35: Conquering Intimacy Conflict with Steph Flood, LMFT

Conversations for Couples

Why is it so hard for couples to talk about sex and intimacy—even after years together?
In this powerful episode of Conversations for Couples, Julie and David Bullitt sit down with licensed therapist and intimacy expert Steph Flood to talk all things sex, shame, vulnerability, and communication in long-term relationships.
Steph has worked with over 1,000 couples, helping them reignite their intimacy and navigate issues like mismatched libidos, infidelity, low sex drive, and that all-too-common post-kid disconnect. She brings honesty, humor, and professional insight into one of the most vulnerable topics couples face.
💬 What We Cover in This Episode:

• Why we’re never taught how to talk about sex
  
• The shame and silence around intimacy in relationships
  
• Why parenting and menopause are intimacy killers—and how to reconnect
  
• What really happens with mismatched sex drives
  
• The truth about porn, performance anxiety, and unrealistic expectations
  
• How to rekindle desire when your bodies—and routines—have changed
  
• The “daily affection” tip that helps couples stay close
  
• Why honest check-ins and communication may save your marriage
  
• Steph’s 3 go-to tips for couples struggling with sex
  

📌 Steph’s Top 3 Tips:

1. Have regular intimacy check-ins: "How’s this going for you?" goes a long way.
   
2. Practice daily affection: Hugs, touch, and physical closeness—not just sex—keep your bond strong.
   
3. Be honest about your needs before they turn into resentments. Vulnerability builds connection.
   

👩‍💻 More About Steph Flood:
Steph is a Nashville-based marriage and family therapist who offers virtual therapy, courses, and coaching for couples across the country.
📲 Find her at:
🔗 Website: www.afloodoflove.com
📸 Instagram: @stephfloodoflove
💑 Hosted by Julie & David Bullitt
Julie is a licensed family therapist. David is a divorce and family lawyer. Married for 38 years, they've worked with couples through the toughest of times—and come out stronger.
📍 Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to the Podcast
02:00 Why Is Sex So Hard to Talk About?
06:40 Shame, Religion, and the Messages We Inherit
09:50 Common Points Where Couples Drift
12:20 How to Talk About Intimacy Without Blame
15:15 Post-Kids, Menopause, and Low Libido
20:00 When Porn Becomes a Problem
23:30 Communication Tools: Check-Ins, Affection & Honesty
28:10 Daily Touch & the “Are You Needing More?” Conversation
31:00 Safe Communication for When You Feel Disconnected
34:00 Steph’s Online Course & How to Work With Her
36:00 Final Takeaways
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