030 | Lurinda V - Rebuilding After The Break-Up

Can We Fkn Talk?

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I welcome back the incredible Lurinda for part two of her story - a no-filter, deeply vulnerable journey through separation, solo parenting, personal growth, and ultimately rekindling her relationship.
We unpack the raw truth of what it really looks like to choose yourself in the messiest seasons - navigating solo Motherhood, facing the possibility of never having your own biological children, confronting past traumas, and slowly rebuilding a new kind of love after heartbreak.
Lurinda shares how shadow work became a pivotal part of her healing and how understanding her own nervous system and identity helped her re-enter her relationship from a grounded and self-aware place.
We also touch on:

• The hard decision to stay when core values start to mis-align.
• Doing the work for yourself, not your partner.
• The messy beauty of rebuilding trust after breakdown.
• Navigating Motherhood, ADHD, PMDD, and intimacy with compassion.
• What healthy co-parenting can really look like - even through a pandemic.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost yourself in love or wondered if there’s a way back after it all falls apart - this episode is for you.

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Chapters

1. Introduction and Overview (00:00:00)

2. Early Relationship (00:01:07)

3. Understanding Shadow Work (00:09:40)

4. Pregnancy and Postpartum Struggles (00:18:48)

5. Separation and Solo Parenting (00:23:00)

6. Rekindling the Relationship (00:27:02)

7. Rebuilding Trust and Moving In (00:35:11)

8. Intimacy Beyond Physicality (00:40:40)

9. Final Thoughts and Retreat Information (00:48:36)