026 Why Imperfection Matters in Parenting - with Sophie Moskowitz

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In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, we’re joined by Sophie Moskowitz from Imperfect Parents, who brings a powerful message every parent deserves to hear: you don’t have to be perfect to be enough. Together, we unpack the unspoken pressures of parenting in a world that often tells us we should “do it all” – and do it flawlessly.

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re doing a “good enough” job, wrestled with guilt, or felt isolated in your struggles, this honest, hopeful conversation will remind you that you’re not alone. Sophie shares how her own parenting journey – filled with both heart and hardship – led her to create a community that celebrates the real, raw, and often messy experiences of raising kids.

In this episode, we cover:

The myth of the “perfect parent” and why it’s time to let it go
How unrealistic societal expectations are making parenting harder – especially for mums
The emotional toll of comparison culture (and what to do instead)
Practical mindset shifts to move from guilt to connection
The magic of play – and how understanding your child’s play schemas can help you reconnect, even on tough days
Why naming your struggles is the first step to finding freedom in them

You’ll come away with:

Reassurance that you’re not failing – you’re simply human
Tools to reframe your parenting expectations in a way that actually feels good
Real-life stories that make you nod, laugh, and maybe cry a little
Encouragement to embrace the imperfect, ordinary moments that truly matter
A reminder that being “good enough” is not settling – it’s powerful

Sophie’s down-to-earth, no-judgement approach will speak straight to your heart – whether you’re parenting a toddler through tantrums, juggling multiple roles, or simply wondering if everyone else is doing it better than you.

This episode is a love letter to you, the parent showing up every day and doing your best – even when it doesn’t feel like enough.

Tune in now and give yourself the same compassion you so easily offer your kids.

Don’t forget to subscribe, share, or leave a review if this episode resonates – it helps us reach more amazing parents just like you.

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Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

026 Why Imperfection Matters in Parenting - with Sophie Moskowitz

Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

published about a year ago

MP3•Episode home

In this episode, we cover:

The myth of the “perfect parent” and why it’s time to let it go
How unrealistic societal expectations are making parenting harder – especially for mums
The emotional toll of comparison culture (and what to do instead)
Practical mindset shifts to move from guilt to connection
The magic of play – and how understanding your child’s play schemas can help you reconnect, even on tough days
Why naming your struggles is the first step to finding freedom in them

You’ll come away with:

Reassurance that you’re not failing – you’re simply human
Tools to reframe your parenting expectations in a way that actually feels good
Real-life stories that make you nod, laugh, and maybe cry a little
Encouragement to embrace the imperfect, ordinary moments that truly matter
A reminder that being “good enough” is not settling – it’s powerful

This episode is a love letter to you, the parent showing up every day and doing your best – even when it doesn’t feel like enough.

Tune in now and give yourself the same compassion you so easily offer your kids.

Don’t forget to subscribe, share, or leave a review if this episode resonates – it helps us reach more amazing parents just like you.

Send us a text

Support the show

If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!

and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

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035 Throwback Episode: The Magic Behind Repetitive Play | Episode 002 19:43

5 days ago19:43

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“Why is my toddler always dropping things, spinning, or hiding under the table?” If you’ve ever found yourself asking this (or wondering if it’s normal)... this episode is for you. Hi, I’m Ruth from The Play Schemas Collective, and I help parents make sense of their child’s play, so you can stop second-guessing and start enjoying the magic of toddlerhood (meltdowns and all 😉). In this episode, we’re going back to where it all began: Play Schemas 101 . These repeating actions you’re seeing? They’re not random. They’re part of how your child thinks, explores, and learns . They're called play schemas, and understanding them is a game-changer. I’ll walk you through the 10 most common play schemas; what they are, what they look like in everyday life, and how you can support them without adding more to your plate. Here’s a little taster of what we’ll cover: Trajectory Schema – Think throwing, dropping, pushing. Your child’s learning about gravity, motion, and control. Transporting Schema – Carrying toys from room to room? That’s spatial learning and organisation in action. Enveloping Schema – Hiding under blankets or wrapping toys? They’re exploring boundaries and safety. Rotation Schema – Spinning wheels, twirling in circles… great for motor skills and balance. Connecting & Disconnecting – Building and breaking apart teaches cause and effect, problem-solving, and fine motor control. Enclosure & Positioning – Lining up toys, putting things “just so”… they're exploring order, maths concepts, and visual patterns. Orientation & Transformation – Looking at the world upside down? Mixing sand and water? Yep—that’s creativity, sensory exploration, and big-picture thinking at play. Plus, I’ll share simple ways you can support these play urges at home, without buying anything new or spending hours setting up fancy activities. If you’ve ever wondered why your toddler plays the way they do, this episode will help it all click into place. And remember, this knowledge doesn’t just help your child... it helps you feel calmer, more confident, and less like you're flying blind in the chaos of toddlerhood. Grab your FREE Play Schemas Cheat Sheet at www.playschemas.com/free and start recognising the patterns in your child’s play today. I’d love to hear how play is showing up at your place, send me your stories, questions or those “what is happening?!” moments. 📲 DM me on Instagram @play_schemas 📧 Email me at Ruth@PlaySchemas.com 🌐 Explore more at www.playschemas.com S ubscribe to the show for more toddler behaviour insights and parenting support, one play schema at a time. And remember… today is a great day to play. Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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034 Why Is My Toddler Always Throwing Things? Understanding the Trajectory Schema 8:26

12 days ago8:26

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Ever wondered why your toddler throws their food, launches toys off the couch, or can’t stop running back and forth? It’s not just chaos - it’s science in action. In this episode, I’m giving you exclusive access to one of the most-loved modules from The Play Schemas Collective - all about trajectory play . You’ll learn to spot the everyday signs that your child is exploring this powerful play schema, and most importantly, what it’s telling you about their development. We’ll unpack: Why your child keeps throwing, dropping, and launching objects (and it’s not to wind you up!) How fascination with movement is actually deep learning in disguise What’s really going on when your child knocks over towers, flings socks, or can’t stop spinning How to tell the difference between "bad behaviour" and a developmental drive that needs support Practical ways to channel this energy into safe, satisfying play—without constant battles Whether you’re folding laundry, pacing the pram, or finally sitting with a cuppa, this episode offers insight that’ll change how you see your child’s play... less mess, more meaning. Want the free printable handout that goes with this episode? Grab it at playschemas.com/free Hit subscribe to follow along with more schema-deep dives and share this episode with a friend who’s tired of picking up thrown spaghetti! Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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033 Getting Outside as a Family with Guest Adiva 14:38

19 days ago14:38

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Feeling overwhelmed by the idea of getting your kids out the door for a walk or a play at the park? You’re not alone. But what if those muddy puddles, long car rides, and slow wanders were actually building blocks for your child’s development? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , I am joined by Adiva, founder of @LittleTrailsNZ and mum of four, to talk about the power of outdoor play — and how it supports strong family bonds. Whether your child loves throwing sticks, lining up shells, or digging in the dirt, they’re engaging in deep, meaningful learning. And the best part? You don’t need fancy gear or perfect weather to make it happen. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the journey (yes, even the car ride!) matters as much as the destination How following your child’s lead supports confidence and curiosity Simple ways to prepare for mess, mud, and magic How to start small and build up to bigger adventures The underestimated power of snacks and toilets (trust us!) This one’s for the parents who want to get outside more but aren’t sure where to start — or how to make it work with toddlers in tow. It’s real, relatable, and packed with practical tips. Listen now and get inspired to create small moments of wonder with your tamariki — no matter the season. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a comment letting us know your favourite outdoor activity! Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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032 Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor Now & Play Freely With Your Kids | Guest Caren 26:58

