Leaving Instagram or Exiting the Portal of the Validation Loop

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2 years ago 30:47

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Welcome to season two of Common Shapes! Since last season, I took a big step in my life and logged out of Instagram for good.

So in this episode, I’m going to share why I left and how I did it. Not from a place of knowing-it-all, but by asking the question, “what does it actually mean to be done with social media?”

I hope this episode inspires you to take supportive steps that are right for you. Tune in to learn about—

What it’s like to leave Instagram
The portal of the validation loop
A big business success moment since leaving
Is Substack social media?
Weaving the personal, poetic & political

Links

Get the Creative Ideation Portal
Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday
Sign up for my Skillshare class, Success on Substack
Listen to Off the Grid podcast — especially the 5-step Plan to Leave Social Media & this conversation with Melissa Word
Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes

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Leaving Instagram or Exiting the Portal of the Validation Loop

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published 2 years ago

MP3•Episode home

Welcome to season two of Common Shapes! Since last season, I took a big step in my life and logged out of Instagram for good.

So in this episode, I’m going to share why I left and how I did it. Not from a place of knowing-it-all, but by asking the question, “what does it actually mean to be done with social media?”

I hope this episode inspires you to take supportive steps that are right for you. Tune in to learn about—

What it’s like to leave Instagram
The portal of the validation loop
A big business success moment since leaving
Is Substack social media?
Weaving the personal, poetic & political

Links

Get the Creative Ideation Portal
Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday
Sign up for my Skillshare class, Success on Substack
Listen to Off the Grid podcast — especially the 5-step Plan to Leave Social Media & this conversation with Melissa Word
Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes

25 episodes

#Arts #Marlee Grace

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Leaving Social Media and Sacred Attention with Amelia Hruby 57:16

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Dear Listener Thank you for tuning into Common Shapes Amelia's Website Softer Sounds Website Download the free Leaving Social Media Toolkit Download the free Creative Ideation Portal Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or a five star rating on Spotify Thank you to : Softer Sounds Studio for podcast editing Saltbreaker for our music Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo for our art Other links : Cody's newsletter Monday Monday Landscapes : A writing group for all genres…

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The Process of Leaving Platforms Behind 24:37

20 weeks ago24:37

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Dear Listener, Thank you for tuning in to Common Shapes today I am teaching Mapping Your Creative Business this weekend Saturday January 18 and Sunday January 19 (8 spots left at time of publishing episode) You can become a free or paid subscriber to Monday Monday here - Also Monday Monday now has a CLASSIFIEDS section where you can buy an ad :) It has been so fun and beautiful to see people's businesses get little boosts Grab the free Creative Ideation Portal to vision your projects and bring them into the world I mention the artist Kening Zhu Join Landscapes : A writing group for all genres Book a 1:1 Creative Advising Session Thank you for supporting the show by sharing this episode on social media, in your newsletter, or texting it to a friend. You can also leave a review on Apple Podcasts or give us five stars on Spotify Podcast editing : Softer Sounds Studio Music : Saltbreaker Art : Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo…

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Weaving Your Own Path to Creative Success with Brandi Cheyenne Harper 1:12:36

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Dear Listener Thank you so much for tuning in Don't forget to grab the free Creative Ideation Portal : Your three day guide to visioning your projects For more of Brandi's work : Website Knitting is a Love Language Newsletter Knitting for Radical Self Care Book Brandi on Instagram Landscapes : A writing group for all genres, where Brandi hosts the monthly BIPOC writers circle. The whole group meets every Tue/Thu 11-1 EST and this Sunday January 12 Jacqueline Suskin is our guest teacher Mapping Your Creative Business Jan 18 + 19 : A year ahead planning retreat on zoom to support you in visioning each quarter of the year, designing your weeks, and dreaming up your offerings To support Common Shapes consider becoming a paid subscriber of Monday Monday my weekly newsletter Thank you to everyone who makes this show possible : Softer Sounds Studio for editing + support Saltbreaker for our music and Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo for our art…

