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Just imagine the amount of habits and discipline, the mindset reinforcement, the bounce back that they had to go through to not only sustain it long term, but to pass it on to their offspring. And now their offspring is on a different level. I mean, I could only imagine, will there be in 20 years, in 30 years? And you magnify that.

On top of what their parents built, it's generational. Welcome. Welcome to another episode of Mindset Mastery.

I'm your host, Az Araujo. I want to thank you for joining me today. And I got a very interesting topic just because, you know, I'm being made aware of many things that I just wasn't privy to growing up.

There is a lot of things going on in the world that just didn't know, didn't know how success came about, didn't know there was right habits and wrong habits, didn't know that, you know, we were able to create the life and the standard that we want for life at any moment. And one thing I realize now is that whatever life we're living right now, we're setting a standard not only for ourselves, but for our kids, for those around us, of what they will accept from us. And setting standards is a huge responsibility.

And if we think about what we're doing to improve ourselves, that's setting a standard. But it's also how we deal with our marriage, how we deal with our business, how we deal with our bodies that is also signifying what kind of standard you have. And this is becoming more and more prevalent to me as I see very successful people in my quarters.

And you know, for the most part, I know a lot of successful entrepreneurs making tens of millions even a year. But one story that I think we all have is that we're first generation. You know, the success that I've got versus my parents and the success that they have versus their parents, it's very significant, right? Parents usually come from humble beginnings, maybe in the blue collar arena, maybe they were, you know, professionals, but not like doctors, but maybe just like, you know, successful managers and things of that nature.

But the offspring, the individuals that I know, they're very successful. So they set a whole new standard. And I think that comes from either some experiences or watching their parents finally get things together, right? Where the husband and the wife, you know, they work together to try to build something greater, set the stability.

Maybe it was mindset reinforcement over the years, but it did get rooted from something. And there's also situations where it comes from deep seated pain, right where they lacked so much that they didn't want that moving forward. So that motivated them to build something greater.

But this weekend and you know, over the last couple of years, I would say that my daughter, my youngest daughter is experiencing a different type of life that Carla and I experience obviously. But more than what my 20 year old did, she's just in a different realm, in a different environment altogether, different school and their success all around. I mean success is what is expected.

I mean the parents are expected to be these professionals, these entrepreneurs, these business owners and they pass this on to their kids. But again, my perception of that was always like their first generation. And this weekend I dropped off Madeline at her friend's grandparents house and I've dropped her off to her friend's parents house many times.

And like I said, they're very successful, they have a huge property and they look very successful from the marriage on how their health, they're well taken care of, they're very successful individuals. But this is the first time where I saw where they got those habits from. So I dropped her off at her grandparents house and I was like just blown away by the success that they had.

I mean I thought their parents were doing good. When I saw the grandparents house, I was like, oh my God, like this is generational, this is not first generation, this is generational. And maybe I haven't met enough grandparents that have had that type of success.

But it just made me really think about the importance of setting these habits early on. Because the kids are successful. Well, because the parents are.

That's just the gist of it. Yeah. You'll hear stories about these kids, trust fund babies that, you know, have a reckless life on drugs and do things that can't get them ahead.

They make mistakes, they're in jail, they do this, that or the other. But I think that's the exception to the rule. I really do think that's the exception to the rule.

Because for every story that we hear about how someone floundered the success that their parents had, there's many hundreds, if not thousands, if not millions of stories that go unaccounted for of those individuals that continue to magnify the success that their parents showcased. I think that's more common than those that completely, you know, go off the rails. But we focus on those individuals that come from, you know, that silver spoon and do something to destroy it all.

But again, I think that's the exception to the rule because these individuals are part of something far greater. Their parents. Parents did something that now set the standard for generations ahead.

And it really Made me think about how important it is for us to set these standards and to identify these dysfunctional loops, to identify why there's peaks and valleys. Because I think that we all can be very dysfunctional. I think an individual that has really bad habits can still be successful, but not for long periods of time.