26 days ago26:58

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Is your pelvic floor holding you back from truly enjoying play with your kids?You’re not alone — and this episode is here to help. Whether it’s needing to cross your legs when you sneeze, quietly avoiding playing chase the backyard... not to even mention the fear of hearing 'Mum's turn' when it comes to the trampoline. Pelvic floor issues are incredibly common for mums after pregnancy and birth. But just because it’s common… doesn’t mean it has to be your new normal. In this empowering episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas , I sit down with Caren from Empowered Mums Fitness , a mum-safe certified trainer and expert in pelvic floor health, to talk about what no one tells you about your pelvic floor until it’s already affecting your daily life. And yes — we’re talking wee, farts, tampons, and blueberries. You’ll never forget how to engage your pelvic floor after hearing this! What We’re Chatting About: This episode goes beyond the basics of pelvic health and dives into how a strong, responsive pelvic floor can help you get back to doing what you love most — playing, laughing, running, dancing, and living fully with your kids. We cover: What actually is the pelvic floor? (And why it matters more than we realised) How pregnancy and birth affect your body, even if you had a C-section Why so many mums think leaking is “just the way it is” (spoiler: it doesn’t have to be!) Easy tips to fit pelvic floor care into your busy life ( hello, connection breath! ) The “fart, tampon, wee” trick for full pelvic floor activation (yes, it’s as memorable as it sounds) That it’s never too late to start, whether your child is 1 or 31 We know parenting little ones means you’re often folding laundry with one hand and wrangling a toddler with the other. That’s why this episode is packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and expert tips, all delivered in a down-to-earth, supportive tone that feels like chatting with a good mate over a cuppa. You deserve to play, run, dance, and laugh with your children — without fear of leaking, pain, or shame. Because today is a great day to play — and you shouldn’t have to plan it around the toilet. Want to connect with Caren? www.empowermefitness.co.nz FB: @empowermefc Insta: @empoweredmumsfitness Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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031 “I Can’t Play With My Kids”: Why It Feels So Hard and What Actually Helps 14:46

5 weeks ago14:46

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Ever feel like you should be playing with your child… but you just can’t bring yourself to do it? Maybe you’re exhausted. Maybe you feel silly or awkward. Maybe you’re not even sure how to play anymore. If this sounds familiar, you are so not alone. In fact, many loving, involved parents feel exactly the same. And in this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why play can feel so hard and what can actually help. Whether you’re a stay-at-home parent, juggling part-time work, or doing it all, you’ll walk away from this episode feeling less guilty, more confident, and much better equipped to enjoy play (even just a little) with your child. Here’s what we’ll unpack in this episode: 10 very real reasons why play feels hard for parents: from lack of time and low energy, to different play styles, technology distractions, and emotional burnout How your own childhood experiences (or lack of playful ones) might be influencing the way you show up for your child now The power of understanding play schemas, those fascinating patterns of repetitive play (like spinning, throwing, lining up, and wrapping things up) that tell you what’s going on in your child’s brain Simple, guilt-free strategies that help you connect through play... without needing to be silly, imaginative, or high-energy How play supports emotional intelligence, brain development, confidence, and deep parent-child bonds—even when it doesn’t look “educational” Listen in and let this episode remind you: You don’t have to do more or be more to be a good parent. Sometimes, all it takes is understanding why things feel hard—and seeing your child’s play through a new lens. Want more support and ideas? Visit www.playschemas.com for free resources, schema-aligned play ideas, and real-life parenting tips Follow on Instagram: @play_schemas Subscribe to the newsletter for weekly encouragement and fresh inspiration If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to follow the podcast, share it with a friend, or leave a review—it helps more parents discover the power of play without pressure. Because when we understand what play really is—we can stop feeling guilty and start feeling connected... and remember... today is a GREAT day to play! Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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030 Play, Not Pressure: How Everyday Play Builds Your Child’s Literacy Foundation with Alex Weehuizen 32:38

6 weeks ago32:38

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Worried your toddler isn’t “school ready”? Feel like you should be doing flashcards, worksheets, or alphabet drills — but it just doesn’t sit right? This episode is your deep breath and warm reassurance. We’re busting the myth that early literacy needs to look like formal learning and showing you how play , movement , and everyday conversations are actually doing the heavy lifting. Join host Ruth Vercoe and special guest Alex, from First Five Years — a mum of twins, ECE expert, parenting coach, and holistic sleep consultant — as we unpack what early literacy really looks like for children aged 1 to 5. Spoiler alert: It’s not about teaching your toddler to read before school. It’s about understanding the powerful role that play, language, movement and connection have in laying the foundation for confident, capable readers later on. 🎙️ In this practical and uplifting episode, we dive into: Why early literacy is more than just reading & writing and why it develops slowly, layer by layer How repetitive play (hello, play schemas!) supports deep learning and language development The overlooked link between crawling, monkey bars, and learning to hold a pencil Why you don’t need to spend money on fancy resources — your everyday routines are full of literacy gold What serve and return conversations are, and why they might be the most important thing you do today How singing silly songs, drawing squiggles, and reading the pictures (not just the words) all build literacy Simple ways to use art, storytelling, and play to help your child become a confident communicator The number one tip we both swear by (and no, it’s not more screen time or early readers!) Here’s what you’ll walk away with: ✔️ Clear guidance on what literacy really looks like in the early years ✔️ Confidence in using everyday moments to support your child’s learning ✔️ Encouragement to slow down and embrace the power of play ✔️ A deeper understanding of how movement, art, and sound lay the groundwork for school success Your child is learning every day — not because you’re “teaching” them, but because you’re with them. Ready to reframe literacy and feel more empowered in your parenting? Tune in now and discover how to turn everyday moments into meaningful opportunities for learning and connection. Connect with Alex Instagram: @first.five.years and firstfiveyears.co.nz Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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029 Why Play Builds Connection With Your Child 11:22

7 weeks ago11:22

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Connecting with Your Child Through Play — Why It Matters More Than You Think Is your toddler constantly throwing toys, lining them up, or wrapping things in blankets and you’re not quite sure why? What if these repetitive behaviours are actually your child’s way of connecting with you? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we dive deep into a powerful parenting truth: connection doesn’t just happen through doing dishes and conversations — it happens through play. As parents of young children, we all want to feel close to our kids. We want to support their development, encourage independence, and nurture emotional intelligence, but sometimes, that connection can feel out of reach, especially when your child seems more interested in throwing blocks than talking to you. That’s where understanding play schemas changes everything. 🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why play is not a distraction from connection — it is connection. What play schemas are and how they show up in your child’s everyday behaviour. How these natural play urges support cognitive, emotional, and social development. Why recognising your child’s schema can stop you from misreading their behaviour as “naughty” or “out of control”. Simple, effective ways to join your child’s play — even if you’re not a “playful” parent. How schema-informed play builds trust, reduces power struggles, and helps your child thrive. We know life with toddlers can be messy, loud, and full of surprises. It’s easy to feel like you’re just surviving the day, especially when your child insists on playing the same game over and over again. But what if that repetition is actually a window into their world? It’s not about doing more. It’s about noticing more and meeting your child where they are. Whether you’re new to the idea of play schemas or have heard the term before but aren’t quite sure how it applies, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to support your child in a deeper, more connected way. Explore the blog: playschemas.com/blog Follow along on Instagram: @play_schemas Join our newsletter for schema insights & freebies: playschemas.com Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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028 Unlock Your Child's Learning Through Play: Join 'The Play Schemas Collective' BETA 7:09

8 weeks ago7:09

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Apply to Join the BETA Test Group – Spaces Are Limited! Applications close 26 June 2025. Only 5 spots available. For more information and to apply now, head to https://playschemas.com/beta Or flick me a DM on Instagram: @Play_Schemas Get FREE access during the BETA round Enjoy a FREE first month once we officially launch Book a personalised 1:1 coaching session with a play schema specialist (that’s me!) Receive early access to schema-aligned video and printable resources Join our exclusive affiliate programm. And just for applying — get a FREE schema-aligned printable you can use right away! Applications close 26 June 2025. Only 5 spots available. For more information and to apply now, head to https://playschemas.com/beta Or flick me a DM on Instagram: @Play_Schemas Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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027 Why I Still Say “Be Careful” Even Though I Love Risky Play 13:27

9 weeks ago13:27

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Do you ever catch yourself saying, “Be careful!” — even when you’re trying to let your child take healthy risks? You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we unpack one of the biggest tensions many parents face: wanting to support our children confidence and independence, while still keeping them safe. If you’ve ever felt unsure about how much risk is “too much” when your toddler is climbing high, jumping off furniture, or running full speed down a hill, this episode is for you. We’re diving into the world of risky play — what it is, why it’s developmentally important, and how it links to the play schemas that drive your child’s behaviour. You’ll hear honest reflections from a fellow mum (that’s me!) who still says “be careful” sometimes — and why I’m okay with that. In This Episode, We’ll Explore: What risky play actually means — and why it’s vital for building resilience, body awareness, and confidence The difference between dangerous play and developmentally appropriate risk Why the play schemas behind risky play matter (think trajectory, rotation, orientation…) How to respond with calm, connection, and trust instead of fear or control Simple scripts you can use to coach your child through risk, like: “Do your hands feel steady?” or “What’s your plan?” Whether your child is 1 or 5, understanding their drive for risky play through the lens of schemas can transform your parenting — helping you say “yes” more often, and feel good about it. You’ll also learn: The 10 most common play schemas and how they show up in risky play Why letting your child test their limits doesn’t make you reckless — it makes you responsive How saying “be careful” with intention can still build connection and emotional literacy Ways to support schema-led exploration safely at home, on the playground, and in nature Because parenting is full of moments where we just want to keep them safe — but when we understand what’s driving their behaviour, we can support growth and confidence without shutting down their curiosity. So pop this episode on while you’re making a cuppa, folding the washing, or out for a walk with the pram — and let’s make sense of the messy, marvellous world of toddler play together. Press play and feel more confident supporting your child's exploration — even when it feels a little bit scary. Listen now and don’t forget to: Subscribe to the podcast Leave a comment or review — it means the world Share this episode with another parent who’s navigating risk & play For more schema-aligned tips and free printables, visit: https://playschemas.com Follow us on Instagram: @Play_Schemas And remember... today is a GREAT day to play! #PlaySchemas #RiskyPlay #ParentingPodcastNZ #ToddlerDevelopment #PositiveParentin Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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026 Why Imperfection Matters in Parenting - with Sophie Moskowitz 23:13