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Business Temp Check 18:18

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Dear listener, SEASON THREE OF COMMON SHAPES IS UPON US It is my absolute pleasure to be back on the microphone and in your ears. Talking about all things business, art, values, deactivating social media, systems, rituals, and practices! Links mentioned : Landscapes : A writing group for all genres Creative Ideation Portal : Free three day guide to visioning your projects Devon Price's essay about burnout Writing The Personal : A three week class to bring the poetic, personal, and political together for essays of self discovery and service starting Dec 8 Taught by Cody Cook-Parrott with guest teachers Anna Fusco and Fariha Róisín…

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Self Publishing, Quitting Social Media, and Alternative Biz Frameworks with Nic Antoinette 59:50

24 weeks ago59:50

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Welcome to another episode of Common Shapes. I am delighted today to share this interview with Nic Antoinette where we talk about doing business differently, unhooking from the loops of social media, self publishing our books, anti capitalist business frameworks, and so much more You can find more of Nic’s work by subscribing to Wild Letters You can check out her website here And her hiking memoirs here Don’t forget to download the free three day Creative Ideation Portal to vision all of your beautiful projects as well as the new Daily Writing Tracker Thanks for listening!…

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Creating A New Suite of Offerings 32:08

24 weeks ago32:08

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In this week’s episode I bring us through both the process of creating a new suite of business offerings as well as presenting to you my very own. I bring you through how I invented these and where I started and how I worked back from that space. A little glimpse inside of my brain. But first : Make sure you download the free Creative Ideation Portal : A three day guide for visioning and planning your own work. Want to go straight to the booking links : Go here . This includes a free 15 minute call you can book if you want to see if any of these are the right fit for you! I am always open to finding exchanges that are right for us together.…

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Creative Energy Outside of Instagram 23:28

24 weeks ago23:28

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Dear listener, Welcome to our last episode of Common Shapes for the year! We will return with new episodes every Wednesday starting January 8 In today’s episode I share a series of practices, systems, and rituals I am doing in place of using Instagram. Make sure you grab the free Creative Ideation Portal : A three day email guide to help you vision your projects and put them out into the world. ALL MY GUIDES : Creative Ideation Portal Weaving in Our Values Toolkit Note Taking Tools + Possibilities Daily Writing Tracker Sublime - You can also subscribe to Sublime on Substack - grateful to Alex Dobrenko` for folding me in Are.na OTHER THINGS I MENTION: Tiego Forte’s PARA method how a photo and video-sharing social networking service gave me my best friends, true love, a beautiful career, and made me want to die - on sale for $5! LIST MAKING PROMPTS : Make a list of five things you’re grateful for Make a list of ten things you can do instead of reaching for your phone Make a list of five friends to call in the next week Make a list of your seventeen favorite words - hang these up Make a list of the ten blessings social media gave you and then make a list of ten places where you can replace that WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW : Leave a review on Apple Podcasts Leave a five star review on Spotify WHO MAKES THIS SHOW POSSIBLE : Editing and support by Softer Sounds Podcast art by Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo Music by Saltbreaker…

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A Flexible Office Hello 👋 6:08

1 year ago6:08

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Hello Common Shapes listeners. 🔸 I wanted to pop in with a little mini-episode to check in between seasons and share a few updates. Take a few minutes to hear why I changed my name and how you can join us in Flexible Office this spring. 🔹 LINKS Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Cultivating Creative Seasons with Jacqueline Suskin 49:28