And this is where I had to identify my own patterns of why I had these peaks and valleys. And I had very great years of success and then followed by really bad years of just turmoil. You see, my habits weren't in alignment to carry this on generationally or even for years.

It was peaks and valleys for many years. And I could almost give you the patterns of how it would all work out. It was like a nine month pattern, you know, these peaks and these valleys both ways.

But I was full of dysfunctional behaviors. I was full of just reacting to conflict, not being in full control. Not until I started building the right habits, surrounding myself with the right people could I identify that, yes, I was full of dysfunctions, but I couldn't sustain that long term.

So that gets me thinking about these grandparents. Like, just imagine the amount of habits and discipline, the mindset, reinforcement, the bounce back that they had to go through to not only sustain it long term, but to pass it on to their offspring. And now their offspring is on a different level.

I mean, they're still young, they're still early in the success ladder. I could only imagine, will there be in 20 years, in 30 years? And you magnify that on top of what their parents built. It's generational.

It's not based on peaks and valleys. Peaks you showcase that you have a level of work ethic, a certain level of the good habits. And when you have these huge valleys, it also showcases all the dysfunctions and the bad work ethics that you also have.

And again, if you're in this place of constantly not being able to sustain and grow and expand, it has to do with what kind of standards that one you set for yourself and what kind of standards you haven't identified that were given to you by your parents. This is huge for me. I can only imagine, like the conversations at the dinner table, I could only imagine what the kids witnessed as their parents were going through all these obstacles and trials and tribulations.

I'm sure they didn't witness their parents just shut down and feel sorry for themselves or blame someone else. They probably saw perseverance. They saw this relentless attitude to keep going no matter what, even when they faced their fair share number of tragedies and even deaths in the family, even health problems.

And now these parents are passing it on to their kids. And I could tell, just a quick conversation with Madeline's friend, I could tell there's no question they're going to be very successful. I mean, with a standard that high, why wouldn't she? Unless she becomes an exception to the rule.

But like I said, most you won't hear about because they just carry on those good habits, that mindset, reinforcement. Now for the rest of us, we may not have that as the standard that was given to us by our parents. But it doesn't mean we can't set new standards moving forward.

But it requires us to rewire and really identify why it is that you're on fire one day and question yourself like, what's the point the next. This is a dysfunctional behavior and it's rooted on lack of discipline, a lack of doing the right things over and over and over again. So as we move on, we have to think about this.

It's like, I can't have great months and then months where I'm barely struggling to pay the bills. That means I don't have the financial resources or knowing on how to handle money. That means that somewhere along the line, I think things are always going to be this way as opposed to pushing to the next level.

But I was really impressed because it takes a different kind of discipline, the right mindset and the ability to keep moving regardless of the setbacks, tragedies and losses. And over that 75 year period, I can only imagine what they've had to endure. But at the end of the day, we can all be reckless and still make a lot of money.

But it doesn't mean you're going to sustain it long term. You'll rise and you'll crash. You'll have the peaks and the valleys.

And I think some of you have experienced that here over the last year, five years, 10 years. And it's because while we haven't set a real standard, and guess what? If you have kids, they're watching every moment of that and the odds of them being successful are not likely just because you bring a level of success. Now, if it's done dysfunctionally, it does not mean that they will carry on that torch.

It just means they'll have sporadic moments of highs and lows. And the thing about offspring, the thing about the next generation is that they magnify everything and they may have greater success for short periods of time, bigger than what you ever experienced. But just wait until there's a flip side to that when they're facing the trials and tribulations, you thought how you responded was low.

Just wait until they go through their low moments, because they're going to magnify. They're going to magnify everything that you're showcasing to them. The way you talk to your spouse, they're going to magnify what they're willing to take and also give.

That's dysfunctional. That's one of the first things that Madeline told me. She said, dad, you should see how they spoke to each other.

They were so cute. They were very respectful. And the way they looked at each other and the way they spoke to me and they spoke to my friend, that's rooted on many reps of doing the right things.

And that's what we have to understand, that the right habits, the right standards is in all aspects of your life. It's everywhere. And here's the thing that I really want you to understand, that every generation sets standards.

