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Kunta, Not Toby: Farah's Refusal To Break PT 1
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"You don't need to see the whole path. Just take the next step." -Unknown
"It took me 34 years to feel safe within my home." These words from Farah stopped me in my tracks as we recorded this powerful conversation about survival, recognition, and healing after lifelong abuse.
This episode follows Farah's journey from a childhood marked by severe physical violence through two abusive relationships that left her questioning her worth and identity. With remarkable candor, she shares how she initially failed to recognize her experiences as abuse until a friend asked just the right questions and she began reading about narcissistic relationships. "The floodgates kind of just opened up," she explains, detailing that moment of clarity when she finally saw her past through unclouded eyes.
What makes Farah's story extraordinary isn't just what she survived, but her unwavering spirit through it all. Even as a child facing brutal corporal punishment, she refused to stay silent. Her siblings nicknamed her "Kunta" (from Roots) for her refusal to submit to mistreatment. That same fighting spirit eventually helped her create boundaries, make difficult choices, and finally establish a safe home for herself and her children.
Throughout our conversation, Farah offers profound insights into what healing actually looks like day-to-day. "Healing is a lifestyle," she emphasizes, sharing her practices for nervous system regulation, learning to be still, and checking in with her body after years of disconnection. For anyone who has experienced trauma, her wisdom about giving yourself permission to feel everything – including the uncomfortable emotions – provides a roadmap for authentic recovery.
This episode contains detailed descriptions of physical abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please prioritize your wellbeing while listening. Join us next week for part two, where we'll explore Farah's experience in a controlling BDSM and poly relationship with cult-like dynamics, and how she ultimately found her way back to herself.
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Chapters
1. Kunta, Not Toby: Farah's Refusal To Break PT 1 (00:00:00)
2. Introduction to Farrah's Powerful Story (00:00:15)
3. The Floodgates Open: Recognizing Abuse (00:04:00)
4. Creating a Safe Space After 34 Years (00:10:17)
5. Dealing with Shame During Healing (00:16:15)
6. Learning to Be Still in Recovery (00:24:20)
7. Returning to Your Body After Trauma (00:35:00)
8. Childhood Abuse and Finding Her Voice (00:47:15)
9. Breaking Cycles and Creating Safety (01:07:37)
10. Episode Closing and Part Two Preview (01:11:25)
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