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The Nice Guy vs The Kind Man, with April
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๐ The alternative to being a Nice Guyโข is often considered to be a Bad Boy ๐จโ๐ค Because many people think that the problem is being a good person. And, sure, some people might be attracted to that... in the short term. But if you're looking to build a healthy and loving relationship, you may want to look into becoming a Kind Person, instead ๐
๐ค In this episode, April returns to share what made her fall for her husband Scott. It wasn't his wealth (he lived in an RV), or being a nerd (he watched Star Trek and played video games), or his physique (we'll just believe her with that). It was him being "the kindest man she'd ever known." ๐
๐ค What sometimes goes wrong with Nice Guysโข is giving with unspoken (and not agreed upon) expectations (a.k.a. manipulation) and a lack of boundaries. Some examples could be giving gifts or doing favors for someone you don't have a close relationship with, often at the expense of your own problems, expecting them to like you or do something for/with you ๐
โ If you feel like you've been rejected for being a Nice Guyโข and you have to turn into a Bad Boy, give this episode a listen. You'll find many ways to become more attractive as a kind, good, and generous person ๐ช
๐ง Listen now and trade the Nice Guyโข for the Kind Person!
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Vulnerability Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/be-like-a-barbarian-be-vulnerable/
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Timestamps for lazy nerds:
- 00:00:00 Intro
- 00:00:41 Being a Nice Guy
- 00:04:52 Kind Person Behaviors
- 00:09:07 Working on Your Mental Health
- 00:13:31 Weird Acts of Kindness
- 00:17:18 Boundary Problems with Nice Guys
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