Dwayne Murray: The 4 EQ Pillars That Got Me Through Grief, Loss, and Fatherhood

EQ U by ChoiceCenter Leadership University

In this powerful episode of EQ U, hosts Robin Williams and Corrine Clement sit down with 2009 ChoiceCenter Leadership University graduate Dwayne Murray (LV98)—a resilient entrepreneur, devoted father, and intentional leader—who shares his transformative journey through emotional intelligence.

Dwayne opens up about his path from growing up without a father to becoming the kind of father he never had. He recounts the heartbreak of losing his wife when their daughter was just 18 months old, and the unwavering commitment he made to raise her with love, purpose, and strength. Through it all, he leaned into the 4 EQ Pillars of Leadership:
– 100% is possible, 100% of the time
– I live my stand as if my life and the lives of others depend upon it
– My vision and commitment dictate my actions and ways of being
– If it’s to be, it’s up to me

These guiding principles became the foundation for Dwayne’s parenting, his business success as a State Farm agency owner, and his ability to lead with clarity through unimaginable loss.

The conversation explores themes of authentic connection, immersive self-development, and the power of community support. Dwayne shares how emotional intelligence shifted his values from materialism to meaningful experiences, and how his personal strategic plan (PSP)—written during training—came full circle years later.

They also discuss navigating challenges in business, redefining relationships through EQ, and how intentional parenting can shape emotionally aware children. The episode concludes with a heartfelt EQ stretch challenge, reminding listeners that acts of kindness and belief in possibility can transform not only their own lives—but the lives of others.