37 - The hidden pain men carry AND WHY SILENCE ISN'T STRENGTH

Brothr Podcast w/ Stu Murray

There’s a silence most men carry—one shaped by shame, trauma, and a world that taught us to armor up instead of open up.In this raw and revelatory conversation, Dr. Gary Barker unpacks the unspoken pain men inherit and the quiet crisis of emotional disconnection shaping modern masculinity. From war zones to boardrooms, he’s seen the same wounds… and the same potential for healing.What if the strength we’ve been chasing is actually found in care?🔥 TAKE THE NEXT STEP

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I help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.Men who join us report deeper connections, clearer purpose, and the courage to lead from truth within 30 days.Connect with me: https://www.instagram.com/iamstumurray/ | www.stumurray.com🔺Key Timestamps00:00 – Intro to Masculinity and Gender Justice00:42 – Meet Dr. Gary Barker – His Mission and Work01:40 – What Inspired Gary to Work with Men & Masculinity03:30 – The Culture of Silence Around Male Violence05:15 – Feminist Movement in Latin America Called Men In07:20 – Trauma in Boys: Childhood to Adulthood09:10 – Violence Clothesline Exercise (Powerful Story)10:40 – Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Pain12:00 – Men’s Circles: Creating Safe Spaces14:00 – Fatherhood & The Curious Inner Child16:00 – Trauma Expression: Men vs Women18:20 – Every Violent Man Was Once a Victim20:30 – Group Healing Over Punishment23:30 – Brazilian School Tribe Conflict Resolution25:00 – Building Emotional Vocabulary for Men28:10 – Getting Stuck in the Trauma Loop30:30 – Self-Improvement Isn't a Solo Game33:20 – Male Grit: Showing Up for the Tribe35:10 – Stoicism & The “Work on Myself” Trap38:00 – Young Men and the Pressure to Be Perfect41:00 – Calling Men In, Not Just Calling Them Out44:00 – The Disconnected Digital Manhood Crisis46:30 – Incel Communities and Dangerous Isolation49:30 – Fear of Rejection, Fear of Being Called Out51:00 – Gym, Screens, and Loneliness in Young Men53:00 – TV Series 'Adolescence' and Real-World Impact56:00 – What is Mature Masculinity?58:20 – “Exercise Your Care Muscles” – Final Message01:00:30 – What Gives Dr. Gary Barker Hope