2 years ago49:28

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This week on Common Shapes podcast, I’m deep in conversation with poet, teacher, and my dear friend, Jacqueline Suskin. Jacqueline is a poet and educator who has been teaching workshops, writing books, hosting retreats and creating spontaneous poetry around the world since 2009. She’s published eight books, and her most recent one, A Year In Practice , was just released with Sounds True press. Together we talk about seasonal practices, radically reconnecting with the Earth, Fern Gully, writing multiple books, having multiple calendars, and choosing to remember. Tune in to learn about— The radical nature of connecting to the Earth’s cycles How to tap into seasonal rhythms Jacqueline’s daily & weekly planning practices What’s our work & what’s not our work How to hold nuance in your writing Links Visit Jacqueline’s website Order Jacqueline’s new book, A Year in Practice Subscribe to Jacqueline’s Substack newsletter Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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How to Tell the Truth with Fariha Róisín 48:49

2 years ago48:49

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This week on Common Shapes podcast, I’m joined by my dear friend Fariha Róisín for a conversation at the intersections of writing, politics, care, and liberation. Fariha is a multi-disciplinary artist born in Ontario, Canada and raised in Sydney, Australia. As a Muslim queer Bangladeshi, she is interested in the margins, liminality, otherness, and the mercurial nature of being. She’s the author of five books and writes the Substack newsletter, How to Cure a Ghost . In this episode, Fariha shares her experience telling the truth amidst propaganda and channeling righteous rage into writing. She explains how she approaches writing about Palestine during the genocide in Gaza and how she embeds the depth of her feelings and beliefs in her work. Tune in to hear about— Feeling the responsibility to speak out Fariha’s process for working on two books at once Pouring your feelings into your writing Demystifying spiritual practice The importance of surrender Where the personal meets the political How Fariha writes her weekly newsletter Links Visit Fariha’s website Order Survival Takes a Wild Imagination Subscribe to Fariha’s Substack newsletter Follow Fariha on Instagram Mentioned in the episode: James Baldwin , Mother Country Radicals Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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The Importance of the Personal Essay 37:38

2 years ago37:38

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I’ve been writing personal essays for over a decade, and I believe that my personal essay practice allowed me to leave social media. So in today’s episode, I share how I blend the personal, the poetic, and the political in my writing. And I unpack how that supports me in speaking up and sharing my work without shying away from what’s happening in the world. I hope this episode inspires you to share your writing with the people. Tune in to learn about— The importance of your life story How to share your political values Facing fear when we don’t know what to say Being willing to get it wrong Why you should choose a container for your writing How personal essays can help you leave social media Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Sign up for Writing the Personal, Dec 3 -17 Mentioned in the episode — Body Work by Melissa Febos , 69herbs , Sister Spinster , Lukaza’s Substack , Fariha’s Substack , Friendship Village book , Bear Hebert , Off the Grid podcast , Ayana Zaire Cotton Substack Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Leaving Instagram or Exiting the Portal of the Validation Loop 30:47

2 years ago30:47

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Welcome to season two of Common Shapes! Since last season, I took a big step in my life and logged out of Instagram for good. So in this episode, I’m going to share why I left and how I did it. Not from a place of knowing-it-all, but by asking the question, “what does it actually mean to be done with social media?” I hope this episode inspires you to take supportive steps that are right for you. Tune in to learn about— What it’s like to leave Instagram The portal of the validation loop A big business success moment since leaving Is Substack social media? Weaving the personal, poetic & political Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Sign up for my Skillshare class, Success on Substack Listen to Off the Grid podcast — especially the 5-step Plan to Leave Social Media & this conversation with Melissa Word Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Embracing Your Everchanging Job Description 39:44

2 years ago39:44

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Making this podcast brought me into a business ecosystem crisis. Very little of my output changed, but my inner understanding of my work needed to shift. So in today’s episode, I’m sharing how my job description has changed since I launched this show. And I’m exploring how shifting your job description can transform your relationship to your work. Tune in to learn about— How to discover what you’re devoted to What are the themes of your job What is not your job How to write your job description Aligning your job with your values & interests What’s next for Common Shapes podcast Links Get my mini-workshop Your Everchanging Job Book a Creative Advising Sessions Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes 🔶 Interested in finding out more about placing an ad for next season? Fill out this form!…