10 weeks ago23:13

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Ever feel like you’re the only one dropping the ball as a parent? Spoiler alert: you’re not, you're not alone in feeling this... and this episode might just be the breath of fresh air you didn’t know you needed. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas , we’re joined by Sophie Moskowitz from Imperfect Parents, who brings a powerful message every parent deserves to hear: you don’t have to be perfect to be enough . Together, we unpack the unspoken pressures of parenting in a world that often tells us we should “do it all” – and do it flawlessly. If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re doing a “good enough” job, wrestled with guilt, or felt isolated in your struggles, this honest, hopeful conversation will remind you that you’re not alone . Sophie shares how her own parenting journey – filled with both heart and hardship – led her to create a community that celebrates the real, raw, and often messy experiences of raising kids. In this episode, we cover: The myth of the “perfect parent” and why it’s time to let it go How unrealistic societal expectations are making parenting harder – especially for mums The emotional toll of comparison culture (and what to do instead) Practical mindset shifts to move from guilt to connection The magic of play – and how understanding your child’s play schemas can help you reconnect, even on tough days Why naming your struggles is the first step to finding freedom in them You’ll come away with: Reassurance that you’re not failing – you’re simply human Tools to reframe your parenting expectations in a way that actually feels good Real-life stories that make you nod, laugh, and maybe cry a little Encouragement to embrace the imperfect, ordinary moments that truly matter A reminder that being “good enough” is not settling – it’s powerful Sophie’s down-to-earth, no-judgement approach will speak straight to your heart – whether you’re parenting a toddler through tantrums, juggling multiple roles, or simply wondering if everyone else is doing it better than you. This episode is a love letter to you , the parent showing up every day and doing your best – even when it doesn’t feel like enough. Tune in now and give yourself the same compassion you so easily offer your kids. Don’t forget to subscribe , share , or leave a review if this episode resonates – it helps us reach more amazing parents just like you. More for you: Read the blog for more parenting insights: playschemas.com/026 Join the email list for weekly play-based parenting tips: playschemas.com Connect with us on Instagram: @play_schemas Follow Sophie’s work: @imperfect_parents Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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025 Parenting Hacks: Master ‘When’ & ‘Then’ Magic! 8:40

11 weeks ago8:40

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The Two Words That Will Transform Your Parenting — “When” and “Then” Are you tired of endless toddler negotiations, meltdowns during transitions, or repeating yourself a hundred times a day? You’re not alone — and there is a gentle, effective way forward. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , Ruth Vercoe introduces two simple, yet powerful words that can make all the difference: “when” and “then.” Whether you're trying to get your child out the door, clean up after play, or move from one activity to the next — these words offer a calm, respectful way to guide your child through their day without constant power struggles. What’s this episode all about? This isn’t just another parenting hack — it’s a mindset shift grounded in how young children actually understand the world. When used consistently, “when” and “then” give toddlers and preschoolers a sense of structure, predictability, and emotional safety. You’ll hear real-life examples from Ruth’s own parenting journey, as well as practical phrases you can start using today. And here’s where it gets even more powerful: this episode also explores how “when-then” language aligns beautifully with your child’s play schemas — those fascinating, repetitive behaviours that form the foundation of how they learn and grow. You’ll walk away with: A clear understanding of what “when-then” language is and how to use it Real examples for everyday scenarios — from snack time to messy play Insight into how play schemas shape your child’s behaviour Tips to identify and support your child’s dominant play schema Confidence to redirect behaviour gently without saying “no” all the time A calmer, more cooperative home where play and parenting flow together Why it works “When” and “then” create cause and effect that young children can understand. Instead of vague instructions like “soon” or “later” (which mean nothing to a toddler), you’re offering a safe and predictable roadmap for what’s happening next. And when you match this simple structure with your child’s natural learning patterns — like the trajectory schema (throwing), transportation schema (carrying), or rotation schema (spinning) — you’re not just managing behaviour. You’re nurturing your child’s development in a deeply respectful way. Ruth explains how to spot these patterns and work with them instead of against them. You’ll be amazed how a tiny shift in language can create massive changes in your everyday routines. This episode is perfect for you if: You’ve got children aged 1–5 years You’re curious about play-based learning and positive parenting You want to feel more confident and less frustrated You’re after realistic, gentle parenting tools that actually work ✨ So take a breath, pop your headphones on — whether you're folding laundry, making lunch, or out for a wal Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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024 Part 1 - Self Care through the Schemas with Hannah Sadlier 17:13

12 weeks ago17:13

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Part 1 of 2 In this episode, we’re flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, we’re inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life — through play schemas. Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful — often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, it’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re running on empty. But here’s the good news: you don’t need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice what’s already happening. In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas — those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks — can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your child’s development and your emotional wellbeing. Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime — not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect. You’ll hear: What play schemas actually are — and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over again How common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your child’s early learning How to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!) Why “playing alongside” your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilience Encouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parenting Whether you’re stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort — these everyday moments can be a form of self-care. This episode is perfect for you if: You’re parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeply You’re craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa day You want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parent You’re curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in hand Ruth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums who’ve been there — no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life. ✨ Loved this episode? Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a dose of play-based insight. 💬 Leave a comment or share with a friend who needs a parenting pep-talk today. 📲 Follow us on Instagram @Play_Schemas for more relatable parenting tips and play inspiration. 📧 Sign up at Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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024 Part 2 - Self Care through the Schemas with Hannah Sadlier 19:17

12 weeks ago19:17

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Part 2 of 2 In this episode, we’re flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, we’re inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life — through play schemas. Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful — often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, it’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re running on empty. But here’s the good news: you don’t need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice what’s already happening. In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas — those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks — can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your child’s development and your emotional wellbeing. Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime — not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect. You’ll hear: What play schemas actually are — and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over again How common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your child’s early learning How to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!) Why “playing alongside” your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilience Encouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parenting Whether you’re stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort — these everyday moments can be a form of self-care. This episode is perfect for you if: You’re parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeply You’re craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa day You want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parent You’re curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in hand Ruth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums who’ve been there — no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life. ✨ Loved this episode? Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a dose of play-based insight. 💬 Leave a comment or share with a friend who needs a parenting pep-talk today. 📲 Follow us on Instagram @Play_Schemas for more relatable parenting tips and play inspiration. 📧 Sign up at Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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023 Why Your Toddler Isn’t Listening — And What to Do About It with Heather Schalk 34:59

13 weeks ago34:59

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Ever feel like your toddler is just ignoring you on purpose? You’ve asked nicely (three times), tried raising your voice, or even taken a toy away — and still, they won’t listen. Before you start second-guessing yourself or wondering if it’s just your child, take a deep breath. You are not alone — and there’s a powerful reason behind this common toddler behaviour. In this episode, Ruth sits down with parenting and behaviour specialist Heather Schalk to uncover why toddlers really don’t listen — and it’s not what you might think. Connect with Heather https://heatherschalkparentingblog.com/ @HeatherSchalkParenting This conversation dives into what’s going on beneath the surface of toddler behaviour. We explore how so-called “defiance” is often a sign of underdeveloped emotional, communication, or social skills — not a problem with your parenting. Together, Ruth and Heather unpack: Why toddlers ignore instructions (spoiler: it's not always intentional!) The Toddler Reactivity Loop — what it is, how to spot it, and how to break the cycle The role of play schemas in behaviour — and how to work with them, not against them How to tell if your toddler is actually regulated and ready to listen Why “connect before correct” leads to calmer, more confident parenting Practical Tips You Can Use Right Away This isn’t just theory — it’s full of real-world strategies for real-life parents. You’ll learn how to: Tune in to your child’s cues before giving instructions Use transition items and visual cues to support smoother routines Respond to big emotions with empathy — while still holding boundaries Teach self-advocacy phrases like “My turn next” or “I’m not done yet” Praise natural moments of waiting or cooperation to build emotional resilience Reframe common challenges (like spilling milk or toy-throwing) into learning moments You’ll hear relatable examples from Heather’s own life with twins and Ruth’s practical insights into how play schemas shape your child’s behaviour — even when it seems challenging. You’re Doing Better Than You Think! Parenting toddlers is exhausting. It’s full of curveballs, chaos, and so many questions. But with just a little shift in perspective, you can turn everyday frustrations into meaningful opportunities for growth — for both you and your child. This episode will leave you feeling supported, seen, and more confident in your role as your child’s first teacher. Whether you’re folding laundry, walking the pram, or hiding in the pantry for five minutes’ peace, this one’s for you. Want More Support? For more on play schemas, child development, and daily ideas to support your little one’s learning journey, head to our Freebies page : www.playschemas.com/free You’ll find free downloads, activity ideas, and inspiration to make play more purpos Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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022 Growing Curiosity: How Gardening Supports Play Schemas & Child Development 21:17

