He Started with Love Bombing, He Put Me in the ER | Ep. 25

Coffee with Gays™: Every Sip Is A Story

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Blaine opens up about a relationship that nearly cost him his life.

What began with over-the-top romance — flowers, gifts (include a cadillac SUV), nonstop texts — quickly spiraled into control, isolation, and a trip to the emergency room.

In this deeply personal episode, we unpack how one partner’s “love bombing” turned into fear, gaslighting, and physical violence behind closed doors. Blaine and Reed speak candidly about LGBTQ+ domestic violence, sharing hard truths, a little dark humor, and a whole lot of heart.

Yes, the title leans into viral clickbait — but what’s inside is all too real.

This was a hard one to record. Blaine opens up about the night he feared for his life, the aftermath in the ER, and the comments that hurt most: “Well, it was your fault for staying.”

This episode sheds light on why so many victims can’t just leave, and why victim shaming is not just cruel — it’s dangerous. If you’ve ever felt stuck, scared, or ashamed, this one’s for you. You’re not crazy. You’re not alone.

🧠 What You’ll Hear

• When romantic gestures cross into emotional manipulation
• How love bombing creates trauma bonds
• Why Blaine didn’t leave — and why that question misses the point
• The aftermath: the ER visit, the shame spiral, the rebuilding
• What healing actually looks like (hint: it’s messy, but possible)

💬 Key Takeaways

• Love bombing is manipulation wrapped in flattery.
• LGBTQ+ people face equal or higher rates of domestic violence, yet often lack tailored resources.
• Leaving is not always safe — especially for queer victims.
• Shaming survivors only protects abusers.
• Telling your story can help someone else get out.

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 — Introduction & Setup (a “viral” title with a serious story)
01:45 — Love-Bombed: When the honeymoon phase feels like a dream
05:30 — Red Flags: Jealousy, isolation, and the slow creep of control
10:20 — Walking on Eggshells: Gaslighting and daily fear
15:45 — Breaking Point: The night everything turned violent
20:10 — Aftermath: Waking up in the ER and confronting the truth
24:00 — The Shame Spiral: “It was your fault for staying”
30:15 — Support Systems: Friends, therapy, and safe people 35:40 — The Healing Journey: From broken to rebuilding
40:00 — Speaking Out: Why Blaine’s finally telling this story
45:30 — Closing Thoughts: Hope for anyone who feels stuck

🔊 Sound Bites

• • "It felt like a fairy tale at first."
• • "By the time the first punch came, I already felt trapped."
• • “I said: Please don’t kill me. Thin

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Chapters

1. Episode Introduction: Dating Violence (00:00:00)

2. Flag It or Fix It Dating Game (00:03:45)

3. The Love Bombing Phase (00:10:12)

4. New Year's Party Disaster (00:17:26)

5. The Night of the Assault (00:25:47)

6. The Aftermath and Recovery (00:35:41)

7. Resources for Domestic Violence Victims (00:46:34)

8. Dating Red Flags and Final Thoughts (00:51:26)