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Creating Your Offer Ecosystem 35:44

2 years ago35:44

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Your offer ecosystem is how your creative offerings branch out of your artistry, fit together in the world, increase your income, and expand your reach. In this episode, I share how I’ve crafted my offer ecosystem over the past decade, and I tell you the stories of how a few of my offers have evolved and even ended. Tune in to learn about— What an offer ecosystem is My favorite ways to get ideas for your offer ecosystem How to choose a container for an offer Why one-on-one work can be a great place to start Charging for your offerings Links Learn more about Teaching As A Practice Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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5 Reasons the World Needs Your Online Class 28:23

2 years ago28:23

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Teaching online classes is how I’ve made the majority of my income since 2017. And it is a great joy of my career to have had such amazing, invested, weird, inspirational students. In this episode, I’m going to share my approach to creating an online class by walking us through how I teach my class A Quilt Is Something Human. I hope that this inspires you to become the teacher that you are meant to be. Grab a pen & paper, then tune in to learn about— How to decide what to teach Reasons to teach online Pricing your online class 5 reasons the world needs your online class Some of my favorite tech for selling online classes Links Learn more about Teaching As A Practice Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Learn about Melissa Word’s class Grief Threads Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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How to Commit to the Life of an Artist with Anna Fusco 1:10:20

2 years ago1:10:20

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This week on Common Shapes podcast, I’m joined by my internet friend Anna Fusco to discuss dedicating your life to art. Anna is an artist, writer, deep thinker, question asker and truth teller. Her practice consists of writing her Substack newsletter and making drawings. Together we talk about our daily list practice, creating a gallery show, the challenges of pricing your work, and what it means to be a full-time artist. Tune in to learn about— The List aka Project Miracle Making art & having art shows Pricing your work Newsletters & Substack How to get started as a self-employed artist Links Make Miracles in Forty Days by Melody Beattie Visit Anna’s poster shop, Lord Cowboy Subscribe to Anna’s Substack newsletter, Unsupervised Follow Anna on Instagram Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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6 Tools for When You Don’t Know What To Do Next 31:05

2 years ago31:05

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I think the great fear of most creative people is that we’ll run out of ideas and not know what to do next. I come up against this time and time again in my own work, so I’ve developed a series of practices for releasing fear, removing blocks, returning to center, and discovering what’s next. Tune in to this episode to learn my six favorite tools for when I don’t know what to do, including— Morning pages & artist dates Movement Phoning a friend Setting up an easy practice List-making Recovery & spiritual practice After you listen, go get my free Creative Ideation Portal , and join me in dreaming up what’s next for you and your work. Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Get Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Storytelling as a Throughline with Tamara Santibañez 1:04:08

2 years ago1:04:08

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This week on Common Shapes podcast, I’m sharing the mic with my friend Tamara Santibañez for a conversation about oral histories, tattooing, freelancing, and art as activism. Tamara is an interdisciplinary artist and oral historian living and working in Brooklyn. Their work is rooted in storytelling and the visual language of identity construction, exploring subcultural semiotics and the meanings we make from bodily adornment. Tune in to hear us discuss— Tamara’s studio practice Oral histories & oral traditions Tattooing as liberation work How to balance many projects as a freelancer Making time for movement work Coalitions & political responsibility The different feelings/functions/forms of Instagram vs Substack Links— Visit Tamara’s website Follow Tamara on Instagram Subscribe to Tamara’s Substack Get Tamara’s book, Could This Be Magic? Tattooing as Liberation Work Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Finding the Pace of Our Work 52:22