You're setting standards right now, and you think it's only affecting you, but it's far greater than that. Because if you think about this, if you go through these ups and downs, right? If you go through a depressive state, and whatever you battle, your parents probably battled as well, you just magnified it. Whatever you fear right now, your parents probably dealt with that same fear.

If you struggle with money, odds are your parents struggled with money. And you know, when you go to the doctor's office and you fill out the forms for the first time, they ask you all about the previous generation, because it's likely that you will have all the health symptoms and health problems that they did. But because they know that the next generation usually magnifies the bad habits and the good ones, it's likely that you're going to have their health problems as well.

And it goes far beyond just your parents. It's like all their siblings. And if we're not smarter about being able to identify what's good for us and what's not, the people, what we take on, what we watch, what we read, who we surround ourselves with, whose opinion we take, it's like all that's going to be magnified, all of that.

And on the flip side, it's like, if you're struggling with weight, your parents probably did too, but you probably magnified. And guess what's going to happen with your offspring. It's going to be a less healthy generation, and they're going to deal with the same problems that your parents dealt with much faster.

Just because it's Magnified. So your parents may have dealt with, let's say an illness in their 50s. You're probably going to deal with it in your 40s and your kids will probably deal with it in the 30s.

And I think we just fail often to recognize that if we don't identify the things that are not serving us and can sustain us long term. Eating like crap every day, you cannot sustain that long term. You cannot grow your business to the true potential that it has for your family.

I mean, that's the gist of it. It can't fully flourish into something that can sustain a financial standard for your family long term because it's going to depend on your own habits. And it's all good.

When we're young, we have a lot of 20 year olds, a lot of 30 year olds, 40, it's cool. But at some point it will catch up. And this is what we have to identify.

And listen, if you're taking shortcuts, your success is going to be short. If it's rooted on lies and deception, they're going to be lied and deceived. And none of these are patterns for long term success.

And that's the thing again, you eat like trash. Your kids will too. And odds are your parents did that before you did.

If you struggle to bounce back, your kids are going to drown. If you operate in fear, your kids are going to hide. And we have to understand that this is everything.

And sometimes we're just mimicking what we saw our parents and grandparents do. And that's why it's creating all this chaos within your marriage, within your relationships, with the mindset, reinforcement. But you can't be in this place where you're disrespecting yourself, not being disciplined and taking the right actions every day, disrespecting your spouse and think that it's going to sustain long term.

It just doesn't happen. And you have to catch yourself because there's the right way to do things and there's the ways that we've been taught at the end of the day. And if you're first generation where you're trying to achieve some great success like I am, we don't have these examples around us.

But it also makes very clear the kind of responsibility we have upon us. This just opened my eyes wide. Because just as much as all these dysfunctional habits and problems and financial issues gets worse by generation, there's a flip side to that.

It only gets greater if you're doing all the right things over time. Like I would love to be able to see my grandkids at some point and the mindset that they have at an early age, I already could tell the difference. With my daughters, it's different.

We're entering into conversations. I didn't get into my 30s. I'm already collapsing that time.

And they're far ahead. They're seeing something far greater. They're able to identify things that I couldn't even have an opinion on.

And I'm doing my job, but I'm still full of these dysfunctions. But I'm working towards correcting them. Even how I show up after a big problem, after a tragedy, how I just showcase to them how I keep going and so does Carla.

So I'll leave you with this. When you're on top of the world, there's a reason. And where you're at the bottom, there's a reason for that too.

And it's all rooted on the habits. You got to look at the discipline because those that who's doing all the right things are going to win. And not just the flashing lights.

From one moment they're again on top of the world. Others, they're in the dark. Let's make these flashing lights like works of like an art piece of just growth and expansion where it illuminates rooms.

Set the Standard so I appreciate you joining me in this episode of Mindset Mastery. I think we all have a lot of work to do to set that standard. That's going to help not only ourselves, but the generations that follow.

Thank you again for joining me for this episode. Have a great day and I will talk to you soon. Bye now.

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