ADHD, Shame, and Approaching Women: Real Talk for Neurodivergent Men

Dad Starting Over

Today’s Dear DSO submission is from a neurodivergent man—he’s got ADHD, a lot of anxiety, and not much dating experience. He feels like he’s defective, like he’ll never figure out how to talk to women or attract them. He sent in a long list of brutally honest questions:

“How do I feel confident when women have all the power?”

“How do I not look needy just by showing interest?”

“Do normal guys really know what they’re doing?”

This one hit hard, and I think a lot of men—especially autistic or ADHD guys—are going to relate.

In this video, I break down where these feelings of shame come from, why experience and repetition are more powerful than any pickup advice, and how to start small and work your way up. This isn't about fake confidence. This is about getting real, falling on your face, and standing back up.

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