2 years ago52:22

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This week on Common Shapes, I share four practices for checking in with your creative pace — internal seasons, intuitive sharing, weather systems, and the earning pathway. This episode feels like an updated version of How to Not Always Be Working , and I hope it serves your practice, your pace, and your deepest alignment. Listen in to learn— Why lists are how I orient myself in my life How to identify & live by your internal seasons What it means to share intuitively How to cultivate your earning pathway Why it’s so important to find your own pace After you listen, go get my free Creative Ideation Portal , and join me in making our art and pacing ourselves. Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Take my class, Organizing A Day Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Our Work is a Web with Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo 58:12

2 years ago58:12

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This week I’m welcoming Common Shapes’ very first guest, Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo. Lukaza (they/them/Lukaza) an artist, abolitionist, educator, storyteller, cultural worker and person of multitudes. Through a practice based in the printed multiple, community-based work and installation building, they invite the viewer to recall and share their own lived narratives, offering power and weight to the creation of a larger dialogue around the telling of B.I.Q.T.P.O.C. (Black, Indigenous, queer, trans, people of color) stories. Listen in to hear us discuss— The web shape for creative work How to craft a studio practice Claiming our work as our main income stream How to weave your values and your activism into your sharing practices The radical history of newsletters Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes More from Lukaza Visit Lukaza’s website Follow Lukaza on Instagram Subscribe to ROOTS WEBS NETS BRANCHES BULLETIN BOARDS…

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Art as Service 32:44

2 years ago32:44

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This week’s episode of Common Shapes is about the fact (yes, it’s a fact) that your art is of service, no matter what you create. I also share my four containers for connecting with the why behind your work. And I offer many, many ideas for how to market your art in creative, fun, meaningful ways. Listen in to learn— Why all art is of service How to figure out who your art is for My favorite creative marketing practices Practices for visioning our work in the world A spell for hitting send After you listen, go get my free Creative Ideation Portal , and join me in sharing your work with the world! Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Join Flexible Office, my digital co-working space Take my Newsletter class Sam Slupski’s I LOVE TO FAIL Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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The Art of Newsletters 34:58

2 years ago34:58

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Today’s episode of Common Shapes is about why I love newsletters and why you (yes, you) should have one. Together we’ll explore the marketing side and the creative side of newsletters. I’ll also share— My journey starting my newsletter How to choose your email service provider The newsletter tech I recommend What to put in your newsletter Examples from my favorite newsletters How to decide if your newsletter should be paid or free After you listen, go get my free Creative Ideation Portal , and get ready to hit send on your first (or next) newsletter today. Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Join Flexible Office, my digital co-working space Take my Newsletter class Use the code MARLEEGRACE to get 50% off your first year of Flodesk Newsletters I mentioned in this episode: Fariha Roisin’s Substack How to Cure a Ghost , Liz Migliorelli’s Sister Spinster newsletter , Kevin Morby’s Substack Off the Grid episode, “To Substack or Not to Substack” Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Making a Beginning 30:37

2 years ago30:37

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Welcome to Common Shapes! This week’s episode is about the art of beginning AKA the moment just before the sunrise of our projects when anything and everything is possible. Tune in to hear me share— Stories of my many creative beginnings My favorite visioning process Reflections on imposter syndrome The magic of starting small Then grab my free Creative Ideation Portal and start dreaming up your own beginnings today. Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Sign up for my class, The Art of Beginning Take my Newsletter class Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Creating Creative Containers 29:52

2 years ago29:52

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Today’s episode of Common Shapes is about creating creative containers for our work and convening the spiritual committees that help us make and share our art. Tune in to hear me share— The many shapes my work has taken How I select and gather my spiritual committee for each creative project Why you need an email list All kinds of containers your work can take The importance of being in community with other artists Then grab my free Creative Ideation Portal and start gathering your committee and outlining your first project today. Links Get the Creative Ideation Portal Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Monday Monday Join Flexible Office, my digital co-working space Take my Newsletter class Teachers I shared: Bear Hebert of Marketing for Weirdos & Amelia Hruby of Off the Grid Find all these links & more at codycookparrott.com/commonshapes…

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Welcome to Common Shapes 5:10

2 years ago5:10