14 weeks ago21:17

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What if your toddler’s obsession with mud, watering cans, or hauling carrots isn’t just play—but a window into how they learn best? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we take you into the garden—yes, dirt and all—to uncover how vegetable gardening can reveal powerful insights about your child’s development. Whether your little one is digging, transporting soil, or burying seeds, these actions aren’t random. They’re part of play schemas —the natural, repetitive behaviours that show us how young children are making sense of the world. As a parent, it can feel tricky to know what’s “just play” and what’s meaningful learning. This episode helps you connect the dots. We break down what’s happening beneath the surface when your child is knee-deep in garden soil, and how to support their growth without needing fancy toys, Pinterest-perfect setups, or rigid routines. In this episode you'll discover: What Play Schemas are—and why they matter so much in the early years How simple garden activities like watering, digging, and harvesting relate to specific schemas like trajectory, transporting, enveloping, and positioning Why repetition is not a sign of boredom, but a signal your child is deep in learning How to identify and nurture your child’s unique play preferences Easy ways to support schema play in everyday garden moments (even with limited space!) You’ll also get practical tips like: How to set up a toddler-friendly garden area (without needing a full backyard) What to say (or not say) to encourage schema-rich exploration How to gently support your child’s independence without hovering Ideas for turning daily gardening into purposeful, brain-building fun Whether you're a parent with a veggie patch, a few potted herbs, or no garden at all—this episode will shift how you see your child's play. It's about meeting them where they are and celebrating the little moments that are soaked in learning (and sometimes water too!). You’re not just raising a child—you’re raising a curious learner. Let this episode inspire you to view everyday messes, garden tasks, and muddy hands as essential parts of their developmental journey. You don’t need to do more—just see more. And that starts with understanding the magic of play schemas. Listen now and dig into the hidden learning happening in your garden. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode full of insight, encouragement, and schema-savvy parenting support. 🌱 Want even more Play Schema ideas and inspiration? Head over to our Freebies page for practical tools, cheat sheets, and fresh ideas to support your child’s play journey: playschemas.com/free 💬 Loved this episode? Share it with a fellow parent, leave a review, or tag us @ Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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021 Easter Play Ideas for Toddlers that Support Play Schemas 13:35

15 weeks ago13:35

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Free download available! Grab your free Easter Play Ideas PDF with all 10 schema-based activities, family-friendly versions, and our go-to oaty pancake recipe at playschemas.com/free Feeling overwhelmed by all the Easter hype—and wondering how to make it meaningful for your toddler? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re diving into how you can use this Easter season to truly support your child’s development —without extra stress or sugar overload. We’ll show you how to harness the power of play schemas—the natural, repetitive play behaviours all children engage in—to create fun, intentional Easter activities that meet your child right where they are developmentally. Whether they’re throwing, stacking, wrapping, or endlessly transporting things from one place to another, this episode will help you understand why they play this way—and how to build on it. This isn’t about picture-perfect Pinterest crafts. It’s about easy, real-life ideas that work with your child’s current play urges, not against them. And the best part? You likely already have what you need at home. In this episode, we’ll cover: What play schemas actually are, and why they matter for child development Why Easter is the perfect time to support schema play (think baskets, eggs, nature walks) 10 simple, engaging Easter activity ideas—each linked to a specific schema How to include your toddler in Easter traditions that build emotional connection Bonus toddler-friendly recipes that support sensory exploration and independence We’ve made sure every idea includes: An independent play version to support solo exploration A family version to foster bonding and shared joy No fancy materials or hours of prep—just meaningful, low-fuss fun Whether you're a first-time parent or juggling multiple little ones, this episode is for you if: You want to understand your child’s behaviour instead of just managing it You’re looking for early learning tips that don’t require a teaching degree You’d love to make Easter special without going overboard You’re craving ways to connect more deeply with your child through play Y ou’re not just making Easter crafts—you’re building confidence, independence, and lifelong learning habits. Free download available! Grab your free Easter Play Ideas PDF with all 10 schema-based activities, family-friendly versions, and our go-to oaty pancake recipe at playschemas.com/free Visit the full blog post here → playschemas.com/021 Follo Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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020 Keeping Kids Safe: Practical Tips for Parents with Victoria Barendsen 28:25

16 weeks ago28:25

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Looking for the discount code? use playschemas10 at the checkout! ww.thesafekidsproject.com As parents, we want to protect our children. But when it comes to body safety, it can feel overwhelming—where do we start? How do we talk about it in a way that’s age-appropriate and empowering? And how do we navigate such an important conversation without fear or discomfort? You’re not alone in these concerns. In today’s world, we hear so much about unsafe physical touch, making it even harder to know how to teach our children what safe and trusted touch looks like. But ignoring the topic isn’t the answer—our kids need us to guide them in understanding their own boundaries, their rights, and how to respect others. This is where the ‘Foundations of Body Safety’ course comes and why I have teamed up with Victoria Barendsen, a registered psychologist specialising in childhood trauma and sexual abuse, to offer you a 10% discount ( playschemas10 at ww.thesafekidsproject.com ). In this 6-week course will: ✅ Give you the confidence to introduce body safety concepts in a natural, everyday way ✅ Teach you how to discuss sensitive topics—like consent and private parts—without feeling awkward or unsure ✅ Help you build open communication so your child feels safe coming to you with questions or concerns ✅ Empower your child with the knowledge and tools they need to maintain healthy boundaries I have taken this course myself, and to say it has been eye-opening is an understatement. Within just a few lessons, I told my husband that this is something every parent should have in their toolkit—just like an infant and child first aid course. Join the waitlist today to secure your spot! As a special bonus, I’ve partnered with Victoria to offer you 10% off, so make sure you use the code playschemas10 at the checkout. ww.thesafekidsproject.com Let’s empower our children—because every child deserves to feel safe, respected, and confident in their own body. ❤️ Please note that the discount code is also an affiliate link - There is not extra cost to you...But you do get a discount and I get a little thank you! Win-Win! Even without the affiliate link I still would be promoting this course as I really do believe in being empowered to have these discussions with our children. Victoria teaches in a way that equips and makes these 'tricky conversations' a part of our every day, making them accessible... and supporting us to ensure they actually happen! Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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019 Understanding Play Schemas & Love Languages in Parenting 11:04

17 weeks ago11:04

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Wrapping Up the Love Languages Series: How Play Can Deepen Your Connection with Your Child Do you ever wonder what’s really behind your child’s play? Or why they behave a certain way when they’re feeling disconnected? Understanding play schemas and love languages can completely transform the way you interact with your little one—making parenting more intentional, fun, and fulfilling! In this final episode of our Love Languages & Play series, we bring everything together to help you recognise , respond to , and nurture your child’s emotional needs through play. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✅ How Play Schemas & Love Languages Work Together – Discover how your child’s natural play tendencies (like spinning, building, or transporting objects) can align with their love language and emotional needs. ✅ Spotting Your Child’s Love Language in Daily Life – Learn the simple ways children express what they need, from asking for quality time to seeking physical touch. ✅ Why Love Languages Change Over Time – Understand how your child’s love language may shift as they grow, and how to stay attuned to their evolving needs. ✅ The Connection Between Love Tanks & Behaviour – Is your child acting out, or are they just running low on love? Learn how unmet emotional needs can show up in tantrums, clinginess, or defiance. ✅ Discipline Through the Lens of Love Languages – Why using the wrong consequence could do more harm than good, and how to guide your child in a way that keeps their love tank full. ✅ Building a Stronger Family Culture – Encourage siblings, partners, and extended family to understand and support each other’s love languages, creating a more connected home. 💡 Try This Today! Next time your child is upset, ask yourself: Have I filled their love tank today? Take just five minutes to connect in their love language—whether it’s a cuddle, a game, or simply telling them how much you love them. You might be surprised by the difference it makes! 💬 We’d love to hear from you! What love language does your child respond to most? Share your experiences with us! 📌 Resources & More: 🔗 Read more on our blog: playschemas.com 📲 Follow us on Instagram for daily insights: @play_schemas 📩 Join our newsletter for exclusive parenting tips: playschemas.com If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review—your support helps more parents discover how to make play a powerful parenting tool! 🎧💖 #PlaySchemas #LoveLanguages #ParentingTips #EarlyChildhood #GentleParenting #ChildDevelopment Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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018 Acts of Service = Love in Action! 13:09

