Betsy Holmberg – Unkind Mind: Rewiring Self-Doubt and Silencing the Inner Critic for Parents of Complex Kids
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In Episode 14 of Complex Kids, Simple Solutions, host Michelle Choairy is joined by Dr. Betsy Holmberg—clinical psychologist and author of Unkind Mind—for an eye-opening conversation on what’s really going on inside our heads when we feel overwhelmed, self-critical, or stuck in the spiral of “I’m a bad mom.”
Betsy introduces us to the Default Mode Network (DMN)—the part of the brain responsible for all that internal chatter—and shares groundbreaking tools to help parents stop believing the lies their brains tell them. From late-night guilt to comparison traps, Betsy breaks down the neuroscience behind our thoughts and offers compassionate, research-backed ways to reclaim peace.
Together, Michelle and Betsy discuss why parenting complex or neurodivergent kids activates our deepest self-doubt, how community can rewire our brain’s harshest narratives, and how moms can start to shift from shame to self-trust—without needing to fix everything first.
👤 About the Guest
Dr. Betsy Holmberg is a psychologist and researcher specializing in neuroplasticity and the Default Mode Network. A graduate of Princeton and holder of a Ph.D. from Duke, Betsy spent years in clinical settings before focusing on how the brain’s internal dialogue affects mental health. She’s the author of Unkind Mind: How to Stop Believing the Lies Our Brain Tells Us, and she empowers people—especially parents—to quiet their inner critic and live from a place of truth and love.
🔗 Connect with Dr. Betsy Holmberg
Website: betsyholmberg.com
Instagram: @betsyholmberg
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