closeness (Cult Leader Tactics)25:35 - Mimicking, mirroring, parroting26:51 - How Narcissist creates a sense you've always known them28:47 - Narcissism in horror movies29:25 - Overwhelming narcissistic seduction30:10 - The alien evil of the narcissist32:55 - Confusion: the best way to exploit a person34:18 - Victims consume a false reality35:04 - How victims are misled36:42 - Narcissist is the consummate actor. Prof. Sam Vaknin37:08 - Victims give up reality for the relationship38:12 - The danger of prioritizing relationships38:55 - The "long suffering" victim is ideal42:01 - The Narcissist is completely dependent on others44:01 - Isolation, Withholding, SMEAR CAMPAIGN44:11 - The most DANGEROUS moment44:31 - The SMEAR CAMPAIGN grows44:59 - The abuser looks good. Victim looks crazy.46:28 - Defense against SMEAR CAMPAIGN48:53 - How Narcissists rely on compartmentalization54:16 - "Splitting" defense mechanism57:18 - The narcissist's jealousy is competitive57:47 - The narcissist must MALIGN you1:00:02 - Narcissistic abuse in friendships1:00:36 - Narcissistic abuse is worse with friendship1:02:05 - The Twinship tactic of abusers1:03:20 - Joining a friend group as a form of isolation1:03:43 - Joining the narcissist bully's entourage1:03:59 - Complying with the narcissist to get their approval1:04:23 - Narcissists prey on your need to belong1:05:10 - Why Narcissists take victims to new places1:06:02 - Preying on the victim's need to be special1:07:04 - Narcissistic abuse regresses the victim1:11:10 - The Narcissist wants to destroy you1:16:44 - How to trust after narcissistic abuse?1:18:09 - SHARE this episode. Raise awareness about narcissistic abuse.DISCLAIMER: The information provided is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice from a qualified healthcare provider.RELATED LINKSDr. George Simon on Narcissists and Manipulation: https://youtu.be/rThlIF1Hzp4Dr. Peter Salerno on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtMProf. Sam Vaknin on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/MVulOdCa1YUNarcissistic Abuse Recovery: https://youtu.be/XXP941XRLUINarcissistic Relationships Episode: https://youtu.be/dl52f2vy7FQDr. Kerry McAvoy's website: www.kerrymcavoyphd.comDr. Kerry McAvoy's channel: @KerryMcAvoyPhD 🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNp✉️ Get Immediately Actionable Tactics to Be More Strategic: http://eepurl.com/dELB39#narcissisticabuse