18 weeks ago13:09

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Unlock the Secrets of Your Child’s Play: Play Schemas & Acts of Service in Parenting! Have you ever wondered why your child insists on lining up their toys, spinning in circles, or moving objects from place to place? It might seem random (or even frustrating!), but these repetitive behaviours are actually part of their natural learning process. They’re called play schemas , and understanding them can transform the way you see your child’s play—helping you to nurture their development and reduce daily parenting struggles. But there’s more! When we connect play schemas with the love language of acts of service, we unlock an even deeper way to support our children. In this episode, we’ll explore how simple, everyday acts of service can show love, model responsibility, and empower our little ones to serve themselves—and eventually, others. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ What play schemas are and how they shape your child’s learning and behaviour. ✅ The love language acts of service—why it’s more than just doing things for your child. ✅ How recognising play schemas can strengthen your bond and make daily life smoother. ✅ Practical ways to support your child’s play while fostering independence and confidence. ✅ How small, intentional acts of service help children understand love, responsibility, and community. As parents, we’re constantly serving our children—meals, clean clothes, cuddles, bedtime routines—but when done with intention, these daily tasks become powerful expressions of love. In this episode, we talk about how acts of service should go beyond “doing everything for them” and instead guide children toward learning, responsibility, and meaningful connection. 💡 Ready to see your child’s play in a whole new light? Grab a cuppa, pop in your earphones, and let’s dive in! 🎧 Subscribe & Listen: Never miss an episode—hit Follow on your favourite podcast app! 📲 Join the Conversation: Follow us on Instagram @Play_Schemas for daily insights & tips! 📩 Get More Parenting Resources: Join our newsletter at playschemas.com #PlaySchemas #ParentingPodcast #ActsOfService #EarlyLearning Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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017 Loving your child through gifts and play 15:17

19 weeks ago15:17

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Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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016 Make Memories: Play & Quality Time Tips! 18:25

20 weeks ago18:25

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Ever feel like your child is constantly throwing, spinning, or building the same thing over and over—and you’re not quite sure why? Or maybe you’re wondering how to give your child the quality time they crave without adding more to your already packed schedule? You’re not alone! In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re unlocking the magic behind play schemas and how they connect with the love language of Quality Time—helping you build stronger bonds with your child through their natural way of playing. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ What are play schemas? Discover why your child repeats certain play behaviours and what it tells you about their development. ✔️ Why Quality Time matters—especially for children who seek undivided attention from parents. ✔️ 10 easy ways to turn play into meaningful connection, tailored to your child’s unique play interests. ✔️ How to make time for Quality Time (even when life is busy!). Many childhood behaviours—like throwing objects, hiding under blankets, or endlessly lining up toys—aren’t random at all! They’re part of play schemas, the natural way children explore and make sense of the world. When you understand these patterns, you can join in their play in a way that feels natural, fun, and deeply connecting. And if your child’s primary love language is Quality Time, they don’t just want you to watch them play—they want you to play with them! But don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you need to set aside hours of elaborate playtime. Even small, everyday moments can make a big impact! Practical Ideas You Can Try Today! 🌟 Trajectory Play (throwing, dropping, running): Instead of saying "Stop throwing!", turn it into a game—play catch, race toy cars, or explore water play together. 🌟 Rotation Play (spinning, turning things): Join your child in stirring, mixing, or riding bikes—simple, everyday moments that fill their love tank. 🌟 Enclosure Play (building forts, climbing into spaces): Snuggle inside a homemade fort for cosy, screen-free Quality Time. 🌟 Positioning Play (lining things up, arranging objects): Set the table together or sort coloured toys—simple, mindful moments that strengthen your connection. ✨ Even just 10 minutes of focused, undistracted play can make your child feel seen, valued, and deeply loved! Too Busy? Here’s How to Fit It In! We get it—parents are BUSY! But Quality Time doesn’t mean grand outings or hours of play. Here are simple ways to make connection part of your daily routine: ✔️ Pre-bedtime snuggles – A perfect, distraction-free way to end the day. ✔️ Car time chats – Use car rides for fun conversations instead of screens. ✔️ Cooking together – Let them help mix, pour, or taste-test while you chat. ✔️ Set a timer – Just 10–15 minutes of full attention can make all the difference! 🎁 Giveaway Alert! Sign up to our email list before March 31, 2025, for a chance to win a copy of The 5 Love Languages of Children ! → Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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015 Why Your Words Matter: Affirmation in Play 14:33

21 weeks ago14:33

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In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of child play through the lens of play schemas and the powerful impact of words of affirmation. Understanding why children engage in particular play patterns allows us to connect with them on a deeper level and support their growth more effectively. These schemas are not simply repetitive behaviors; they serve as gateways to developing essential skills like problem-solving and spatial awareness. We discuss how to frame our communication to not only encourage our children but also help them understand the value of their efforts. Words hold tremendous power; hence, using affirmations thoughtfully can have a lasting impact on their self-esteem and overall development. Through concrete examples, we explore how to apply praise thoughtfully, nurturing your child’s sense of self regardless of the situation. As we navigate the complexities of parenting, we recognize the importance of our energy and positivity in our interactions. Listening to your child’s play and responding with affirmation is key to fostering a supportive learning environment. This conversation focuses on practical, actionable insights for parents to implement at home, enhancing connections with your children while encouraging their unique paths to learning and exploration. What You’ll Discover in This Episode: ✔️ The 10 Play Schemas – How children explore the world through play ✔️ Why Play Schemas Matter – Reduce frustration and support learning ✔️ Words That Empower – Practical scripts to affirm and encourage your child ✔️ The Hidden Power of Praise – How to uplift without over-praising ✔️ Avoiding Common Pitfalls – The impact of sarcasm, tone, and empty praise Join us for a warm, engaging discussion that encourages deeper understanding and nurturing connections in your parenting journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us reach even more families! Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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014 Play Schemas & The Love Language of Physical Touch | Understanding Your Child’s Needs 22:04

22 weeks ago22:04

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🎁 WIN A FREE BOOK! Love The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman? I’m giving away a FREE copy to one lucky listener! ✅ How to enter: Join my mailing list before March 31, 2025, at 👉 playschemas.com Did you know that something as simple as a hug, a high-five, or a game of tag could be the key to your child feeling deeply loved and secure? In this episode, we’re exploring Physical Touch as a love language—how it shapes your child’s emotional development, why some kids crave it more than others, and how you can easily incorporate it into everyday moments of play. For many parents, physical touch comes naturally in the early years—rocking, holding, carrying—but as children grow, affectionate touch often fades into the background. And if your love language isn’t physical touch, you might find yourself wondering: “Am I giving my child what they need to feel truly loved?” 💡 Here’s the good news: You don’t need to be a “cuddly” parent to make this love language work. Physical touch isn’t just about hugs—it can be playful, fun, and part of your daily routines! Let’s start by addresing something important: body safety and consent. In a world where we’re constantly teaching our kids about personal space and “safe touch,” how do we also make sure they’re getting enough loving, appropriate, and secure physical connection? That’s why I’ve partnered with Victoria Barendsen from The Safe Kids Project, a registered psychologist specialising in childhood trauma and body safety. If you want to feel empowered in teaching your child about safe boundaries, check out her ‘Foundations of Body Safety’ course—and get a special discount just for listeners at https://thesafekidsproject.com/ and use the code playschemas10 at checkout for a 10% discount. 🎧 What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why Physical Touch Matters – The emotional and developmental benefits of affectionate touch ✔️ How Play Naturally Encourages Physical Connection – Simple ways to build touch into your child’s day ✔️ Age-Appropriate Ways to Use Physical Touch – From toddlers to tweens, what works best? ✔️ Respecting Boundaries – Teaching consent without withdrawing affection ✔️ Easy, Everyday Play Ideas for Connection – No extra effort required! 🤹‍♀️ Using Play to Connect Through Touch Physical touch doesn’t have to feel forced—it’s naturally woven into so many types of play! In this episode, I share: 🎯 Rough-and-Tumble Games – Chase, tag, tickling, piggyback rides 🎨 Sensory Play – Messy play with dough, mud, and textures 🎵 Rhythmic Clapping & Hand Games – Fun ways to include gentle touch 🎠 Swinging & Spinning – Playful movement that strengthens connection 💡 Building Together – Snuggle in a fort, sit closely while crafting, or create hand-linked towers 👉 Want a FREE Play Schema Guide? Grab yours at playschemas.com/free Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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013 Play Schemas and Love Languages - a Match Made in Heaven 14:08

