Self-FULL

Conversations with Thomas

Self-FULL

Many of you know that I, at one time, had 9 other siblings. And of course, from my Mom’s vantage point, the best version of her children were the ones that weren’t going to be selfish. I was loved when I shared.

I hated sharing with my siblings. Having nothing of my own growing up was quite painful. So as much as I learned to share, I preferred to be selfish, at least that’s what I wanted as a little boy.

In therapy one day the idea of better self-care was bandied about by my therapist. “What would it be like to be more selfish”, my well-intended therapist asked.

I remember starting to cry. Through tear filled eyes I said, “I always thought I wasn’t loved by my Mom when I was selfish.”

It was a story I made up when she busted me for not sharing a block of Hershey’s chocolate a friend of my Dad bought for me.

After getting me re-grounded he gently asked, “If there was term or concept that meant you focusing on you, but you didn’t use the term selfish, what would it be?”

As my eyes lifted to meet his, I began to smile. “What about self-FULL? Would that work?”

Like any good therapist worth their salt he asked, “Would that work for you?” “Hell yes!”, I said.

In today’s podcast I want to breathe some energy into the concept of being self-full.

I’ll also share 6 reasons why living “SELF-FULL” is incredibly generous.