23 weeks ago14:08

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LOVE to a Child is Spelt TIME: Understanding the 5 Love Languages of Children 💡 Want a chance to win ‘The 5 Love Languages of Children’ book? Join my mailing list at playschemas.com —you’ll be in the draw to win, no matter where in the world you are! 💛 Do you ever wonder if your child truly feels loved? You tell them “I love you” a hundred times a day, but sometimes, their behaviour suggests they need more. The secret? Kids don’t just hear love—they experience it. And every child has their own way of receiving love. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we dive into Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages of Children and how you can use play to meet your child’s emotional needs in a way that makes sense to them. Whether your little one thrives on cuddles, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, or small acts of kindness, understanding how they receive love can transform your relationship and strengthen their emotional security. 🎙️ Inside This Episode, You’ll Discover: ✅ The 5 Love Languages of Children—and why toddlers need all of them! ✅ Why love is the foundation of all child development (without it, nothing else sticks!) ✅ How your child’s play behaviour gives clues about their emotional needs ✅ Why kids’ love languages change—especially before age 5 ✅ How big life changes (like a new sibling) can shift how they seek connection ✅ Practical ways to show love through play—based on your child’s play schema ✨ A Full Emotional Tank = A Happy, Secure Child Children don’t always have the words to say, "I need love right now." Instead, they show us through clinging, meltdowns, defiance, or attention-seeking behaviour. In this episode, we unpack how to spot the signs of an empty emotional tank—and how to fill it up again in a way that truly resonates with your child. 🚀 What’s Coming Next? This episode is just the beginning! Over the next few weeks, we’ll deep dive into each love language and explore how you can nurture it through play. 💌 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going! 🔗 Read the blog & show notes: playschemas.com/013 📲 Follow on Instagram: @play_schemas 💬 Join the Facebook community: facebook.com/playschemas 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please: 👍 Follow & rate the podcast to help others find it! 💬 Share your thoughts—what’s your child’s favourite way to receive love? Because at the end of the day, love isn’t just something we say—it’s something we show. ❤️ Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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012 Engage your little helpers at home through Play! 14:04

24 weeks ago14:04

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Play Schemas at Home: Turning Play Into Productivity How to Encourage Your Child to Help Around the House—Through Play! FREE list of play and helping around the home ideas - head to playschemas.com/free! Does it feel like you’re constantly cleaning up after your little one while they seem more interested in making a mess? What if, instead of working against their natural play instincts, you worked with them? Children explore the world through play schemas —repetitive patterns of behaviour that help them make sense of their surroundings. Understanding these schemas can turn everyday chores into engaging activities, helping you get things done while fostering their development. Today you’ll discover: How play schemas influence your child’s behaviour. Practical, play-based ways to get your child involved in household tasks. Simple activities that turn playtime into productive time. What Are Play Schemas? Play schemas are the natural ways children explore and understand their world. When you match everyday activities to these schemas, you make chores feel like play —encouraging your child to participate instead of resist. Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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011 Playing Together – How Adults Can Join the Fun Without Taking Over 10:44

25 weeks ago10:44

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Playing Together – How to Join the Fun Without Taking Over Have you ever found yourself ‘playing’ with your child, only to realise that you’re the one in charge? One moment you’re happily stacking blocks, and the next, you’re directing the entire build like an overzealous project manager. Sound familiar? You’re not alone! In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re diving into the art of playing with your child—without taking over. If you’ve ever wondered how to join in their games while still allowing them to lead, this episode is for you. Why This Matters for You and Your Child Play isn’t just about keeping little ones entertained—it’s how they learn, express creativity, and process the world around them. But as adults, we often struggle to step back and let them take the lead. Maybe it feels unnatural, or you’re unsure what to do, or you slip into ‘teaching mode’ without realising. The good news? There’s a better way to support your child’s play without overshadowing their creativity. Inside This Episode, You’ll Discover: 🔹 Why letting kids lead their play is key to their development and confidence 🔹 How to engage in play without turning it into an adult-led production 🔹 Four simple steps to join the fun—without taking over 🔹 Real-life examples of parents finding the balance between guidance and freedom 🔹 How to harness play schemas to make everyday tasks fun and engaging Plus, we’ll explore easy, schema-based activities that transform everyday chores into playful learning moments. Whether your child loves throwing, transporting, spinning, or stacking, you’ll learn creative ways to channel their energy into helping around the house—without the battles! Try This at Home! This week, we’re setting a fun challenge: Try one schema-based activity from today’s episode and see how your child responds! You might be surprised at how naturally they engage in meaningful play when given the freedom to explore. Let’s Connect! If this episode gave you a fresh perspective on play, we’d love to hear from you! Share your experiences, tag us on social media, or leave a review—it helps other parents discover the magic of play schemas too. And don’t forget to grab your FREE Schema Cheat Sheet at p layschemas.com/free. Hit play now and discover how to make playtime more fun, connected, and stress-free for both you and your child! 🎧✨ Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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010 Play Schemas and Siblings – How to Make Schemas Work for (Not Against!) You 13:01

26 weeks ago13:01

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🎙️ Play Schemas and Siblings – How to Make Schemas Work for (Not Against!) You! 👧👦 Do your kids constantly clash over toys, fight over space, or seem to have completely different play styles? You’re not alone! Sibling play can be tricky—one child wants to build, while the other wants to knock things down. One loves to throw, while the other carefully arranges their toys in a perfect line. What if we told you that these differences aren’t just personality quirks but deeply rooted in the way children naturally explore the world? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas , we’re diving into the science behind play schemas and how they can either cause frustration between siblings—or bring them closer together. By understanding how your children’s play instincts work, you can create a more peaceful, engaging, and cooperative play environment at home. ✨ In This Episode, You’ll Discover: ✅ What play schemas are (and why they’re the key to understanding your child’s play behaviour) ✅ Why siblings often have different schemas—and how this can lead to conflict ✅ How to support multiple schemas at the same time without chaos taking over ✅ Simple strategies to turn play struggles into opportunities for bonding ✅ Real-life examples of how parents can guide sibling play for fewer arguments and more connection 🏡 Practical Tips for Real Families We know that parenting is busy, and there’s no time for complicated solutions. That’s why we’re sharing easy, doable strategies that fit into everyday life. Whether it’s setting up play invitations that cater to different schemas or gently redirecting play conflicts in the moment, these tips will help you feel more in control of playtime and more confident in your parenting. ❤️ Because Play Shouldn’t Be a Battleground! When you understand why your children play the way they do, you’ll be able to guide them in a way that supports their natural development—without the stress. Let’s make play work for you, not against you! 🎧 Tune in now and transform sibling playtime into a moment of learning, connection, and fun. 📩 Loved this episode? Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a new one! And if you found this helpful, please share it with a friend—it might just save their sanity too! 🔗 FREEbies & more play tips: playschemas.com 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @play_schemas #PlaySchemas #SiblingPlay #ParentingTips #EarlyLearning #ChildDevelopment Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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009 The Power of Independent Play – Nurturing Confident and Creative Kids 14:27

27 weeks ago14:27

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Episode 9: The Power of Independent Play – Nurturing Confident and Creative Kids Do you dream of guilt-free moments to enjoy a hot drink while it’s still hot —without hearing a desperate “Muuum!” every two minutes? What if those moments didn’t just give you a breather but also helped your child grow into a confident, creative problem solver? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re diving deep into the world of independent play —what it is, why it’s crucial for your child’s development, and how you can encourage it while understanding your child’s unique play style through play schemas . Why Independent Play Matters We’re busting the myth that independent play is about “leaving kids to it.” Instead, it’s about creating the right conditions for your child to explore, learn, and grow through self-directed play. You’ll discover how this magical time enhances: Cognitive growth , sharpening focus, problem-solving, and critical thinking. Emotional regulation , teaching patience and resilience. Confidence and autonomy , empowering your child to trust their abilities. The Key to Easier Independent Play: Understanding Play Schemas If you’ve ever wondered why your child loves lining up cars, spinning objects, or wrapping their toys in blankets, you’re not alone! These behaviours are rooted in play schemas —natural patterns in the way children explore the world. When you identify your child’s schema, you can offer toys and activities they’ll naturally love, such as: Ramps and balls for kids who love all things trajectory . Buckets and trolleys for little transporters . Boxes and blankets for the enclosing enthusiast. By working with your child’s natural play urges, rather than against them, you can make independent play longer-lasting and more fulfilling—for both of you! Practical Tips to Set the Stage Creating a space for independent play doesn’t require a Pinterest-perfect playroom or expensive toys. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: Craft a simple, child-friendly play area in your home. Use open-ended toys (yes, trucks and dinosaurs can work!) to fuel creativity and engagement. Rotate toys to keep things fresh and prevent overstimulation. What If Your Child Struggles to Play Alone? We’ve got you covered! From starting with just 5 minutes a day to gently stepping back as their confidence grows, you’ll gain actionable strategies for encouraging independence—no tears (or tantrums!) required. Plus, tips for handling attention-seekers and reigniting stagnant play sessions. For more inspiration, grab your free Top 10 Play Schemas Cheat Sheet at playschemas.com/free . If you want to dive deeper into play schemas, check out the show notes and extras at playschemas.com/009 . Don’t forget to subscribe, share this episode w Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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008 Kickstart 2025 with Play: Unlock Joyful Parenting Through Play Schemas! 14:52

28 weeks ago14:52

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Ready to make 2025 the best year yet for your family? Dive into this exciting episode of Demystifying Child’s Play as we explore how understanding and embracing play schemas can transform your parenting journey. Whether you’re a returning listener or new to the podcast, this episode is packed with inspiration and actionable tips to help you connect with your child through meaningful play. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 🔹 What are Play Schemas? Discover the 10 universal patterns of play – from trajectory and transportation to enveloping and positioning. Learn how these natural, repetitive behaviours help children make sense of the world. 🔹 Why Play Schemas Matter: Understand the cognitive, physical, and social-emotional benefits of play schemas, like building problem-solving skills, fostering creativity, and boosting confidence. 🔹 How to Spot Your Child’s Play Patterns: Simple observation tips to identify schemas in action, whether it’s lining up toys (positioning) or wrapping objects in blankets (enveloping). 🔹 Practical Ways to Nurture Play: Explore ideas to provide toys and activities that align with your child’s unique interests. Learn how to create daily routines that prioritise play and build lasting skills. Why This Episode Matters for Parents: Parenting toddlers and young children often comes with questions like: Why does my child repeat the same actions over and over? How can I encourage their natural curiosity and creativity? What activities will truly engage and support their development? By understanding play schemas, you’ll gain insights into these behaviours, helping you respond with empathy and intention. This knowledge makes parenting more joyful, less frustrating, and filled with opportunities for connection. Storytime: Real-Life Schema Moments Over the Holidays Hear relatable examples of how schemas show up in everyday play. From a child obsessed with stacking cups (positioning) to one delighting in packing bags (transporting), these stories illustrate how play schemas are universal, playful expressions of learning. 2025: The Year of Playful Connection This episode is just the start of an incredible lineup for the year. Get a sneak peek of our upcoming 3-part series on play with others – independently, with siblings or friends, and with adults. Plus, hear a hint about a game-changing topic that will deepen your connection with your child. Play as an Investment in Your Child’s Future Discover why play is so much more than just fun. It’s an essential tool for developing resilience, creativity, and social skills. Learn how to model playfulness and create cherished family memories that last a lifetime. Let’s Make 2025 a Year of Joyful Play! Subscribe to Demystifying Child’s Play today and never miss an episode filled with practical parenting tips and those all-important “aha” moments. Visit Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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007 Christmas Play Schemas: Tips & Scenarios 14:03

32 weeks ago14:03

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Is your child tossing baubles, spinning ornaments, or carrying presents across the room? Before you wonder if they’re being “naughty,” take a deep breath—they’re not being difficult; they’re being explorers ! In this episode, we’ll decode these behaviours through the lens of play schemas , helping you see the magic in your child’s play this Christmas. ✨ What’s Inside This Episode? Christmas can be a magical time, but for parents of young children, it’s often filled with unexpected moments. Your toddler’s fascination with spinning decorations, piling presents, or mixing food can leave you feeling frustrated or embarrassed—especially when relatives raise an eyebrow. But what if you could make sense of it all? In this episode, I’ll help you understand these quirky actions as play schemas —a natural part of your child’s development that allows them to learn, grow, and make sense of the world. You’ll gain practical tools to: ✅ Recognise the most common play schemas in action this Christmas. ✅ Redirect your child’s play in ways that support their development and protect the festive vibe. ✅ Explain their behaviour to family members with confidence and clarity. 🎄 Real-Life Festive Scenarios & Solutions Here’s a taste of what we’ll cover: Trajectory Schema : Throwing baubles or tossing wrapping paper? They’re exploring movement and physics—offer soft balls or paper snowballs instead. Transporting Schema : Carrying gifts across the room? They’re mastering coordination—set up a ‘delivery station’ to channel this energy. Enveloping Schema : Wrapping themselves (or the dog!) in blankets? They’re exploring boundaries—provide scarves or a box they can crawl into. Rotation Schema : Spinning ornaments or twirling in circles? It’s all about balance and coordination—encourage safe spinning toys or activities. Transforming Schema : Mixing food or tearing paper? They’re little scientists experimenting—give them playdough or edible ‘safe science’ tasks. These scenarios—and more—will give you simple, actionable tips to turn potential chaos into calm, all while fostering your child’s natural curiosity. 🎁 The Cheat Sheet You’ll Love To make this even easier, I’ve created a free cheat sheet summarising these insights. Whether you print it for quick reference or share it with family, it’s a practical way to front-foot those awkward conversations and keep everyone on the same page. Download it here: 👉 playschemas.com/ 007 or playschemas.com/ free ✨ Why This Matters When you understand why your child behaves the way they do, you can replace stress with connection. Play schemas aren’t just about play—they’re about learning, discovery, and growth. This Christmas, let’s celebrate your child’s curiosity and help others see the beauty in their actions too. Get your free cheat sheet and show notes Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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006 Experience the magic of nature with Play Schemas 18:25

33 weeks ago18:25

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Unlock the Secret to Your Child’s Play: Why Nature Play and Play Schemas Matter! 🌱 Ever wondered why your toddler spends hours collecting sticks, throwing pebbles, or carefully lining up leaves? What if these seemingly random behaviours were actually the building blocks of their development? In this episode of Demystifying Child's Play , we explore the fascinating world of play schemas—the patterns of play that children naturally engage in to learn about their world—and how getting outside in nature can supercharge these essential learning experiences. 🌟 What You’ll Discover in This Episode: What Are Play Schemas? A simple, clear explanation of the 10 most common play schemas—like trajectory, transporting, and transforming—and why they’re crucial for your child’s mental, physical, and emotional development. The Power of Nature Play: Learn why outdoor play isn’t just fun—it’s vital for reducing stress, boosting creativity, and helping kids grow into confident, resilient individuals. Real-Life Stories: Hear relatable, heartwarming examples of how children explore these schemas in their everyday play—like the toddler who collects rocks with a sense of purpose or the preschooler who builds a leafy fort in the backyard. Practical Tips for Parents: Get actionable advice on how to recognise, support, and encourage your child’s natural play patterns at home and outdoors. From setting up a simple mud kitchen to organising a treasure hunt, these ideas are easy to try and packed with developmental benefits. 🌿 Why You’ll Love This Episode: This episode is for every parent who has ever felt overwhelmed by messes, puzzled by repetitive play, or wondered how to make the most of their child’s curiosity. By understanding play schemas, you’ll gain a fresh perspective on your child’s behaviours and learn how to nurture their growth through joyful, meaningful play. Plus, we’ll show you how nature offers the perfect playground for these magical learning moments! ✨ Key Takeaways Include: How recognising play schemas can reduce frustration and strengthen your parent-child bond. Creative outdoor activity ideas for summer that engage your child’s natural curiosity. Tips for turning everyday items—like sticks, leaves, and mud—into tools for learning and exploration. 💡 Listen Now and Empower Your Parenting! Your child’s play is more than just play—it’s how they grow, learn, and connect with the world. By tuning into this episode, you’ll discover how to embrace these moments with confidence and joy. 🎧 Subscribe and Stay Inspired! If you love discovering simple, research-backed parenting tips, don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a review. Share this episode with a fellow parent who could use some fresh play inspiration, and let’s build a community where play is celebrated and understood. 🔗 Resources Mentioned: Download your FREE Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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005 The Origins of Play Schemas 10:28

34 weeks ago10:28

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Unlock the Secrets Behind Your Child’s Play: The Origins of Play Schemas Ever wondered why your little one loves to spin wheels, drop toys, or line up blocks over and over again? Those seemingly simple actions aren’t just random—they’re part of something much bigger: play schemas . In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re diving deep into the fascinating origins of these repeated behaviours and uncovering why they are essential for your child’s cognitive and emotional growth. As a parent, you might feel overwhelmed trying to understand your child’s play habits. Are they learning? Is their behaviour normal? This episode will help you see the brilliance behind their play and give you confidence in how to support it. We’ll explore the roots of play schemas, tracing them back to pioneering research by Frederick Bartlett and Jean Piaget, two of the most influential minds in child development. Plus, we’ll break down the science into bite-sized, relatable insights that will leave you in awe of what your child is achieving every time they play. 🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What Are Play Schemas? Discover the simple yet powerful patterns of behaviour that help children make sense of their world. Whether your child loves spinning, throwing, or hiding objects, these actions are building their understanding of how things work. The Science Behind Play Schemas: Learn about schema theory, a concept that’s been shaping our understanding of learning since the 1930s. From Bartlett’s original ideas to Piaget’s groundbreaking work on cognitive development, we’ll explain why play schemas are vital for your child’s brain development. The Magic of Early Development: Explore the Sensorimotor Stage , where babies learn through their senses, and the Preoperational Stage , where imagination takes flight. We’ll share real-life examples of how these stages connect to the play schemas you see every day. 💡 Understanding play schemas isn’t just about decoding your child’s actions—it’s about unlocking the window into their growing mind. By supporting these behaviours, you’re fostering their creativity, curiosity, and love of learning. And here’s the best part: you don’t need to overhaul your parenting approach. With just a few small adjustments, you can make playtime even more enriching and enjoyable—for both of you. 📌 Take Action Today: Notice your child’s play patterns this week. Is there a schema you can recognise? Whether it’s transporting toys in bags or dropping blocks from a height, think of one simple way to support their learning through this behaviour. 💬 Let’s Connect! If you’re ready to dive deeper into play schemas, visit playschemas.com/005 for show notes, resources, and a free cheat sheet on the top 10 play schemas. Follow us on Instagram @play_schemas to share your playtime wins and mysteries! Subscribe to Demystifying Child’s Play wherever you listen to podcasts, Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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004 Unlocking Your Toddler’s World: A Deep Dive into the 10 Most Common Play Schemas 26:35

35 weeks ago26:35

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🎙️ Welcome to Demystifying Child's Play 🌟 Do you ever wonder why your child insists on lining up toys or endlessly pouring water? Are you curious about how these playful quirks unlock their learning and development? You're in the right place! 🎉 In this episode, we’re diving into 10 play schemas —the building blocks of children’s play—and how understanding them can transform your parenting journey. From Transporting 🛻 to Enclosing 🏗️, I’ll guide you through each schema with real-life examples and tips to nurture your child’s creativity and growth. 👩‍👧‍👦 Whether you’re a parent juggling busy days or a caregiver seeking new insights, this podcast is your go-to resource for actionable advice and relatable stories. By the end of this episode, you’ll not only recognize your child’s play patterns but also feel equipped to foster their unique style of learning. 🌱 Why This Matters: 🔑 Unlock Development : Play schemas aren’t just fun—they’re how kids make sense of the world. Recognising them helps you support their natural curiosity. 💡 Boost Your Confidence : Feel more connected to your child by understanding why they play the way they do. 🧸 Enrich Their Play : Discover simple tweaks to toys, activities, and your environment to encourage deeper, more meaningful play. 🎧 Tune In and Discover: What are play schemas? 🤔 The 10 most common play schemas and their unique characteristics 🛝 How to spot your child’s favourite schema in everyday play 🕵️‍♀️ Easy, low-cost ways to extend their play at home 💡 💌 Ready for more? Download your free Play Schema Cheat Sheet for quick reference at playschemas.com/free . 🌟 Let’s connect! Share your “aha” moments or your child’s latest play adventures on Instagram @play_schemas or visit playschemas.com/contact . I’d love to hear from you! 💬 Join us on this journey to demystify the magic of play and create stronger bonds with your child—one schema at a time. Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

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003 Reducing Frustration through understanding Play Schemas 15:32

36 weeks ago15:32

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Ever wonder why your toddler insists on throwing toys, spinning in circles, or hiding your kitchen towels? Believe it or not, there’s a method to the madness—it’s called play schemas. These are natural, repeated behaviours that children use to explore and understand their world. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re uncovering how recognising these play patterns can revolutionise your parenting. 🎯 What You’ll Learn: What play schemas are and why they’re key to your child’s development. How understanding these behaviours can reduce frustration and bring more joy to your home. Real-life examples of parents transforming chaos into connection and creativity. Practical tips for supporting your child’s schemas and making playtime a collaborative, fun experience. Join me as I share insights, stories, and actionable strategies to help you lean into your child’s natural tendencies instead of fighting against them. From the trajectory schema (hello, flying food!) to the enveloping schema (goodbye, tea towels!), you’ll discover how to turn everyday challenges into opportunities for learning and bonding. 💡 Bonus! Grab your free cheat sheet outlining the 10 most common play schemas at playschemas.com/free. 💬 Let’s Connect: Share your parenting wins, struggles, or aha moments with me! Social: @play_schemas Email: ruth@playschemas.com ✨ Parenting doesn’t have to feel like a battle. Tune in to learn how understanding play schemas can help you foster curiosity, connection, and calm—one play session at a time. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share with other parents on this journey! 🎧 Listen now and discover how today is a great day to play! Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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002 Unlocking Play Schemas: Understand & Support Playful Learning 19:43

37 weeks ago19:43

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Unlocking Play Schemas: Understand & Support Playful Learning | Episode 002 🎙️ Hey there! 👋 Ever wondered why your child keeps repeating the same actions, like throwing toys, moving objects around, or spinning in circles? Believe it or not, there's a fascinating reason behind these repetitive behaviours. They’re called play schemas—patterns of play that help kids explore and make sense of the world. In today’s podcast, I’ll walk you through the 10 most common play schemas, from the Trajectory Schema (think throwing and dropping) to the Positioning Schema (lining up toys). Each schema offers unique benefits, like building motor skills, spatial awareness, problem-solving, and creativity. Here's a sneak peek at what you'll learn: Trajectory Schema 🏀 - Throwing, pushing, and dropping. Discover how this schema teaches gravity, force, and motion. Transporting Schema 🚚 - Moving objects from one place to another. Learn how transporting builds spatial understanding and organisation. Enveloping Schema 📦 - Wrapping and hiding objects (or even themselves!). Enveloping helps kids explore boundaries and containment. Rotation Schema 🔄 - Spinning objects or themselves. This schema promotes balance, coordination, and motor skills. Connecting Schema 🔗 - Joining items together (think blocks, magnets). Connecting is key to problem-solving and understanding relationships. Disconnecting Schema 🧩 - Taking things apart. Perfect for building fine motor skills and problem-solving. Enclosure Schema 🏠 - Putting items inside other items. Enclosure helps kids learn about “inside vs. outside” and spatial awareness. Orientation Schema 👀 - Looking at things from different perspectives (tilting heads, looking upside down). This builds spatial skills and creative thinking. Transforming Schema 🍲 - Mixing, tearing, or changing things (like making mud!). Transforming supports understanding cause and effect. Positioning Schema 📏 - Arranging objects in patterns or lines. Great for math and science skills. Tips for Encouraging Play Schemas at Home: Create Schema-Friendly Play Opportunities: Set up simple activities that match your child’s schema interests. Observe Without Interrupting: Watching your child can reveal a lot about their learning style. Play Areas for Each Schema: Give them tools like soft balls for trajectory play or blankets for enveloping. By understanding play schemas, you can create a supportive environment for your child’s natural learning. Not only does it make playtime more fun, but it also helps your child build essential skills they’ll use for a lifetime. And remember: today is a great day to play! Don’t forget to download my FREE Play Schemas Cheat Sheet at PlaySchemas.com/free to get ahead on the 10 most common Play Schemas. Let’s make every day a great day to play! 🎉 👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes and join the conversatio Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

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001 Play Schemas: Demystifying Childs Play 15:21

38 weeks ago15:21